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1 | Character Strategy | Containing | Conserving | Self-Reliant | Expanding | Enduring | Producing | Attracting | ||||||||||||||||||
2 | Predisposition | Withdraw | Collapse | Rely on Self | Deceive | Endure | Act | Express | ||||||||||||||||||
3 | Shit Happens Attitude | The world is full of shit | I can't handle this shit all by myself | I can handle this shit | This is gooood shit, man | Why does this shit always happen to me? | Shit or get off the pot | SHIIIIIIIITT!!! | ||||||||||||||||||
4 | Recognizing | Tight, analytic, withdrawn, anxious, fragile | Collapsed, pleading, needy, cute and sweet, low-energy. | Straight posture | Tough looking, generous, impulsive, hard to read, can be seductive | Dug in, thick, stuck, victimized, compliant | Perfectionist, exhausted but can't stop, task oriented, lots of details, externally focused | Overwhelmed, intensity, mush movement and color | ||||||||||||||||||
5 | Issues | Alone, unwelcome, unsafe, scared | Abandonment, powerlessness, depression | No one is here for me, I have to do it myself | Can't trust, alone at the top, partner complaints about inaccessibility, world is manipulative | Stuck in life, can't move forward, depressed, guilty, low self-esteem, can't speak up for self. | No friends, no time for self, frustrated with others | Friends turn away, many dramatic issues | ||||||||||||||||||
6 | Object Relations | Dangerous | Depriving and unreliable | Depriving and unreliable | Manipulative, domineering | Controlling, shaming | Hard to please | Inattentive | ||||||||||||||||||
7 | Strengths | Creative, spiritual, strong, analytic and imaginal talents | Nonthreatening, friendly, cuddly, youthfulness | Independent | Leadership generosity | Persistence loyalty | Successful, confident, easy to mobilize, energetic | Colorful, interesting, lively | ||||||||||||||||||
8 | Transference | Therapist seems unwelcoming and unsafe | Looks to therapist to take the lead | Does not need therapists help | Doesn't want to be vulnerable | Feels stuck and victimized | Feels valued only for their achievements | Feels unheard, unseen and misunderstood | ||||||||||||||||||
9 | Client acts | Withdrawn and analytical | Helpless and needy. Appeals to therapist to lead and asks many questions | Like they have no needs | Intimidating, tough, seductive, must lead and initiate | Slow and resisting, automatically disagrees | Competent, fast-paced and goal oriented pretentious topics constantly | Intense and overwhelming, dramatizes. | ||||||||||||||||||
10 | Countertransference | Feels tender, or bored because of lack of connection | Feels important, feels paternal, maternal or repulsed | Feels useless | Feels intimidated or admiring | Impulse to push or be sadistic to client | Not much connection, feels rushed and pressured | Feels overwhelmed or entertained | ||||||||||||||||||
11 | Test | Is the therapist safe and welcoming? | Is it OK that I am powerful? | Do I have to do it all by myself? | Can I be real and vulnerable without being dominated? | Are my impulses and anger acceptable with the therapist? | Will I be valued for myself or only my accomplishments? | Does the therapist see and hear me? Are they interested? | ||||||||||||||||||
12 | Therapist acts in ways that reinforce strategy | Uninterested, harsh | Takes care of client | Does not provide much support | Is afraid to confront client or tried to force them to be real | Pushes or insists on therapists direction | Focuses on goals rather than connection to contact | Turns away as a result of feeling overwhelmed | ||||||||||||||||||
13 | Wounds | Unwelcome | Deprived of nourishment | Needs not met | Vulnerability taken advantage of. Powerless | Vulnerability taken advantage of. Powerless | Loved only for achievement | Not heard or seen | ||||||||||||||||||
14 | Organized to | Be safe | Be cherished | Not need. Protect from disappointment | Protect vulnerability | Be free | Be loved | Be noticed | ||||||||||||||||||
15 | Beliefs | Life is dangerous | There will never be enough. I should not be powerful | No one will support me. | Is dangerous to be open and real | I can't be free and be loved | I am loved only for my performance | Have to work for attention of love | ||||||||||||||||||
16 | Predisposition | Withdraw | Collapse | Resist collapsing | Deceive | Resists | Takes refuge in action | To express | ||||||||||||||||||
17 | Self-reinforcement | Looks aloof so people leave alone | Refuses nourishment and feels deprived | Looks independent so no one takes care of them | Strong persona prevents feedback that vulnerability is OK | Resists so people push | Can't rest or slow down, so no satisfaction or tenderness | Overwhelms people who turn away | ||||||||||||||||||
18 | Interventions | Safety, slow, gentle. It's safe here. Takeover containment. Access aliveness | Explore the organization around nourishment and power. Access emptiness. Turn away. Your needs are important | It's OK to need.. It's OK to be powerful. Leaning | Its OK t be real. Study persona. Takeover expansion and protection. See vulnerability | Go slowly. Support resistance, Provide choices. Support impulses. | Its OK to rest. Access broken heart. Support speed. Access action orientation. | I see you and I hear you. Notice connection is not dependent on intensity | ||||||||||||||||||
19 | Countertransference | Bored, dry, can't get in | Maternal or paternal. Want to push away their neediness. | Useless, peripheral | Intimidated, mistrusting, admiring, manipulated | Stuck, frustrated, pushy, sadistic | Speedy. Not good enough | Overwhelmed. Entertained. | ||||||||||||||||||
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