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Character StrategyContainingConservingSelf-ReliantExpandingEnduringProducingAttracting
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PredispositionWithdrawCollapseRely on SelfDeceiveEndureActExpress
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Shit Happens AttitudeThe world is full of shitI can't handle this shit all by myselfI can handle this shitThis is gooood shit, manWhy does this shit always happen to me?Shit or get off the potSHIIIIIIIITT!!!
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RecognizingTight, analytic, withdrawn, anxious, fragileCollapsed, pleading, needy, cute and sweet, low-energy.Straight postureTough looking, generous, impulsive, hard to read, can be seductiveDug in, thick, stuck, victimized, compliantPerfectionist, exhausted but can't stop, task oriented, lots of details, externally focusedOverwhelmed, intensity, mush movement and color
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IssuesAlone, unwelcome, unsafe, scaredAbandonment, powerlessness, depressionNo one is here for me, I have to do it myselfCan't trust, alone at the top, partner complaints about inaccessibility, world is manipulativeStuck in life, can't move forward, depressed, guilty, low self-esteem, can't speak up for self.No friends, no time for self, frustrated with othersFriends turn away, many dramatic issues
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Object RelationsDangerousDepriving and unreliableDepriving and unreliableManipulative, domineeringControlling, shamingHard to pleaseInattentive
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StrengthsCreative, spiritual, strong, analytic and imaginal talentsNonthreatening, friendly, cuddly, youthfulnessIndependentLeadership generosityPersistence loyaltySuccessful, confident, easy to mobilize, energeticColorful, interesting, lively
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TransferenceTherapist seems unwelcoming and unsafeLooks to therapist to take the leadDoes not need therapists helpDoesn't want to be vulnerableFeels stuck and victimizedFeels valued only for their achievements Feels unheard, unseen and misunderstood
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Client actsWithdrawn and analyticalHelpless and needy. Appeals to therapist to lead and asks many questionsLike they have no needsIntimidating, tough, seductive, must lead and initiateSlow and resisting, automatically disagreesCompetent, fast-paced and goal oriented pretentious topics constantlyIntense and overwhelming, dramatizes.
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CountertransferenceFeels tender, or bored because of lack of connectionFeels important, feels paternal, maternal or repulsedFeels uselessFeels intimidated or admiringImpulse to push or be sadistic to clientNot much connection, feels rushed and pressuredFeels overwhelmed or entertained
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TestIs the therapist safe and welcoming?Is it OK that I am powerful?Do I have to do it all by myself?Can I be real and vulnerable without being dominated?Are my impulses and anger acceptable with the therapist?Will I be valued for myself or only my accomplishments?Does the therapist see and hear me? Are they interested?
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Therapist acts in ways that reinforce strategyUninterested, harshTakes care of clientDoes not provide much supportIs afraid to confront client or tried to force them to be realPushes or insists on therapists directionFocuses on goals rather than connection to contactTurns away as a result of feeling overwhelmed
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WoundsUnwelcomeDeprived of nourishmentNeeds not metVulnerability taken advantage of. PowerlessVulnerability taken advantage of. PowerlessLoved only for achievementNot heard or seen
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Organized toBe safeBe cherishedNot need. Protect from disappointmentProtect vulnerabilityBe freeBe lovedBe noticed
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BeliefsLife is dangerousThere will never be enough. I should not be powerfulNo one will support me.Is dangerous to be open and realI can't be free and be lovedI am loved only for my performanceHave to work for attention of love
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PredispositionWithdrawCollapseResist collapsingDeceiveResistsTakes refuge in actionTo express
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Self-reinforcementLooks aloof so people leave aloneRefuses nourishment and feels deprivedLooks independent so no one takes care of themStrong persona prevents feedback that vulnerability is OKResists so people pushCan't rest or slow down, so no satisfaction or tendernessOverwhelms people who turn away
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InterventionsSafety, slow, gentle. It's safe here. Takeover containment. Access alivenessExplore the organization around nourishment and power. Access emptiness. Turn away. Your needs are importantIt's OK to need.. It's OK to be powerful. LeaningIts OK t be real. Study persona. Takeover expansion and protection. See vulnerabilityGo slowly. Support resistance, Provide choices. Support impulses.Its OK to rest. Access broken heart. Support speed. Access action orientation.I see you and I hear you. Notice connection is not dependent on intensity
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CountertransferenceBored, dry, can't get inMaternal or paternal. Want to push away their neediness.Useless, peripheralIntimidated, mistrusting, admiring, manipulatedStuck, frustrated, pushy, sadisticSpeedy. Not good enoughOverwhelmed. Entertained.
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