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OBSERVATION GRIDPROJECT: ROMANTIC INTEREST
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Name
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Date and Time
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Location
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OBSERVATION CATEGORIES ↓ FIELD NOTES ↓
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COMMUNICATION
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What kind of vocabulary do they use?
Make note of lexical field used. 		Rude words (-/+)
Cute words (-/+)
Lexical fields: love, projects, etc.
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In text messages, what kind of emojis do they use?
Take a closer attention to cute, heart emojis		Emojis, context and occurence
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How do they present themselves to you? Trying to shine?
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Do they show vulnerability? Pay attention to the kind of stories they share; do they talk about some doubts or fears they have, etc. Confessions; advice asked, etc.
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Do they value/ask for your opinion?Tricky situation they asked your help for.
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Body language: they are displaying signs of either (and):
- light stress
- excitment
- happinness to be around you
- willingness to communicate
- oppenness 		Body language: gestures+ comparison to baseline
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Who initiates communication (texting, calls, dates, etc.) most of the time?Them/you/equal
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BEHAVIOR
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Do you feel they are going out of their way to please you? Making time to see you/talk with you vs. priorizing other activities
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Do they bring a present or have a specific attention for you when you meet? yes/no/which attention?
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Do you feel they are dressing up when you meet? Try to compare with their baseline.
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Do you feel they are paying a special attention to their grooming when you meet? Try to compare with their baseline. Plus, do they feel freshly shaved, hair cut, are they wearing this nice shirt they know you like, etc. Did they just have a kebab plus fries and do they smell like fried food?
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Do they act generousely when you are around? Can be materialistic or not
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Can you pick up any sign of specific care and attention?
Can you tell if it's their baseline or if they are specific to the moments you spend together?		Cute attentions, bringing back common memories, researching about a topic you discussed, etc.
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Are they late to the dates/calls?Yes / No / Why
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How do they react when you initiate light touches with them? (slightly touching their wrist or shoulder)They feel un-at-ease? They freeze? They hold your touch? They reciprocate?
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AMBITION, POSITIVE INFLUENCE
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Do their share small or big successes they achieved since you know each other?
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Do they refer to an improvement they made since you discussed the topic together?
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VISION
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Do they mention common projects you can start collectively, for now or for the future? Is is you and them / group project? Common interests?
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How do they react when you mention future-related projects (any kind) that include them?
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