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1 | Year Graduated | Have you experienced body policing in the school? If yes, can you elaborate? | Have you experienced other forms of sexism in the school? If yes, can you elaborate? | Other thoughts or comments | ||||||||||||||||||||||
2 | 2010 | I'd say partially. I am a dark skinned person, but was always fascinated by the plays, arts and drama. So as a kid when I was in grade 4, I wanted to be a part of play but a very famous English teacher decided to not even audition me because apparently I did not fit that role. This particular teacher taught English, and now is part of [another reputed school]. This hit me hard, very hard as a kid. I was just in grade 4, already very very insecure about being dark toned, and this incident made me feel worse about myself. I don't remember any such thing happening while growing up, because senior teachers were more supportive. | First of all I want to thank the school, because of what I am today. I believe it just did not shape my communication skills, but also brought discipline to my life. I have met few of my amazing friends here, who still are my best friends. I also thank that it kept in a protected shield, helped me value different relationships, and taught me to grow according to time, preserving my innocence. I felt this when I did my higher studies in a foreign country, where students of my age lacked a lot discipline in life and wouldn't value relationships too. Like every thing has a pro and con, the school does have many cons too. Its not just the administration which fails to address or work on the different issues but also the students who are part of it. The school should focus more on encouraging students to follow their dreams, and passion. Signing classes, dancing classes, art classes, physical training, and many other extra curricular activities should be focused on, and also these classes should be continued till the end. The students should be taught to be more kind, and humble, not just conducting civic education classes but involving students in social development. A cell or committee should be formed where students can go and share there problems like bullying, harassment, racism, hatred. Though my sister informed me about a counselor being part of the school, but I guess being part of the school and actually indulging in the mental health of the students are two different things. Mental Health Awareness should be done from a young age because from small age only our subconscious mind starts taking in negative things, and we soon realize that these small problems we faced in childhood become our worst insecurities when we grow up. Teachers should also learn to be kind, and gentle, and not shame the students if they fail or perform poorly. I still remember my sister coming back home crying because apparently [a certain staff] I guess had beat her, pulled her ears and called our parents for just talking in class. She was I guess in grade 6 or 7. Violence of any form can have adverse effect, which the school needs to truly work on. Emotional and Verbal abuse affect the mind the same way the physical abuse do. The old method of education using chalk and board should be really removed, like legit removed. The Science stream should not only be limited to just PCMB, but new generation Computer Science, Electronics, Political Science or Environmental Science should also be taught to students. Languages like French, Spanish, Chinese, Japanese, etc should also be part of extra circular activities. Programming, Designing and Planning are very interesting subjects, and students having keen interest in these fields should be given a chance to explore these spaces too. Casual sexism, Slut Shamming for having a boyfriend, Character Assassination for talking to male teachers should be really stopped by the old school fake feminist teachers. School memories are one of the most special memories, and everyone should have a chance to enjoy them. | |||||||||||||||||||||||
3 | 2012 | No | Yes, a lot of times this has been an issue. It was so much scary to even have a guy friend that I would be mentally tortured by the authority. Even though my parents knew that I had guy friends I was once accused of walking around with boys, yes I was, they are friends. I am definately going to say who accused me. It was [a certain teacher], if she is reading this I just want you to know that you have no right to question my charecter or say anything about me unless it directly goes against the school's rule. You simply have no right. And let me tell you this even though I don't have to give you an explanation. They are my friends and having guy friends is not a crime. I hope you have stopped torturing students mentally over the years. Sexual assaults and harassment has been going on in our school and the authority is not taking much of an action in this matter, I once complained but I was blown off and I remember this line, "Why did you get close to a male teacher? Never get close to any male, even your brother or anyone." this has haunted me for years. I did not get close to him so that he could assault me! I was a curious student and wanted to learn. It took me years to realize that ut wasn't my fault and whatever I was told was wrong. | There many things that the school has been doing wrong. I hope it focuses on reducing bullying because it is going on a lot around the school. Also I hope it gives a lot of thought in a child's mental health and changes the way teachers treat the students. I am a passout but the difficulties I have faced in the school still gives me PTSD. 12 years in this place and even the nice memories have been suppressed because of so many bad memories. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
4 | 2012 | I was pretty much conditioned to do as the school authorities said. While I personally didn't see it happen to myself, I saw a lot of my friends being subjected to it. | I think our school idolizes a certain body type and girls who are explicitly feminine. Anyone who deviates from the notion of "normal" would be criticized by the teachers. Plus, the whole thing about being shamed if we were saw with a boy was extremely restrictive. The fact that they have made us insecure about our bodies and repressed our expression of gender. They've made us incapable of trusting males by villifying their image. | I think it's wonderful that we're doing this . I only hope that my cousin sister doesn't face the same things I faced while in the school. Also, I would like to highlight an individual - a certain male teacher [no longer there] for being an impartial judge of character when girls in my class were ostracized for their personalities. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
5 | 2012 | No | No | Nothing | ||||||||||||||||||||||
6 | 2012 | No | None | |||||||||||||||||||||||
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8 | 2013 | An incident happened to me back in 2011/12, i was in grade 9 and there was [a teacher] and it was a bumoy road ride and my pencil bag fell accidentally on him cause he was sitting right below the bag, the next day i was legit called by the principal and they threatened me to throw me out of the school cause according to [the teacher] and the school authorities i was a bad influence and attacked him in the school bus with my "pencil bag" and the girls called him with names and that too they claimed that it was my fault! It didn't stop there, the next day they called me up during assembly and made me apologise to him in front of the whole school even if it wasn't my fault! Thank goodness i was in good books with my previous class classteachers, they saved me from getting thrown out of thw school. And it didn't stop there too, [the teacher] and his team, [a certain teacher], [a certain teacher] called my friends and legit told them not to be friends with me because i was a bad influence! He even threatened me to make my school life a living hell. After that incident whatever happened in class, blame came upon meand i could do nothing because nobody supported me not even my classmates! This is totally bullying by the authorities | The whole system in school is toxic and this needs to be cleaned. I don't think any of my juniors want to face what i have. | |||||||||||||||||||||||
9 | 2013 | Not me but one of my classmate during her birthday wore kurti and one of the male teacher (no longer there) stared at her boobs. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||
10 | 2013 | Yes. I think rules were one thing but the extent to which we had to look and present ourselves in a certain way was unsettling a lot of times. I remember being very, very conscious of the way I looked while I was in school. | Yes. There were teachers who asked me whether I was on my periods if I was standing next to them or before they asked me to fetch their bags from the staff room. I also remember them telling us not to be too "uttauli" when the boys from a neighboring school were around. (and we hadn't even peeked at their direction) | I love the school. It was my second home for 12 years. I basically grew up there. I am thankful for all the experiences I've gained there because I don't think I'd be the person I am today without them. However, I think it's time to address the fact that there are things that happen inside the school that are very problematic, and it's about time they change. When someone asks me what I think about them sending their kids to the school, I want to be able to give them an assurance that it's the best decision they'll make. However, I always second guess myself when they do. That's a huge problem right there. There are things we need to change and it's about time we do. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
11 | 2013 | yes, i have always been a chubby person and that has always been a problem even in school. i didn't want to join gymnastics in grade 1-2 because i thought i would look inappropriate in slacks. from there started the policing and then for sports day the group division, also made me insecure, stage fright and dresses for dramas, i was even chosen as the santa claus, which was fun for a while but obviously it was disturbing. | no. | proper sexual education is very much required. classes such as value education need to be made alternate yes because values are not just enough when we young girls enter the actual world outside the school. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
12 | 2013 | Yes, we used to have a checking of blue mers and sando The ones who didn't wear sando were separated from the assembly and were treated differently. Another instance is, if you have a slightly short skirt you are slut shamed and blamed that you're asking for "Male" attention! | Yes. [a certain teacher] would distribute tika from her tirtha yatra and would urge the girls who are on their periods to get out of the class before offering the tika. My sister also studied in the school, she was in Grade 5 when this incident happened. It was Friendship day and apparently she brought friendship band to school to give to her friends. She was tying a Friendship band to one of her friends and [a certain staff] saw her. After that she a Grade 5 Child was called upon the assembly, and she was humiliated among everyone by the Principal as to how she violated the school rules! She was traumatised by this incident, she didn't want to attend school and it was very hard for us. She went through counselling and rounds of therapy to actually get through the incident. It was emotionally debilitating for my little sister. | The school had a trend of exaggerating every small incident. Things that needed to be spoken privately were publicly put among all the students in the assembly. Character assassination of mere high school students was so common! The mental trauma that has been on our heads will never change. But I hope the school accepts that it has been problematic ever since and address the problems and brings the necessary behavioural changes. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
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14 | 2014 | Yes , In the 7th grade i have seen my classmates be harrased for not wearing anything to coverup the bra . Supposedly it was showing through our white shirts ( which it was barely showing) My classmates were called prostitute and accused of wanting male attention by one of the teachers in front of the whole class. | YES , i have been scolded and told i lacked character in class for hanging out with my male friend ( who is actually a FAMILY Friend and like a brother to me ) in the public school event. I had to stand in front of the staff room the whole day and hear teachers discuss my "lack of character" and "girls these days" remarks while they pass me judgemental looks :) | Misogyny is deeply deeply rooted in your environment especially in the female staff members . We were subjected to bilittling and body shaming by the "teachers" in the name of discipline. This is disturbing and has lasting impact on the pysche of a child. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
15 | 2014 | I have witnessed more than have experienced . In class 5, our class teacher punished a number of students for not wearing a vest inside white shirt. Few of the girls were harshly ridiculed as their brassiers outlines were visible inside the white shirts. That was really humiliating. The teacher could have talked with the girls privately and advise them nicely instead of making them look worthless . Our school had huge problems in matters of their students talking to male friends. Principals used to announce it at the assembly if they found some girls walking with boys outside the school premises. Well, having male friends shouldn't be consider a sin after all . | Some teachers had problems with us sitting in chairs in certain ways mostly because we were girls . | Among most other schools that existed at that time, the school was definitely one of the good ones. But with changing times, it needs to be less conservative and more liberal . | ||||||||||||||||||||||
16 | 2014 | Not me but I've heard teachers specially [a certain teacher] calling my friends prostitute because they were not good in studies. Shouting at students saying you're going to be a prostitute in future just because that child didn't finish up her homework, which I feel is unnecessary and not important. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||
17 | 2014 | Yes, I have experienced body policing . I still remember that we used to get checked for our inner wears may it be under garments or a full length samij . | No, I havent experienced any sexism . But the school itself is a certain kind of school so I think maybe this topic is a bit irrelevant . Infact the school has taught me to become a feminist !!! | I want to say that the school is a good school in many aspects ..especially discipline . The school teaches you alot however it lacks to teach you how to interact with men and how to cope in the external world , the one which nobody is aware of inside the school premises . I would like the school to focus more on that . All the datas posted above are not for bringing the school down . There are certain things that I did not like about the school yet there are a lot more things that I am thankful for which have not been addressed here. If you are doing a survey I would want you to look at both parts !! | ||||||||||||||||||||||
18 | 2014 | In one telling incident, a teacher was teaching about malnutrition and as I was thin, she gave my example to the class. It was pretty humiliating at that time. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||
19 | 2014 | No | Yes .I was in class 10 and it was SMS day . Me and my other 2 friends were eating food and [a male teacher] joined us and we were just joking about how funny [a certain friend] is and laughing. Next day [a certain teacher] infront of whole class made me stand up and asked me if I was the girl laughing with [the male teacher]? I said yes and then she tried to pin point at my character by saying why where you there laughing and having food with a male teacher you could have gone to any female teacher. I was a kid and [the male teacher] taught us since grade 2 .how can she say something like that to a student. It really affected me and I really felt bad about it. | No | ||||||||||||||||||||||
20 | 2014 | Haha, idk if this goes on here but I have well-shaped sharp eyebrows since childhood and I was scolded for it, cuz they assumed that i did threading. | I was told that I should not work so hard because someone else is working for me, by a teacher. meaning: after all we are girls and we need to depend on our husbands in future. LOL pityyyyyyyy. I have always wanted this thing to come out. Digital confession is better than no confession. haha. If you are a student of batch 2016 or less you'd of course know the very famous name [a certain teacher]. She was a teacher who literallyyyyyyy said out loud in a class, "If any of you are on your periods do not touch me, I have my fasts on tuesdays and if anybody on periods even came closer, you'd be punished." This very teacher was liked by every single student nobody knows why? Maybe it was because of her pretty face, or maybe it was because she wanted to be extra by keeping secret sessions in her class to mock other teachers and students. I still cannot figure it out. Talking about the secret sessions, that used to happen every friday while she was my class teacher, I have a life-changing incident related to it. One friday, she mocked a teacher for being liberal during exam invigilation. I mistakenly slipped this so-called "secret" of the secret session to my friends from another class, and by chance, someone from my class happened to know about it and complained it to [the teacher]. I would not mind if I was given a punishment to write " I am sorry" 100000 times back then. But instead, she punished me in the most brutal way possible. She asked the entire class to not talk to me let alone be friends with me. I lost my friends too. She ordered the entire class to leave me alone during lunch break and if anyone was found even close to me would be punished too. 12:00 noon was the time I always wished to never existed because imagine as a little girl, who was so young and full of emotions, was kept alone in that whole big school... I remember, to avoid all the bullies I used to go behind the old building(+2 section) where barely anyone came. I used to stay underneath the staircase where a certain staff kept his tools, to hide myself from everyone and sometimes, I spent my entire lunch break in the bathroom. A 12 years young girl with sensitive mind was mentally raped. I could not share this thing with my parents because as a little girl, I always thought teachers and parents have similar thoughts, and i was the one to be blamed. I regret that I ruined my vulnerability with my own misconception. An extrovert jolly child with average rank was an introvert scared girl with almost failing marks. My life was ruined, this went on for about three months, and three months were enough for me to get suicidal thoughts. After a huge appeal from one of my friends, that woman allowed me to stay with my friends. I was back to not being alone, but I was already completely destroyed inside out. This incident led me to being an insensitive, miserably horrible teenager, I lost my friends and I ended up to being in a bad company. As I was 13 already and the first phase of teenage is quite messy, it was catalyzed by the people around me who had nothing else to talk about but boys, sex and alcohol. Time passed by, I started getting worse and worse until I actually made an attempt to suicide. I took 11 sleeping pills and expected to die, fortunately I didn't. As a human we are powered up with our soul and that was the very moment, as I was having mild fever and headache when I woke up after hours, I realized that I have better things to do in life rather than contemplating some unfortunate events. It was a miracle that I sensed this feeling that I am not dying now for a reason. And ever since that very day, I have never looked back and moved on and on. After that day, I got a second life, tbh. But some scars remain painful until death and this is one that the school's teacher gave it to me. I have forgotten the pain, but I cannot avoid it, the flashes of my past recall those brutal memories and I become numb. However, I stand proud of myself today because i am a self made woman, with ambitions and dreams. I work hard to fulfill those dreams to attain my ultimate goal, I stay all night to learn and explore more unlike those times when I was insomniac cuz I was scared, I struggled to even live. I am proud that i am full of life and energy to do so many things in life. But I am more proud that I came out of that phase. No thanks to the school for this. My message is to all the fellow student, who are at the school now: Be proud to be a student, but never support the wrongs going on. If you are having to cry for something you're not supposed to cry for, stand up, raise your voice, talk to someone close to you and find a solution to the suffering. You don't deserve bullshits like those as a teenager or a child. Speak for yourselves, and if you are somewhere even close to being like me, scared and unaware of what to do, talk to your parents. They always are your first friends, I am telling you, don't be late in realizing this fact. I honestly wish that this message reaches out to all who need it. | The school's motto should be applicable to teachers as well. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
21 | 2014 | Yes, Body policing began from the day 1 of my school, when I was asked to get rid of my bangs or when I was reminded of how knee-length skirts were the only skirts or when teachers favored prettier looking cute girls with them for the class picture. This made a political environment for small kids to shape their understanding of femininity and obligations in rather conservative way, leaving a large landscape of normality being unexplored. | The prejudices and stereotyping was so strong that when the bubble of the school environment is finally off the hook, I still question my moral grounds because basic components of life like relationships, informed decision making and diversity were never a part of a student's school life | I think the school must be really aware of the problems, tensions during the growing years of a student's life because adolescence is an important phase, and rules and obligations will not solve real life problems, it will just add on to the pressure. There was no guardian-like figure for us to discuss our problems of mental health, emotional intelligence or sexuality and sexual health and this has a significant upon an individual's outlook to life, there were times when our fellow friends used blades to cut their wrists. I think this needs to be addressed soon. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
22 | 2014 | When we were in lower classes we had parents day and we had to dance or sing and the dance teacher choose me as a guard and the reason was the worst she said I look like guard and i was fit for it. Also around those times teachers choose us for dancing only I'd we had gowns or dress. And I remember asking my parents to buy one. These kind of things were pretty disgusting now I as I am older to realize them and think how this can affect a 7, 9 years old girl. | Schools and colleges also play important role to a childs mental health. And as today we know how mental health awareness is so prevalent. These kinds of things can affect a childs mental health. So I would request the school to consider them. However when I was in 11 or 12 the school had brought counsellor which was a great step but it would be great if we create an environment where children don't have to go to counselling by avoiding Sexism, body policing, racism, manipulation, favoritism, homophobia. | |||||||||||||||||||||||
23 | 2014 | Every year when our seniors used to come to school after the SLC results were out, at least one teacher would comment about the dress of the seniors. It left an imprint on my young mind. It was so normalized that teachers would talk about the dress of some students whom they saw outside of school during the holidays. Even when I went back to school after graduating they would casually pass comments such as "school padhda ta sano thiyo aahile ta yesto luga haru layera hinne bhaisakyo. bahira hinda ni chinna garo" when I was wearing a sleeveless dress during summertime. | Periods was a taboo. Especially during 5th and 6th grades, a lot of girls missed their classes when they had their first periods. I think it is very important for the school to organize open conversations with parents about menstruation and debunk the myths associated with periods so that young girls do not feel humiliated, hate their body for its biological functioning, and miss their school. I think there were instances when teachers used to say don't touch me if you are on your periods because the teachers had fasting. The school was complicit about discrimination against menstruating women. Also, the interaction between the opposite gender was considered as a sin. Girls were slut-shamed when teachers would see the students interacting with boys. "Only girls who are provocative and want attention from boys talk to boys" was the unspoken mantra. We should have had open conversations about the actual situations and real world. The school should not target girls for talking to boys. Rather they should have a more programs when girls will have the opportunity to have a healthy interaction with boys as well. Since I had no interaction with boys while growing up, it was really difficult for me to adjust to the world post school when I went to a diverse environment. The school should prepare its students for the outer world as well. | We should have more open conversations about social issues and individual experiences among peers, students, parents and administration. There were only a handful of teachers who acknowledged and prioritized the mental wellbeing of students. The administration should be trained well and they should understand the importance of mental wellbeing of students. I was lucky to find those empathetic teachers who supported me but the institution was not a safe space for young girls to talk about various issues that a teenager might be facing while growing up. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
24 | 2015 | no | we ought to be lady like...any other behaviour was not tolerated | |||||||||||||||||||||||
25 | 2015 | Probably, everyone has felt this way, no short skirts, no backless blouse in Farewell, Everytime we cut our hair, we felt conscious if even one strand of hair would fall into our face and we would be in trouble | In a lot of ways the school instilled in me a sort of "boy-phobia" One time a girl was with her brother in a public school event and was made to apologise in front of the assembly. And honestly, it was non of the school's business even if he was her boyfriend, unless she was violating the school's policies. | |||||||||||||||||||||||
26 | 2015 | We were not allowed to wear short socks ,short skirts because short socks . For 10 years i would think twice even for chopping my own hair so that next day when i plaited my hair hair stands would not come off. We were forced to wear white long inners just sk that the bra staps were not visible. Students were punished for applying heena/mehendi in their hand or even in their hair . When applying heena in our hands is basically our nepali culture . We were not allowed to pluck our eyebrows . | ||||||||||||||||||||||||
27 | 2015 | I don't remember exactly who but since I played basketball and I was quite short I was made to feel unfit to play basketball that made me stop playing it after school. | I don't exactly remember such instance of sexism. Though the female teachers used to constantly remind us to be decent and wary of the Male teachers and staff. | |||||||||||||||||||||||
28 | 2015 | I believe almost everyone in the school has faced body policing. We were scolded for wearing skirt slightly above the knee, socks above the knee in winters, cutting our hair in any style other than straight cut, hair tie other than black color. Also, we were checked to see if we wearing slacks/bloomers and plain white inner under our shirt. I clearly remember wearing slacks even under my saree while I was getting ready for farewell. | 1) Students who brought packets of biscuits/lays/wai wai or any other junk as their lunch would be taken away. Imagine if they didn't bring any money they would have to eat their friends tiffin which would leave both of them hungry. 3 warnings in a year wouldn’t be of any harm as some days it might be difficult for the parents or the students to prepare lunch 2) ID card for going to the washroom makes no sense to me 3) Making a tablecloth, handkerchief, t-shirt for environment day was too much pressure for the students who weren't good at painting or embroidery as we weren't taught either at the school. | |||||||||||||||||||||||
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32 | 2015 | Being checked for bloomers in the assembly, Heard instances of parents being called for not wearing another layer like camisole underneath the shirt. I had a hair infection which caused bald patches on my head, and this teacher pointed it out saying I was trying some “hairstyle” because my hair did not look as “oiled and flat” in the two pigtails. Also, was it really necessary for a certain teacher to have a bottle of Bajaj Almonds hair oil in class for students to oil their hair if it looked frizzy and thus “not tidy enough”? | Few male teachers calling me “moti” since grade 1 as I was always chubby (not obese). | Please focus on aspects such as personal development (including additional encouragement for music, sports and arts) and try to support students through their developmental years rather than policing every thing you can. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
33 | 2015 | Yes. She's skinny she's such a fatso she has moustache I can give you varieties. Height was an issue too I remember once when I stood for class caption the class teacher asked me,"can you take this responsible you are so tiny", with perplexed expression on her face. | No | I think more than performing early morning sessions on values needed in life, school should focus and discuss more on child's mental health through skits, drama . They should create such environment where students can easily share what they feel. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
34 | 2015 | One of the Christian girls had had her eyebrows done. [a certain teacher] made her stand and called out all the other Christian girls and checked their eyebrows and punished them. Being a Christian student I was pissed at the religious segregation and the right to maintain our physical appearance. Apparently doing normal girly things is not allowed. | I don’t have anything to compare it too so even if i did i have no idea. I don’t know if this counts but we were told not to be “extra friendly” with our male teachers and were accused of being manipulative in 7th grade. There was an instance where I got caught talking about crushes. It was embarrassing for me then and I had begged the teacher to not call my parents for a whole day, it worked, but the information was kept as a blackmail material to get good behavior out of me at school and outside of course. Over the years I realized there is nothing wrong with sharing your thoughts and emotions with your friends. It was wrong to talk in the middle of the class but it should have been corrected some other way. I made sure not to make any mistakes for 2 and a half years all because of the leverage the teacher had over me and the fear instilled in me from my parents. No, it did not discipline me, instead it took away my confidence which I had built over the years. It basically left me in despair. Disciplining can be done in better ways, it exists to make sure one can correct their wrongdoing without destroying themselves. Let’s be honest our school did not know how to maintain privacy and violated it just to make sure we are disciplined. | When I moved to Nepal, I had a culture shock no one in my school or family was aware of it. I wasn’t either. It resulted in me constantly getting bad grades and eventually I gave up on studying. No matter how hard I tried I couldn’t score well. Can’t there be programs or something supporting children from different environments? I do not want other children to fall into same hell hole I did so I would really appreciate that. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
35 | 2015 | Yes, our skirt lengths, our shirt buttons and our underneath blue slacks were checked daily. Especially, the colour of our bras had to be blue in blue shirts and white in white shirts. There was also one time when they were checking if we were wearing a "samij" on top of our bras. I personally think it was done in the process of teaching decency in clothing, however by all sorts of very different ways which never taught us to embrace our own parts and skin. There has to be a different approach in this. | Yes, example talking about sanitary pads only in front of female teachers by sending all the male teachers away. There isn't enough education on menstrual hygiene and embracing our monthly cycle, regarding the fact it is such a school. The teachers in turn would ask us if we were on our periods before taking some offerings. I remember a male teacher raising his hand on me which I found extremely disturbing because my own dad never raised his hand on me. There were restrictions for peeing too by the way due to which I had developed urine infections because I had to hold my pee. | I love the school very much despite all of the above. However, I want it to be better than all the other schools, to improve in all these aspects. To raise young powerful women who can embrace their sexuality, menstrual process, preferences, choices, and their bodies. I want these young girls to be empathetic and see each other beyond their races,colour, gender, castes and religions. That is why I have decided to write these things in brief. Because the school alone holds the potential to create a strong representation of women as future leaders of tomorrow. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
36 | 2015 | Not really | Yes, it has been judged i have seen many teachers doing that which is very shameful. | Yes, there should be many changes that needs to be brought among teachers as well as students. I was an outsider to the school. So everything was new to me but it was hard when you come from a school which had much more holistic and a far looking vision. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
37 | 2015 | Now that I reflect back, the whole perspective behind "slacks" and "double pleated hair" seems to be flawed. Did it make us more presentable? Sure. But I vividly remember a time in the primary building when students were lined up by teachers just to check if they'd worn "slacks". I never understood it then, and I still don't. One time, a friend of mine was sent back home on her birthday because her birthday outfit (a Tshirt, a jeans skirt on top of stockings) was deemed inappropriate. | Not allowing students to hoot at a School concert. Supposed justification: Girls should learn to behave. | |||||||||||||||||||||||
38 | 2015 | Yes, when our hall was being built we were taken to a neighboring school, our class teacher told us we were dying to see boys of that school so we went to use the restroom. Also she used to talk about how we used to make a chaos and disturb classes in male teacher’s class as they were male and because we were girls. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||
39 | 2015 | In my experience,I don’t think I have. | Not direct sexism. But subtle hints here and there.We weren’t allowed to interact with boys “inside the school premises” and our school authorities went as far as to banning them from our annual school mela too.Which ,now that I think of was quite unnecessary.It subconsciously made us think negative about the other gender . | I guess they should learn to take blame when they’re at fault. We were taught to apologize unnecessarily even if we weren’t wrong. Taking stand for ourselves in any discussions with them was considered “talking back”. They should really stop making students believe being elder gives anyone authority to always be right. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
40 | 2015 | "Did you grow tall?" implying that my skirt was short- [a certain teacher], +2 "You are wearing grey tights instead of blue bloomers. Should I take a picture and upload it?" - [the same teacher] "Why are you so fat? Do you not help out your Mom at home?" - [the same teacher] "I can smell cigarettes off your body? Do you not shower or is your dad a smoke addict?" - [the same teacher] and [a certain teacher] | "I saw you walking with that boy in New Road yesterday, don't elope with him and bring shame to your family okay?" - [a certain class teacher]. Good thing I never bowed my head to get blessing from that woman. Bow down to your mothers, not this sexist, discriminatory, spiteful woman. "You brought a phone to school and took pictures in front of the school, ruining our image of a pure, holy school. You are not supposed to take pictures and post it on social media. Take it down or we will suspend you." - a certain principal "Your mehendi is showing, are you getting married? You must be happy now you can be with a boy. That is what you always wanted, isn't it? *staff room teachers laugh*" - [two teachers] (surprising, I know) "If you wanted to hang out with boys, should have studied in [the neighboring co-ed school]" - [a certain teacher] | [A certain male teacher] and his uncomfortable physical proximity to girls. Grade 5, on my friend's birthday, she was wearing a pretty frock with laced back. It was last period and we had [a particular] class. She was asked to stand in the front and we'd all sing her Happy Birthday. After the song was over, he hugged her. UMMM EXCUSE ME? On our way to the bus she told me that [the male teacher] placed his palm on her back the entire time we sang the song. Another instance is during Sports day practice, a friend of mine spilled water drinking from the tap because obviously there were splashes. He was in charge of our house so he would always be around. He saw her and told her to unbutton the first two buttons of the shirt and he "wiped away water" from her chest. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
41 | 2015 | I was a skinny kid who gained some weight suddenly and I got a lot of comments from faculty which is strange to say the least. I felt especially conscious during P.T. classes to the point that I hated it. I feel like teachers need to realize that their words have lasting impacts on young growing minds. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||
42 | 2015 | Yes, a teacher literally asked me to buy a sports bra. She said “ Ohh when you run in the track or do the PT exercises your boobs are attracting too much attention so please wear a sports bra from next time” | Yes. You were not allowed to talk to boys. Even when you brought your brothers to the public school event, you were stared at or they cornered you and intervened. They basically wanted you to shut yourself out from the boys. Also, they expected us to be the epitome of a perfect woman with all the feminist characteristics which was little bit not okay. I remember a teacher teaching me how to walk and sit like a girl. She also said how my walking and siting shows how my family culture is. | I think mental health of a student should be given a priority. Expecting same outcome from every student is not how it should be. Recognizing and hearing everyone’s voice should be something they should start doing. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
43 | 2015 | I have experienced bodyshaming | A girl were shamed by our administration departments teacher because she asked for a sanitary pad while there were some outsiders in the room. | Nope | ||||||||||||||||||||||
44 | 2016 | Not that I am aware of I hope it doesn’t exist!!! | Be it don’t cut your hair short, be it act like a girl, be it behave like a girl all dots connect with homophobia! | School is a second home they say if the school really was, we wouldn’t feel uncomfortable filling up this form with our name on it! Whoever made this form I hope it isn’t only for the sake of filling, I Hope next generation of students may not face what we faced. Thankyou! | ||||||||||||||||||||||
45 | 2016 | Body policing came in the form of random checking to see if we were wearing our under-vests and bloomers. It came with teachers lifting out skirts and peeping through out shirts to check it. If anyone was not, they would be called out very publicly and their parents would have to bring the garment to school. As if it was not humiliating and disruptive to so many people. Girls are constantly told to close their legs, sit properly so that male teachers do not feel uncomfortable. As if that should even be an afterthought when we are supposed to consider them our father-figures. It came with teachers making fun of curvy girls, calling their bodies shabby and distracting. It came with them making fun of skinny girls, calling us ghostly and sad. It came with nail checking and even a whisper of white was considered to be too long, even if it would be painful to cut. It came with long socks being banned for literally no other reason other than them being trendy. | We were told to not ask for pads from male staff. Apparently, after we passed out from + 2 (2018), our juniors were told they would not be allowed to ask for pads from the reception at all, because it was disrespectful to the waiting guests there. Once when talking about breast cancer, the male teachers were asked to leave the assembly, because cancer is so sexy. The guard would spy on who came to pick girls up and if it was a man, the teachers would be informed. At one point, a friend got shamed to tears because HER FATHER came to pick her up. If girls were spotted hanging out with guys outside of school, they would be slut shamed by literal adults. One time, in the assembly, there was apparently a complaint from an alumna's parents that no one would marry her because she was "too political"(read: empowered). What followed was our principal basically telling us to not be like "that" because as women we would one day have to get married and be mothers... Yeah, fuck that. Another instance was in grade 11 when [a certain staff], in all her virgin glory, decided to call the young female teachers selfish for not having many children. Then she showed us a terribly animated video of a fetus who was going to get aborted, and how its hopes and dreams got crushed. I studied management and i have never excelled in science, but I can recognize bullshit when i see it. | i hope the school gets off its elitist horse and improves its cultures soon. This elitism is clear in itself, and I hope that changes too. Sex Education was pathetic and we were such a school. Them separating us from the boys does more harm than good. The physical training classes are not at all productive. There should be a changing room and gym clothes for those classes if the administration ever decides to improve them. The pedestal you teach your students to hold the teachers at is not healthy. The teachers would make such a huge deal of having to wipe the blackboards from a previous class, and the administration normalizes it. We have had instances where the teacher over-reacts and we need to shift the blame fully onto ourselves and write a whole apology letter. Exhibit A: A teacher mixed up the unchecked tests of two different groups on accident. Claimed it was a malicious student and stormed out because no one would confess. Exhibit B: A water bottle on the parapet got knocked off on accident. It fell down in front of the staff room and the force made the cap come off. A few drops landed on this teacher who screamed she was "jutho" and made it a much bigger deal than it should have been. She did not accept our apologies till we gave a sorry card with Lord Krishna's picture. Exhibit C: I got accused of "bullying" someone because she had bits of paper stuck in her belt, and a teacher concluded it was me. I defended myself tirelessly, but she said i was lying and she knew it was me. It was not even a huge deal, but when another teacher asked what happened, she told the story like it was the most scandalous thing to have ever happened. the other teacher gasped like it was too. The girl who had actually done that, a close friend of the "victim" who was just horsing around, came forward. The teacher still insisted it was me. It did not even go anywhere. She just yelled at me and walked away. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
46 | 2016 | No | Instead of teaching us how to deal with boys,society and sexism out of the premises, we were instead taught to keep away from the boys and befriend girls later on. If anyone was seen with a boy, she was undoubtedly shamed and interrogated the next day in school. Brother ho bhanda pani katti proof haru dinu parthyo.Later on the school started being excessively homophobic and added unnecessary rules of not hugging and holding hands with our friends. | Being such a school, they can shape the students in a much better way. Sexism being a serious issue girls can be taught how to deal with it . | ||||||||||||||||||||||
47 | 2016 | No | No | No | ||||||||||||||||||||||
48 | 2016 | Yes. | Yes | |||||||||||||||||||||||
49 | 2016 | They teach you to hide your body as rules determine it..the length of skirt,the vest to make sure nothing was visible, the length of nails to the type of hair. So well you decide. | Well i guess it depends on the view in the end it did make me strong enough to voice my opinion and stand up to my ideals so all of it prepared me for the outside world of sexism. | I hope they realize the smallest things impacts student in a different way than they assume be it groupism or favoritism. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
50 | 2016 | No | No | |||||||||||||||||||||||
51 | 2016 | Yes. I and a few friends I had , were always said that we looked too old for our age, when we were just 13. Having a petite body was a crime, I was made fun of infront of everyone, by women/men who were probably on their late 40s, when I being on my early 20s, now, know how inappropriate and impactful that can be on a 13 year old. | Yes, it was the first day of my high school, the coordinator gathered us all around, turned off the mic and asked us not to ask for sanitary napkins out loud in the infirmary because apparently [a certain staff] and other male teachers would feel uncomfortable hearing us. Every time someone complained about a male teacher harassing us, they used dismiss it like it wasn't a big deal, until the media got involved. People in the school were obsessed with asking girls to sit properly. Were asked not to wear heels, skirts, shorts , ripped jeans, sleeveless tops and what not. Even during lunch breaks we were asked to talk and laugh softly because we were to look poised and perfect, I remember getting scolded for laughing loudly. | The school at the end of the day is just a brand name. I however survived schooling but the two years of my high school were the worst days of my life. By the end of my high school, I was totally a different person and definately not in a good way. The school gave me depression, inferiority complex and anxiety that I still struggle with. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
52 | 2016 | No | No | |||||||||||||||||||||||
53 | 2016 | Not really. I can only deem it normal, the way they dictated how extremely tidy we were supposed to look or yap about the length of skirt. I mistakenly flashed a female teacher my undies tho cause I didn’t wear tights. and she wouldn’t stop raving about it to the students back in high school(+2). Teachers bullying me was really common, so that troupe yes. | A certain senior teacher was a major bully to me during my high school years. The princiapl is someone I admired sometimes but never understood why she hated me so. You could ask around my Humanities teachers from that year and anyone can tell you that the teacher despised me. Sometimes she had problem with my prescription glasses which weren’t even the least bit fancy. On the last months of college, she tried to ban me from going to the college trip without any valid reasons. Even the principal was eager on that. I asked them both to show me the receipts of any misconduct that I’d been a part of since the last two years. They were speechless of course because I had done nothing against the rules since years. However, the trip was an absolute nightmare. I was sick and had to rest seriously but the teacher dragged me through all those strenuous hikes and stuff. I requested her to at least let me rest in the bus since she didn’t trust me enough to let me rest in the hotel. But she made me walks for hours and found a problem with me on every little aspect. She even accused another student, of trying to seduce men in a religious site because her zipper was down(like what?). Sashi is absolutely crazy and unfit to be a teacher. So are a lot of other middle school and high school teachers. | Honestly, if I went on, I could write a book. Everyone talks about missing or reminiscing their school years. But whenever I looked down at middle school kids lined by at the assembly while rushing to my high school class in the mornings, I’d feel as if I were witnessing jailers perform their monotonous routines. Even the most soft mousy looking teacher hated me during middle school, irked on by her colleagues and well, the principal was sometimes the salt to my already festering wound. 5/5 wouldn’t try that again. Thankful only for the English OGs who’ve already retired. Thanks for maintaining my sanity. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
54 | 2017 | Yes, I have personally experienced it and I partly name it for unconsciously triggering my eating disorder. I’m still healing from it. | I haven’t. | This was very necessary. Thank you. I love the school. I always will. We can make it even better if we try. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
55 | 2017 | No | No | |||||||||||||||||||||||
56 | 2017 | Yes , i have . I was a chubby kid since childhood and a few teachers have told me stuffs like I wouldn’t feel cold because of my fats and i used to feel kinda bad. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||
57 | 2017 | I've been called flat alot. It didn't bother me in the school however, it did eventually make me feel insecure in my high school days. | I just wish for the administration to be a little soft towards those who make mistakes and you know not humiliate them in the assembly. In my time there, alot of people have been called out in front of the assembly and that just didn't feel right. | I think the school raised me right for now I can see and reflect what wrongs I did. Although sometimes I wish I was good to the one that got humiliated in front of everyone because at that time that was what they needed. I'd say sexism, racism, homophobia is everywhere and should be nowhere. The last place it should be is a school because a child learns alot from school. I hope I was useful and could help you understand alot about what the students need you all. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
58 | 2017 | Not so much, but I feel like all the so called cool girls were all skinny and had ideal body types while the more nerdy and uncool ones were always sidelined | No | There were instances of inappropriate behaviour by teachers and I think those teachers have been dealt with. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
59 | 2017 | I personally haven't. But I have seen and heard body policing remarks being made towards my classmates. | I have heard teachers and our principal make remarks on befriending boys from other schools. | |||||||||||||||||||||||
60 | 2017 | No | No | I would like the school to understand that they should stop judging the student and award a certain title on farewell event on the basis of her physical appearance. I hope they give that title to someone who is pretty inside and out , not just for the way her physical appearance is built. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
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62 | 2017 | Yes. I used to get a ton of shit for having a petite body. To the point where during parent-teacher interactions and stuff they used to talk about my body rather than my studies. | Yes, not me personally but I've heard a teacher say girls get raped and sexually harassed because they wear short dresses. Not to mention she said that when we were making placards for women's day rally. My privacy got invaded when the teachers asked me for my facebook password and bashed me for having a few men in my friend list. | The only thing the school gave me was a brand name. Lmao. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
63 | 2017 | Body positivity is not even a thing there. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||
64 | 2017 | Not that i remember, but i can't say others didn't experience it. | it's ironical because it's such a school but yes. | The amount of restrictions the school has created is absurd. The school strives to be professional but there is not professionalism between the relationship of students and teachers. Disciplining measures should be taken with a positive mindset. An angry teacher and their repulsive decision to not council the student but call the parents and pour out their frustration is not the right thing to do. Some students actually do need help. Teachers should realize that and help the students without victimizing them. Students are also children, your help will only nurture them and your ignorance with traumatize them. The teachers practice favoritism between below average students and above average students, they are kind to those who make things easy for them. It is traumatizing for students to learn things the hard way. Nepali talking fines are absurd. Calling parents for small inconveniences in absurd. A teacher should kindly counsel and discuss the matter about the student with the parent properly. Some students have a hard time making friends. especially in junior years, the school and teachers must create an environment where a student learns about themselves and learn how to make friends. Small incidents can traumatize a student's life. there are way too many students for teachers to handle. I am not targeting teachers as the main reason behind these incidents, but the school has the upper hand when it comes to making a change for the students through the teachers. Some times there aren't enough space in a class for students to sit comfortably. Why is this an issue? I only wish for my juniors to have a comfortable school life. Education from outside the book is also important for students. The students are learning, but why is it important for them? they do not know the real importance of education for the future. How is life outside the school? how is a school as such different from a public and private co-ed school? the students upon leaving school tend to discriminate and treat students of other schools differently. What should one do after school years? Why must we be patient and kind? Positive personality development is also important for students. The value education book simply does not teach everything. Instead of studying about the different culture and castes, why should we respect people of all races and culture? It is never impossible for students of the school to be racists and sexists. Education about the LGBTQ+ community is very crucial at this age and time. We who have already reached further in the road of life have already learned these things or are in the journey to learn about ourselves and our society. The school is a feminist school, but why is their product often the stereotypical feminists? I guess that the whole schooling system must be reconsidered. I speak out of genuine concern. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
65 | 2017 | yes, I have. Not by my friends seniors or juniors, but actually by the teachers themselves | no | |||||||||||||||||||||||
66 | 2018 | No | No | |||||||||||||||||||||||
67 | 2018 | Not me particularly but I've seen countless instances where my friends were pulled out of the assembly line for their short skirts (mind you skirts that remotely looked like it was folded and stiched to be shorter). They were criticized publicly in front of everyone. Sure, we had strict dresscode but it could be better if it wasn't done infront of EVERYONE. It puts the person in extreme shame and embarassment not encouragement to stick to the rules. | No. | I respect everyone including teachers who have wronged me in the course of 12 years because they are in an institution that believes in gender equality. But my respect falls short when I realize that "feminism" in the school compound has high undertones of blatant racism, homophobia and other social issues. We've always been taught that our buildings were our second home and home should feel like where we belong not a breeding ground of insecuritues, mental health problems and degradation. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
68 | 2018 | Well, I look fine and wasn't the victim of extreme body policing. However, there used to be time when I heard that I looked छुच्ची because of my aryan race facade. | Yes. I remember [authorities] saying that girls wearing short dresses are character-less and they were asking for it. It didn't feel good, but I could never speak against such orthodox dictum given to girls. I have witnessed [a certain student] complaining to the principal and [a certain teacher] that a junior uploads pictures with short dresses in facebook. Captainship was nothing but snitching and impressing teachers (I was a captain too). When we got hair-cut that wasn't particular to simple and smart looking, it meant that we have deviated our path of studies. School trip were the worst because we had to fake being really obedient and faced scrutinized eyes of female teachers. If we made mistakes in school then that mistake would be used to torture us forever, one mistake defined our character. "These girls are getting wings" was a common negative dialogue of teachers. The worst form of sexism we received was in grade 9, when [a certain female teacher] would not teach us properly but said "Girls are weak in Physics". Also, if one girl would get into some sort of problem, teachers would use it as a matter of gossip and taunt in the class. Also, a male teacher should stop holding girls in primary school in that way. | I am a high-school kid now, I cannot do anything else except raising voice. I'll come back to the school after my degree and get control of academic department. My school trauma won't get solved merely by counselling, I need to improve my school to die peacefully. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
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70 | 2019 | Yes, in the primary section girls were not allowed to cut their hair short. We did not even control over our hair lengths. We has to have two pony tails and any hair shorter than that was not allowed. | Yes. Yes. An 8th grader was a victim of revenge porn and her nudes were leaked. Instead of sympathazing with her and helping her through it , i remember a certain staff scolded her in front of the whole assembly she was embarrassed and harrased there and was asked why she had done so in front of hundreds of teachers and students standing. She was blamed for this because she was girl. Girls were taught to be 'ladylike'.We were always taught to sit with grace because male teachers would come to our classes. Our decency was measured with the vest under our shirt and the length of our skirts. Girls were punished and scolded in the assembly again because they were smoking hukkah in a restaurant near the school. They were not even in uniform but were punished by the principal. | It was a very toxic place which has shaped our minds and is still shaping a lot of young minds. This was a place where we could not express ourselves fully but were encouraged to be confined in a box | ||||||||||||||||||||||
71 | 2019 | No | No | Everything is okay but just don't be homophobic and accept people for who they are. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
72 | 2019 | Yes. | Yes. | BULLYING. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
73 | 2020 | No | No | No | ||||||||||||||||||||||
74 | 2020 | No | No | The wrong spreadity of lesbian couples has to be stopped | ||||||||||||||||||||||
75 | 2020 | I haven't experienced it myself, but teachers do indirectly do body policing and backbiting of students who were a bit more weighted than normal weighted students. | Nope | Please make sure students are actually cared for, not taken for granted to get house merits and lure them to get merits. Make sure all the teachers are treating all the students equally. The common answer I always got when asking the teacher a question when I didn't understand it was "raat bhari Ramayana padaio, ram kasko poi". Like really? What's what you say to your students? | ||||||||||||||||||||||
76 | 2020 | Oh, and how can I forget we were made to wear a camisole over our bra because the male teachers felt uncomfortable by the linings of our bra. dark coloured bras were forbidden, Seriously who does that? also, we were not allowed to tuck in our T-shirts because our figure would be emphasised if we did so and no matter how untidy we looked we had to untuck the t-shirts and cover our ass otherwise we would be "distracting" and making male staffs and teachers "uncomfortable". That was so humiliating. A girl was sent to spend the entire day in the sick room because of the way her boobs looked and because she had not worn a camisole. I just want the school to try and accept that there are major problems that have to be addressed. I want the school to help the girls to accept themselves and stop having such sick mentalities about how "WE" and "OUR BODY" are distracting. I had this vision of the school that it would strengthen my mental health and build up my confidence but I'm very sorry to admit that the school and its experience can hunt the vulnerable ones and shatter them to pieces. I want the school to prove me wrong and make justice to the ones who have suffered by making amendments in the administration. | I believed that Studying in the school would help me be empowered and accept myself but on the contrary, The school also holds its own type of sexism. The particular example of sexism I experienced was when I was given a half an hour lecture just because I asked for a pad to male staff. Apparently asking for a basic necessity of a female body to a male staff was prohibited in the school. I was very surprised to know that though being such a school, they still had failed to address and accept a very natural and biological phenomenon of a female body, menstruation, without any of embarrassment. | |||||||||||||||||||||||
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78 | 2020 | Yes , a big yes but wouldn't like to share here. | Yes kind of . | |||||||||||||||||||||||
79 | 2020 | No | No | No | ||||||||||||||||||||||
80 | 2020 | NO | NO | I think that this school is the most open minded school that I've been in , it's helped a lot to develop my personality too | ||||||||||||||||||||||
81 | 2020 | No | No | People over there seriously don't care about students having panic or anxiety attacks and rather say that they are faking it. I think that mental illness should be taken seriously. | ||||||||||||||||||||||
82 | 2020 | Not really no. | Not at all. | |||||||||||||||||||||||
83 | 2020 | No | No | |||||||||||||||||||||||
84 | 2020 | The school has a very heteronormative approach in dealing with things which I assume is a direct influence of our whole society, which is heteronormative as well, but as an institution where young individuals spend up to 12 years of their life, this needs to change. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||
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