Anonymous Survey: What are you afraid to admit at a UU church?
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TimestampWhat's something you believe, think, or do that might be easy to admit somewhere else, but not in a Unitarian church?
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9/27/2012 15:14:20That I'm not a Democrat and that too many of the members and friends in my local congregation are not very good at affirming the inherent worth and dignity of people who are not Democrats (whether Republican or third-party identified).
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9/27/2012 15:19:11Concern over men's rights, and gender equality from a male perspective.
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9/27/2012 15:54:51In many but not all UU churches I find it difficult to admit that I am a devout theist with Christian leanings. I'm also quite "conservative" about what this theology means for me personally, though I am a lifelong UU and find our non-creedalism rich and critical.
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9/27/2012 16:37:20There is nothing I can not share with my beloved community. This is my true safe space.
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9/27/2012 16:59:51I believe abortion truly is the taking of a life, and although I also believe in each woman's right to choose, I am opposed to abortion except in the most extreme circumstances.
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9/27/2012 20:32:531) a disinterest in the problems of disadvantaged groups such as the GLBT community.

2) I believe there is cultural norm not to discuss our specific beliefs or unbeliefs.

3) That there are obligations which people in a community have a duty to carry out.
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9/27/2012 22:10:00I learned about both evolution and creationism as scientific theories, and I respect both as scientific theories. Intelligent design is not just all about teaching the bible.
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9/28/2012 5:49:17I believe that Jesus saves, and that God is sovereign.
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9/28/2012 12:54:53Even though we support radical change in the war on drugs, we still speak in hushed tones and not publicly about drug use, particularly marijuana. Many of our youth and adults use with varying degrees of functionality, but in most congregations there is little to no public discourse to enter into. Why do we not have an honest curriculum for youth similar to OWL, such that it could offer a sane response to the "abstinence and demonizing" of programs such as DARE?
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9/28/2012 13:33:32Nothing. There are many things I feel uncomfortable sharing in other settings, but nothing in my UU congregation.
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9/29/2012 0:38:08The welfare system is broken, and not everyone should be helped indefinitely by the government.
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9/29/2012 9:28:03That I'm a Christian UU
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9/29/2012 11:46:55I own and love to wear my mink coat
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9/30/2012 9:10:00I don't care about recycling, and I'm pretty uninterested in the environment. I find white liberals to be incredibly orthodox in their relugious and political beliefs, self-righteous, sanctimonious and smug (even though I am one), and I internally roll my eyes at excessive political correctness. I think all of the above listed traits are sins, and that i an a sinner. I want communion every week. I love communion and feel like I need it so I go to a Christian church in the afternoons. This survey is cathartic.
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9/30/2012 12:16:04I would like to see the draft re-instated. Everyone goes for 3 years, men and women. Universal-no buying your way out of it. Good pay and benefits for serving. Can't get a job if you didn't serve.

Alongside the draft, 3 years of unpaid (only room & board) national service for those who don't want to carry a gun.
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9/30/2012 14:41:16Religious beliefs besides atheism/agnosticism or political beliefs that aren't aligned with the democratic party.

Unitarians are very tolerant of small variations, but there are a lot of us with painful religious pasts and the very mention of belief in a higher power makes them uncomfortable, and sometimes causes them to say pretty nasty things. That is to say I know a fair number of Unitarians that would make my Christian friends feel very uncomfortable because of their attitude. The same is true of political beliefs; I am aligned with UUs fairly well, but Republicans are very regularly ridiculed and the republican UUs out there are either driven away or insulted regularly but have to bear it.

All this, despite our belief in the inherent worth and dignity of every person. All this despite acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth. All this despite respect for the interdependent web of life.

It makes me sad to see UUs so poorly living up to our principles. It makes me sad to feel uncomfortable inviting some of my closest friends to UU events because I'm afraid someone will say something horribly offensive. That will not only tarnish UUism for them, but possibly our friendship.
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9/30/2012 20:48:36eating meat is okay
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9/30/2012 21:25:35That I consider myself to be a deeply religious person, and that it has nothing to do with belief.
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10/1/2012 14:15:57That as a gay man although I appreciate an environment that treats me with worth and dignity, I am not your project and I am not interested in being your "gay friend."

I find all the old straight people wearing rainbow flag nametags confusing to newcomers. Gays identify with the rainbow as their symbol and use it to identify other gays. If you want to show support of equality, buy a blue and yellow Equality sticker. The "Standing on the Side of Love" t-shirts are patronizing, especially when the only places they get worn are to church and gay events.

If you want to attract gay people, offer programming that caters to them as gay people, otherwise, just attract them as people who happen to be gay. (The same goes for the other minorities as well.)
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10/1/2012 14:27:43That when someone tells me they are Wiccan or Pagan, I have to do everything in my power not to roll my eyes.

That genetically modified crops, herbicides, and pesticides have saved millions from starvation.

I water my lawn with a regular sprinkler...and I don't compost.
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10/1/2012 18:25:36First of all you should be saying "UU," not "Unitarian."
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10/1/2012 21:35:25I pray. I'm not always sure Who I'm praying to - the old joke about UU prayers being addressed "to whom it may concerned" hits very close to home- but I find that my outer life goes most smoothly when my inner prayer life is consistent. Also, there is a perception within my (small, lay-led) congregation that we can't sing and shouldn't try but I really desperately miss good worship music. Even though I'm not Christian and haven't been for ten years it's one of the few pieces of my Christian upbringing that I still miss.
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10/1/2012 22:16:38I HATE hymns! We need better music!
Are all religions equally true? Doesn't that mean they are also equally false?
Uus don't seem to care about objective truth whatsoever. Its all about the subjective.
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10/2/2012 7:51:14I shop at Walmart.
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10/2/2012 14:03:47Certainly in my church, admitting that you believe in a god/God would be quite difficult. It's also hard to admit that one feels that kids need a good amount of direction, including liberal use of well-intended "no's" and plenty of limits. That's a bone of contention at our church, and the chaos of some RE classrooms clearly reflect it.
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10/2/2012 20:34:12I support nuclear power.
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10/3/2012 11:13:53That I do not enjoy documentaries and that mindless television sitcoms are very relaxing to me.
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10/3/2012 19:58:05Last year I preached a sermon on the religious and spiritual implications of the realms of the paranormal. Lots of people responded by speaking openly about their own experiences of the uncanny, the unexplained, etc.

http://revthom.blogspot.com/2011/12/sermon-miracles-for-people-who-dont.html

I suspect that in some UU churches, members would have difficulty speaking openly about these experiences.
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10/5/2012 11:15:09that I dropped out of college or that I'm not familiar with an literary reference.
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10/10/2012 0:28:44That my religious leanings started with psychedelics. i would not be in church if not for THC and LSD.
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10/15/2012 23:32:26"I think teenagers should have boundaries. By teaching them to be 'empowered', they are becoming insufferably entitled."
"This is classist"
"Hey, most of us are white. I think it's disrespectful to sing other ethnic songs and pat ourselves on the back."
"You know, commitment is a good thing. We can't be perfect individualists all the time."
"Marriage is a sacred institution, even if it's optional. Anyone should be able to do it, but devaluing long term commitment is harmful."
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10/16/2012 22:46:37I'm in debt up to my eyeballs because of student loans.
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10/20/2012 23:06:34I hate churches.

A lot of UUs are hypocrites when it comes to living out the principles. Christian bashing, etc. I strongly disbelieve in the supernatural, gods and all that stuff, but we as a community should be setting up spaces for having respectful debates and discussions that make us question ourselves, and credo writing workshops and things like this. We are often very cliquish.
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2/27/2013 18:47:11I find it hard to share with my fellow UU church members that I am a UU Christian, one that believes in the Trinitarian God of the Christian variety. Also that I get a lot spiritually out of listening to Christian rock music. And that I feel social justice work by itself is not a religious/spiritual act, but only if it is done to make more manifest in the world ones personal or ones communally held religious/spiritual beliefs and values then is it a religious/spiritual act.
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5/18/2013 10:42:23I'm not wealthy.
I don't have a master's degree or a career job.
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