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Instructions: Go to File > Make a copy to save to your Google DriveType partner's name hereType partner's name hereType partner's name hereType partner's name hereType partner's name hereType partner's name hereType partner's name hereType partner's name hereType partner's name hereType partner's name hereType partner's name hereType partner's name here
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How long were you together?
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Briefly tell the story of this relationship in 3-5 sentences.
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What was good about the relationship?
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What was bad about the relationship?
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Why did it end?
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What was your role in any unsatisfying dynamics? (If you were the victim of abuse in this relationship, feel free to skip this question.)
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What did you learn?
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Extra credit
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List their personality traits and physical characteristics
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What was their occupation?
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How did you meet?
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What was your first impression of this person? What attracted you to them right away? If you weren't attracted to them right away, why not? Did the attraction grow over time?
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What was physical intimacy like at the beginning? What was it like toward the end?
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Which of your needs went unmet in this relationship?
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What was their relationship with their mom like?
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What was their relationship with their dad like?
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What were their relationships prior to you like?
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What made it hard to leave?
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What made it hard to stay?
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Did you try to remain friends? What was the result?
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How long did it take you to "get over" them? What was your healing process like?
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How was your relationship with yourself when you were with this person?
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How were your relationships with friends, family, work, or hobbies?
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Where did your values align? Where did they diverge?
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How did you communicate to each other about your feelings, needs, desires, etc?
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What was the most common source of conflict in your relationship?
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How did you resolve conflict together?
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What was the most common source of joy or closeness in this relationship?
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What do you feel is still unfinished business with this relationship or person?
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What were your biggest triggers in this relationship? What things made you feel attacked or insecure?
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What "role" did you take on in this relationship?
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Note any astrological or religious compatibility, attachment styles or love languages, or other value systems that hold meaning for you
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Add your own!
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Final reflections on this partner/your relationship?
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