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2 | General | |||||||||||||||||||||||||
3 | Basic Fear | Of being corrupt | Of being unworthy of love | Of being worthless | Of being without identity | Of being incapable | Of lacking support | Of being deprived | Of being controlled by others | Of loss and separation | ||||||||||||||||
4 | Basic Desire | To have integrity | To feel loved | To be valued | To be themselves | To be competent | To be secure | To be happy | To be independent | To have peace of mind | ||||||||||||||||
5 | Lost Childhood Message | You are good | You are wanted | You are loved for who you are | You are seen for who you are | Your needs are not a problem | You are safe | You will be taken care of | You will not be betrayed | Your presence matters | ||||||||||||||||
6 | Manipulates by | Correcting others | Creating dependencies | Charming others | Being temperamental | Staying preoccupied | Testing others | Distracting others | Dominating others | Checking out | ||||||||||||||||
7 | Attention | Correctness | Love | Performance | Meaning | Observation | Doubts | Possibilities | Power dynamics | Well-being | ||||||||||||||||
8 | Avoids | Impropriety | Feeling useless | Failure | Feeling disconnected | Attachments | Threats | Emotional pain | Weakness | Conflict | ||||||||||||||||
9 | Vice | Resentment | Pride | Vanity | Envy | Avarice | Fear | Gluttony | Lust | Inaction | ||||||||||||||||
10 | Virtue | Integrity | Relationships | Industriousness | Creativity | Objectivity | Support | Vision | Protection | Harmony | ||||||||||||||||
11 | Personal | |||||||||||||||||||||||||
12 | Obsessed With | Standards | Relationships | Winning | What is missing | Facts | Threats | Possibilities | Action | Nature | ||||||||||||||||
13 | Overdo | Regiments | Hospitality | Appearances | Art/music | Hobbies | Group affiliations | Fun activity | Fixations | Comforts | ||||||||||||||||
14 | Energized by | Improvements | Helping People | Aesthetic Details | Aesthetic Details | Minutiae | Crisis | Shortcuts | Crisis | Mindless tasks | ||||||||||||||||
15 | Guilty Pleasure | Giving feedback | Attention | Alone time | Violating convention | Arguing radical ideas | Giving feedback | Storytelling | Violating convention | Attention | ||||||||||||||||
16 | Secretly | Adore innocence | Don't always care | Don't always care | Seek similar people | Tuned out | Rebellious | Push people away | Adore innocence | Tuned out | ||||||||||||||||
17 | Entertainment | Education | Guilty pleasures | Competition | Depth | Exploration | Informational | Distraction | Challenges | Integration | ||||||||||||||||
18 | Experience "Desired Effect" | Self-improvement | Self-indulgence | Self-improvement | Self-expression | Self-immersion | Self-soothing | Self-indulgence | Self-immersion | Self-soothing | ||||||||||||||||
19 | Content | Enriching | Others' lives | Starring roles | Creative | Complex | Analytical | Novel | Intense | Grounded | ||||||||||||||||
20 | Theme "Type of Experience" | Growth | Social | High-Profile | Meaningful | Solo | Planned | Exciting | Self-driven | Self-nurturing | ||||||||||||||||
21 | Socially | Appropriate | Adept | Adept | Unconventional | Awkward | Appropriate | Engaging | Unconventional | Easygoing | ||||||||||||||||
22 | Vibe | Thoughtful | Warm | Dynamic | Artistic | Quirky | Prepared | Upbeat | Confident | Relaxed | ||||||||||||||||
23 | Fashion Style | Modest | Adaptable | Attention-grabbing | Bold | Geeky | Safe | Comfortable | Consistent | Modest | ||||||||||||||||
24 | Humor | Dry wit | Quips | Jokes | Cleverness | Observational | Jokes | Playfulness | Shocks | Cleverness | ||||||||||||||||
25 | Catch-phrases | Judge | Encourage | Persuade | Express | Explain | Hedge | Exclaim | Amplify | Facilitate | ||||||||||||||||
26 | Dinner party | Collaborator | Director | Driver | Connoisseur | Encyclopedia | Guardian | Energizer | Nonconformist | Harmonizer | ||||||||||||||||
27 | Birthday (their own) | Secretly care | Secretly care | Secretly care | Ambivalent | Ambivalent | Secretly care | Excuse for a party | Ambivalent | Secretly care | ||||||||||||||||
28 | Romance | |||||||||||||||||||||||||
29 | First Date | Polished | Attentive | Engaging | Intriguing | Guarded | Guarded | Engaging | Raw | Easygoing | ||||||||||||||||
30 | Woo by | Well-roundedness | Seduction | Charm | Mystery | Competence | Loyalty | Quick Thinking | Confidence | Attentiveness | ||||||||||||||||
31 | Excited By | Spontaneity | Intimacy | Feeling Seen | Feeling Seen | Feeling Understood | Feeling Supported | Novelty | Feeling Understood | Drive | ||||||||||||||||
32 | Turnoff | Apathy | Neediness | Mediocrity | Superficiality | Dimwittedness | Indecisiveness | Invasiveness | Weakness | Invasiveness | ||||||||||||||||
33 | Stay for | Compassion | Openness | Vitality | Strength | Depth | Reliability | Groundedness | Strength | Vitality | ||||||||||||||||
34 | Can be overly | Formal | Intrusive | Showy | Intrusive | Eccentric | Jealous | Avoidant | Intense | Avoidant | ||||||||||||||||
35 | Often | Overthink | Sentimentalize | Abstract | Fantasize | Observe | Question | Idealize | Dominate | Idealize | ||||||||||||||||
36 | Sign of affection | Generosity | Eye contact | Focus | Inquiry | Generosity | Confide | Focus | Focus | Presence | ||||||||||||||||
37 | Pet peeve | Thoughtlessness | Thoughtlessness | Complacency | Being Trivialized | Petty Drama | Public Criticism | Boringness | Phoniness | Public arguments | ||||||||||||||||
38 | Competition | Compete | Manipulate | Compete | Ruminate | Withdraw | Interrogate | Show off | Demand | Linger | ||||||||||||||||
39 | Demeanor | Analytical | Warm | Adaptable | Instinctual | Analytical | Analytical | Enthusiastic | Instinctual | Adaptable | ||||||||||||||||
40 | Energy | Sweet | Affectionate | Alluring | Sweet | Intense | Affectionate | Flirtatious | Intense | Mirroring | ||||||||||||||||
41 | Under-express | Affection | Personal Needs | Vulnerability | Affection | Feelings | Uncertainty | Negativity | Vulnerability | Problems | ||||||||||||||||
42 | Over-express | Rationale | Interest | Achievements | Feelings | Information | Confidence | Positivity | Independence | Agreeableness | ||||||||||||||||
43 | Commitment | Commit | Commit | Over-commit | Non-committal | Commit | Over-commit | Non-committal | Commit | Non-committal | ||||||||||||||||
44 | Boundaries | Well-boundaries | Cross boundaries | Well-boundaries | Inconsistent | Strong boundaries | Inconsistent | Cross boundaries | Cross boundaries | Strong boundaries | ||||||||||||||||
45 | Supporting | Guide | Anticipate needs | Encourage | Guide | Listen | Protect | Encourage | Protect | Listen | ||||||||||||||||
46 | Conflict Orientation | Avoidant | Avoidant | Embrace | Passive-aggressive | Avoidant | Passive-aggressive | Avoidant | Embrace | Avoidant | ||||||||||||||||
47 | In Conflict | Uncompromising | Engaged | Demanding | Dramatic | Argumentative | Provoking | Frenetic- | Provoking | Withdrawn | ||||||||||||||||
48 | Reason for Cheating | Pride | Appreciated | Revenge | Idealization | Feeling understood | Validation | Spur-of-the-moment | Aliveness | Comfort | ||||||||||||||||
49 | Breaking Up | Composed | Deflect | Waver | Push/pull | Detach | Dwell | Sabotage | Composed | Glacial | ||||||||||||||||
50 | Work | |||||||||||||||||||||||||
51 | Seek | Correctness | Appreciation | Admiration | Uniqueness | Expertise | Community | Novelty | Independence | Stability | ||||||||||||||||
52 | Organizationally attuned to | Goals | Relationships | Goals | Agency | Ideas | Ecosystem | Ideas | Agency | Ecosystem | ||||||||||||||||
53 | Goal | Quality | Reciprocity | Recognition | Identity | Mastey | Predictability | Stimulation | Power | Cohesion | ||||||||||||||||
54 | Focus on | Standards | People | Action | Truth | Knowledge | Problems | Possibilities | Action | Alignment | ||||||||||||||||
55 | Psychological Gain | Validation | Closeness | Victory | Self-expression | Clarity | Clarity | Fulfillment | Self-expression | Balance | ||||||||||||||||
56 | Energized by | Teaching | Connecting | Winning | Creating | Inventing | Solving | Teaching | Overcoming challenges | Routine | ||||||||||||||||
57 | Dislike | Disorder | Exclusion | Stagnation | Censorship | Imposition | Exclusion | Maintenance | Oversight | False urgency | ||||||||||||||||
58 | Pet Peeve | Sloppiness | Excessive neediness | Not getting credit | Jargon | Misinformation | Uncertainty | Nitpicking | Micromanagement | Showiness | ||||||||||||||||
59 | Method | Improve | Help | Strive | Long | Inform | Prepare | Fix | Lead | Accommodate | ||||||||||||||||
60 | Language | Proper | Tactful | Proper | Oversensitive | Complex | Questioning | Unfiltered | Blunt | Tactful | ||||||||||||||||
61 | Decision-making | Analyze then decide | Defer | Decisive | Indecisive | Analyze then decide | Gather input | Gather input | Decisive | Delay decision | ||||||||||||||||
62 | Directness | Instruct | Sugar-coat | Political | Dramatize | Reticent | Manipulates | Evasive | Direct | Indirect | ||||||||||||||||
63 | Communication Style | Hedge | Meander | Overconfident | Oblique | Esoteric | Over-explain | Over-hype | Over-assert | Understate | ||||||||||||||||
64 | Authority | Comply | Ingratiate | Ingratiate | Indifferent | Indifferent | Devil's advocate | Equalize | Oppose | Accommodate | ||||||||||||||||
65 | Rules | Abide | Abide | Bend | Question | Question | Complain | Complain | Disregard | Abide | ||||||||||||||||
66 | Compliments | Earned | Rapport | Validate | Genuine | Uncomfortable | Reassure | Genuine | Uncomfortable | Genuine | ||||||||||||||||
67 | Peers | Relate | Relate | Mobilize | Ambivalent | Ambivalent | Disarm | Befriend | Ambivalent | Amicable | ||||||||||||||||
68 | Managing Down | Clarify | Mentor | Motivate | Inspire | Clarify | Support | Mentor | Empower | Reassure | ||||||||||||||||
69 | Managing Up | Over-communicate | Follow | Impress | Question | Comply | Accept then resist | Impress | Resist | Accept then divert | ||||||||||||||||
70 | Disagreement | Competitive | Appeasing | Competitive | Envious | Argumentative | Skeptical | Argumentative | Defiant | Wishful thinking | ||||||||||||||||
71 | Criticism | Corrective | Soft | Direct | Circuitous | Detailed | Vacillate | Avoidant | Direct | Subtle | ||||||||||||||||
72 | Can be overly | Detailed | Involved | Salesy | Detailed | Isolated | Analytical | Frenetic | Aggressive | Impressionable | ||||||||||||||||
73 | Risk | Risk-averse | Risk-averse | Calculated risk-taker | Risk-averse | Calculated risk-taker | Risk-averse | Risk-taker | Risk-taker | Risk-averse | ||||||||||||||||
74 | Cautiousness | Cautious | Cautious | Cautious | Impulsive | Cautious | Cautious | Impulsive | Impulsive | Cautious | ||||||||||||||||
75 | Friends & Family | |||||||||||||||||||||||||
76 | Oriented To | Future (idealize) | Present (worry) | Future (success) | Past (ruminate) | Future (preparations) | Present (worry) | Future (planning) | Future (planning) | Past (idealizes) | ||||||||||||||||
77 | Social Perspective | Black and white | See all perspectives | See context and adapt | Self-centered | Self-centered | See all perspectives | Self-centered | Black and white | See all perspectives | ||||||||||||||||
78 | Optimism | Realistic | Optimistic | Optimistic | Idealistic | Pessimistic | Pessimistic | Optimistic | Realistic | Idealistic | ||||||||||||||||
79 | Predictability | Like predictability | Like predictability | Like predictability | Unpredictable | Like predictability | Like predictability | Unpredictable | Unpredictable | Like predictability | ||||||||||||||||
80 | Role | Referee | Glue | Coordinator | Mystic | Expert | Teammate | Spark plug | Rock | Mediator | ||||||||||||||||
81 | Often | Assess | Sense | Promote | Connect | Inform | Check in | Analyze | Protect | Soothe | ||||||||||||||||
82 | Most Likely To | Advise | Support | Rally | Broadcast | Disappear | Unite | Entertain | Escalate | Go with the flow | ||||||||||||||||
83 | Can Give Others | Integrity | Unconditional love | Motivation | Emotional insights | Expertise | Preparation | Lightheadedness | Assertiveness | Empathy | ||||||||||||||||
84 | Social Approach | Personable | Personable | Impersonal | Open | Private | Skeptical | Open | Personable | Private | ||||||||||||||||
85 | Where To Find At A Party | Mingling | Hosting | Center (charming) | Wallflower | Not attending | Mingling | Center (enlivening) | Center (spicing up) | Blending in | ||||||||||||||||
86 | Drawn To | Adventurousness | Emotional openness | Prestige | Depth | Truth | Loyalty | Intrigue | Authenticity | Energy | ||||||||||||||||
87 | Canceled Plans | Annoyed | Disappointed | Disappointed | Ambivalent | Annoyed | Annoyed | Ambivalent | Ambivalent | Happy | ||||||||||||||||
88 | In Conflict Dislike | Accusations | Ignoring | Humiliation | Minimization | Interruption | Accusations | Meta-conversations | Containment | Arrogance | ||||||||||||||||
89 | Fight | Battles they believe in | Only personal battles | Battles they can win | Every battle | Battles they believe in | Battles they can win | No personal battles | Every battle | Few battles | ||||||||||||||||
90 | Listening Focus | Problems | Helping | Action | Underlying issue | Problems | Risk analysis | Possibilities | Action | Path of least resistance | ||||||||||||||||
91 | Pet Peeve | Selfishness | Exclusion | Inattention | Small talk | The spotlight | Fibs | Naysayers | Conformity | Exclusion | ||||||||||||||||
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