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BDSM CHECKLISTDATE:Checklist VER: .81 - www.discerningspecialist.com
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STEP1 : SAVE A COPY IF YOU DO NOT HAVE SHARED ACCESS TO ALLOW YOU TO EDIT: File / Make A Copy
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Name:(Examples: John, Sally, Sir Domly Dom, Kitty)
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Role Identified As:(Examples: Submissive, Dominant, Switch, Sadist, Masochist, Fetishist)
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Specific Fetishes:(Examples: Foot Fetish, Leather, Pain, Medical, Shibari)
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Pain Tolerance:(Examples: 0=no pain, 5=medium, 10=extreme pain)
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Experience Level:(Examples: In Months / Years, Beginner, Extensive)
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Sexual orientation:(Examples: Straight, Gay / Lesbian, Bi-Sexual, Bi-Curious)
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Any Medical Conditions?(Examples: Heart problems, Peanut Allergy, Diabetic, STDs)
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Any Physical or Mental Limitations?(Examples: Bad Knee, Abandonment Issues)
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This core list may look too daunting to many so feel free to skip over any sections you are uninterested in. Since editable, you are encouraged to add any missing activities as desired.
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Note for Interest Ratings: Mark as applicable such as if you identify as submissive it is not necessary to declare you do not enjoy giving spankings. Only use R, G, P, or M for cell entry however ok to use multiple in one cell. There will be some exceptions, but for most activities the Dominant will be Giving and the Submissive will be Receiving. When in doubt the Notes area is for extra comments such as explanations and declarations. Partner and Myself work for outliers such as clothing where Giving and Receiving can cause confusion.
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For Experience: Leave blank or None = No Experience, BEG = Beginner, INT = Intermediate, ADV = Advanced
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Example 1BEGGBeginner Experience, Enjoys Giving
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Example 2INTGR Intermediate Experience, Curious Giving, Loves Receiving
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No Interest ExampleNONERG No experience, Hard Limit both Receiving and Giving
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Partner / Myself ExampleADVMP Advanced Experience loving something on Partner yet only tolerate on Myself
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SEX
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SEXEXPERIENCEINTEREST (R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=Partner, M=Myself)NOTESDefinition
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NONE, BEG, INT, ADVHard LimitTolerateCuriousEnjoyLove
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Vaginal SexTraditional sex of a penis being inserted into a vagina
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Anal Sex
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Oral Sex
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Breast Sex
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Genital Stroking / Rubbing
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Fingering
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Fisting
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Kissing
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Licking
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Rimming / Anal Licking
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Vaginal Toys
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Anal Toys
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Teasing
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Massage
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Petting / Stroking Hair
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Sexual Body Fluids - Wearing
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Sexual Body Fluids - Consuming
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Spitting - external
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Spitting - In mouth
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Double Penetration - Human
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Double Penetration - Toys
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Triple Penetration - Human
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Triple Penetration - Toys
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Threesome - M, F, F
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Threesome - M, M, F
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Threesome - All same Sex
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Gang Bang
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BONDAGE
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SEXEXPERIENCEINTEREST (R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=Partner, M=Myself)NOTESDefinition
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NONE, BEG, INT, ADVHard LimitTolerateCuriousEnjoyLove
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Full Body
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Mental
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Restraint 0-1 hour
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Restraint 3+ hours
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Restraint full day or overnight
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Leather Restraints
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Metal Restraints
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Rope
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Intricate Rope / Shibari
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Suspension - Upright
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Suspension - Horizontal
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Suspension - Inverted
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Genital Bondage
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Mummification
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Containment (Caging / Cells)
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Predicament
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Gags
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Sensory Deprivation
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Chastity Devices
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S&M
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SEXEXPERIENCEINTEREST (R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=Partner, M=Myself)NOTESDefinition
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NONE, BEG, INT, ADVHard LimitTolerateCuriousEnjoyLove
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Spanking
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Face Slapping
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Biting
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Nipple Torture
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Genital Torture
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Punching / Beating
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Bruising
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Scratching
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Hair Pulling
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Pinching
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Choking - Windpipe
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Choking - Arterial
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Breath Play