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Yellow: Survivor team/Louisa LeontiadesGreen: FV/FV podRed: SurvivorsPurple: Public responses
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DescriptionURLAuthorSourceDateNotes
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Call-in letter to Franklinhttps://drive.google.com/file/d/1qGh1mZHKkV8rGZ0OI2cbRd0P6K42rbbH/viewSurvivor podGoogle Drive2/10/2019Sent privately to FV by Reid Mihalko acting as the survivor team liaison.
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FV's Quora response to the call-in letter
https://polyamory-metoo.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/Original-Quora-answer-02_11_19.png
Franklin VeauxQuora2/10/2019Subsequently deleted
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"Anger Management" (Eve's post on Our Better Natures)https://ourbetternatures.wordpress.com/2018/11/08/guest-post-anger-management/Eve Rickert/RoseOur Better Natures2/11/2019Originally published anonymously November 8, 2018. Eve's name was added February 11, 2019
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"On Light and Shadow: Polyamory's #metoo" (Survivor pod's original statement)https://link.medium.com/02lIvpJyfUSurvivor podMedium2/11/2019
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Louisa Leontiades' blog post about her role in story collection.http://louisaleontiades.com/polyamorys-metoo/Louisa LeontiadesLouisaLeontiades.com2/11/2019
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Aida Manduley's Facebook statement about their involvement in the processhttps://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10214207821491859&id=1304250324Aida ManduleyFacebook2/11/2019
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Samantha Manewitz's Facebook statement about involvement in the podhttps://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10106505651329381&id=14934Samantha ManewitzFacebook2/11/2019
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Reid Mihalko's Facebook statement about his role in the processhttps://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10157562367515476&id=739390475Reid MihalkoFacebook2/11/2019
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Chelsey Blair's Facebook statement about her involvement in the processhttps://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10162505385930354&id=877540353Chelsey BlairFacebook2/11/2019
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Tweet by Joe Fulgham (narrator of the audiobook of The Game Changer)https://twitter.com/joefulgham/status/1095013657359073281Joe FulghamTwitter2/11/2019
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Reddit discussion with survivor team commentaryhttps://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/aph1uq/on_light_and_shadow_polyamorys_metoo_franklin/Reddit users/pod membersReddit2/11/2019
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Tweet thread by Andrea Zanin and othershttps://twitter.com/sexgeekAZ/status/1095069876874563585Andrea ZaninTwitter2/11/2019Discusses authorship of More Than Two
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Franklin responds to the Quora question "What does Franklin Veaux think about this article which seems to make aspersions regarding his character in relationships?"https://polyamory-metoo.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Screenshot_20190211-FV-Quora-re-public-statement.jpgFranklin VeauxQuora2/11/2019Subsequently deleted
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Jakob Liljenwall responds to Franklin's claim that the call-in is about coercing him into contact with Evehttps://www.quora.com/What-made-you-angry-today/answer/Franklin-Veaux/comment/85804928Jakob Liljenwall (pod member)Quora2/11/2019
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Jakob Liljenwall responds to Franklin's story about the phonehttps://www.quora.com/What-made-you-angry-today/answer/Franklin-Veaux/comment/85817354Jakob Liljenwall (pod member)Quora2/11/2019
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"To The Next One" (Eve's post on the Consent Culture blog)https://medium.com/consent-culture-a-conversation/to-the-next-one-e92f62915281Eve Rickert/Kitty StrykerMedium2/12/2019Originally published July 28th 2018: Eve's name was added Feb 12 2019
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Franklin comments on the Quora question "What does Franklin Veaux think about this article which seems to make aspersions regarding his character in relationships?"
https://polyamory-metoo.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/Original-Quora-answer-claiming-to-have-no-idea-who-survivors-are-in-thread-02_12_19-.png
Franklin VeauxQuora2/12/2019Subsequently deleted. Claims he does not know who the 6 women are or what harm he did. But both the call-in and the public statement made clear that they included his three past nesting partners and included lists of harms, and the call-in offered to send him more detailed list of harms upon request (he did not request this).
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Franklin comments on the Quora question "What does Franklin Veaux think about this article which seems to make aspersions regarding his character in relationships?"
https://polyamory-metoo.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/FV-Comment-Thread-Response.png
Franklin VeauxQuora2/12/2019Subsequently deleted. Claims he was told he would "lose his community" if he did not respond "to her," but he was never told this, and this appropriates language from the experience of his ex-partner Amber, who claims that FV's treatment of her led to the subsequent abuse she experienced.
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Franklin comments on the Quora question "What does Franklin Veaux think about this article which seems to make aspersions regarding his character in relationships?"
https://polyamory-metoo.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/FV-Comment-after-call-in.png
Franklin VeauxQuora2/12/2019Subsequently deleted. Denigrates signatories to the call-in letter and public statement, many of whom had been his friends, booked him for gigs, contributed to his books, or otherwise helped build his platform.
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Zachary Taylor's response to the Quora question "What does Franklin Veaux think about this article which seems to make aspersions regarding his character in relationships?"https://www.quora.com/What-does-Franklin-Veaux-think-about-this-article-which-seems-to-make-aspersions-regarding-his-character-in-relationshipsFranklin/Quora membersQuora2/12/2019FV originally answered this question, but later deleted his answer.
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"What To Do if You Are The One Accused of a Consent Violation"https://www.tamarapincus.com/consent-violation/Tamara Pincustamarapincus.com2/12/2019Doesn't reference FV directly but mentions Aida & Samantha & is clearly in part a response to this.
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Tweet thread by Dylan Thomashttps://twitter.com/dylanthethomas/status/1095400727445495808?s=21Dylan ThomasTwitter2/12/2019
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Chelsey Blair's Facebook post about Reid Mihalko's involvementhttps://www.facebook.com/iwantlifeineveryword/posts/10162514616460354Chelsey BlairFacebook2/12/2019
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Franklin posts that he will convene an accountability podhttps://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2451865108160282&id=100000104516819Franklin VeauxFacebook2/12/2019
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Poly Weekly's (edited) post, with comment discussion threadhttps://www.facebook.com/polyweekly/posts/10156461239194531Cunning MinxFacebook2/13/2019Discussion in comments re: nature of Minx's support, redaction of statement that FV apologized
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Andy Izenson weighs in on TJhttps://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10100507063083433&id=12202858Andy IzensonFacebook2/15/2019
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Chelsey Blair answers a Quora question about what to make of "On Light and Shadow"https://www.itrippedonthepolystair.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/Chelsey-Blair-answer-to-Quora-question-about-what-to-make-of-On-Light-and-Shadow_Redacted.pdfChelsey BlairQuora2/15/2019Question has been deleted. Link is to a backup.
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"Abuse in polyamory, 2019 edition"http://thebrunettesblog.com/2019/02/17/abuse-in-polyamory-2019-edition/Ginny BrownThe Brunette's Blog2/16/2019Explains some of FV's harmful behaviors
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Twitter momenthttps://twitter.com/i/moments/1097151621426020354Louisa LeontiadesTwitter2/17/2019
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"I Am Affected"https://www.akinkinthecure.com/kinkythinking/2019/2/18/i-am-affectedTim MurrayA Kink in the Cure2/18/2019Blog post by a fan processing the news.
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"Abuse, Franklin Veaux, and the Polyamory Communities"https://jessmahler.com/abuse-franklin-veaux-and-the-polyamory-communities/Jess Mahler
Polyamory on Purpose
2/19/2019
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Facebook post by AV Flox, author of the foreword to The Game Changer, about supporting the processhttps://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10161702419690314&id=547865313Anaiis FloxFacebook2/20/2019
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ProbablyPoly podcast Episode 21: Discussing Franklin Veauxhttps://soundcloud.com/probably-poly/discussing-franklin-veaux?fbclid=IwAR1OBiEDuE4IXSwxjB8pGYvqVawIvlNqJh02lPgCLNByo9zWKPKbnSvzLesProbablyPolySoundCloud2/22/2019Discussion of the call-out, Franklin Veaux's reactions on Quora, and casters' feelings
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"It Was Never About the Nail" (Eve's post on gaslighting)
http://brighterthansunflowers.com/2019/02/23/it-was-never-about-the-nail/Eve Rickert
brighterthansunflowers.com
2/23/2019Originally published anonymously at kellysundberg.com. Republished on Eve's blog on 2/23/19.
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"Light Shadow and Movement" (Survivor team update)https://link.medium.com/UErIYV5QyUSurvivor teamMedium2/23/2019
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FV Survivor Pod: Who we are and why we’re doing thishttps://link.medium.com/RPt0oGihzUSurvivor teamMedium 2/23/2019
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"#metoo Motivations"http://louisaleontiades.com/metoo-motivations/Louisa LeontiadesLouisaLeontiades.com2/23/2019Explains her reasoning for choosing this work
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A note about Franklin Veauxhttps://www.y-open.org.uk/notes/on-franklin-veaux/Yorkshire O.P.E.N.Yorkshire O.P.E.N.2/24/2019
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Tweet thread by Ginny Brownhttps://twitter.com/lirelyn/status/1099679983042260992Ginny BrownTwitter2/24/2019
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Sumati Sparks video interview with Eve Rickerthttps://youtu.be/DS6hphxc-uESumati SparksVimeo2/26/2019
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"Scattered Thoughts about the Clusterfuck currently happening at the other side of the Atlantic Ocean"http://knkpwr.com/archives/2283Poly Schmolly KNKPWR3/1/2019
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Survivor support donation poolhttps://www.paypal.com/pools/c/8cEq8gX1q1Survivor podPayPal3/1/2019
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Probably Poly Episode 22, with an update on the FV processhttps://soundcloud.com/probably-poly/what-does-knowing-mean-in-relationshipsProbablyPolySoundCloud3/13/2019
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"Polyamory's #metoo moment"https://www.beyondsafewords.com/1333-2/Samantha ManewitzBeyond Safewords 3/20/2019
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March Updates from the Survivor Podhttps://medium.com/@fv.survivor.pod/march-updates-from-the-fv-survivor-pod-60ae06a97949 Survivor teamMedium3/25/2019
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List of harmful behaviors sent to the FV podhttps://drive.google.com/file/d/1Jhk7nlq71dzRUsQKxlem35a40r2r6Pzz/viewSurvivor teamGoogle Drive3/25/2019
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Prof Michael Drane & survivor pod member Sam Manewitz discuss gaslightinghttps://player.fm/series/unpopular-culture-1271838/speaking-of-gaslighting-why-you-feel-crazy?fbclid=IwAR3210I_UmwOQfTuR51RrJq_Odon3nZ3B9eIawuNRaWEnVJF-2ndcsM_SbA
Michael Drane & Samantha Manewitz
Unpopular Culture podcast3/30/2019Does not mention FV directly.
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"The Credibility of Polyamory’s #MeToo Research"http://louisaleontiades.com/the-credibility-of-polyamorys-metoo-research/Louisa LeontiadesLouisaLeontiades.com4/2/2019
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Probably poly episode 24, covering the most recent updateshttps://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=666346207118622&id=358718251214754Probably polyFacebook4/19/2019
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Probably Poly episode 25, interview with Samantha Manewitzhttps://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=674013736351869&id=358718251214754Probably Poly Facebook 5/3/2019
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Sex Gets Real 261: Eve Rickert on speaking out, celebrity culture, & harmhttps://sexgetsreal.com/ep261/Dawn Serra with Eve RickertSex Gets Real5/11/2019
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"What progress has Franklin Veaux made with his accountability pod following the "Polyamory's #metoo" allegations?"https://polyamory-metoo.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Stan-Hankss-answer-to-What-progress-has-Franklin-Veaux-made-with-his-accountability-pod-following-the-Polyamorys-metoo-allegations_-Quora.pdfStan Hanks Quora 5/18/2019Original Quora question has been deleted; link is to a backup.
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Sex Gets Real 262: Samantha Manewitz on emotional abuse and gaslightinghttps://sexgetsreal.com/ep262/
Dawn Serra with Samantha Manewitz
Sex Gets Real5/19/2019
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Jess Mahler answers a Quora question about what to make of "On Light and Shadow"https://www.itrippedonthepolystair.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/Jess-Mahler-answers-a-Quora-question-about-what-to-make-of-On-Light-and-Shadow_Redacted.pdfJess MahlerQuora5/22/2019Question has been deleted. Link is to a backup.
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Polyamory #metoo Part 1: "Voices from The Game Changer"https://polyamory-metoo.com/introduction/
FV's past partners/Louisa Leontiades
Polyamory-metoo.com 5/22/2019Three first-person accounts, with research and corroboration, from women who appear in The Game Changer, and one pure research piece on a fourth woman.
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"Disruptive Love"https://brighterthansunflowers.com/2019/05/22/disruptive-love/Eve RickertBrighterthansunflowers.com5/22/2019
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"Survivor Stories from “The Game Changer” and Other Updates for May"https://medium.com/@fv.survivor.pod/survivor-stories-from-the-game-changer-and-other-updates-for-may-68058dc3065bSurvivor teamMedium5/22/2019
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"Ways I Fucked Up (So Far)"http://louisaleontiades.com/ways-i-fucked-up-so-far/Louisa LeontiadesLouisaLeontiades.com5/22/2019
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Reddit thread discussing the Game Changer narratives https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/bs0y8a/first_survivor_stories_are_published_on/Reddit usersReddit5/22/2019
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Tweet thread by Aida Manduley about FV's accountability podhttps://twitter.com/neuronbomb/status/1131628523326590976?s=21Aida ManduleyTwitter 5/23/2019Commentary on FV's "accountability pod"
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Tweet thread by AV Flox about Game Changer stories and FV's accountability podhttps://twitter.com/avflox/status/1131497783393804289?s=21AV FloxTwitter 5/23/2019
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Public Facebook post by AV Flox with comment discussion about Game Changer stories and Fv's accountability podhttps://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10162053082320314&id=547865313AV FloxFacebook5/24/2019
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Sex Gets Real 263: Aida Manduley on accountability and transformative justicehttps://sexgetsreal.com/ep263/Dawn Serra/Aida ManduleySex Gets Real 5/26/2019
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"Problematic polyamory part 1": Eve Rickert on the IndoctriNation podcasthttps://www.patreon.com/posts/plagiarized-w-27213557Rachel Bernstein/Eve RickertIndoctriNation Podcast5/29/2019
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"Sociological Analysis of Three Veaux Survivor Narratives"https://elisabethsheff.com/2019/05/29/sociological-analysis-of-three-veaux-survivor-narratives/Elisabeth Sheffelisabethsheff.com5/29/2019
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El proceso de justicia transformativa contra Franklin Veauxhttp://www.golfxsconprincipios.com/lamoscacojonera/el-proceso-de-justicia-transformativa-contra-franklin-veaux-1-metoonomonogamias/Golfx Conprincipiosgolfxconprincipios.com5/30/2019
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"Response to Dr. Elisabeth Sheff’s Critique of Voices from the Game Changer"http://louisaleontiades.com/response-to-dr-elisabeth-sheffs-critique-of-voices-from-the-game-changer/Louisa Leontiadeslouisaleontiades.com6/1/2019
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Louisa Leontiades Facebook thread and discussion with Elisabeth Sheffhttps://www.facebook.com/LouisaLeontiadesWriter/posts/2260757244141699
Louisa Leontiades and Elisabeth Sheff
Facebook6/1/2019
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Probably Poly Podcast: Blame Managementhttps://player.fm/series/probably-poly/blame-managmentProbably PolyProbably Poly Podcast6/1/2019Discussion of the women of the game changer stories. they also voice solidarity and support for survivors
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Sex Gets Real 264: Getting a partner to dirty talk, crossdressing, and accountability updateshttps://sexgetsreal.com/ep264/Dawn SerraSex Gets Real podcast6/2/2019Discussion of the posts from FV's accountability pod members
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"Polyamory #metoo Update: When Sociology and Transformative Justice Collide"https://www.beyondsafewords.com/polyamory-metoo-update-when-sociology-and-transformative-justice-collide/Samantha ManewitzBeyondSafewords.com6/3/2019Response to Elisabeth Sheff
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"Polyamory problem-solving part 2: Eve Rickert on the IndoctriNation podcast"https://www.patreon.com/posts/27396914Rachel Bernstein/Eve RickertIndoctriNation podcast6/5/2019
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Reddit Post: My Thoughts on the Franklin Veaux #metoohttps://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/bx811j/my_thoughts_on_the_franklin_veaux_metoo/u/polymusingsReddit6/6/2019discussion of how the OP was harmed by "Emotional Libertarianism" that is advocated in MTT
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Facebook post and commentary by Matthew Remskihttps://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10161949884055602&id=652005601Matthew RemskiFacebook6/7/2019
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"Community Response to Complaints"https://ourbetternatures.wordpress.com/2019/06/08/community-response-to-complaints/Rose HagalazOurBetterNatures.com6/8/2019Does not mention the FV #metoo situation but offers advice on how to handle reports of harm
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An Announcement About Pod Boundarieshttps://link.medium.com/VwWjpWz4UXFV Survivor podMedium6/9/2019
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"“My Life Belongs to Me”: Reading the Polyamory Narratives of Franklin Veaux Against the Relationship Testimony of Two of His Ex-Nesting Partners"https://link.medium.com/E4TXAk7ArXKali TalMedium6/11/2019
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Episode 28: First Responses from FV "Accountability Pod"https://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=699545620465347&id=358718251214754Probably PolyProbably Poly Podcast6/14/2019
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Louisa Leontiades on More Than Twohttps://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2272037459680344&id=1606573292893434Louisa LeontiadesFacebook6/17/2019
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Franklin posts in a Quora comment that his exes were paid to claim he abused them
https://www.itrippedonthepolystair.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/20190623-FV-Quora-comment-exes-paid.jpeg
Franklin VeauxQuora6/23/2019Has been verified by multiple people as posted by Franklin's real Quora account. Original comment posted at https://www.quora.com/q/undermine-the-patriarchy/The-violent-o-meter/comment/1886660 has been deleted.
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"Nurturance Culture In Action: polyamory #metoo"http://louisaleontiades.com/nurturance-culture-in-action-polyamory-metoo/Louisa Leontiadeslouisaleontiades.com6/28/2019
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Samantha Manewitz on the "Someday we'll all be dead" podcast: "50 Shades of Shame and Abuse" https://www.blubrry.com/somedaywellallbedead/45180356/fifty-shades-of-shame-and-abuse-prevention/
Samantha Manewitz and Halley Harris
podcast6/30/2019Interview about shame and sexuality. Discussion of the Poly MeToo process in the second half of the interview (starts just after 48 minutes)
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Eve Rickert Twitter thread of threads about FVhttps://twitter.com/everickert/status/1147678381925777409Eve RickertTwitter7/6/2019Linked thread of various other threads talking about her experiences or responding to events
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Franklin Facebook response to confusion about a Quora post and fake accounts https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1-FiAxmrpVo7i9UvS0drjVyjPHbZfedllFranklin VeauxFacebook post 7/8/2019Franklin is responding to questions about a Quora comment he made (linked above) where he accuses an ex of paying other exes to say he abused them. Franklin apologises for the confusion. He does not answer questions about his accountability process. According to Maxine Soylentgreen, he has been advised to remain silent about his process. The survivor pod was not consulted about this.
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Franklin apparent dog whistle at survivorshttps://polyamory-metoo.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Quora-Why-cant-you-just-be-normal.pdfFranklin VeauxQuora7/9/2019"My life belongs to me" is both a quote from The Game Changer and the title of Kali Tal's 6/11 Medium essay analyzing abusive themes in his writing. "Live it by committee" appears to be a reference to a pod or accountability process. The photos in this answer include additional dog whistles at specific survivors. Answer was deleted when question was deleted.
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"Organizing Justice": Samantha Manewitz on the IndoctriNation podcasthttps://www.patreon.com/posts/organizing-w-28611763Samantha Manewitz and Rachel BernsteinIndoctriNation podcast7/24/2019
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Franklin makes reference to Amber and blames her for the harm she experienced with himhttps://www.quora.com/Would-you-date-someone-who-admits-they-self-harm-on-a-regular-basis/answer/Franklin-VeauxFranklin VeauxQuora8/3/2019From Amber's testimony: “It was with Franklin that I really solidified my tendency to take all of my needs and my hurt and turn them back on myself, either through self harm, or through dissociation…”
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Polyamory #metoo Part 2: "Life Rewards Courage"https://polyamory-metoo.com/intro-part-2/
FV's past partners/Louisa Leontiades/other women
Polyamory-metoo.com 8/11/2019Second set of survivor stories
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“Life Rewards Courage”: More Survivor Stories Released Today
https://medium.com/@fv.survivor.pod/life-rewards-courage-more-survivor-stories-released-today-d796ebfb747c
Survivor podMedium8/11/2019
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Alicia Bunyan-Sampson on the survivor testimonies
https://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1530864807038683&id=565857250206115
Alicia Bunyan-SampsonFacebook8/12/2019
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Gracie X on the survivor testimonies
https://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10218808476464376&id=1274816352
Gracie XFacebook8/17/2019
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"Abuse Happens in Polyamory, Too"https://www.thebigfling.com/reads/polyamory/abuse-in-polyamoryAmy NortonThe Big Fling8/20/2019
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Probably Poly Episode 33: one eggplant policyhttps://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=742198059533436&id=358718251214754Probably PolyProbably Poly FB page8/23/2019At the top of the podcast, there's a discussion of pod updates, new stories, and a discussion of harm vs. abuse and use of language.
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"Cult Classics vs. Cult Survivor Literature: What Will Your Spiritual Reading Be Now?"http://matthewremski.com/wordpress/cult-classics-vs-cult-survivor-literature-what-will-your-spiritual-reading-be-now/Matthew Remskimatthewremski.com8/24/2019References Louisa's work at the end.
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"Thoughts on the Fifth Anniversary of More Than Two"https://brighterthansunflowers.com/2019/09/02/thoughts-on-the-fifth-anniversary-of-more-than-two/Eve RickertBrighterthansunflowers.com9/2/2019
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"About More Than Two"https://link.medium.com/gJY3NIekKZSurvivor podMedium9/5/2019
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Franklin references the survivor testimonieshttps://www.quora.com/Do-your-pets-get-mad-at-you-when-you-go-on-vacation/answer/Franklin-VeauxFranklin VeauxQuora9/6/2019End of the post references "An extremely anxious-attached former partner of mine recently complained that when you're in a relationship with Franklin, he gives you the time and attention he wants to give you." This is a reference to the survivor testimonies.
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