23.05.30 - Excellent Advice for Living

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2		Excellent Advice for Living
3		By Kevin Kelly
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8		1	3	Listening well is a superpower. While listening to someone you love, keep asking them, "Is there more?" until there is no more.
9		2	7	When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is a gift to ourselves.
10		3	8	The fact that you "can't do" something can be embarrasssing. But if you are "learning to do" something, that is admirable. There are only tiny baby steps between can't and learning.
11		4	8	Don't measure your life with someone else's ruler.
12		5	11	Gratitude will unlock all other virtues and is something you can get better at.
13		6	14	A great way to understand yourself is to seriously reflect on everything you find irritating in others.
14		7	18	Whenever you can't decide which path to take, pick the one that produces change.
15		8	19	Habit is far more dependable than inspiration. Make progress by making habits. Don't focus on getting into shape. Focus on becoming the kind of person who never misses a workout.
16		9	21	Don't be the best. Be the only.
17		10	22	Everyone is shy. Other people are waiting for you to introduce yourself to them; they are waiting for you to send them an email; they are waiting for you to ask them on a date. Go ahead.
18		11	22	The more you are interested in others, the more interesting they'll find you. To be interesting, be interested.
19		12	23	Don't take it perosnally owhen someone turns you down. Assume they are like you: busy, occupied, distracted. Try again later. It's amazing how often a second try works.
20		13	26	You lead by letting others know what you expect of them, which may exceed that they themselves expect. Provide them a reputation that they can step up to.
21		14	27	To make something good, just do it. To make something great, just redo it, redo it, redo it. The secret to making fine things is in remaking them.
22		15	28	Expand your mind by thinking with your feet on a walk or with your hand in a notebook. Think outside your brain.
23		16	29	To move through a place you may not be permitted, act like you belong there.
24		17	30	Nothing elevates a person higher than taking responsibility for their mistakes. If you mess up, fess up. It's astounding how powerful this ownership is.
25		18	32	Separate the process of creating from improving. You can't write and edit, or sculpt and polish, or make and analyze at the same time. If you do, the editor stops the creator. While you invent, don't select. While you sketch, don't inspect. While you write the first draft, don't reflect. At the start, the creator mind must be unleashed from judgement.
26		19	32	If you are not fallling down occasionally, you are just coasting.
27		20	33	Perhaps the most conuterintuitive truth of the universe is that the more you give to others, the more you'll get. Understanding this is the beginning of wisdom.
28		21	36	To cultivate a habit switch your language from "I can or can't do" to "I do or don't do." You shift the weight from a wavering choice to an unwavering identity.
29		22	37	You need teachers, parents, customers, fans, and friends because they will see who you are becoming before you will.
30		23	39	Anything real begins with the fiction of what could be. Imagination is therefore the most potent force in the universe. And you can get better at it. It's the one skill in life that benefits from ignoring what everyone else knows.
31		24	39	When crises strike, don't waste them. No problems, no progress.
32		25	42	If you ask to be hired mainly becasue you need a job, you are just another problem for the boss; if you can solve many of the problems the boss has right now, you are hired. To be hired, think like your boss.
33		26	43	Acquiring things will rarely bring you deep satisfaction. But acquiring experiences will.
34		27	45	When someone is nasty, hateful, or mean toward you, treat their behavior like an affliction or illness they have. That makes it eassier to have empathy toward them, which can soften the conflict.
35		28	49	You are never too young to wonder, "Why am I still doing this?" You need to have an excellent answer.
36		29	52	If you are not embarassed by your past self, you have probably not grown up yet.
37		30	62	Don't aim to have othres like you; aim to have them respect you.
38		31	62	The foundation of maturity: Just because it's not your fault doesn't mean it's not your responsibility.
39		32	64	Most overnight successes in fact, any significant successes - takes at lesat 5 years. Budget your life accordingly.
40		33	65	You don't need more time because you already have all the time that you will ever get; you need more focus.
41		34	66	Everyone's time is finite and shrinking. The highest leverage you can get with your money is to buy someone else's time. Hire and outsource when you can.
42		35	67	Fear makes people do stupid things, so don't trust anything made in fear.
43		36	68	Be strict with yourself, forgiving of othres. The reverse is hell for everyone.
44		37	68	If you can avoid seeking the approval of others, your power is limitless.
45		38	70	Show me your calendar and I will tell you your priorities. Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you where you're going.
46		39	71	When you are young, have friends who are older; when you are old, have friends who are younger.
47		40	75	You are only as young as the last time you changed your mind.
48		41	76	Money is overrated. Truly new things rarely need an abundance of money. If that was so, billionaires woudl have a monopoly on inventing new things, and they don't. Instead, almost all breakthroughs are made by those who lack money. If breakthroughs could be bought, then the rich would buy them. Instead, pasion, persistence, belief, and ingenuity are required to invent new things, qualities the poor and young oftne have in abundance. Stay hungry.
49		42	85	All the greatest prizes in life in wealth, relationships, or knowledge come from the magic of compounding interest, by amplifying small steady gains. All you need for abundance is to keep adding 1% more than you subtract on a regular basis.
50		43	88	Bad things can happen fast, but almost all good things happen slowly.
51		44	89	If your goal does not have a schedule, it is a dream.
52		45	91	To be remarkable, read books.
53		46	93	Every person you meet knows an amazing lot about somehting you know virtually nothing about. It won't be obvious, and your job is to discover what it is.
54		47	98	Take one simple thing - almost anything - but take it extremely seriously, as if it is the only thing in the world - or maybe the entire world is in it - and by taking it seriously you'll light up the sky.
55		48	100	Don't ever work for someone you don't want to become.
56		49	102	Experiences are fun, and having influence is rewarding, but only mattering makes us happy. Do stuff that matters.
57		50	105	The greatest teacher is called "doing"
58		51	108	When you lead, your real job is to create more leaders, not more followers.
59		52	109	Efficiency is highly overrated; goofing off is highly underrated. Regularly scheduled sabbaths, sabbaticals, vacations, breaks, aimless walks, and time off are essential for top performance of any kind. The best work ethic reqauires a good rest ethic.
60		53	110	Speak confidently as if you are right, but listen carefully as if you are wrong.
61		54	112	Ask funders for money; and they'll give you advice; but ask for advice, and they'll give you money.
62		55	112	The biggest lie we tell ourselves is "I don't need to write this down because I will remember it."
63		56	113	Your growth as a mature being is measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have.
64		57	115	When you have good news and bad news, give the bad news first, because we remember how things end more than how they begin. So elevate the ending with good news.
65		58	115	The four most powerful words in any negotiation should be uttered by you: "Can you do better?"
66		59	118	When you are in the wrong, be quick to chastise yourself more severely than the aggrieved might. Paradoxically, this can soften the blow.
67		60	119	Learn how to be alone without being lonely. Solitude is essetnial for creativity.
68		61	121	What you do on your bad days matters more than what you do on your good days.
69		62	121	Ask anyone you admire: Their lucky breaks happened on a detour from their main goal. So embrace detours. Life is not a straight line for anyone.
70		63	122	When speaking to an audience pause frequently. Pause before you say something in a new way, pause after you have said something you believe is important and pause as a relief to let listeners absorb details.
71		64	123	You'll get 10 times better results by elevating good behavior rather than punishing bad behavior, especially in children and animals.
72		65	127	When you have some success, the feeling of being an imposter can be real. Who am I fooling? But when you create things tha tonly you with your unique talents and experience can do, then you are absolutely not an imposter. You are the ordained. It is your destiny to work on things that only you can do.
73		66	130	If you're doing something that you are hiding from others, it's probably not good for you.
74		67	131	Make others feel they are important; it will make their day and it will make your day.
75		68	132	You will be judged on how well you treat those who can do nothing for you.
76		69	132	We tend to overestimate what we can do in a day, and underestimate what we can achieve in a decade. Miraculous things can be accomlished if you give it 10 years. A long game will compound small gains that will be able to overcome even big mistakes.
77		70	135	The only productive way to answer "What should I do now?" is to first tackle the question of "Who should I become?"
78		71	139	It is possible that a not-so-smart person who can communicate well can do much better than a super-smart person who can't communicate well. That is good news because it is much easier to improve your communication skills than your intelligence.
79		72	143	When introduced to someone, make eye contact and count to four or say to yourself, "I see you." You'll beth remember each other.
80		73	145	Prescription for popular success: do something strange. Make a habit of your weird.
81		74	150	You are as big as the things that make you angry.
82		75	155	For maximum results, focus on your biggest opportunities, not your biggest problems.
83		76	157	It doesn't matter how many people don't appreciate you or your work. The only thing that counts is how many do.
84		77	160	You can really change smoeone's life for the better simply by offering words of encouragement.
85	X	78	164	To be interesting, just tell your own story with uncommon honesty.
86		79	166	You will thrive more - and so will others - when you promote what you love rather than bash what you hate Life is short; focus on the good stuff.
87		80	168	To get your message across, follow this formula used by ad wrtiers everywhere: simplify, simplify, simplify, then exaggerate
88	X	81	172	Five years from now you will wish you had started today.
89		82	181	It is impossible for you to become poor by giving. It is impossible for you to become wealthy without giving.
90		83	191	First, always ask for what you want. Works in relatinoships, business, life.
91		84	196	Spending as little as 15 minutes (1% of your day) on improving how you do your thing, is the most powerful way to ampify and advance your thing.
92	X	85	197	Your 20s are the perfect time to do a few things that are unusual, weird, bold, risky, unexplainable, crazy, unprofitable and look nothing like "success". For the rest of your life these experiences will serve as your muse.
93		86	199	Your ideal partner is not someone you never disagree with but someone you are glad to disagree with.
94		87	203	If your sense of responsibility is not expanding as you grow, you're not really growing.
95		88	204	The natural state of all possessions is to need repair and maintenance. What you own will eventually own you. Choose selectively.
96		89	204	To write about something hard to explain, write a detailed letter to a friend about why it is so hard to explain, and then remove the initial "Dear Friend" part and you'll have a great first draft.
97		90	205	Embrace pronoia, which is the opposite of paranoia. Choose to believe that the entire universe is conspiring behind your back to make you a success.
98		91	212	Your goal is to be able to say, on the day before you die that you have fully become yourself.
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