|Timestamp||User ID of the person with a FetLife account who abused you:||FetLife nickname of the person who abused you:||How severe do you feel this violation is?||Abuse report:||Where did the abuse happen?||When did the abuse happen?|
|10/26/2012 22:51:56||1716784||maymay||Severe||This person has made a social gathering place a hostile environment, repeatedly, by non-consentually and repeatedly dragging private information out into the public eye. He is the rapist equivalent of a mass murerer. He cares so little for anyone else's rights or privacy, and yet, calls foul whenever there is a hint that his own abuses might be shown to the world. He repeatedly violates the rules and social conventions of that space. I do hope, someday he becomes aware of how many people he has hurt, how many people he has chased away from possible education, and understanding, crippling them, as he claims to be crippled as a child.||fet life||repeatedly, daily|
|10/27/2012 7:57:59||1617545||maymay||Severe||He has repeatedly gone out of his way to make a social environment hosile to me and mine by taking things that are or should be private, and dragging them nonconsensually into the greater public eye. He violates my consent, on a global basis, like the rapisr equivalent of a mass murderer.||fet life||repeatedly, daily|
|10/27/2012 12:17:13||149561||Abacus_Tsukei||Moderate||Bullied his way into joining the BDSM student group at his university, causing many female and FAAB members to drop out from discomfort; had a reputation for non-BDSM-related consent violations and for being a sexual predator on campus, including groping female students while they were intoxicated or unconscious and giving underage prospective students alcohol to get them drunk and then propositioning them for sex.||Annapolis, MD||2011-2012|
|10/27/2012 23:35:30||573595||hephaestus829||Severe||When I was new to the scene, I briefly had a relationship with hephaestus829. During that relationship, he pressured me into having kinds of sex and play that I did not enjoy. He had unprotected sex with others without my knowledge.When I discovered this, he gaslit my concerns about my boundaries and my health. After I ended the relationship, he sexually assaulted me while we were both sleeping over at a mutual friend's house. He got into the bed I was sharing with a female friend and put his hands under my pajamas, touching my back and genitals nonconsensually. He thought I was sleeping. I later found out that I wasn't the first person he abused this way; I met another one of his victims at a national kink convention. Their story was remarkably similar to mine.||Private residence, Baltimore, MD||September 2011|
|10/29/2012 18:18:39||555665||SirRonC||Moderate||nonconsensual anal sex that caused bleeding||Baltimore MD||November 2011|
|10/29/2012 18:22:27||58297||LawDog||Moderate||attempted to penetrate without a condom twice even after asking him to use one then had to physically fight him off when I resisted||private residential dungeon in DC||2009ish|
|10/31/2012 9:52:59||173562||Ozme52||Minor||Yelled at me at a munch. Not that there's an acceptable reason to yell at someone at a munch, but he yelled at me for no reason. I no longer attend local munches because of this. |
At the same munch he also did that acupressure squeeze thing on another attendee's thumb-webbing without her permission. Ostensibly he was trying to help her with a headache but he never asked to touch her, & the acupressure squeeze hurt her, she wasn't expecting it, & he didn't seem to care about her feelings (or mine) in the slightest.
I sent an email to a friend immediately after this incident. Here's the text c-&-p'ed:
So, Oz yelled at me the other night.
I went to the game night / munch. Was talking to M___ about diet stuff & Oz interjected himself into the convo to tell her she needed to take a folate supplement for her high blood pressure, doing the dismissive no-no-no thing to my suggestion that she could just eat more fruits & veggies. When I tried to rebut his shut down about the fruits & veggies he roared at me, can I just get one word in edgewise, or something similar. I was shocked. Nobody seemed to notice. I was icy towards him the rest of the night.
That was a line crossed. I'll not willingly share the same social space with him anymore ...
I've never seen him yell before, it was really strange, like sudden onset dementia that vanishes just as fast. But I recognized that it was abusive behavior. It was definitely the kind of boundary testing stuff that abusers use to figure out who they can get away with what when & how. I also think that he may have finally figured out I have him blocked on Fet & this may have been his indirect / subconscious communication about that?
Anyways, yeah. &. I don't particularly feel like making a fuss about this to the locals, tho' on the off chance he should show up at something I'm organizing I'll kick his ass out & be very clear that he's made himself anathema to me . .. .
& in a sorta unrelated note, later at the party, this other woman (& it felt like Oz didn't like her to begin with, frankly, he kept directing a certain amount of annoyance at her) was having a headache. Oz insisted she give him her hand (not asking, I carefully note, insisting). Then he did that accupressure bit between the thumb & forefinger, but it hurt her & she made a big fuss. I pointed out to him that I have arthritis in my thumb joints so bad that if he'd've done it to me, I'd've punched him, & I'm hip to that acupressure thing, use it all the time.
He's a little out-of-control.
Plus he was doing that I'm-the-dom-running-everything-&-having-to-be-the-center-of-attention-all-the-time thing.
|Chico, CA||evening of March 12, 2012|
|11/4/2012 12:22:00||942215||Taisdealach||Minor||When my friend was having a panic attack, told her he was acting on the authority of her Mistress to take care of her, which he wasn't. Repeatedly tried to get her to kiss him, despite her clear insistence that she didn't want to.||The Fires of Lughnasadh (in Redmond)||July, 2012|
|11/6/2012 14:26:43||91219||Greywolfe||Minor||Greywolfe feels entitled to the bodies and servitude of others. He is one of those who feels that all women are submissive and all submissives must be submissive towards him. He has repeated made pass on myself and others who have told him repeatedly that we don't like it and don't want it.|
He has told myself (a switch) that I have no authority because of my enjoyment of submission on occasion. Further, he has told female dominants in the community that they look nicer at his feet. I have yet to hear of a case where he has been anything more than pushy, manipulative, and creepy, but he sends out all sorts of red flag vibes. Just be careful.
|11/7/2012 19:15:42||654112||TheRigger||Moderate||Failed to discuss boundaries and limits before engaging in BDSM with a vulnerable individual who he knew was new to BDSM. Mislead the individual as to his intentions and encouraged them into a restrained position, then took the situation to a level that had not been agreed upon. Agreeing to one activity =/= blanket consent. |
Later exploited the newness of another individual to get away with non-consensually acting upon the fantasies this individual had admitted to having. Expressing a fantasy =/= consent.
|11/7/2012 19:21:05||191485||MayaTekla||Moderate||Touched my exposed breasts without asking, and without having any reason to believe I had consented to it. Generally poor with personal space and personal boundaries. Can be very presumptive as to acceptable levels of physical contact.||UK||2011-2012|
|11/7/2012 19:29:25||185000||_Mib||Minor||Seeks to exert dominance over women who identify as submissive (or who he perceives to be submissive women) that he is not involved with. Often patronising and uses diminutive terms such as 'girl' to refer them.||UK||2011-2012|
|11/8/2012 12:05:59||1716784||maymaym||Minor||Viciously attacks anyone who disagrees with him or criticizes him on the internet. If they annoy him badly enough, he outs them and says they deserve to be outed because they weren't understanding what it was he was trying to say. |
Refuses to listen to what anyone else has to say unless it fits his specialized agenda and perspective. Has a particular grudge against female sex workers and male dominants. DO NOT ENGAGE.
|11/8/2012 18:15:37||185000||_Mib||Severe||have witnessed him punch his sub fill in the face at a club in a chill out area because she didnt want needle play .. preys on the vulnerable unsafe needle player||birmingham||2011|
|11/8/2012 18:16:58||1031400||Olivander||Severe||has been convicted of a sexual case involving a minor which he has served a prison sentence for||Buckinghamshire||December 2011|
|11/8/2012 18:18:52||654112||TheRigger||Severe||made a total newbie throw up at his munch ( that he openly states is for him to pick up new subs) when he tied her up and then non consentually put a hitachi on her pubic bone||MKFN||sept 2011|
|11/8/2012 18:21:45||191485||MayaTekla||Minor||very free with his hands has overstepped the line with several women groping them when not invited||MKFN and Kinks||2011/2012|
|11/9/2012 10:31:54||1716784||Maymaym||Severe||Uses stalker and intimidation tactics against at least one former sex partner.||Online||Ongoing.|
|11/9/2012 11:17:13||1234515||shutupjustshutup||Severe||He was my boyfriend at the time. He had known for months that I had a severe anxiety disorder and sometimes needed to take prescription Ativan/Lorazepam to the point that I was almost completely sedated. I had a severe panic attack one evening and took enough of these (at least 3 MG) that I could hardly move or talk. While I was waiting for this effect to kick in and crying my ass off on his couch, he actually seemed sympathetic and seemed to be trying to make me feel better. Obviously I assumed that I would be fine sleeping it all off in his bed at his apartment (I did not live there). But, he decided that since I was unable to consent or fight back, and he may have also thought I wouldn't realize what was happening (I was 100% aware of what was happening, but I was hardly able to speak or move as I said), he came in and sexually assaulted me. He flat out took advantage of me while he figured he could get away with it. Luckily there was no vaginal penetration, but he was sitting on top of me during this and I remember CLEARLY that I DID muster up enough energy to tell him to STOP numerous times, and that I COULDN'T FUCKING BREATHE. He just ignored me and continued on until he was done, and I was gasping for air through the whole ordeal (I'm a frail, average sized girl, he is much bigger and heavier than me and was sitting right on my mid section and my arms were also pinned at my sides I think). Afterwards when I was finally able to get up and talk clearly, I told him that he assaulted me and he tried to act like I was the one in the wrong. Two excuses he used were "I couldn't control myself so you can't blame me" and also tried to turn the tables by saying something like "how do you think I feel!? Don't you know how bad I feel about this!?". Unfortunately, there were no witnesses and I never bothered to file a report... I was fairly in shock/denial, and this scumbag constantly barraging me with "it's not a big deal, I said I was sorry, it's all better now, you're overreacting" did NOT HELP. I had seen my psychiatrist shortly after this incident, and I was so in denial that I didn't even tell her exactly what happened, but she would actually have the exact date in her notes and that I was obviously distraught.|
I don't expect this guy to use fetlife in the future (hasn't logged in in a long time), but just in case, please know he is apparently a misogynist psycho. He is belligerent and will come up with any insane thing to make him feel like he isn't accountable for his actions. I was so afraid of him after that, when I dumped him, I had to get some things of mine from his apartment with a friend accompanying me. I honestly thought it was dangerous for me to go back to his apartment alone.
|Halifax, Nova Scotia||Winter 2012|
|11/9/2012 13:34:59||12938||Stricturism||Severe||There are many incidents of consent violation that I can report (including those of other FetLifers) but I will post the most personal and severe. When we were in a relationship, he asked me to have sex. I clearly and repeatedly stated that I did not want to have sex because him, his (then) wife, and I agreed not to have sex for a specific amount of time. He then asked if we could at least watch a movie in the nude together. Before I agreed, I very specifically stated that I would only do it if it would not include sex or any other sexual contact. Shortly after we begin spooning to watch the movie, he pins me down and began to fondle my genitals, even after I clearly and repeatedly told him stop and no. Periodically while he touched me, he would ask me, "How about now?" To which I continued to reply no and stop. (At one point, I even said, "What about <Wife's name>?" To which he replied, "But what about what I want?" Eventually, he stopped asking me and told me to shut up. He tried to penetrate me but I would physically inch away from him (I could barely move. He was much heavier and stronger than me. I don't know what stopped him from penetrating me. Perhaps because he knew it would escalate what he was doing from a lesser charge to a RAPE charge if I decided to report it to the authorities. But the why isn't really relevant.) He is a TNG group leader. I informed my local community leaders and the most prominent and active groups unanimously and independently asked him to step down in the best interest of the community. When he refused, they agreed to exclude HIM from community functions and his group is no longer sanctioned as a safe place by the community leaders (and a new TNG group has been started). None of the local presenters will participate in his group either. When all was said and done, 7 independent women came forward with reports of unsafe play and/or consent violations (sexual and otherwise).||Private residence||April 2010|
|11/10/2012 7:50:25||38110||MsUnlimited||Severe||A rape that occurred in her home while playing. Victim was passed out, husband was not home at the time. Consent was unable to be revoked due to drugs that had been given to the victim by the rapist.||Columbus, OH||2011|
|11/11/2012 7:13:50||38110||MsUnlimited||Severe||When playing, she began calling me "Dad" and saying things like "this is what you get" before hitting and drawing blood. Her husband was away so no one heard me yell my safe word. She had this distant look on her face the whole time. A few days later she told me she had blacked out and didn't remember a thing.||Columbus, OH||2012|
|11/11/2012 22:39:32||ff121241||Philip_the_Foole||Severe||Philip_the_Foole put his hand over my mouth as I was tied up and he and a friend were punching me in the ribs. I kept safewording, but he would say things like"I'll interpret for you; is that the best you can do, you wuss?"|
The other man was a photographer, by the name of Jim, but it was Philip who would not let me speak and held me while I was punched by both of them.
My ribs were cracked and I was in bed several days, unable to take care of my children or work.
|Sanctuary for the Lifestyle Arts, Dallas, Texas||February,2005 at night|
|11/15/2012 17:09:33||152476||thenaturalking||Severe||Stalking, not honoring boundaries, mental abuse , harrassment||Providence , RI||On going to many different people|
|11/16/2012 15:17:16||1621||MasterDamien||Moderate||MasterDamien groped my ass, thighs and genitals without my consent while I was getting anally penetrated on his fuck machine, in his "dungeon room" at his home.||Moncton, NB||9/17/2011|
|11/19/2012 19:52:14||31515||Sunshinelove||Severe||Sunshine and her accomplice took naked pics of myself and a friend of mine that were supposed to be private and posted them to google without our consent. Her and her accomplice gloated over this misuse of private information. I and my friend could have easily lost our job because of this. There was no reason for it.||July 2012|
|11/20/2012 6:39:29||232876||ErnestGreene||Severe||ErnestGreene is well known serial rapist. He has used his connections in the film industry to lure in a number of women, including a very close friend of mine. When asked about it, he will tell people that he never raped anyone, that it was something he was doing for a movie. Luckily, he is getting to old to continue doing this, but one should still be aware that he is a dangerous person. Do no allow him to tie you up.||Los Angelas||about 3 years ago|
|11/22/2012 20:30:09||517349||Kaarg||Severe||This man has been convicted by the Norwegian government for having sex with his then foster daughter. He was convicted in 2010, and sentenced to two years in prison. That might not sound like much, but by Norwegian standards this is a relatively harsh punishment. |
It should be noted that the foster daughter was an adult when they started having sex, and that the sex was consensual. According to her testimony she had sex with him because she was grateful to have found a good foster home, and because she was afraid of losing the good relationship she had with her foster family.
|11/23/2012 8:39:03||1305||DarkAngel_64||Severe||He lied and ripped of $30,000 from the Ontario Community Made promises about his camping convention that he didn't keep. The worse one being there would be flush toilets...there wasn't. The portapotties he did supply were only cleaned every 2 days..shit piled so high, if you say down, you sat in someones else's shit||London, Ontario||2009|
|11/23/2012 20:01:59||575863||MYu||Severe||Attempted rape during a three hour paid massage/acupunture/mentoring session, ~summer 2010. I'm a top, there was absolutely no reason for him to have thought this was OK. He was staying at a hotel in town to try and raise money to get out from under his supposedly abusive ex-girlfriend; I believed he was sincere about being afraid of her and was glad to help as well as benefit from his skill. Whispernet says he has a history of seeing what he can get away with (to the point where he is considred a serial rapist) once someone's tied up or in subspace that's gone on at least as far back as when he lived in Austin.||Seattle, WA||Summmer 2010|
|11/26/2012 22:18:08||121241||Philip_the_Foole||Severe||Philip_the_Foole held me and he and an acquaintance were he punching me in the ribs. I kept safewording, saying "STOP" but he clapped his hand over my mouth and said that he was "interpreting." |
He would say things like"I'll interpret for you; is that the best you can do, you wuss?"
The other man was a photographer, but it was Philip who would not let me speak and held me while I was punched by both of them.
I was injured by his impulsive, non-consensual actions. My ribs were cracked and I had to stay in bed several days.
|Sanctuary, Dallas, Texas||February, 2005 at night|
|12/2/2012 19:55:52||12141||Philip_the_Foole||Severe||Predator Alert (UPDATE) Please Read!!!!!|
I received this e-mail from another group leader about a potentially dangerous individual; he has been banned from their group and will not be allowed into ours.
I want to pass along information on a predator to you. Phillip the Foole has come back to this area. He is an older gentleman, is very charming, manipulative, and dangerous. He has put people in the hospital, attacked people at play parties, and is sociopathic. He was banned from the previous Wichita Falls group years ago and until recently, has stayed away. The Dallas scene is "onto him" and so he came back. He has recently been banned from all the Wichita Falls groups(his hometown) and will no doubt be trying to find another place to look for victims. We think he will try your group, possibly OKC and then Austin as well. I am just trying to get the word out to as many people as I can. He is dangerous and uncontrollable. He is so very good at what he does. This is an honest plea to you: To keep your group safe, please keep this man away.
He is an older man, wears glasses, and has a distinct hearing problem and uses it to draw in potential victims.. Almost deaf so there will be lots of repeating going on. He could change his name, but his ego will not let him. Here is a link to a shot of him on his profile: https://fetlife.com/users/121241/pictures/477310
He usually prefers older women who are alone, but he is bi and will prey on anyone he thinks he can charm. He is very intelligent and as I said before: charming.
Thank you for taking this seriously and be careful.
Be careful! This is one of the reasons to be in a group, not only for being social, but for safety.
|Wichita Falls, Texas||2005 to 2012|
This guy raped me the other night. I’m just now able to sit down without any type of pain and I’ve stopped bleeding.
I know his name is something like WilliamTravis Kimble (he told me his name was Travis, but I saw his military ID).
He’s in the navy, stationed on base in Everett, Washington.
Any and all information you can get me is more than appriciated.
Please help. I refuse to be a fucking victim.
DON’T trust this man.
I’m looking for help. His number is 918-935-7479. He’s 22.
His name on fetlife is mastersailor345
His full name is William Travis Kimble, originally from Oklahoma. He is in the Navy.
|Everett WA||Dec 5-6|
|12/7/2012 16:03:31||277648||Mr_Daz||Severe||As barely a teenager, this man groomed, abused and raped me over an extended period of 3 years. He would force himself on me, convince me that no one else loved me or cared about me, and that he would kill himself and his children if I were to try and escape. If I ever refused he would physically abuse me until I complied with his wishes. It came to my attention over a year later through a visit from the police that he had admitted to sleeping with three minors and had been charged with it. This was only 4 years ago.||Manchester and Stockport, UK||October 4th, 2004 until April 2007|
|12/9/2012 20:10:33||1661939||Nuts4daBPDguy||Severe||joined group under fake profile||Helmand,Afghanistan||5 moths ago|
|12/10/2012 11:17:50||1097970||leftout||Minor||Sent random friend request, neglected to read profile before sending request.||Online||12/10/2012|
|12/10/2012 18:44:29||871350||Lasghand-Jinxy81||Severe||Animal abuse. Animal crush. Non-consent.||Alamo, Texas, USA||Ongoing.|
|12/10/2012 18:48:33||1631340||forgottenjewel||Severe||Animal abuse and live animal crush. Non consent.||USA||Ongoing.|
|12/10/2012 18:50:52||1539144||MilindaMascaro||Severe||Animal abuse. Live animal crush. Non-consent.||USA||Ongoing.|
|12/10/2012 19:12:39||1540447||TarraEveans||Severe||Live animal crush. Animal abuse.||USA||Ongoing.|
|12/10/2012 20:28:55||1094397||NylonFeet4MyMeat||Severe||Profile contains live animal crush images. Animal abuse.||USA||Ongoing.|
|12/11/2012 12:43:15||11258||d_k_||Severe||Thinking FAADE is a great example of the worst of the bdsm community||Internationally||As soon as he found out about this pathetic idea|
|12/11/2012 13:07:46||11258||d_k_||Severe||It just happened||New York||Tomorrow|
|12/11/2012 13:08:58||11258||d_k_||Severe||He took one of my chocolate pop-tarts and took over 24 hours to replace it!!!!||UK||2 weeks ago|
|12/11/2012 13:09:57||11258||d_k_||Severe||Laughed at my pain over him stealing my pop-tart||My Lounge||1 min ago|
|12/11/2012 13:11:06||1||JohnBaku||Severe||Why not?||Why not?||Why not?|
|12/11/2012 13:31:06||1158090||Tai-Dachi||Minor||being to dam good with a whip!||space||in space|
|12/11/2012 13:43:08||11258||d_k_||Severe||Set up a campaign to break FAADE thinking it one of the worst ideas ever.||the end of the couch||right now|
|12/11/2012 14:52:04||25432||pigtails_32||Severe||having stupid pigtails||Fetlife||anytime|
|12/11/2012 14:52:30||1087361||Domiguy||Severe||I don't even want to talk about it.||Chicago's most famous gloryhole||October|
|12/11/2012 14:54:06||388590||anguissette_dia||Severe||Constantly distracts people with tight corsets and fantastic tits||many places||not often enough|
|12/11/2012 14:54:55||1588388||talltemptation||Severe||She is too damn sexy!!||My house||tonight|
|12/11/2012 14:58:20||25432||pigtails_32||Severe||being cooler than me and taking the words out of my mouth, so i don't get to say the snarky things||Anywhere||Constantly|
|12/11/2012 14:58:23||40417||O_3||Moderate||HE TOUCHED MY BUTT BEFORE I SIGNED THE GODDAMN RELEASE FORM||internet||he's still touching it right now|
|12/11/2012 15:02:46||1007875||fiestysub68||Moderate||fiesty scared the crap out of me when she drove off the edge of a car park, where the car ended up having to bounced off the ledge.||Bedford, UK||20/09/12 17:35|
|12/11/2012 15:03:42||1588388||talltemptation||Severe||And having lovely boobies!!||Whever she wants||Yes please|
|12/11/2012 15:03:42||1087361||Domiguy||Severe||likes wearing pigatils||Fetlife||anytime|
|12/11/2012 15:04:31||654112||TheRigger||Severe||For being too hairy......have a shave you scruffy bugger! lol||His house||Later hopefully :)|
|12/11/2012 15:04:48||1358815||Chocomel||Severe||Reported me before I could report him||Online||Today|
|12/11/2012 15:05:15||39387||GreatWhiteSnark||Severe||Likes cats a bit too much. And he is funnier than me||just now!||?|
|12/11/2012 15:07:57||1358815||Chocomel||Severe||She has boobs||dwd||wdq|
|12/11/2012 15:08:08||1358815||Chocomel||Minor||Telling me to report a consent violation before I consented to being asked to do anything for her||fetlife||right now|
|12/11/2012 15:09:05||130186||submischievous||Severe||she's too nice to me||today||6pm|
|12/11/2012 15:09:09||39387||GreatWhiteSnark||Severe||HE IS NONCONSENSUALLY FILLING UP MY ENTIRE FEED WITH TOO MANY STUPID PICTURES||FETLIFE||ALL DAY EVERY DAY, GET A JOB YOU HOBO|
|12/11/2012 15:09:59||1053286||MissBehaviour13||Severe||Touched Mel's poop!||wdewd||wdwd|
|12/11/2012 15:12:37||130186||submischievous||Severe||This redheaded lady keeps trying to turn me into a lesbian. I told her more than once that I was not interested...she still tries.||online||since i've been on fetlife|
|12/11/2012 15:15:19||1053286||MissBehaviour13||Severe||made my straight girl vagina wet||all the time||all the time|
|12/11/2012 15:18:50||1158090||Tai-Dachi||Moderate||has a huge weapon of mass distraction...||united kingdom||november 30th 2012|
|12/11/2012 15:21:14||37287||Helen_Back||Severe||For being too much of a bird and flirting with me.||Everytime we meet||All the time|
|12/11/2012 15:23:44||37287||Helen_Back||Moderate||This should be noticed about this person that she makes one great hostess at the Bedford munch, that happens every third Thursday of the month.||at the Barley Mow||every second thursday of the month|
|12/11/2012 15:31:19||37287||Helen_Back||Severe||opps the mnch is on the third Thursday of the mont||Bedford, UK||every third Thursday of the month|
|12/11/2012 15:33:16||297919||fori||Severe||Thinks consent violations are funny||FetLife||3:30pm 12/11/12|
|12/11/2012 15:33:26||25432||pigtails_32||Moderate||General disdain||On the interwebz||Daily|
|12/11/2012 15:34:56||1||JohnBaku||Severe||Loving photos on the daily that are honestly so-so||Cunukistan||Daily, usually in the evening (probably by his girlfriend)|
|12/11/2012 15:42:55||192953||ghostpuppy||Severe||STEALING MY HEART||time/space continum||Too often to count|
|12/11/2012 15:46:42||1671461||Princess_Gnorga||Severe||She has nice tits and nonconsensually makes me look at them every day.||In my house.||Every fucking day.|
|12/11/2012 16:07:54||25432||pigtails_32||Severe||Thinks consent violations are "awesome."|
LOOK OUT PEOPLE, PIGTAILS_32 IS THE WORST KIND OF "PERSON." Only a monster would think that the violation of someone else's consent is "awesome" or hilarious. This is the kind of person that takes glee in the misfortune of others and obviously has NO CONSCIENCE WHATSOEVER. People who don't understand empathy for other people are the most likely people to become SERIAL KILLERS. I urge those in her local community to stay away from this potentially dangerous sociopath.
|12/11/2012 16:33:37||11258||d_k_||Severe||Keeps buying my pets on the Tagged game "Pets"!||Tagged Website||Constantly|
|12/11/2012 16:37:03||40417||O_3||Severe||He beat me at Scrabble and hurt my soul.||Albuquerque, NM||Every day|
|12/11/2012 16:39:17||1007875||fiestysub68||Severe||She is slimmer than me. I did NOT consent to this. I demand she stops this instant.||In photos||Today|
|12/11/2012 16:44:59||1265161||twiggle||Severe||Has a HUGE fluffy bunny that takes up half of the bedroom floorspace||her bedroom||Today|
|12/11/2012 16:47:05||1265161||twiggle||Severe||not only does hse have the large one, but several more of varying size that always seem to be in the way||EVERYDAMNWHERE!||ALLTHEFREAKINTIME|
|12/11/2012 16:49:36||1339661||da-kitteh-thief||Severe||Annoying as all bloody fuck||Everywhere||Fetlife|
|12/11/2012 17:03:50||349096||Hays||Moderate||He writes better than I do and has better taste in music than me. This monster must be stopped.||Fetlife||At least once a week|
|12/11/2012 17:06:25||25432||pigtails_32||Severe||Thinks that ^^^ is pretty funny||On her profile||12/11/2012|
|12/11/2012 17:32:36||437043||Alethiometer||Severe||Made my brain hurt with trying to comprehend levels of stupidity outside of my normal range.||Fetlife||To traumatised to be sure|
|12/11/2012 17:38:15||799555||Parilia||Severe||He has a tendency to prey on the very naive, inexperienced and young (18-19 age bracket, younger than his own children) who enter the fetish scene||UK||ongoing|
|12/11/2012 17:42:35||799555||Parilia||Severe||Has his wife act as his pimp to lure in unsuspecting submissives, so he can engage in sexual intercourse, Cock rules his head. Don't believe him if he states he is in a stable relationship with his wife. You may end up with baggage.||UK||ongoing|
|12/11/2012 17:45:22||799555||Parilia||Severe||Was witnessed play with someone at a local play event. When they went into subspace he failed to put in the correct aftercare and left the person hanging from the cross like apparatus. Others had to come to her rescue. Not a safe player||Local event||Early 2012|
|12/11/2012 21:00:27||32337||Jefff||Severe||Has a penis. Obvious abuser.||Everywhere||Patriarchy|
|12/11/2012 21:02:20||555314||IAMDUMPLYN||Moderate||Says she is a DUMPLYN, isn't really. False advertising.||fetlife||forever|
|12/11/2012 21:03:18||981386||Sydney_University||Severe||Nonconsensually stealing peoples' personal information for research purposes.||Sydney University||Ongoing|
|12/11/2012 21:22:30||2011413||DUCKYPOOP||Moderate||He touched my poop!||Fetlife||Just now|
|12/11/2012 23:40:42||1840785||Cain_n_Abel||Severe||His brother violated my pussy!||in the backyard||25 years ago|
|12/12/2012 1:17:52||654112||TheRigger||Severe||To who ever made the above abuse accusations, would be interested in see what evidence you have to prove your accusations. Looking at the date of the said accusations it seems you have something festering about something I seem to have done to you. I am prepared to offer you an opportunity to be an adult come discuss this with me face to face, rather than play the school playground game. Lets have a chat to put some closure on what ever is bugging you. The alternative is to allow this to continue festering in you and destroy your soul, on my part I am not going to give this "rent free" space in my head.|
To all that know me if you wish to believe above accusations - hey ho
|UK||ongoing at time this was published|
|12/12/2012 10:13:02||1722024||little_sami||Severe||Is so short I get a sore neck looking at her||everywhere she goes||constantly|
|12/12/2012 11:22:32||1722024||little_sami||Severe||Posted pic of one girl one cone that I first noticed just before eating||on da internetz||when i wanted my supper|
|12/12/2012 15:24:33||435389||pipkin||Moderate||This pippish kin queefed in my direction and never apologized.||Fetland||Between 1873 and 2078|
|12/12/2012 15:37:56||715251||darkangels66669||Severe||This "man" goes through the newer subs of both sexes, as well as convincing the newest Dom/mes that they are not good enough without his mentoring. He likes to act like he knows everything about everything, but he consistently violates the most basic ideas, like cleaning toys properly, rigging people properly for their weight, and sleeping with his mentees.|
He sleeps his way through the newest female subs, uses people until they drift away jaded with the lifestyle, and tells everyone it is never his fault
His relationship with his wife is never stable, even if they say it is. Every couple of months they will have a huge problem, they'll unfruend each other, and then a week later be all back to normal.
Worst of all, they have had their kids in the house during a play party, awake and screaming, with guests circulating throughout the house unobserved. I saw this for myself. Appalling. When I brought it up, I was told I was stirring shit and asked to not come back.
They don't give a shit about consent, respect, or even exchanging ideas. They only care about sex, looking good, and fronting for their "playparties".
|"The Schoolhouse" GF, ND||Every month for the past year.|
|12/12/2012 18:35:05||1927355||VelveteenRabid||Moderate||She non-consensually farted on a Cybermat.||Just outside the TARDIS.||1972|
|12/13/2012 6:49:26||1619687||ClanSnarkyPants||Severe||being entirely too ropy and clannish also TARTAN||Fetlife||ongoing|
|12/13/2012 17:47:29||407945||beginagain||Severe||Makes my mouth water for his cock||In my fuck hole mouth||so so often|
|12/14/2012 10:24:46||654112||TheRigger||Severe||He was part of the MKFN crew and made an awesome first birthday happen.||Pink Punters||13.12.12|
|12/14/2012 10:27:59||1588388||talltemptation||Severe||Seriously smoking hot. She made my knees go wobbly. I'm pretty sure I didn't consent to fancying her. ;)||pink punters||13.12.12|
|12/14/2012 23:19:12||574399||maymay||Severe||This person constantly has shit coming out of their mouth. Someone could easily be injured by the speed at which the shit is spewing forth.||NY||every day|
|12/15/2012 10:25:20||191485||MayaTekla||Moderate||MayaTekla is, frankly, a bit of a sex pest. He coerced me into sleeping with him, he refused to wear a condom and ended up getting me pregnant!! And since I'm a man I can only conclude that he has some pretty powerful spunk!! Also he ruined me for other men...||Uk||not long ago...|
|12/15/2012 17:23:11||2020303||GoddessVenice||Moderate||Crossposting amongst many many groups on Fetlife, in violations of the TOU, looking for online dominance, and based on her profile (Assuming she doesn't edit it) ProDomme situations.||Fetlife||12/15/2012|
|12/15/2012 18:59:42||350672||OhMarie||Severe||False Claims of Rape, a serious coke habit. She has been a pretty serious coke-whore, going to the lengths of arranged to be the center piece of numerous gang bangs. After she has comes down, she has made claims of being raped by several people. She has even gone as far as detailing her harrowing "rapes" on fetlife in one of her writing posts. When she has been encouraged to get the police involved, she has adamantly refused, Even to the point of ending friendships with people who have attempted to confront her accused rapists. Steer clear of her. Very little of the hard luck story she gives you has any truth to it at all.||Numerous Places||Current|
|12/16/2012 3:42:35||654112||TheRigger||Severe||I think you will find that the person that threw up on that occasion, has thrown up at other events on more than one occasion.||Milton Keynes||Septemberish 2011|
|12/16/2012 13:48:13||980235||-BACON-||Severe||Dude made me fat and clogged my arteries. Bastard!||My Kitchen mostly||Ever since I realised I could eat -BACON- whenever I wanted.|
|12/17/2012 2:05:46||1112488||Sphvinx||Minor||She is just too yummy and nice. I want to play with her forever.||Mainly between her boobs.||When?|
|12/17/2012 2:11:44||49781||T5Tart||Moderate||I have witnessed several violations by this man including leaving an unconscious girl in the middle of a club - no aftercare.||Milton Keynes||Last year.|
|12/17/2012 3:01:48||1158090||Tai-Dachi||Minor||Did you put the other two on yourself? That has to be some sort of offense?||Milton Keynes||Now!!|
|12/17/2012 8:41:20||901509||Winkie||Severe||In this man there is too much niceness for one person.||UK||ongoing|
|12/17/2012 8:44:37||191324||Rachel-MT||Severe||Her baking will make you put on weight - she is one good cake maker||UK||all the time|
|12/17/2012 8:54:58||315314||AdrianneSpring||Severe||She is DANGER to other road users - especially those driving - she will distract you with her sexiness||Vancouver||2012|
|12/17/2012 12:31:56||1113438||powergen-italia||Severe||For having such rough and rampant sex that he knocks non-consenting radiators off the wall!!!||The Bedroom||A while ago|
|12/18/2012 18:46:30||21490||Noctra_Corvus||Severe||He raped me.|
we'd dated twice - maybe three times - and hadn't negotiated anything. A little kissing, which wasn't particularly good... a bit of camming... I went to his house to get something back I let him borrow, and he threw me on the bed. When I begged him to stop, he accused me of topping from the bottom; when I begged him to use a condom, he said he'd already stuck it in so it didn't matter anyway. DO NOT BE ALONE WITH THIS MAN.
|portland, Oregon||June 2008|
|12/18/2012 23:40:55||2017556||CattusCestriae||Minor||Likes to spam inboxes||FetLife||12/18/2012|
|12/19/2012 19:59:55||1048810||KyleStylez||Severe||unfathomable stupidity||fetlife||ongoing|
|12/24/2012 7:35:16||12938||Stricturism||Severe||Stricturism uses his bigness and blackness to attract women and then ties them up, has his way with them, and sends them home with a smile ;)||His house||Repeatedly!|
|12/25/2012 9:06:02||532802||Obsydian||Severe||He attempted to hijack a sausage ball from my plate on Christmas. ON CHRISTMAS!!!! This is definitely a severe abuse of my plate and hunger.||HERE||12/25/2012|
|12/26/2012 15:20:57||532802||Obsydian||Severe||He ate all the brownies!!!||In my Kitchen||Just YESTERDAY!!!|
|12/27/2012 9:53:24||1380||KayLovelay||Severe||Kay routinely accuses people she has been in past relationships with as "horrible abusers" when they break up with her. I know of at least one person who is taking her to court because of lies she has told to the community.||Online||HSe has been lying for quite some time.|
|12/29/2012 3:53:42||955170||CoffeeStain||Severe||This person threatened to "Out me to the community for misconduct" if I did not do favors for her. After refusing to placate her I later found out she was going behind my back to event staff trying to have me exiled.||Las Vegas||April 2012|
|12/29/2012 3:58:48||385524||par_tgirl||Severe||User tried forcing their sexuality on me in public. I was almost outed to my vanilla peers which could have cost me my job and respect in my casual social life. When confronted about this she blocked me and refused to acknowledge any wrong doing on the matter.||Las Vegas, NV||May 2012|
|12/29/2012 4:23:57||650726||EmeraldCityAlice||Severe||Repeatedly harassed me through my email and on the forums. This person is well known for her power hungry nature. Many people have mentioned privately that she is incompetent to hold a position of leadership. Someone is going to get into a lot of trouble because of her incompetence if more people do not start speaking up.||Las Vegas, NV||April 2012|
|12/29/2012 4:38:58||894412||StrangestAngel||Severe||User harassed me outside of PT's. I asked her to calm down but she than proceeded to have an outrage telling everybody I was out to get her. Nobody I knew of took her seriously but I later found out she was gossiping to other members behind my back. She is highly suggestible and easily manipulated, I suggest any other users keep their conversations online where you can keep a record of what gets said.||Las Vegas, NV||March 2012|
|12/29/2012 5:02:56||809240||Junicandy||Severe||Tried to incite problems among fellow community members after I said a simple hello.||Texas||Summer 2012|
|12/29/2012 5:26:14||1568915||The_Beat_Lab||Severe||Causes drama, over reacts, gullible as the day they were born. These people should be kept in check, period.||Las Vegas, NV||Summer 2012|
|12/29/2012 6:16:41||1486686||Curiousgirllv||Severe||User resorted to spreading drama after becoming paranoid over trivial discussion. This user has shown herself to be gullible and easily controlled by those willing to be less than honest with others.||Las Vegas, NV||July 2012|
|12/29/2012 6:25:49||1625089||tasteytreat22||Severe||User threatened to libel me if I came forward about their rude behavior as well as their mistreatment of my friends. I showed nothing but kindness and respect when she moved here but that did not seem to matter to her. I chose to grin and bear it but in the end she only spread more problems as a result.||Las Vegas, NV||September 2012|
|12/29/2012 6:28:44||601229||katH20||Severe||should not be allowed to post pictures as she is to dam sexy||on fetlife||when posted last picture|
|12/29/2012 6:38:49||1603279||MeZnD||Severe||User practiced unsafe practices at one of their prior events and created escalating conflict with several of the other members present. Thankfully I have not introduced this user to anyone I know. I advise against sharing anything about your real life with this person.||Las Vegas, NV||Summer 2012|
|12/29/2012 6:50:08||76480||Daddydominvegas||Severe||User became hostile over a simple complement on their profile. This person also has a big mouth and a real lack of common sense.||Las Vegas, NV||September 2012|
|12/29/2012 7:10:22||675610||The_Sex_Man||Severe||User spread malicious rumors which could have ruined my reputation had they not been caught in time. This was most likely an attempt to get laid which thankfully did not work for this... person.|
Watch him like a hawk
|New York||October 2012|
|12/29/2012 7:18:38||449252||Cordial_Cherry||Severe||User proceeded to spread rumors after a dispute on logistics too place on the site. She made a haphazard attempt to sully my reputation which, THANKFULLY failed to work.||Texas||October 2012|
|12/29/2012 7:50:21||1864529||Lil-peach||Severe||Created drama among her peergroup after responding to a classified posting. Play it safe and save any dirty talk for when of if you exchange numbers.||Washington||November 2012|
|12/29/2012 15:26:28||130981||Darkrico||Moderate||He is not safe to play with. He lies about consent, and will harass you if given enough infomation.||Boise Idaho||July Aug 2012|
|12/29/2012 18:48:12||1787929||sweetsinner12||Severe||I have a stalker: https://fetlife.com/users/1787929 <--- Do not believe anything this woman says!! The more you do for her, the more cruel and hateful she gets. I took care of her son and helped support her and tried to get her help for her pills/alcohol. Now she says I was a con man and is following me around fetlife writing crazy things. |
She almost killed myself and her son while hopelessly altered on God knows what on several occasions. She even tried to kill herself a couple of times. She repeatedly threw things at me and tried to punch/kick/hit me and now says that I was "abusive". When ever she is altered she thinks it's funny to tell you she's going to go and commit sexual indiscretions with the neighbor in exchange for drugs(and sometimes actually does). If it's not that, you'll have to all but physically restrain her in order to stop her from taking her little son into the automobile at 3am while loaded out of her mind.
If all of that was not enough, she tried to have me jailed and then did a sexual favor for someone in return for him coming to my hotel and trying to cause trouble with me. Thankfully, there were five of us and he left without incident, but wow.
When ever this woman ever claims to be sorry for something, she's just buying her way back any way she can in order to have an opportunity to inflict more pain or cause more problems. Any time she manages to cause an issue for you she will laugh in your face about it because she's a sociopath (literally).
She is also a pathological liar - after all of her lying, cheating, stealing and abuse of myself and her son - she is CONVINCED that I lied to her, stole from her and that I was abusive to her. It is how she lives with being what she is, as far as I can tell it is more convenient than facing down her inner demons and admitting to her abhorable behavior.
If you visit her- be ready to DEVELOP A TASTE FOR SILICONE (everywhere) AND HAIR EXTENSIONS AND REMEMBER TO HIDE YOUR WALLET AND PHONE and DO NOT BELIEVE A WORD she says BE PREPARED TO BE ACCUSED OF EVERYTHING SHE IS ACTUALLY DOING.
She's a professional victim and knows how to make herself look innocent. I spoke with her for six months for hours at a time nearly every day and had no idea of what she was. I have NEVER been played by a female, before. If she can get me she can get anyone.
|Cane Island Apartments in Kissimmee Florida||August 2012|
|12/30/2012 17:15:31||12141||Philip_the_Foole||Severe||This event occurred on a night in March, 2008, just prior to Easter. |
My slave, husband and I were invited by the leader of the Wichita Falls group to travel from Dallas be presenters at a Wichita Falls Meeting.
I am a well-respected Domme in the Dallas community and the head of our household. During the party afterwards, Philip non-consensually took me down to the floor and would not let me up. I was very clearly and loudly telling him to get off of me.
I have a lung condition and his violation of consent put me in danger.
It took two men to forcefully pull him off of me, when he refused to let me up.
He was immediately asked by the Owner of the home to leave after this assault, and not to return.
He was clearly "out of control" and unresponsive when it was made clear to him that this was completely unacceptable.
He is a dangerous, impulsive predator and will never be allowed at any venue over which we have the ability to intervene.
|Wichita Falls, Texas at a private residence, with many witnesses||March, 2008|
|1/1/2013 13:22:17||1619680||themonkfishkid||Minor||Pretends to be scary but is just very cuddly and amazingly nice||In the uk||All the time..|
|1/1/2013 20:17:42||1380005||stretch_me_out||Severe||Will steal your check book and take your belongings, was convicted of 5 counts of grand theft and forgery.||Boise, ID||April 2012|
|1/2/2013 1:39:51||1930111||SweetCarnalSugar||Minor||Does not set emotional boundaries. Does everything she can to cause victim to acquire feelings she has absolutely no intention of reciprocating. Emotional user.||Here||Dec 2012 to Jan 2013|
|1/2/2013 17:23:26||121241||Philip_the_Foole||Severe||Reposted as the initial post with 12141 was incorrect as the FetLife ID number. |
This post is about "Philip the Foole"
This event occurred on a night in March, 2008, just prior to Easter.
My slave, my husband and I were invited by the leader of the Wichita Falls group to travel from Dallas be presenters at a Wichita Falls BDSM Meeting.
I am a well-respected Domme in the Dallas community and the head of our household. During the party afterwards, Philip non-consensually took me down to the floor and would not let me up. I was very clearly and loudly telling him to get off of me.
I have a lung condition and his violation of consent put me in danger.
It took two strong men to forcefully pull him off of me, when he continued to refuse to let me up. He retaliated by assaulting both of them.
He was immediately asked by the owner of the home and hostess of the event to leave after this assault, and not to return, ever.
He was clearly "out of control" and unresponsive while pinning me down with his full and substantial weight on me, when it was made clear to him that this was completely unacceptable and that he needed to cease immediately.
He is a dangerous, impulsive predator and will never be allowed at any venue in which we have the ability to intervene.
|Wichita Falls, Texas||around March, 2008 at 7PM|
|1/3/2013 3:46:51||1544191||MaxMyers||Severe||He repeatedly messaged me wanting to meet up. When I told him I would be available if a friend came with me, he became irritated and rejected my request which was red flag #1. He told me to meet him at his home, another red flag. I was beginning to get uncomfortable about how persistent he was, so I stopped answering. A couple of days later he flooded my inbox saying that "real slaves do not ignore dominants" and other nonsense. When I told him I was uninterested, he verbally abused me, calling me a bitch and a worthless whore. He accused me of being fake since I did not want to meet, then said I was too rude to be a slave and that I deserved punishment. He warned that if I came to a play party in the area he was going to beat me for it. I instantly blocked him, and I want to spread the word to keep this abuser away from the community.||Richmond, VA||November 22nd, 2012|
|1/3/2013 3:48:52||1845567||SirRonRVA||Severe||Raped me in his personal dungeon and I later found out that he filmed it without my knowledge.||Richmond, VA||August 15th, 2012 at 4pm|
|1/3/2013 8:02:54||217929||Jorran||Severe||He is so cute :) , possibly the cutest person ever||everywhere||All the time..|
|1/3/2013 9:20:55||12938||Stricturism||Severe||So we were playing and I was tied up and he was doing this thing where he used a stick to make the chest harness tighter by twisting it, it hurt like fuck! When I screamed and bucked against the ropes he slapped me on the cunt HARD. I looked at him and smiled. He was like “oh! U like that bitch!?” LOL, I tried to sit up and say something but I was tied down too good. FUCK I hate that he is so damn sadistic with rope! When I couldn’t get up he laughed and shoved his thumb in me. Started playing with my clit, right when I was about to cum I was like “STOP!, wait!” and that fucker just stopped cold! It took me a min to even realize it because I was about to cum a second ago and when I didn’t get to my cunt was all swollen! I was like NO! Don’t stop, please I am about to come so fucking hard! He was like “but I thought you said stop…” I needed to come so hard I was sobbing and I was lke PLEASE! So he slapped me and said “Make up your mind bitch!” I got scared and even more wet but I was like I NEED TO CUM! So he started fingering me and when I came I squirted all over that vest he’s so damn proud of! LOL.||Las Vegas||2012|
|1/4/2013 12:17:53||29164||SinCityVixen||Severe||After many years of using her position in the small, local Las Vegas scene to lie, cheat, and spread rumors about anyone who wont allow her to run events and/or groups SinCityVixen has been sued in court! Ask her, and then ask the people who are suing her again. She has a long history of misleading new people into becoming part of her "with us or against us" / "gang" mentality and bullying community members into keeping silent when she lies. She threatens them with being "kicked out of the scene" by tricking them into thinking that she has some control over who plays with who. She is a vicious, sad woman. DO NOT TRUST HER!||Las Vegas||At least 10 years.|
|1/6/2013 11:03:25||314461||birddoc||Severe||Is currently stalking a local Domme. He's been stalking her for several years now and has outed her at work, has contacted her family, and has contacted the family of anyone connected to her. She does annual conferences at her dungeon/grounds, and he's sent friend requests to all the presenters she's had out.|
"birddoc". Very bad news. Very persistent stalker.
|1/9/2013 5:03:00||121241||"Philip the Foole"||Severe||Philip the Foole is ranting that the Domme in his last report did not file it.|
1. Is he denying that he held her down, in a non-consensual takedown, against her will, at a party with at least 10-15 people observing, with NO negotiations whatsoever, and that she was screaming and kicking, tell him to get off of her?
2. Is he denying that she has a condition that made it difficult for her to breathe?
3. Is he denying that his glasses were broken, his back and arms scratched and bleeding as the Domme's other two partners yelled at him and had to physically pull him off of her when he refused to listen to her safewording?
4. Is he denying that he was told to leave the party as a result of this bad behavior and told not to return?
5. Is his often declared "radical honesty" dealing with the facts that he violated this woman's consent with MANY people watching it happen?
"Philip the Foole" has a long and consistent history of violating consent and causing injury. I don't think the women that he victimized are saying, "Gosh, THAT was fun!"
It's all "smoke and mirrors" and what magicians call "distraction" from the FACTS.
He has an often repeated phrase about magicians that bears repeating.
He brags about being a magician.
|Wichita Falls, Texas at a party at a private residence, part of the Wichita Falls Group||around March, 2008 at 7PM|
|1/11/2013 8:23:54||29581||DaddyO||Minor||doesnt care about my or friends' comfort, pushy questions, pushy about playing, constant bugging me|
No physical groping or threats tho. I do not feel scared of him hes just pushy
|wednesday munch||summer 2012|
|1/11/2013 19:20:16||1258979||Sterling_Archer4||Severe||Accused of murder: http://www.torontosun.com/2013/01/06/murder-accused-appear-linked-to-violent-fetish-website||Sarnia, Ontario||12/31/2012|
|1/11/2013 19:20:47||1226649||Lana_Caine||Severe||Accused of murder: http://www.torontosun.com/2013/01/06/murder-accused-appear-linked-to-violent-fetish-website||Sarnia, Ontario||12/31/2012|
|1/12/2013 7:57:30||406901||EvilWizard||Severe||This guy considers himself a "mad scientist" and manufactures a wide array of intoxicating, inebriating and illegal substances. He likes to "test" his creations by serving them to uninformed people with either insufficient consent or no consent at all. He lists himself as in a "complicated" relationship with one of his younger users who is now deceased. A second user jumped off a building while undergoing a negative reaction to one of his concotions. Be very careful about accepting drinks from him.||Various locations, Ottawa Ontario||Various times|
|1/12/2013 11:15:32||2010118||-kitten-elf-||Moderate||This is a test on a sock puppet account, so I know how this system works. :)||My silly brainmeats||EVERY DAY OMG.|
|1/12/2013 11:19:49||718063||ROBOCOP-SERLING||Moderate||Outs people to their work and families. Slanders FetLife users. Stalking. Cyber-harassment. Continually changes user name to avoid reputation. Former usernames include: StopLeft, ROBOTS, MONSTERS, and possibly others.||Asheville, NC||2012|
|1/12/2013 12:11:58||710657||Rigger_G||Minor||Without announcing himself and without prior permission, Rigger_G came up from behind and hugged an event attendee. When reproached for this action, Rigger_G brushed it off as "just a hug," despite explanation that Rule One of the community is "Don't touch without permission."||Submission 2||July, 2012|
|1/12/2013 17:37:11||658457||DomCat4u||Severe||being a prat||liverpool||tonight|
|1/13/2013 15:17:16||351219||indigolaughter||Severe||This person drove her boyfriend at the time (Kimball Karlson-Martini) to hunt down his other girlfriend, then watched him repeatedly batter that girlfriend with a closet rod over the course of an hour. She and Kimball kidnapped the girlfriend to their shared home in Tacoma when the girlfriend's roommate interrupted them, then watched as Karlson-Martini humiliated, battered, and raped the victim several times. She then proceeded to cover up for the boyfriend for several months until they brought her in. Suddenly pled "mental illness" from which she instantaneously recovered. |
Karlson-Martini was charged with kidnapping, assault, and rape. He pled guilty to lesser charges.
|Seattle, Tukwila, and Tacoma, Washington||4/30/2010|
|1/14/2013 4:59:58||946880||captainsean||Severe||Captainsean and I dated for several months. At one point in early 2012 (I'm sorry; I've blocked out the date) we were hanging out at his apartment, and he asked me if I felt like having sex. I responded 'no, not at the moment'. He ignored this and climbed on top of me and proceeded to vaginally rape me. I was afraid of making him angry, plus I didn't, at the time, want to acknowledge what was really happening, so I lay there until it was over. It was on a Saturday, if I recall correctly, around midday, in the bedroom of his apartment.|
This was not the only consent violation perpetrated against me by captainsean. I had made it clear from the first time we met that any form of breath play was a hard limit for me. During sex one night (and I'm sorry; I did my best to forget this and cannot recall when it happened), without asking, consulting or warning me, he pinched my nose and covered my mouth so that I was unable to breathe.
|Northbridge, Perth, Western Australia and Osborne Park, Western Australia||Early 2012. Apologies for vagueness with dates.|
|1/16/2013 14:16:27||1302857||lily221||Severe||lily221 has a severe problem with outing people in the kink community. I have witnessed her out no fewer than 4 people in under two months, primarily because she thrives on nothing but gossip. Beware the information you share with her, and avoid her if you want your business, and name, to remain private.||Butte County||Summer 2012|
|1/17/2013 16:18:03||814952||kitkat_cupcake||Severe||Being amazing at sucking cock and a very naughty brat!||Various locations||2012|
|1/20/2013 9:36:51||96978||KnightCA||Severe||Convicted of felony molestation of a minor child in 2005. She was 14 at the time; he was 31. Has repeatedly claimed that the victim was at fault for telling him that she was of legal age, when in fact she made no such claim. Has been blacklisted from several annual events as a result of his crime/conviction.||Marin County, CA||2004|
|1/25/2013 12:35:56||2010080||misshilight||Severe||This profile is false the pictures used belong to a close friend of mine who is outraged over this she can be contacted on|
And will confirm what i have told you. She would like the page removed and if possible get the user banned as the profile is impersonating her/
|Dublin||25th January 2013|
|1/26/2013 11:13:53||980235||-BACON-||Severe||non-consensual killing of pigs||all over the world||all the time|
|1/27/2013 12:10:11||194782||LexFrost||Severe||Lex approached me on his social networking site. We began interacting via e-mail and he made it very clear that his intent was for us to interact via email, then phone conversations, then he would fly me out for several get togethers and see if we remained interested in a romantic relationship. If we did, I was going to move to his home in Plano, Texas. He went out of his way to present himself as single. He never mentioned his girlfriend initially, had no wedding ring and was listed as single on social networking sites. He also goes out of his way to tell any woman interested in him that “due to his being so well known” he requires his privacy and does not want them discussing any interactions he has with them. Two months into our interactions together a mutual acquaintance feared I was his “type” and he might approach me. Thus she warned me having no idea that I was already involved with him. He friend requested me here on fetlife. I went to his profile and noticed he had broken up with someone not less than several hours ago. I have since been told it is common for him to leave the person he is with (without them even being aware he has an issue with them) for someone he is newly interested in. I asked him about her and he stated he was seeing EveningKiss but she was not offering him the type of relationship dynamic he wanted so he dumped her. I chose to continue to interact with him only to find out that he was still in a relationship with her. He presented to me that they were now in a poly relationship (The type of relationship he WAS looking for) and wanted to know if I would be interested in being in a long term relationship with both of them. I chose to stay and see how things went.|
As my relationship with both of them developed, he asked me to be celibate as a commitment to them. I agreed though they did not make the same agreement. He told me this was due to my being so far away that his girlfriend didn’t think things would work out initially, until we began interacting. Hence, she wanted to meet women at clubs to see if they hit it off. After that he simply denied that they were considering anyone else.To my knowledge they pursued three other people, two of whom were on fet for an exclusive romantic relationship during this time. Lex went so far as to state that he did not know anyone by the name of Nicole when I inquired about his interest in her. According to what he told others she is/was in fact a long term friend from high school. She, as per the pattern, was writing loving comments on every post he made and talking about how excited she was to be going out to spend time with them. She dropped out of site after the visit and has had nothing more to do with him (at least publicly she moved on to get into a relationship with someone else). He also lied to me when he stated that his now wife knew about our prior interactions. I found out from her that she had no such knowledge. I offered to give her evidence (and it would hold up in a court of law) but either he or she messaged me stating they weren't concerned about it. She knows it she just cannot accept it so pretends I am lying. Lex utilizes deception, as indicated by repeatedly lying(bald face lies, half truths, contextual lies, lying by omission and minimization) about even minor, seemingly unimportant things, use of aliases, and conning others for personal profit or pleasure.And he can be very convincing.
Most of this occurred while they are supposedly in an open poly relationship where his wife now states she doesn’t care who he sees. He doesn’t cheat and lie because women won’t give him the freedom he wants. He cheats and lies because he does not respect nor care about any of his partners. The warning I was given by our mutual acquaintance is that" he lies to women and tells them whatever they want to hear to get what he wants. When they confront him on this he twists things around to confuse them, making them feel like they are the bad guy for not believing his lies and deceit." I didn't listen as I didn't know her very well. If you are considering being in a relationship with him or them ask yourself the question I failed to ask myself;
If he’ll lie to his committed life partner, what makes you think he’ll be honest with you or anyone else? Lies have been his way of life for a long time now. With his past girlfriends, his prior wife (he cheated on her not the other way around...ask her) and now his current wife. If someone in a relationship with you is willing to accept that level of dishonesty in his relationships, what does that say about his sense of integrity and honesty?
If someone will lie to you and cheat on you even when the supposed obstacles preventing him from living the life he wishes to live have been removed, then they will likely violate your consent, too. Aside from the risks of a ticking time bomb drama fest, an unknown third, fourth, or fifth party STD vector whom you can't ask directly about their history, and the ethical issues, the automatic inability to trust that a cheater isn't lying to you and you are helping to hurt someone so deeply that they may never be able to get over it; yourself, his wife (she can’t consent to everything and he lies about what she consents to),and whomever else he cheats on/with.
I have a general distaste of sneaky and unethical behavior and the implicit acceptance of it. What I did was WRONG. It is the first and last time I will ever make such a mistake. What he is doing is wrong and I am generally saddened by how many people know that he has been doing this for so many years and respond with tacit acceptance of it. I understand the reasons why but that doesn’t make it right. Not hurting people without very just cause is usually considered ethical. It matters to me whether, when I look in the mirror, I feel like an ethical person is looking back. I didn’t feel that way about myself when I was involved with him. I do care about having a personal code of ethics which involves treating other people the way I would like to be treated. And I don’t want to tacitly stand by while he continues to lie and cheat on his wife, other women and whoever else he wishes to use for his own profit at their expense.
You are not responsible for another person's behavior. You are responsible for your own. You can't decide whether he's going to cheat and lie, or not. You can only decide whether he is going to cheat or not with you. And how you feel about that choice.
I guarantee if you get involved with him it will permanently change your ability to trust in intimate relationships. It may not happen immediately, it may take years but at some point he will make a mistake and you will become painfully aware that you are living inside a lie. It won’t destroy your relationships with others altogether, but it is impossible to return to a state of perfect confidence, in any partner, once you have trusted someone absolutely and been wrong absolutely. You don’t have to do that to yourself, his wife or anyone else. Nor do you HAVE to believe me. The only thing I would ask if you are reading this is to at the very least consider what I have said and don’t let him isolate you before looking into this with anyone you choose. I have years of evidence to back up what I am saying. There is a breadcrumb trail of women all over the internet with the same stories about him. You have to dig due to the threats and intimidation but the stories are there. Talk to myself or any of them before you LET HIM ISOLATE YOU so that you can make an informed decision. There is a reason his voice is the only voice his wife hears or will listen to and it speaks of places you don’t want to go and I won't discuss here.
I am not posting the evidence of our interactions here as it is several years worth. I wouldn't know where to start. Nor will I be returning here to read any comments. I am not interested in listening to his few remaining friends who have had no romantic interactions with him and thus no knowledge of how he treats women in these situations. I am only here to urge any women considering getting romantically involved with him to listen to the voice that brought you to this page to begin with. Trust your instincts and do your research. I WILL reply to direct messages from women who are/have been or are considering becoming romantically involved with him/them at the following email address:
|long distance relationship||Oct 2009- Dec 2012|
|1/28/2013 20:54:42||90947||ScaryBen||Severe||Disregarded safeword, inflicted very severe bite wounds, verbal abuse. Wounds took 2+ months to heal.||Brooklyn||June 2012|
|2/7/2013 6:44:03||19791||Soulhuntre||Severe||Soulhuntre is so awesome it made me feel very bad about myself. When I specifically asked him to be less awesome to save my feelings he continued to be awesome.||Everywhere||My whole life|
|2/9/2013 2:58:59||1720901||LittleGirlLost83||Severe||after sending messages back and fourth to a dom |
consenting to play
but then after play posting a blog that she never consented to non of it
and causing the dom nothing but grief
this girl needs be left alone
DO NOT GO NEAR HER!
|2/9/2013 5:20:59||1901485||bartdj||Severe||he has a very offensive wepeon |
its a plank of woooodddddddddddddd
run for your lives
|2/10/2013 9:48:12||1112436||Jpherr77||Severe||About a week after we started dating, I moved out of my parents' house into a hotel for a week, and then to an apartment that a couple of friends had in Albany. While in the hotel, he visited twice, and both visits involved sex.|
Neither visit involved condoms, against my wishes.
Neither visit involved consent.
Neither visit took into account that I don't like anal, even though he was aware of that.
The first involved him deciding to jump into the shower with me, when I said I wanted to be alone, and refusing to leave after I asked.
He then dragged me to the bed, threw me down, and began fucking me. No condom, no consent, no heeding when I told him to stop.
Rinse and repeat that part for his second visit.
Once I moved in with the two guys I lived with until this past summer, he began hitting me. Hard.
"Don't do that" had no effect, other than making him hit harder. Same with "Get off me", "No", "That's too hard!" and various other things that a DECENT human being - even a Master - should take to mean that they've crossed the line. He never brought up safewords, though I doubt he would have listened even if I had used one.
I began trying to limit the time I spent with him.
And he hit harder when he saw me, because I was avoiding him.
Again, this was supposedly a poly relationship, but he was never upfront that he was going to meet other girls.
He outright denied having sex with people I know now for a fact that he did.
And, the last straw, he had sex with someone I said "no" about, after secretly meeting them.
When he told me and I expressed my displeasure, he told me that my reasons for saying no were completely illogical, and rather than talking to me about them, he was just going to ignore them.
He assured me that he had used a condom with her, but based on the history I already had with him, I wasn't inclined to believe it.
He said that every other person knew about me. Considering the girl he was dating broke up with him very shortly after I had looked at her OkCupid profile (and she looked back - and therefore probably saw that I linked to him in my profile), I wasn't inclined to believe that, either.
|Holiday Inn, Nott Terrace, Schenectady, NY, SUNY Schenectady County, 78 Washington Ave, Schenectady, NY 12305||September 27, 2011-October 22, 2011|
|2/10/2013 14:00:22||1886828||phyxated||Severe||Cyber-stalking. He put my Fetlife name into Twitter, then put that name into Google in order to try and find me everywhere on the internet. I rarely feel genuinely afraid for my safety and security in this community, but this guy made me really quite glad that I hide everything I possibly can from random strangers on Facebook.||Fetlife, Facebook||11/5/2012|
|2/11/2013 18:30:40||20297||RopePleasures||Severe||did not reveal that there were children in a room beside the dungeon in a play party after telling the people that there would not be children at the play party||prince george va||september of 2010|
|2/11/2013 18:37:06||1||JohnBaku||Severe||his penis is larger than mine||when he was born||where he was born|
|2/11/2013 18:41:08||36753||gwendollyn||Severe||non consensually being cuter than a fucking button||all the fucking time||all the fucking place|
|2/11/2013 18:46:42||2012565||GothicLizardMan||Severe||self reported that he had relations with a 15 year old when he was 30||new york city||2008|
|2/11/2013 18:49:34||1845567||SirRonRVA||Severe||drugged me and made me have sex with a dog while filming it||his dungeon||2012|
|2/11/2013 20:57:02||1801769||nsfwneutronium||Severe||Self reported stalking and harassing a female member of my munch. Proceeded to locate my OKCupid account, which is not connected to my Fetlife and uses a different username. Threatened to show up at my workplace. Was banned from local munch, but still shows up at parties elsewhere in the area. Be careful.||College Park, MD||November 2012|
|2/12/2013 14:02:31||26900||vabreezecouple||Severe||gossiping ... and lies... bold faced important lies, whatever she thinks will move things her way.||all the time||everywhere|
|2/13/2013 9:14:14||851376||zebo||Severe||doing an unconsented cutting on several female and males |
back who are now scared for life because of this disgusting disturbed man
|2/14/2013 7:43:23||863669||Iste_Maledictus||Severe||used me for money, made me hate myself, made me uncomfortable in the community, lied to me, lied about me, lied to his other partners||richmond||2012|
|2/15/2013 18:57:07||12938||Stricturism||Severe||Several women (including myself) have claimed rape/nonconsent by this "man." He raped me (I said no, my Dom at the time said no) in front of my 18-month-old son.||North Las Vegas, NV 89031||Late February/Early March 2012|
|2/17/2013 6:41:37||253797||dubaco||Minor||Continually makes posts of a derogatory nature against members of the community with unfounded accusations of harassment, bullying and persecution. Has not responded to multiple people attempting to address these concerns in a non-confrontational manner.||Glasgow||February 2013|
|2/17/2013 8:55:30||1777020||justrobic||Severe||Being an absolutely sadistic baker of odd cupcakes. Then inflicting them on the good people of the Bedford munch.|
Especially the Marmite cupcakes and Marmite truffles
|Bedford Munch.||December 2012|
|2/18/2013 21:59:54||625300||Lil_Elz||Severe||Years after one break up he continues to stalk and harass his ex girlfriend, proposition her for sex, threaten to out her to friends, family and work, and to intervene in her future relationships.|
After another break-up has made threats of physical violence ("If I see [her] again I will stab her in the face.") and used his military training as an attempt of intimidation towards her friends.
He is unstable and violent.
|2/19/2013 8:38:44||178334||Rubby71||Severe||BEING AN UTTER FLUFFY |
WITH THE FLUFFIEST IMPLEMENTS EVER!
|2/24/2013 3:12:09||298901||Willow_Wyntre||Severe||spreads herpes like wild fire||since 2010||to everyone dumb enough to fuck her without protection|
|2/24/2013 9:34:46||11258||d_k_||Severe||for being a total dick head who thinks he knows everything to do with bdsm |
and who likes to beat the crap out of girls and walk away from them
|2/26/2013 1:51:32||113811||i_love_hoodies||Severe||aka velveteenhoodrat is one of the two elderly-abusing criminals described in this article: http://articles.chicagotribune.com/1998-12-11/news/9812110237_1_detectives-prosecutors-charges. She subsequently plea-bargained her way to a shorter sentence for turning state's witness against her partner, kind of like Karla Homolka. She's extremely paranoid he will want revenge and kill her, but does nothing to minimize her exposure on social networks and tells people about her past at the drop of the hat because she loves the attention and the pity.||Palatine||1996-1998|
|2/26/2013 8:43:27||411098||Deus_Ex_Deimos||Severe||D was my on again off again Dom for 8 years. I first met him when I was 14 and he was 21. He introduced my into BDSM and sex in general. We "dated" for a year. He was emotionally and verbally manipulative during this time and tried (some times successfully) to get my other teenage girl friends involved for 3somes. We got back together when I was 21, he was actually upset that I was taller and filled out and didn't look like a little girl anymore, his girlfriend/slave at the time did look like a little girl. He used sex and physical contact as a weapon in our poly relationship. He was allowed "unquestioned" sexual contact with whomever he chose but L and myself weren't even allowed to touch each other. He would use us financially and whatever possessions we had were up for grabs (my laptop was suddenly off limits to my and L wasn't allowed to use her car if he needed it). He would use her car to "just hang out" with some some two girls who hung around his shop (13 and 16 y.o). |
He wanted to train me to enjoy pain more but did it by only using pain to punish me and going beyond my pain tolerance ignore or pushing past my safe word. When I broke my foot in his house he ignored it and I didn't get medical attention till 2 days later from a worried friend. He threw temper tantrums if he wasn't waited on hand and foot (we weren't 24/7) and manipulated and intimidated us in order to get what he wanted. He is an abuser.
|Sarasota Fl and Orlando Fl||2004-2012|
|2/26/2013 14:39:03||93614||Silk||Moderate||Threats of outing and attacking someone who he felt was not giving him enough attention. Emotional and verbal abuse for not submitting to him. Bad mouthing, rumors and lies spewed about those who he doesn't like.|
When confronted and called out on his behavior, he threatened to ruin the reputation and relationships of the person who confronted him.
|2/26/2013 16:21:28||369747||H20_FUN||Moderate||This user will 'out you' without your consent if you cross him. He has at least one documented case of it, and has threatened others to out them if he didn't get his way.||Idaho||2011|
|2/27/2013 21:10:28||2369||Scootah||Severe||Is neither 22, nor female, nor submissive. FAKE!||Fetlife||2/28/2013|
|2/27/2013 21:16:44||2369||Scootah||Severe||Does not reply to very polite emails. Saw mutually compatible fetishes on our profiles and wanted to enquire about her interest in pursuing those interests together. Sent back very rude reply. Mocked the size of my penis.||Fetlife||1/10/2013|
|2/27/2013 21:27:23||2369||Scootah||Severe||Uses the Abuse Reporting system to make dumb jokes. Thinks the abuse reporting system is a terrible idea that will cause more harm than it prevents.||The intarwebs||2/28/2013|
|2/28/2013 8:04:11||1||JohnBaku||Minor||He fucked up and apologized!||Canada||yesterday|
|2/28/2013 11:02:41||1494600||seanmw||Minor||Repeatedly asked for sexual play, despite being told multiple times that it wasn't on the table. Became verbally abusive when I didn't respond to a text message he sent me.||Washington DC||2012|
|3/1/2013 10:40:07||296822||T-Gunner||Minor||He lacks originality. He sends me the exact same sexually harassing e-mail he sends out to every other girl and then blocks me when I bother to respond to him positively.|
He also can not spell, which tells me this 6'2 fit silver fox is not well endowed in the education department.
|Sonoma, CA||February 2012|
|3/1/2013 10:44:30||47946||NinjaMike||Moderate||This person fragrantly lies about his relationships, in order to say whatever will make his current interest comfortable about engaging in play, sex, or relationships with him. He has a very long history of cheating, even in poly relationships, and the sticky part is that he does it because he doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings or make anyone uncomfortable. Users should know that if you are in any sort of relationship with him (even just play partners), that he will frequently break his poly agreements with you or his other partners, if it means he can have what he wants in the moment. I highly suggest not engaging in sex or play with him, because you never know who you or he may be inadvertently hurting by doing so.|
He has initiated long term, power dynamic relationships with people without informing his other partners. He has had sexual contact with people without informing his other partners. He has lied about getting tested when his partners request him to do so. He has lied about test results (saying he is negative for things he is positive for - like HSV).
In general, he will do or say whatever it takes to get what he wants.
|Maryland, and at events on the East Coast||He cheated on his first wife somewhere around 2001/2 (or at least, that's the only cheating he got *caught* doing, which ended in divorce.) He cheated on his second wife all throughout their marriage, with it ending in 2012 after they learned about a secret power dynamic relationship that was going on for over 2 years.|
|3/1/2013 16:41:56||1229084||Wicked_Menagerie||Moderate||This is a dummy account for a party called Wicked Menagerie. When I attended this party, I was appauled at the unchecked underage drinking, the naked older men staring at younger, clothed women, and a lot of other skeevy behavior that made myself and my partner not only uncomfortable, but unsafe. |
Someone tried to ask my partner for play, but they were so stinking drunk I wouldn't even let her out of my sight with them, much less play.
I feel these parties are unsafe, especially for women.
|3/3/2013 11:57:27||513372||ReadCT||Severe||On October 23, 2012, a girl met ReadCT for dinner at the Arboretum. While there he pushed her to the ground compressing her between a bag and the ground restricting oxygen. He let her up after she stated she could not breathe. He then threw a drink in her face. Afterwards, he went behind her and held her against her will twice. Both times she told him "NO, STOP, Don't touch me". After the second time, he left and went to her car. If you read back through his posts, you can see where he apologizes online for throwing a drink in her face.|
Class C misdemeanor charges were filed with the City of Dallas.
|3/4/2013 16:11:59||47776||DallasKink||Moderate||DallasKink told me after we slept together that he has herpes.||Dallas, TX||2012|
|3/5/2013 6:09:54||513372||ReadCT||Severe||He was drunk and from what I have gathered high at Disturbathon. He did not secure the play space so when I was waiting in line, I was hit with a flogger by someone in another scene. When I told Read, he told me to just move. While I was on the Sybian, he was telling my Daddy to make me count my orgasms and screaming in my face (this was not negotiated). He was kicked in the nuts for bad behavior and left.||Dallas, TX||October 2012|
|3/5/2013 20:39:06||1190729||picturegirl||Severe||Has genital herpes, does not inform sex partners and refuses to use protection. Also threatens to out anyone who objects to being given an incurable VD.||Greenville, SC||ongoing|
|3/6/2013 18:39:17||1432073||OniSith||Moderate||This person has posted pictures and my posts from Fetlife on other social media sites without my permission. Furthermore, he exposed a whole private monthly party via a Google Review on the internet so that anyone searching for the building the party was held in could read about all the kink and sex that went on there. He currently skulks around various Philadelphia parties and never plays, but always has a smart phone handy for recording and taking pictures.||Philadelphia, PA||Just after New Years|
|3/9/2013 1:00:57||2124545||jameth||Severe||This user created a sock account to out me in a friend's status, using my real last name and alluding to my profession, neither of which I have ever used on FL.||Fetlife||3/9/2013|
|3/11/2013 23:16:28||47946||NinjaMike||Moderate||He never told his girlfriend he cheated on her. He cheated on her for two years, and she found out from other people, and more than eight months later and he has still refused to sit down with her and have a conversation about what happened. He's a lying douchebag and an unrepentant cheater. I pity anyone who gets roped in by his "I'm a guardian" bullshit; he's a guardian when it gets him attention and praise, but not when the chips are down; and he never hesitates to hurt the ones he claims to love the most. Also, his new girlfriend is a bitch.||Maryland||He started cheating on his girlfriend in 2011, and still hasn't told her (althoguh she knows now)|
|3/11/2013 23:25:04||332119||girl_ali||Severe||This person has reported to several event producers that presenters she does not like, or approve of, are on the Sexual Offenders Registry. Even when it is made clear that they are not, in fact, nor have they ever been accused of a crime, she continues to tell people that she is right. |
When I attended the GKEII, she was a DM, and her boyfriend was her boss. She touched my submissive without asking either her or my permission, in the middle of a scene. Later, she sat and watched a friend of mine play, and practically yelled comments about how my friend was "doing it wrong" (which she wasn't) and that if my friend didn't change the scene, she was going to throw my friend out. When I complained to her boss (her boyfriend), he told me she was in her rights. I went to Jeff Mach, who told me that he had several, several complaints about the two of them and how they ran the dungeon, and that he would be talking to them in the future. I do not plan on returning to a JM event if they are on staff; even if it's something like the Steampunk World's Fair, I can't be assured that he won't instruct his security team that touching someone, especially someone half-dressed, is NOT OKAY without that person's permission.
|Geeky Kink Event, NJ||Nov 2012|
|3/11/2013 23:30:59||5453||JeffMach||Severe||I have been to two of Jeff Mach's events, and both times, I was touched inappropriately by someone on his staff. The first time, it was at a Wicked Faire, and a security person grabbed my ass without asking or even warning me. The second time, I was at GKE and a female DM stepped into the middle of a scene with my boyfriend, interrupting, because she didn't approve of the way we were playing. She touched me several times, while I was naked. After the first time, I quietly asked her not to do it again, but she told me she was an EMT and a DM. My boyfriend complained to Jeff, but was told 'well, that DM's boss is her boyfriend, and I've been getting a lot of complaints." That's it? |
I do not feel that his events are a safe place for anyone who isn't okay with random groping, touching, or disrespect. It's scary to have a security person harass you, because who do you turn to? Other security people?
I tell all my friends not to go to JM events anymore. It's scary and I haven't been able to go to another public kinky event since.
|Somerset, NJ||2011 and 2012|
|3/13/2013 7:39:16||673677||mark-Calgary||Minor||I did not take communications with this guy past the interview stage because red flags kept coming up. 1) he wanted to meet alone, at my place to play for the very first meeting. 2) he refused my suggestions of safety (for him to speak with my other play partners to make sure I am a safe player) 3) he refused to negotiate on what his limits were, stating that a true slave does not have limits 4) when I stated My limits he pushed them (he would not meet my husband before playing, he would not meet in person as equals to negotiate before playing. 5) he would not meet at public events 6) he could not give references for me to speak to about His being a safe player. 7) he seems to not want to be a slave or sub, but rather have a specific and detailed fantasy of his played out to his specifications. Giving youtube videos as his reference to what he believes a true slave is, and what a true mistress acts like. 8) he disregards any experience that does not line up with what He believes to be "true" M/s.|
This thought behaviour could have escalated past minor, if I had been naive enough to meet with him in person as he wanted.
|Calgary - skype conversations saved||2013, March 5-12|
|3/18/2013 16:19:34||1948040||ApocalypseBailey||Moderate||I lived with him for 4 months in that time when I tried to leave he tried to commit suicide if I tried to leave 3 times and had server paranoia that I was cheating |
would go through messages and have serious mental episodes
would make up new accounts saying he was a therapists offering people help with mental health problems ..saying people broke into his house to clean it and freaking out at 5 in the morning crying mumbling on the floor like a small child and then driving iraticly off to come back five mins later saying it was because I did not cuddle him in his sleep
than it got aggressive at the end when I caught him going through my fet messages again to the point I had to leave
this guy has serious problems and serious insecurity's and self confidence issues
and he lies about silly things
there were quite a few off the wall odd moments where he was just seriously unbalanced saying he was a privet investigator by fouls fet accounts saying sorry for splitting me up but the company had to do it to stop him from getting married because of inheritance but I new this was just another odd episode he had con cockted in his head to make me think it was not him it was some one else splitting us up he used 3accounts so far that I know off usernames Therightchoice
Subspanker and Apocalypsebailey but likes to close the accounts and re open them with new names just be careful
|at his home in slough||jan 13 to april 13|
|3/20/2013 5:58:49||1597126||KingKaiju||Severe||KingKaiju a hateful, hate filled cock monkey, and a sodomizer of goats and the elderly. He has a personality like a sock full of severed testicles and an attitude reminiscent of nails on a chalk board/a Justin Bieber concert. Avoid at all costs.||Fetlife||1/10/2013|
|3/20/2013 15:24:31||237675||chrissyhbc||Moderate||BLOCK THIS ASSHAT! CHRISSYHBC This sock puppet account is used by a regular abusive person and cyber bully. The real profile he/she uses is unknown. Stalking, harassment, and trolling is a regular activity for this user.||US||2011-2013|
|3/20/2013 15:26:21||602240||dinod||Moderate||This sock puppet account is used by a sometimes abusive person that participates in cyber bullying groups on FetLife. The real profile he/she uses is unknown. Harassment by group is a regular activity for this user.||US||2011-2013|
|3/20/2013 15:27:11||60029||Rubberman||Severe||BLOCK THIS ASSHAT! RUBBERMAN! This sock puppet account is used by a regular abusive person and cyber bully. The real profile he/she uses is unknown. Stalking, harassment, and trolling is a regular activity for this user.||US||2011-2013|
|3/20/2013 15:45:16||58297||Lawdog||Moderate||This user clearly does not understand FetLife TOU. He posts pictures and posts in forums content that is clearly not allowed. He is argumentative, fights with CareTakers. I would not be surprised to see this user bounced from the FetLife site.||US||2013|
|3/20/2013 15:48:39||12938||Stricturism||Minor||An Anti-REAPs hate group member, known for harassing other members on FetLife.||AntiReaps Group||March 2013|
|3/20/2013 16:59:45||400589||Vampyredemon||Moderate||AIDS STALKERs and PREDATORS. This woman portrays herself as a resource to "help" others that are being stalked or harassed. In reality she partakes in the harassment in some cases confirmed. Her groups have many sock puppet profiles. She maintains a sock puppet profile herself CONJUREONE https://fetlife.com/users/558241 to circumvent users that have blocked her.||US||March 2013|
|3/20/2013 17:01:34||558241||Conjureone||Severe||BLOCK THIS PROFILE This is a sock puppet profile used by Vampyredemon to circumvent blocking. Profile known in aiding others stalking and harassing on the FetLife website.||FetLife||March2013|
|3/20/2013 17:07:04||463297||MsNes||Minor||LIKELY SOCK PUPPET PROFILE - This is very likely a sock puppet profile for Vampyredemon.. https://fetlife.com/users/400589 who aids STALKERs and PREDATORS.||FetLife Online||2011-2013|
|3/20/2013 17:11:24||1123125||THEREVERENDBLACK||Severe||Violates patient confidentiality! Be cautious and involvement with this individual and his pro Domme girlfriend. Major drama. Immature, and vindictive.||Philadelphia, PA||2012|
|3/20/2013 17:14:42||55058||GoddessDestiny||Moderate||MAJOR Drama. Stalking, Harassing behavior reported. An accomplished proDomme, however very immature, and drama stirrer. Woulnd not session with her or give her any personal information. Involved in a civil and criminal lawsuit with others on FetLife. Evidence of her "Outing" others she does not like or has had conflict with exists.||The Avary Philadelphia, PA||2012|
|3/20/2013 17:16:20||1395746||Lucifer_elgato||Minor||SOCK PUPPET PROFILE for TheReverendBlack https://fetlife.com/users/1123125 Major drama, outing, violation of patient confidentiality. Involved in criminal and civil suits other members of FetLife.||FetLife Online||2012|
|3/20/2013 17:20:03||1332045||Anon_e_Mouse||Moderate||SOCK PUPPET PROFILE. Recommended BLOCK. Will post and share confidential information without your consent of private conversations. A drama stirrer. An active member of hate group Anti-Reaps. Obnoxious and persistent. Ample time on his hands to harass others on line.||FetLife Online||2012|
|3/20/2013 17:22:16||1526014||Yazzzzzzzz||Minor||FAKE PROFILE. Recommended BLOCK. Will post and share confidential information without your consent of private conversations. A drama stirrer.||FetLife Online||2012|
|3/20/2013 17:24:38||214838||MaillerPhong||Minor||Member of HATE Group REAPs. Annoying, persistent.||FetLife Online||2013|
|3/20/2013 17:26:30||214838||MaillerPhong||Minor||Violates trust. Posts private conversations, disregards FetLife TOU||FetLife Online||2013|
|3/20/2013 17:29:33||237675||chrissyhbc||Minor||BLOCK THIS LOSER He violated my consent in sharing with others private information publicly. He participated in outing and harassing me. Uses multiple alias profiles. Ad blatant as 'socky'||USA||2011|
|3/20/2013 17:32:40||14954||crowe||Minor||This person supports predators who actively violate your trust and share personal information without your consent.|
Recommend BLOCKING THIS PERSON
|3/20/2013 17:34:35||779071||DieKonigin||Minor||Can be an abusive - not in a good way - person.|
Will reveal personal information with others.
Very immature individual.
|3/20/2013 17:36:08||900558||FootAndHeelLover||Minor||SPAMMER!!! Block this asshat.. And ban him from your groups if you can before he spams your members and your group.||FetLife Online||2011-2013|
|3/20/2013 17:37:01||620901||louisrye||Minor||SPAMMER!!! Block this asshat.. And ban him from your groups if you can before he spams your members and your group.||FetLife||2011-2013|
|3/20/2013 17:41:03||1155392||239||Severe||This person is stalking others on FetLife as of March 2013, She has threatened to "Out" and extorted a family for money. Threatening to display private photos if she was not given money. We don't know her real profile, or if there is another one.||Hightstown, NJ||March 2013|
|3/20/2013 17:42:33||1378493||LordDarkRaven32||Severe||SOCK PUPPET PROFILE FOR A STALKER that has been banned from this website||Online||2012|
|3/22/2013 14:08:08||2247717||Therightchoice||Severe||nothing doing||Iver||1/3/2013|
|3/22/2013 22:20:23||1||Meitar Moscovitz (maymay)||Severe||This person posted a private conversation that included my home phone number and bank account numbers on his website. This could have been very serious and cost me my livelihood. |
He seems to not care about how he might hurt anyone around him. Please avoid him at all costs.
|3/29/2013 19:34:34||650726||EmeraldCityAlice||Severe||I have seen this user libel unsuspecting people for rape as well as censor anyone who speaks against her. I STRONGLY suggest carrying a recording device in the presence of this person. She is unqualified to be in any position of authority over anyone else.||Las Vegas, NV United States||2012|
|3/29/2013 19:39:21||12938||Stricturism||Severe||Disregard every claim that has been posted. He has already taken this to court and they were told to drop this. These posters are well aware that there are penalties for continued harassment such as this and are abusing the anonymity of this feature.||Las Vegas||2012|
|3/29/2013 19:42:46||29164||SinCityVixen||Severe||The same thing as above has happened to me as well. This user threatened to claim that I either sexually assulted or stalked people when I questioned her authority. Depending on your venue, remember THEY HAVE CAMERAS!||Las Vegas, NV United States||2012|
|3/31/2013 17:26:22||1107653||CPetronius||Moderate||I had negotiated with a scene with this man's wife and had already begun when he insisted on hopping in. I made my discomfort with such known and he chose to ignore it. I was then placed in the situation of being expected to either end the scene I was enjoying or walk off and quit topping for the night. I just felt so used and disgusting afterwards that I wanted to puke, like, geez, what kind of asshat impinges on a young domme figuring herself out?||Gainesville, Florida||February 2012 Gainesville Trinity Party|
|3/31/2013 20:19:29||1869170||sexy-shadow||Severe||He physically forced me to perform oral sex on him, even though I specifically said I was not interested AND physically resisted him. He stopped forcing me and pressuring me to go down on him only when I removed myself from his immediate location. He has blatantly ignored my attempts to get him to apologize & rectify his behaviors, and refuses to respond to me in any capacity on the matter.||Baltimore, MD||February 2013|
|3/31/2013 22:19:39||861460||Yggycat||Moderate||Came to visit me for a weekend, was supposed to be a kinky weekend. Instead he just sat and played Final Fantasy 11 at me the whole time. When I finally got fed up with it, he left and started spreading false rumors about me online.||At my apartment||June, 2009|
|4/1/2013 11:31:37||1889389||Greenteaandlime||Moderate||Cheek bastard||https://fetlife.com/groups/71355/group_posts/3713680||April 1 2013 @ 11:03AM|
|4/1/2013 11:31:43||1889389||Greenteaandlime||Moderate||Cheeky bastard||https://fetlife.com/groups/71355/group_posts/3713680||April 1 2013 @ 11:03AM|
|4/2/2013 15:17:18||2208589||taste_me||Severe||cheats and spreads std's||tamworth uk||nov '12 to march '13|
|4/3/2013 12:06:50||926803||dabat||Severe||sexually assaulted a woman after getting her drunk at a party; had harassed her for two years prior to incident||columbus||may 2012|
|4/4/2013 22:08:22||1852672||awolfamongsheep||Moderate||This guy reeks of crazy. Defines a man by ability to copulate and capacity for violence. Lots of strange religious and inadequacy issues. He's a serious creeper.||on the interwebs||4/3/2013|
|4/7/2013 21:20:09||2584||nbat||Severe||drugged and raped a under age friend of mine. cis female.||Auckland, New Zealand.||2012|
|4/8/2013 3:33:28||99930||DvsV||Minor||repeatedly ignored requests to stop tapping my cane on my behind during a event, repeatedly followed me around the event even when i told him to leave me alone.||Auckland, New Zealand.||2011|
|4/8/2013 3:37:12||119784||rodjnz||Minor||Violated the privacy of the Auckland BDSM community by allowing into his club the media who filmed on site, without alerting at all any person within the establishment of media presence. Actively tried to hide this behaviour.||Auckland, New Zealand.||2012|
|4/8/2013 3:39:25||1873902||DrFangs||Severe||Raped a woman by force at a party. Continues to deny this despite witnesses coming forward.||Auckland, New Zealand.||2011|
|4/8/2013 4:39:04||44360||Sir_LC||Minor||When approved with news that his friend was an abuser, claimed that he is sad that 'she changed her mind after the fact' even though both his friend and her admitted that it was rape.||Fetlife||July 2012|
|4/8/2013 4:40:26||17379||HopefulOne||Minor||When their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that "i'm sure it wasn't assault"||Fetlife||July 2012|
|4/8/2013 4:41:35||209700||DuchessCorset||Severe||When their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that "sounds like this woman just wants attention so is taking any little thing she can and blowing it up also if it was sexually abuse why has she failed to report it hmm.Sounds like she just wants to make drama for you best advice put her on block"||Fetlife||July 2012|
|4/8/2013 4:43:18||72443||cherished_slave||Minor||When their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that =|
Personally i think she probably now wishes she might have pushed herself harder to try & create a better perhaps deeper relationship with you back then & this is somehow a way (although a sleazy way...lol) to in her own mind create some reason as to why she didn't & it helps her to supposedly justify her own feelings for you. Anyway that's how it pretty much appears to me & i think you should try to just let her shit slide on by you & don't be so hard on yourself anymore.
|4/8/2013 4:44:03||1507440||emi__||Minor||When their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted a woman, they responded that =|
that woman is disgusting
|4/8/2013 4:46:08||1507440||emi__||Severe||When their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that =|
'who cares if anyone believes her'
|4/8/2013 4:50:10||1563075||zetamccc||Minor||When their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that =|
[in response to her making allegations] she's a manipulator
|4/10/2013 18:02:00||121241||Philip_the_Foole||Severe||As far as what I have witnessed, I have watched him cover submissive's mouths at the first sign that they were going to stop him. I have heard him over and over telling people that HE knows best what they want and they should just let him. I've seen him get angry in a flash at people who weren't even talking to him. I have watched him scare and threaten subs into doing things they did not want to do. He also likes to take over scenes from other tops. I have watched him walk into scenes and completely remove the actual top that was running the scene. He is just so sneaky.|
This man is dangerous. He's charming, and he's knowledgeable so it makes him soooo cunning. He knows exactly how to exploit submissives weaknesses and how to lure them in. I admit he is fun at first.
This is a predator who just wants to hurt people and quite honestly, the LESS they want it, the more he enjoys it. He doesn't want negotiated forced actions, he wants the real thing from someone unwilling and truly frightened. He has seriously hurt me and I'm not even a submissive. I have watched him harm others, and I have very close friends who have horror stories of their own at his hands. I would not allow him in our group, and I would encourage all other groups to ban him as well. Whatever knowledge this man could bring is not worth the devastation he leaves in wake. In my opinion, someone is going to die eventually.
So there is my story. I hope it helps you. I will be MORE than happy to speak with anyone who needs to fact check or if they just want to make sure I'm a real person. I have no problem at all with that. I hope this helps keep someone safe.
(Posted with author's permission)
|Dallas;Wichita Falls, Texas||2005-2006|
|4/13/2013 21:11:08||682350||Domi_Nat||Severe||Insulted me. Made sexist comments.||fetlife||3/12/2013|
|4/21/2013 8:47:12||15760||MrDaws||Moderate||Took advantage, lack of negotiation, pushing of boundaries, unsafe coercive sex, emotional abuse.||britain||some time ago|
|4/21/2013 13:50:52||140535||Takin||Severe||At a private party (not a play party, just a wine and cheese social gathering at a private home) in 2007, "Takin" a/k/a Tim was passing out business cards to promote his BDSM club, OKC Kink. He flirted with me repeatedly at the party. I had too much wine and could not get home, so the person in whose home the party was held let me crash on the sofa in the living room after most of the party attendees had left for the night. After seeing that everyone had left, those who were staying at the home (notably, "Master--R" and Mistress Collette, both from New York) went upstairs. Some time later, they came downstairs to discover "Takin" having oral sex with me while I was unconscious. He insisted that I had been awake and had consented, but I have no memory of even knowing he was there after I laid down; I was obviously too intoxicated to consent even if I had awakened (which I do not believe I did). They were disturbed because they had checked the house and locked the doors before going upstairs, leading them to believe that he had intentionally hidden in the house with the intent to violate me. Several members of the local community, including "makalove", met with me, Master--R and Mistress Collette the next day to discuss the matter. I was humiliated and appalled and begged them not to spread any information about the violation, to which they reluctantly agreed. "makalove", however, spoke about it with another prominent local dominant (with my permission) with whom she had an ongoing play relationship. He proceeded to do everything he could to make excuses for Tim's behavior and to blame me for the incident, which caused "makalove" to break off their relationship. Because of this incident, I have avoided the local BDSM community ever since.||Private home, Norman, Oklahoma USA||late night April 28, 2007 or early morning April 29, 2007|
|4/21/2013 14:30:52||1927899||_flame_||Severe||bringing another sites drama to this site continued harassment and lies||in Email||about the march 25th|
|4/23/2013 19:45:32||17256||JakiGriot||Severe||Jaki and I were married for many years. Over the course of the relationship, Jaki repeatedly violated my consent during sex, including forcing a strapon into me while asleep more than once, screaming at me when I was not into sex, and making me stay in the upstairs bedroom and not come out at times when yo wanted to have another partner over. Jaki also threatened to kill me if I ever left yo. I left Jaki on 7/14/2012, and on 7/15/2012 went back to get some of my things. While trying to get the Playstation 3, my back was turned to Jaki. Two witnesses (Tex Topa and Andrea Wood, both of whom were in a relationship with Jaki at the time as well) saw Jaki try to punch me in the back of the head while I did so; Tex intervened and got between Jaki and I. This was at 2010 Letitia Avenue, Baltimore MD, 21230.|
Jaki also stalked me afterwards through the phone, and attempted to get me thrown out of the safe place I was staying, attempted to force yo's way into the place, and has shown no remorse and made no apology for what has happened.
Jaki continues to be invited to leadership conferences and to put yoself forward as an abuse advocate despite being my rapist and abuser for years. Yo continues to be offered opportunities to teach classes, attend events and hurt people again.
|2010 Letitia Avenue Baltimore MD 21230||7/14/2012 3 pm; also many other times throughout our relationship history|
|4/23/2013 19:48:58||17256||JakiGriot||Severe||Jaki and I were married for many years. Over the course of the relationship, Jaki repeatedly violated my consent during sex, including forcing a strapon into me while asleep more than once, screaming at me when I was not into sex, and making me stay in the upstairs bedroom and not come out at times when yo wanted to have another partner over. Jaki also threatened to kill me if I ever left yo. I left Jaki on 7/14/2012, and on 7/15/2012 went back to get some of my things. While trying to get the Playstation 3, my back was turned to Jaki. Two witnesses (Tex Topa and Andrea Wood, both of whom were in a relationship with Jaki at the time as well) saw Jaki try to punch me in the back of the head while I did so; Tex intervened and got between Jaki and I. This was at 2010 Letitia Avenue, Baltimore MD, 21230.|
Jaki also stalked me afterwards through the phone, and attempted to get me thrown out of the safe place I was staying, attempted to force yo's way into the place, and has shown no remorse and made no apology for what has happened.
Jaki continues to be invited to leadership conferences and to put yoself forward as an abuse advocate despite being my rapist and abuser for years. Yo continues to be offered opportunities to teach classes, attend events and hurt people again.
|2010 Letitia Avenue Baltimore MD 21230||7/14/2012 3 pm; also many other times throughout our relationship history|
|4/23/2013 21:38:48||161480||Xs||Severe||Extensive history of consent violations with more than one of his ex partners. Has outed several people as well. Has been banned from TNG and other kink groups. In a kink culture that often silences victims and rarely bans anyone, he has actually managed to be so blatant in his consent violations, lack of safety and lack of concern for others that he's been banned from multiple groups that, if anything, let too many abusers remain.||More than one instance, more than one victim||2008|
|5/2/2013 14:16:23||919877||Sweetnsexy810||Severe||Stalking.||Dallas, Tx||Ongoing|
|5/4/2013 2:39:45||513372||ReadCT||Severe||Read Kerr sleeps with strippers and whores. He can be found on multiple websites like SeekingArrangement.com, SugarDaddy4Me.com, Fetlife.com, Collarme.com and eccie.net under ReadCT, ReadTX or SlapnTickle. He cheated on his wife on their honeymoon. He cheated on his affair while in Costa Rica. He is currently charged with assaulting his last girlfriend. He is cheating on his current girlfriend.||Dallas Texas||2005 on|
|User ID||Nickname||Age||Gender||Role||Number of FAADE reports|
|Total number of FAADE reports||272|
|Total number of FAADE reports against paid subscribers||47|
|Percentage of FAADE reports made against paid subscribers||17.28%|
|Total unique paid users with FAADE reports||31|
|Total unique users with FAADE reports||203|
|Percentage of paid users with FAADE reports against them||15.27%|
|Total number of reported FAADE user IDs that have been deleted or deactivated||30|
|COUNTA of Gender||AVERAGE of Age||COUNTA of Gender||AVERAGE of Age|