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How to Build a Life
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Naming Your Shadow Belief
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Estimated Time to Complete: 25 minutes
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Instructions:
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Naming our shadow belief will be critical both for the rest of our values exercise, and useful when we start executing on plans and trying to overcome obstacles.
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Process:
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If there was one negative tape that plays in your head more than any other, what would it be? Write it down.
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Are there certain activities, relationships, settings, or situations that trigger that tape more than others? If so, are they avoidable?
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As you complete the values exercise, ask yourself whether any of the values you choose are a function of you trying to prove to yourself the shadow belief is false. If so, ask yourself if it will lead to compulsive behavior or overweighting that value.
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If you do decide to keep that value, identify some strategies you can employ to prevent you from going overboard with it.
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