You can find help for your dilemmas or problems in various places.  You can go to advice columns in newspapers and on line; you can turn to friends and relatives for suggestions, or you can talk to someone you trust and respect for help with various problems.  These places will give you advice on various levels.  There is the could level with options.  Then there is the should level that recommends action, and finally, there is the MUST or HAVE GOT TO level that demands you do something.  Use these levels of suggestion with the questions below and give some good advice.