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About Dr. Emerson Eggerichs�

• Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is the author of the “Love & Respect” series of books and the president of Love and Respect Ministries.
• Happily married to his wife Sarah, with whom he has lived in a happy marriage for almost half a century.

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The book is divided into three main sections:�

• PART ONE: THE CRAZY CYCLE

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• PART TWO: THE ENERGIZING CYCLE

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• PART THREE: THE REWARDED CYCLE

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THE CRAZY CYCLE

• The Crazy Cycle is summed up this way: WITHOUT LOVE, SHE REACTS WITHOUT RESPECT. WITHOUT RESPECT, HE REACTS WITHOUT LOVE.

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THE CRAZY CYCLE

THE CRAZY CYCLE

• If you are in a relationship and you have a lot of arguments with your partner, there’s a high chance that this is due the fact that you think that she doesn’t respect you (if you are a man) or that he doesn’t love you (if you are a woman).

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PART TWO: THE ENERGIZING CYCLE

• The only way to stop the Crazy Cycle spinning is to reverse it!
• Because just the way a woman’s disrespect demotivates a man’s love and vice versa,

PART TWO: THE ENERGIZING CYCLE

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• WIVES ARE MADE TO LOVE, WANT TO LOVE, AND EXPECT LOVE. 

WHEN A WIFE FEELS UNLOVED, IT IS ESPECIALLY HARD TO RESPECT HER HUSBAND”.

• HUSBANDS ARE MADE TO BE RESPECTED, WANT RESPECT, AND EXPECT RESPECT”.

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• “WHEN A HUSBAND FEELS DISRESPECTED, IT IS ESPECIALLY HARD TO LOVE HIS WIFE.

• “Often, we focus on our own needs and simply overlook the needs of the other person”.

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Two strategies

• Two strategies to energize the cycle of marriage: C-O-U-P-L-E for the men, and C-H-A-I-R-S for the women.

THE DICTIONARY OF WOMEN

Relationship is spelled

C-O-U-P-L-E

�C-O-U-P-L-E: HOW TO SPELL LOVE TO YOUR WIFE�

• Closeness: She wants you to be close.�Openness: She wants you to open up to her.�Understanding: Don’t try to fix her; just listen.�Peacemaking: She wants you to say, “I’m sorry.”�Loyalty: She needs to know you’re committed.�Esteem: She wants you to honor and cherish her.

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THE DICTIONARY OF MEN

Relationship is spelled

and in the dictionary of men, it is spelled

C-H-A-I-R-S

C-H-A-I-R-S: How to Spell Respect to Your Husband�

• CONQUEST: Appreciate his desire to work and achieve.�HIERARCHY: Appreciate his desire to protect and provide.�AUTHORITY: Appreciate his desire to serve and to lead.�INSIGHT: Appreciate his desire to analyze and counsel.�RELATIONSHIP: Appreciate his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder friendship.�SEXUALITY: Appreciate his desire for sexual intimacy.

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YOUR JOB, REGARDLESS OF YOUR SPOUSE’S DOINGS?

• TO “BE THE FIRST TO ‘SEEK PEACE AND PURSUE IT’ (1 PETER 3:11).”

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PART THREE: THE REWARDED CYCLE�

• The cycle where both partners uncover the real reason why they should love.
• The rewarded cycle is the cycle where “His love blesses regardless of her respect, and her respect blesses regardless of his love.”

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• The Rewarded Cycle deals with the unconditional dimension of loving and respecting your spouse no matter the circumstance.�

PART THREE: THE REWARDED CYCLE

• Though your spouse do not deserve love and respect, you will not become an unloving and disrespectful person in reaction to them.

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A HUSBAND SAYS,�

• “I will put on love toward you because I am really loving Christ. I will obey Ephesians 5:33 that commands me to love because I love the Lord. I am showing my love for God as I put on love for you.

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A WIFE SAYS,�

• “I will put on respect toward you because I am really reverencing Christ.  I will obey Ephesians 5:33 that commands me to put on respect because I reverence the Lord. I am showing my reverence for God as I put on respect for you.”

�PART THREE: THE REWARDED CYCLE�

Key Lessons from “Love & Respect”�

• 1.      The Crazy Cycle is the No Love/No Respect Doom of All Marriages�2.      A Woman Wants to Be in a
• C-O-U-P-L-E�3.      A Man Needs His C-H-A-I-R-S

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INCONCLUSION

• THE REWARDED CYCLE WILL DEEPEN YOUR LOVE AND REVERENCE FOR CHRIST AS YOU RENDER LOVE AND RESPECT TO YOUR SPOUSE AS UNTO HIM. REMEMBER, IN THE ULTIMATE SENSE, YOUR MARRIAGE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR SPOUSE. IT HAS EVERYTHING TO DO WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO JESUS CHRIST.

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