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Inclusion Wellbeing & Equalities Professional Learning Framework

Being Restorative – Part 1A

Level – Informed 

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Interconnectivity

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Being Restorative��Part 1A

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Why be restorative?

“Every day, in lots of different ways, our students ask do I matter to you, do you notice me, do I belong here? And, if we aren’t careful – because actions speak louder than words – the answer will be seen in the behaviours that play out. It’s not always what we say or what we do, but how we do it and how students end up feeling.”

Mark Finnis, 2021

Independent Thinking in Restorative Thinking

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Developing a restorative mindset

Starter Activity - Picture the scene

David arrived at school 15 minutes late and wearing white trainers. He was greeted with a pointy finger to the chest.

“Why are you late and where are your black shoes?”

“F@*$ off” was the response.

How would you respond?

David was sent to his PT Pupil Support and along the way he told 3 more people to do the same.

David was excluded for 3 days.

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Developing a restorative mindset

David’s story cont. – This is a lesson in knowing our learners well

Knowing what you know now - How would you respond?

  • All behaviour is communication

  • All behaviour is nothing more than a display of unmet needs

  • The simplest way to change the behaviour is to address the unmet needs

  • Children who are loved at home come into school to learn

  • Children who aren’t loved at home come into school to be loved

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Developing a restorative mindset

Key Principles:

  • Connect before content
  • Model what you teach
  • 1% Principle
  • Empathy not Sympathy
  • Make regular deposits into the social capital bank
  • Strike when the iron is cold
  • Staff wellbeing (addressed in session 2)

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Activity – How do I…?

In pairs discuss:

  • How do you connect with learners?
  • What do you not want to model for your learners?
  • What small ‘wins’ you could potentially make?
  • Think of a time when you’ve shown empathy – what impact did it have?
  • In what ways can you build up credit in the social capital bank?
  • What strategies do you use to avoid: reacting in the moment, shame/embarrassment?

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Culture: Social Discipline Window

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Culture: Social Disciple Window

A restorative culture involves:

  • mutual respect and appreciation
  • belief in people’s ability to solve their own problems
  • empathetic/active listening
  • giving people a chance to tell their story
  • acceptance of diversity
  • an inclusive approach (particularly to problem solving)

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Culture & Relationships

  • Culture by default or design?

  • We create a sense of belonging
  • We recognise relationships are two way
  • We build goodwill during the good times
  • We work together
  • Every child (and adult) has a champion

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Adult Behaviour – being restorative!

We can all behave in a restorative way by demonstrating that we can:

  • understand another person’s behaviour (NB All behaviour is communication)
  • reflect on our own behaviour
  • have self-compassion, empathy and compassion for others
  • find solutions to disagreements and potential conflicts
  • ‘think together’ to develop our openness to alternative ways of thinking and potentially new ways of behaving

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Culture & Relationships

  • Culture by default or design?
  • We create a sense of belonging
  • We recognise relationships are two way
  • We build goodwill during the good times
  • We work together
  • Every child (and adult) has a champion

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Every child needs a champion

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The Restorative Hierarchy of Approaches

Restorative

responses to

more serious issues

A range of restorative responses to

day to day situations, conflicts and

anti-social behaviour.

Restorative pedagogy: Social skills learning.

Building social confidence and a sense of social responsibility.

Identifying and addressing what everyone needs.

Restorative values, thinking, and language evident in practice

Focus on relationships and social/community cohesion

INTENSIVE (Repairing harm)

Restorative Justice Forums

Conferences (Eg. Family Group, Community, Mediation)

Restorative Meetings (in a range of contexts)

TARGETED (Managing difficulties and disruption)

Restorative conversations: informal and formal

Problem-solving circles

UNIVERSAL (Developing social and emotional capacity)

At Home

In Classrooms and Educational Settings

In Community Settings

Adapted from Restoring Safe School Communities (Morrison, 2007) and Implementing Restorative Practices in Schools (Thorsborne & Blood, 2013)

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Restorative Values, Thinking & Language

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Restorative Values – building the foundations

  • promote relationship building, conflict resolution and reconciliation
  • create environments where social learning and personal development can be supported
  • embrace qualities such as open-minded thinking, compassion, empathy, perseverance and cultural sensitivity

Values Behaviour

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What does the behaviour driven by restorative values look like? Some ideas. We:

  • listen, with purpose, to children and young people
  • understand and respond to behaviour in a child friendly and holistic way
  • show unconditional positive regard
  • help children to understand the impact of their actions and behaviours
  • focus on inclusion, wellbeing, and addressing barriers to learning rather than punitive processes
  • proactively develop responses to support learners wellbeing
  • proactively develop responses for those who may be at risk of disengaging or of being excluded
  • model the behaviour we wish to see

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Restorative Thinking: 5 key themes

Theme 1 Understanding that everyone has their own unique and equally valued perspective

Theme 2 Knowing that thoughts influence emotions and emotions influence actions

Theme 3 Having and showing empathy and consideration

Theme 4 Identifying needs and unmet needs

Theme 5 Supporting a culture of collective responsibility for problem solving and decision making

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Theme 4: Needs – Why I’m rude?

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NURTURE - All Behaviour is Communication & �the TRAUMA Link

NB. Inappropriate behaviour can be a response to trauma

A few point to remember from Trauma Informed Practice:

  • Our bodies may display a physiological response to trauma in response to fear and threat
  • Physically this could include increased heart rate, sweating, shaking, needing the toilet, difficulties sleeping, or changes in eating habits
  • Psychologically this could include re-triggering trauma memories, flashbacks or intrusive thoughts
  • Our bodies will naturally go into flight, fight, freeze or fawn responses in order to try to avoid further trauma.
  • This could then result in avoidance of people or places, mistrust of people, under or over reliance on others, and behaviour reactions that are inappropriate or over-reactive.

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Language Matters

‘The language we use creates the reality we experience’

Whittaker, 2021: 66

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Restorative Language – words work!!

  • Our words are not neutral. Our words can be helpful or harmful.

  • The Language we use can open up possibilities and opportunities or close down opportunities and communication.

  • Language patterns, vocabulary and ways of talking can shift the emotional state of the listener (Mahoney, 2003: viii).

  • Restorative language and having restorative conversations can generate opportunities for listening and participation, co-operation, build an awareness of social responsibility, and sensitively recognise social and cultural differences.

  • Language creates CULTURE.

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How to speak in a restorative and relational way:

  • showing empathy and being attuned to the other person,
  • being as neutral as possible,
  • using non-judgemental language
  • using solution-orientated language if problem solving is needed.

Please stop running

I need you to walk in the corridor, thanks

If you don’t finish your work now, you’ll have to do it at break

You can choose to finish your work in 5 minutes or now

Stop doing that

What should you be doing?

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Activity:

How could you change these sentences/statements so that they become relationship/need/restorative focussed?

You’re late, see me at the end

Don’t talk when I’m talking

Tell me the truth

Don’t forget:

  • be as neutral as possible
  • be non-judgemental language

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Possible responses:

  • showing empathy and being attuned to the other person
  • being as neutral as possible
  • using non-judgemental language
  • using solution-orientated language if problem solving is needed

You’re late, see me at the end

Glad you are here, I was concerned when I didn’t see you,

I’ll catch up with you during

Don’t talk when I’m talking

I’m glad you want to contribute and I’ll definitely give you

a chance but first I’ll finish explaining this to everyone,

hopefully you can hold on until then

Tell me the truth

I’m keen to know what happened from your perspective. I’m listening

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Language matters…

When talking about, or in front of, a child, a class, a parent, a family or even colleagues….

Challenging behaviour

Distressed behaviour (what’s causing the distress?)

Attention seeking

Attention needing (what do they need?)

Won’t behave

Can’t behave (do they know how to behave?)

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Activity:

How could you change these sentences/statements so that they become relationship/need/restorative focussed?

Don’t forget to be as neutral as possible and to use non-judgemental language

They are a difficult class

They are kicking off again

There was no reason why they did that

They are just plain lazy

Their behaviour is unacceptable

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Language matters… - possible responses!

When talking about, or in front of, a child, a class, a parent, a family or even colleagues….

They are a difficult class

Some pupils in the class need help to stay on task at times but they are making progress

They are kicking off again

At the moment the class is struggling to settle to the work of the day. I’m hopeful that we can all get back on track soon

There was no reason why they did that

I know there will be a reason behind this but at the moment I’m not sure what it was. I’m sure when they are able we’ll be able to talk about it

They are just plain lazy

They sometimes need a prompt or some help to make get started with their work. We’ll need to have a chat about what would help them better progress

Their behaviour is unacceptable

They need help at times to know what behaviour is helpful for learning and what isn’t. Perhaps as a class we should talk about what things help everyone in the class be able to get on with their work and what they find doesn’t help

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Three Step Process -> Thoughts to Relationships

        • Thoughts to language
        • Language to reality
        • Reality to relationships

What’s in a word? Everything!

‘Changing one piece of language might not change the world but it might change the world for one student.’ (Whittaker, 2021: 67) 

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We can all try to be restorative in:��our values��our thinking��our language

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And Finally,�Get to know your learners�Try to understand what their behaviour means�Try to identify underlying needs

  • Do you truly believe ‘all behaviour is communication’?
  • Will you be a needs and behaviour detective?

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Homework

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Reflection

From what you have learned so far, think about:

  • How has this made you feel?
  • What has this made you think about?
  • What one action would you like to take forward?
  • How can you link what you plan to do with others in your setting?
  • How will you know that this learning has made a difference?

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