GENERAL

PLAY PARTY TIPS

ORIGINALLY CREATED BY THE INCREDIBLE QUEEN MELODY OF

SD BAD INTENTIONS,

UPDATED FOR HAUS OF WOE 2024

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Rules

• Respect one another
• All inclusive this is for all genders, sexual identifying orientations, and dynamics
• Consent is key here if you don't have permission keep your hands to yourself and DO NOT TOUCH. This includes people and their items. If someone wishes for you to not engage with them, respect their decision and leave them alone this includes simple conversation. Consent can be taken away at any point for any reason. This applies to everyone no matter what.
• Do not interrupt anyones scene stay 1 foot away from rug and beds to prevent interruption and injury while the scene is happening. Do not engage with others during their scene by asking questions or making loud comments.
• All scenes must be contained within the given space
• Respect the equipment and space, treat it with respect, wipe down equipment and pick up your trash.
• NO GLITTER EVER
• No nudity near food
• All drink containers must have a resealable lid on them
• We have a zero tolerance policy for any and all illegal substances. Don’t fucking do it, instantly thrown out and permanently banned from all future events.

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There are NO ins and outs allowed

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The safeword for this party will be RED for everyone so our DM’s can make sure everyone is safe

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• No Breath play
• Edge Play must be pre approved by DM and must have all proper safety equipment to include tarps, first aid equipment, and sharps containers
• No solo masturbation at the party. Masturbation can be a part of a negotiated scene, but don’t be a creep jerking off in the shadows.
• Penetration is allowed use puppy pads and condoms and wipe down equipment and clean up after yourselves (littles and bar room are the only rooms restricted from sexual activity)
• Smoking is only allowed in designated smoking area behind Agony (Tobacco Products Only)
• Phones and photos are only allowed in the bar area.
• This event is BYOB all alcohol must be brought in sealed containers
• Drink responsibly Bartender, DM’s, Staff, and Hosts can cut you off at any point if they feel you are too inebriated or for the safety of yourself and others. Please plan your transportation accordingly.
• All alcohol containers must remain on premisses and can not be taken home. If you do not wish to part with your remaining alcohol by the end of the night it's best kept in your vehicle.
• You are not Guaranteed play at this event.
• This is not a pay for play party and we don’t allow any play in exchange for payment.
• You can be removed from this event at any time for breaking rules or violating consent. If the situation is deemed serious enough legal action may be taken.

Party Etiquette

• Unless you are a DM do not interrupt a scene.
• Give the scene participants plenty of space.
• Do not make them feel too crowded.
• Also some impact toys can hit you in the face if you’re too close.
• Do not talk to the people doing the scene unless they talk to you first
• This could be their intimate time, and they may not want to socialize.
• NO MEANS NO. Say thank you and move on.
• Don’t touch anyone or anyone’s toys, clothing, gear or items without clear consent.

Scene Negotiation

• Always have a safe word.
• Talk about hard limits and soft limits:
• Hard limits are absolute “NO-GOs”
• Soft limits are negotiable based on the dominant and scene.
• Don’t ever assume that sex or sexual touching is automatically consensual!
• Always ask before the scene.
• Do not negotiate this or anything else in scene!
• Negotiate an agreeable aftercare procedure.
• Don’t abandon people when they’re in a vulnerable state.

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Impact Zones

• Green Zone - Safe Zone
• Yellow Zone - Low Risk Zone. Be Cautious
• Orange Zone - High Risk Zone. There are important bones, nerves, and organs here with little muscle to protect them. Impact here is highly dangerous and could cause internal bleeding or nerve damage.
• Hot Pink/Red Zone - Do not go here!

Troubleshooting: Things to Look For...

• Their shoulders don’t relax after impact
• It may be too intense for their body. If this goes on for a minute or more check to see if they’re ok.
• Their whole body is shaking and won’t stop shaking
• This can be a sign of shock if it is not orgasm related. Check on them if the scene is only impact or rope.
• They feel numbness in hands or feet
• This can be a sign of constricted nerves. Check on all restraints!
• Dizziness can be a sign of dehydration or other conditions.
• Ideally medical history especially for diabetes, high/ low blood pressure, heart conditions and vertigo.

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