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Relationships are the source of all power

One on ones are the tool to build relationships

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Purpose:

to have a natural, intentional, but uncommon conversation about values, vision, life, and motivations with someone you want to be in a public relationship with

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Objectives

Build a public relationship

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Objectives

Build a public relationship
Uncover self-interest

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Objectives

Build a public relationship
Uncover self-interest
Clarity for the person being 1-1’ed

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Objectives

Build a public relationship
Uncover self-interest
Clarity for the person being 1-1’ed
Obtain Information

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What You Need to Bring

Courage to direct the conversation

Curiosity to want to deeply know the person’s experiences and relationships

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Demonstration

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Demonstration Debrief

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A Good One on One …

… means being willing to direct the conversation
… means being disciplined about time
… is mostly a one-way conversation

~ 80% of the time should be you listening

… goes deep into self interest. Listen to their story!

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Opinions

Facts

Beliefs

Hopes

Fears

Why?

Stories

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Outline

30-45 minutes
Schedule in advance
Face to face
Respectful, probing questions
Don’t take notes during the 1 on 1

Do write important points later!

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A One on One is NOT a …

Needs assessment
Survey
Chit-chat
Psychoanalysis
Sales pitch

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Public vs. Private Relationship

We do one-on-ones to build public relationships
These are not the same as private relationships
Public relationships can still be deep.
Use your self-interest as a guide to build public relationships

Relationships ---------------------> POWER!

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Let’s Practice

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One on One Practice

Find a partner

Preferably someone from a different region/who you haven’t interacted with yet

Spend 10 minutes having a 1-1 interaction

Then, switch roles, and spend 10 minutes on that interaction

Be natural, but take this seriously

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Now switch!

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One on One Practice

Find a partner

Preferably someone from a different region/who you haven’t interacted with yet

Spend 10 minutes having a 1-1 interaction

Then, switch roles, and spend 10 minutes on that interaction

Be natural, but take this seriously

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Let’s talk about it!

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Discussion

How did it feel to actually do a one-on-one?

How was that different from having it done to you?
How was it different from the demonstration?

Were you able to uncover the other person’s self-interest?

What was easy? What was hard?

How do you think you can use this skill to build power?

Can you use this to build your local SNaHP chapter?

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Commitments

Reflect on everything that we have learned today!

Make a goal to do one-on-ones and build power in your region!

On the sheet in front of you, indicate if you can:

☐ Conduct five (5) one-on-ones with your peers this semester

☐ Help build or strengthen a local SNaHP chapter

☐ Participate in more organizing training

☐ Commit three hours per month to SNaHP organizing