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The 5 Love Languages For Teens

Sha Hammond Barnes, Facilitator

Dr. Alysha Thomas, Co-facilitator

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Did you know????

The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman has been written for children, teens, and couples and over 12 million copies of the book sold!

Empowers people to communicate more effectively in ALL types of relationships!

Key learning for you today will be that you will learn the significance of your primary love languages and how to get others to understand what you need to feel loved/valued in your most important relationships and also to help you identify other people’s primary love languages as well.

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Let’s begin our journey to learning about the 5 Love languages

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WHAT ARE THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES?

WORDS OF AFFIRMATION

QUALITY TIME

ACTS OF SERVICE

RECEIVING GIFTS

PHYSICAL TOUCH

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Does anyone know or want to guess what the #1 Love Language is ???

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WORDS OF AFFIRMATION!!!

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WHAT IS YOUR #1� LOVE LANGUAGE???

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WHAT IS YOUR #2� LOVE LANGUAGE???

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Question #3 ��Just being nosey lil ol’ me…��What is your LOWEST ranking or LEAST used Love Language?��

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DRUM ROLL PLEASE…

In this group, the #1 Love Language is:

In this group, the #2 Love Language is:

And the lowest ranking Love language in this group is:

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Now, let’s take a closer look at each of these Love Languages

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#1 ��WORDS� �of�� AFFIRMATION

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What do Words of Affirmation look like in motion?

You are refueled by hearing praise and thanks.

You want to hear how much you mean to the people you love. It’s not so much time alone or doing nice things for you, instead you want to hear “I love you” and “I love having you in my life” or “I’m so glad you’re my child”.

It is the words that help you to feel appreciated, encouraged and validated. Any words of encouragement, love, and tenderness is the way that a teen with this love language will feel appreciated.

You respond positively to both written and verbal encouragement. So cute little notes work as well as spoken words for you!

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#2 QUALITY TIME

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What does Quality Time look like to the Receiver?

You need to feel that you are more important to them than what is going on around you.

You feel loved and appreciated if the other person has their mind on you alone, distractions-free and truly listening to you without thinking of other things.

If your primary love language is quality time, then you crave undivided attention when engaging with others. The key to this love language involves receiving undivided attention.

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#3�� ACTS �of �SERVICE

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Acts of Service in motion

If you have this love language as primary, you most appreciate it when things are done for you.

You love it when people help ease the burden of your responsibilities like help with homework, make your bed, or pick you up after track practice.

If acts of service are to be expressions of this love language, they must be done with a positive, caring attitude.

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#4 �RECEIVING GIFTS…what most people think it is

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But what RECEIVING GIFTS REALLY IS…

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Receiving Gifts looks like this is action:

People with this language feel especially loved and valued when they receive gifts.

Gifts can be purchased or made. Sometimes they can be as simple as a loved one purchasing your favorite bag of chips when they go to the store.

It is the thought and the frequency which count, not the cost.

Also, people with this love language are known for giving the best gifts!

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And �#5 PHYSICAL TOUCH

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Physical Touch as a Love Language

Teens with this as a primary love language are going to love receiving hugs, pats on the back, thoughtful touches on the arm, a kiss on the forehead, or a gentle touch on the face. To you, physical touch is a way to show love, care, and excitement.

Gentle acts of physical contact throughout the day such laying your head on your best friend's shoulder, sitting closely next to a person so that your body touches at some point like at your knee, repeated tapping on the listener when you are speaking to them, shaking a person’s wrist or you hugging their arm when talking to the other person can all be behaviors of people with this love language.