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through it.

We’ve

got to go

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HELP!

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Calming an upset student

We’re Going on a Bear Hunt,

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We’re going on a Bear Hunt

“It’s a beautiful day”

“We’re not scared”

“We’ve got to go through it”

Think Win Win

  • All behavior is communication
  • This approach builds trust
  • Unconditional positive regard

Be Proactive

  • Adults remain calm
  • Don’t take it personal
  • “Be a light not a judge. Be a model not a critic”- Covey

Begin with the End in Mind

  • You can’t avoid the work
  • You have to do it more than once
  • Feel your feelings

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We’re going on a Bear Hunt

“It’s a beautiful day”

“We’re not scared”

“We’ve got to go through it”

Think Win Win

  • All behavior is communication
  • This approach builds trust
  • Assume positive intent

Be Proactive

  • Adults remain calm
  • Don’t take it personal
  • “Be a light not a judge. Be a model not a critic”- Covey

Begin with the End in Mind

  • You can’t avoid the work
  • You have to do it more than once
  • Feel your feelings

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Think

Think Win Win

I’m here to help.

You are safe.

Tell me what you want.

I notice you

  • are breathing very fast
  • are holding your shoulders like this
  • etc

Can I sit with you?

Would you like some water?

What can I do to help?

Having big feelings can be scary.

Thinking Win-Win during a meltdown means letting go of the power struggle. Now is not the time to focus on consequences or the details of the issue. It’s the time to focus on relationship and trust.

SILENCE- and be present

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We’re going on a Bear Hunt

“It’s a beautiful day”

“We’re not scared”

“We’ve got to go through it”

Think Win Win

  • All behavior is communication
  • This approach builds trust
  • Assume positive intent

Be Proactive

  • Adults remain calm
  • Don’t take it personal
  • “Be a light not a judge. Be a model not a critic”- Covey

Begin with the End in Mind

  • You can’t avoid the work
  • You have to do it more than once
  • Feel your feelings

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Be Proactive

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It all starts before

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Be Proactive

In the moment of the meltdown we provide:

  • safety
  • consistency
  • predictability
  • scripts
  • visuals
  • simple words (if any)
  • observations
  • curiosity

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We’re going on a Bear Hunt

“It’s a beautiful day”

“We’re not scared”

“We’ve got to go through it”

Think Win Win

  • All behavior is communication
  • This approach builds trust
  • Assume positive intent

Be Proactive

  • Adults remain calm
  • Don’t take it personal
  • “Be a light not a judge. Be a model not a critic”- Covey

Begin with the End in Mind

  • You can’t avoid the work
  • You have to do it more than once
  • Feel your feelings

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Begin with the End in Mind

Social emotional skills can be taught and practiced like any other skill.

Socia

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yourself and others

Seek first

to understand…

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?