THE Difference Between

Self-Concept and Self-Esteem

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Definitions

• Self-concept: Picture or perception of ourselves
• Self Esteem: Feelings we have about ourselves

• Self-ideal: The way we would like to be

Positive Self-Concept

I can do anything I really want to do.

I have definite strengths and abilities.

I am an okay person.

I see myself as being as good as my friends.

There are many ways to solve a problem.

Negative Self-Concept

Why try? I could never do it anyway.

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I am not nearly as good as my friends.

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I am a jerk.

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I knew my plans would not work.

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I cannot do anything right.

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• On a piece of paper write down the percentage of how much you believe in yourself. 100%? 75%? 50%?

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• What are you achieving with that percentage?

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• What would happen if you believed in yourself 25% more?

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Dreams and self belief are free.

You can take all you want and walk away.

How much do you believe in yourself?

How is self-concept build & destroyed

Building

Find a good role model

Praise & compliments

Focus on the positive

Keep criticism to a minimum

Set & achieve goals

Destroyed

Comparing yourself to others

Putting yourself down

Drug abuse

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Tips for Building Self Esteem

1. Associate with people who build.
2. Build others, sincere compliments.
3. Set and achieve goals.
4. Eat correctly, look your best.
5. Observe self-confident people.
6. Ask for help.
7. Improve yourself, learn something new.
8. Do not say negative things about yourself.
9. Think positively.

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How do values and morals fit into feeling good about yourself?

• Knowing yourself is a prerequisite to a good self esteem
• Discover your values – a value is something you strongly believe in
• Live by what you value – the closer your values come to your actions the happier you will be.

You become

which you think

about most.

Seeks change

Has Sense of humor

Willing

to try

new things

Believe strongly in own values

Is not

a threat

to others

Keeps their word

Accept

failure

Leader

to

others

Good

Self

Esteem

Advant

ages

of a good Self Esteem

Who has contributed to your self esteem?��(play clip from lion King)

As I See

Myself

Other’s Reactions

to Me

As Others

See Me

My Actions

Self-Concept Circle

1. The

person I

think I am.

2. The person

others

think I am.

3. The person others think I think I am.

No one can

Make you feel

inferior Without

your Consent.

Eleanor Roosevelt

• Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you can’t change. Be more accepting of others and the things they can’t change.

• Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair. You may compare their strengths with your weaknesses. Judge yourself in terms of your own growth

– We expect too much from ourselves. Perfection is not possible but bettering ourselves should be a lifetime goal. We grow with models who appear to be perfect at everything. Hero’s are good to look at but they have their problems too.

Have Realistic Expectations

Emphasize your strengths.

• Change what can be changed. Some things fast, others gradual, and others never. There are things we inherit but we can change our attitude about it. Try new experiences.

My Best Friend

Would you take better care of yourself?

Would you be kinder to yourself?

Would you be more forgiving of your human imperfections?

If you realized your best friend was yourself?

Who is always with you everywhere?

Who is on your side when others are unfair?

And tell me, who will never let you down in any situation?

Who will always see you get your share?

And that’s why I’m a best friend to myself.

And I take me out whenever I feel low.

And I make my life as happy as a best friend would

I’m as nice to me as anyone I know!

Practice thinking positive and accept compliments. Just say “thank you”. Give compliments to others. It makes you feel good.

Activity:

Face & look at the person next to you. One is “A” and the other is “B”.

• “A” says to “B”: “you are absolutely, undeniably a remarkable person/student/etc”. “B” responds with “thank you”.

• Reverse it: But “B” puts on a attitude with it and says: “you are absolutely, undeniably a remarkable person, etc.”. “A” responds with: “you got that right honey”.

• There are two different people in the world. One that says “I wish I had” and the one that says “I’m glad I did”.

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• Remember you can have anything in this world if you just believe in yourself.

• List your “I can’t” characteristics on a sheet of paper.
• Add things your parents say you do wrong.
• Add things others say you do wrong.
• How do you feel?
• RIP (shred) your paper
• Treat yourself in honor of the occasion. (I’m glad I’m me!)

“Rest in Peace: The I Can’t Funeral”

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“The decision you make to love yourself is the most important decision you will ever make.”