Relationships & Domestic Violence
Learning Opportunities For LINC Levels 3-4
About this Resource
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What’s in this resource?
Learning opportunities for the LINC classroom in the form of:
Additional blackline master for teachers with resources and worksheets
Canadian Language Benchmarks
This document offers skill building tasks on the theme of:
This resource suggests real world task assessments with corresponding CLB competencies for listening/speaking/reading
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2. Content slides
Suggestions for using the content slides:
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There are two types of slides in this presentation:
The Team
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Afghan Women’s Organization
Funded by
Maha Amin
Hala Bastawros
Kristine Corbet
Ontario Institute for the Studies of Education
Funded by
Dr. Antoinette Gagné
Dr. Dania Wattar
Krystal Selbee
Wesal Abu Qaddum
This Resource is the result of collaboration between different professionals and organizations
Table of Contents
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Learning Outcomes
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Identify healthy vs unhealthy relationships
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How to support healthy relationships
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How to take action in a domestic violence situation
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Laws related to domestic violence
Describe and define different kinds of domestic violence
Real World Task Suggestions for CLB Competencies Levels 3 & 4
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LINC Teachers vs CNC
LINC teachers work with adults (18+) and as such are not responsible for immediately reporting signs of domestic violence to any authorities. In fact, reporting without the students permission could put them in danger.
Rather, build a safe and trusting relationship with your student and advocate for her when liaising with a settlement working, social worker or victims services.
CNC work with vulnerable youth under the age of 18. Child care workers are required by law to follow the protocol mandated by their professional college. This may include the immediate reporting on signs of abuse or neglect.
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Healthy Relationships
What do they look, feel and sound like?
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Warm-up
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Please be advised that the content to follow is sensitive and may be triggering to some individuals
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“A healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice your friends, your dreams or your dignity”
-Dinkar Kalotra
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http://immigrantandrefugeenff.ca/
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Sourced from: http://immigrantandrefugeenff.ca/
Multi-language cards: http://www.immigrantandrefugeenff.ca/safe-and-loved-at-home-cards
Languages available include; Arabic, Tamil, Urdu, Dari, Spanish, Somali, Pashtu,
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Story Share
*When retelling the story use your own words. Don’t read from the paper
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Story Share
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Healthy Relationships
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I see |
I hear | I feel |
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Sharing Responsibilities
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Shared Responsibilities
Wife’s
Responsibilities
Husband’s Responsibilities
Healthy Relationships
Sourced from: https://www.loveisrespect.org/for-someone-else/is-my-relationship-healthy-quiz
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“Every good relationship, especially marriage, is based on respect. If it’s not based on respect, nothing that appears to be good will last very long” – Amy Grant
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Healthy Relationships are...
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Honesty Activity
A: Tell your partner 3 facts about your life
Tell 2 honest (true) facts and 1 lie
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I believe _____ and_____ are true.
I think ___________ is not true.
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Trust Activity
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In group of 3 students play the trust game where two people catch a person falling backward
Use the script:
A & B: Do you trust us?
C: Yes, I trust you - or - no, I don’t trust you
Reference:
http://aimtargetprograms.com/power-control-equality-wheel/
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Respectful and Effective Communication
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Good Communication is...
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Active Versus Passive Listening
Active
Passive
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Active listening is when you mirror someone’s speech
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Active listening is when you pay attention to what someone is saying
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“I language” “You language”
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Photo by Adi Goldstein on Unsplash
“You language”
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Changes these sentences to “I” statements
“I feel like I am not heard”
You Language Answer Key/Examples
“I feel like I am not heard”
“I am very stressed out right now”
“It's hard to work on this with you right now”
“Are you having fun right now?” “I am not having fun”
“I feel like it’s hard to trust you sometimes”
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Active Passive
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Active versus Passive Listening
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sibilities
Active versus Passive Listening
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Unhealthy Relationships
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Please be advised that the content to follow is sensitive and may be triggering to some individuals
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Unhealthy Relationships are when people use...
Power and control to hurt and abuse their partner
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The difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships | |
Responsible Quality time Compliments Helping the children | Careless Loneliness Insults Neglecting the children |
مسؤول وقت الجودة تكملة مساعدة الأطفال | غير مبالي الشعور بالوحدة اهانة إهمال الأطفال |
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The difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships | |
Equality Love Honesty Having friends | Inequality Abuse Lying Isolation |
المساواة حب الصدق وجود صديق | عدم المساواة إساءة/عنف يكذب وحيد |
Unhealthy Relationships
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I see |
I hear | I feel |
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Reference: https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/understand-domestic-violence/what-is-domestic-violence/controlling-relationships/power-and-control-wheel/
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Domestic Violence
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Background Knowledge
Game: Last Person Standing
Equipment: Ball
If a student doesn’t have a word or repeats a word they sit down.
Continue until there is only one person standing.
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Signs
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Video Comprehension
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Warning Signs of An Abuser
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Warning Signs for a woman
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True or False
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Please be advised that the content to follow is sensitive and may be triggering to some individuals
The content will include a list of definitions and examples considered abusive
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Types of Abuse
There are at least 9 types of abuse:
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Physical Abuse
When a person hurts someone’s body.
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Emotional Abuse
Using actions to hurt someone’s feelings.
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Verbal Abuse
Using words to hurt someone’s feelings.
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Spiritual / Religious Abuse
Using religion or spirituality to hurt someone.
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Mental Abuse
Using language and actions to make someone feel crazy.
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Digital Abuse
Using the internet (Facebook) to hurt someone.
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Sexual Abuse
Controlling someone’s body without consent.
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Economic Abuse
When the partner controls the money.
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Cultural Abuse
Using cultural beliefs or practices to hurt someone physically or emotionally.
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Reference: http://www.refuge.org.uk/files/Whats-yours-is-mine-Full-Report.pdf
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Defining Domestic Abuse
Groups of 3
2. The 2 students call out what kind of violence (i.e., financial, verbal, etc)
3. Switch so another student reads a card
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Defining Domestic Abuse Cue Cards
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What's missing?
In groups of 2
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Effects On Children
It is known that seeing family violence is as harmful as experiencing it directly.
Parents believe they can hide intimate partner violence from children from, but research tells that children see or hear many of the incidents.
Children who witness family violence experience the same consequences as those who are directly abused.
Adapted from: http://www.rcmp-grc.gc.ca/cp-pc/chi-enf-abu-eng.htm
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Cycle of Violence
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Discussion
Why does violence against women happen?
I think violence against women happens because
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Can violence against women be stopped?
Yes, I believe violence against women can be stopped if_____________________________________________________________
No, I don’t believe violence against women can be stopped because______________________________________________________
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Canadian Laws
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Programming
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Domestic Violence and Laws
Canada
Home country
← same →
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Domestic Violence and Laws
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Laws on Domestic Violence
Domestic violence is illegal in canada and is defined by the law as:
For the purposes of this Act, domestic violence means the following acts or omissions committed against an applicant, an applicant’s relative or any child:
1. An assault that consists of the intentional application of force that causes the applicant to fear for his or her safety, but does not include any act committed in self-defence.
2. An intentional or reckless act or omission that causes bodily harm or damage to property.
3. An act or omission or threatened act or omission that causes the applicant to fear for his or her safety.
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Laws on Domestic Violence
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4. Forced physical confinement, without lawful authority.
5. Sexual assault, sexual exploitation or sexual molestation, or the threat of sexual assault, sexual exploitation or sexual molestation.
6. A series of acts which collectively causes the applicant to fear for his or her safety, including following, contacting, communicating with, observing or recording any person
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What’s the difference ?
Domestic violence
Family violence
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Case scenarios
The examples provided include 3 case scenarios:
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Case Study #1
John and Lisa
John and Lisa have been married for four years. The marriage was good but everything changed one year ago. John started calling Lisa bad names. For example, he calls her stupid when she forgets to clean the dishes after dinner. Lisa started feeling unhappy with John.
In the past three months, John started slapping Lisa when she made mistakes. She decided to leave him. She was scared about calling the police because John sponsored her and she does not want to be deported back home.
Lisa’s friend told her that she will not get deported if she calls the police. Lisa now feels safe to ask the police for help. They drove together to the police station and Lisa filed a case on her husband.
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Case Study #2
Adam
Adam and his wife Rose had a fight in their home. The neighbours called the police. The police came to their house and saw that Adam had punched Rose.
Adam was arrested and sent to the police station. The next day, he went to court. The judge told him that he has to do a program called the Partner Assault Response program. Adam now has a lawyer. The lawyers gave him the information about the program and the location.
Adam has to go to the class for twelve weeks and take responsibility for his abusive actions towards his wife. In the class he is learning about healthy relationships. He could not talk to his wife until she signed a letter saying it's okay to talk to him. He has a copy of the letter in his wallet.
Adam is back with his wife and they are trying to make their marriage healthy. He is nice and loving towards Rose.
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Case Study #3
Al and Nancy
Al and Nancy have been married for six years. They have four kids. It is hard raising kids in a new country. Al is frustrated because he does not have a job.
Al and Nancy fight all the time and sometimes they fight in front of the kids. They scream at each other. One time Al said something mean to Nancy, he called her a stupid bad mom.
Al and Nancy learned about couples counselling. The counsellor can help them with their relationship issues. The counsellor can also help Al get a job in Canada.
Al and Nancy went to the counsellor. They learned about respectful and effective communication. The counsellor also offered advice on how to support each other and raise the kids together. The couple found the counselling helpful and they no longer scream at each other.
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Relationships can move up and down a continuum. They are not fixed.
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Unhealthy Relationships
Healthy Relationships
Abuse
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Effects of Domestic Violence on Children
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What to do
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What to do...
Helping a friend
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What to do...
Helping a friend
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The Importance of Naming Abuse
Naming the abuse and the abuser can help survivors of domestic violence see that it is not their fault and not their problem
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Where to get help
You can get help in an emergency, in a crisis, or anytime that you experience abuse. You can get help in many ways:
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Skimming and Scanning Exercise
Sourced from: https://www.211toronto.ca/topic/abuseassault
Search for Help
For example:
where - who - what
“toronto women’s shelters”
2. (Independently) students search online for 3 resources to help someone in an abusive situation. Students submit: the name, location, hours, telephone of the site
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Victim Services Peel
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Peel Children’s Aid
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Protects children from abuse and neglect and helps parents and caregivers build healthy families.
Services for women
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Sourced from: www.endingviolencecanada.org/getting-help/
Who can help me the best?
The following is a list of helpers and they're work:
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Who can help me the best?
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Who can help me the best?
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Who can help me the best?
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Who can help me the best?
Why?
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What to do?
If I see domestic violence I can_____________________.
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What to do?
If I hear domestic violence I can_____________________.
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What to do?
If I experience domestic violence I can_________________.
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IRCC Facilitation Guide for Gender-Based Violence Prevention
Sourced from: https://issuu.com/ymcaofgreaterhalifaxdartmouth/docs/ymca-manual-online
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High production quality (fictional) movies on the topic of domestic violence
Text created by the city of New York for ELLs
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Ontario based printable info cards in many languages (Neighbours, Friends and Families (NFF))
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Immigration, status, and domestic violence
info for frontline workers
http://www.immigrantandrefugeenff.ca/sites/d7nff.settlementtech.org/files/famvio.
Thank you !
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Blackline Master/ supplementary document
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