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Defining and Maintaining Abstinence

Presented by:

Christian

Raena

Mackenzie

Oskar

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Essential Questions:

  1. What is abstinence?

  • What are common messages and influences around abstinence?

  • How do consent and boundaries relate to abstinence?

Enduring Understanding

Abstinence varies person to person. It is more than just saying “no” to sex; it can be an important practice that relates closely to bodily autonomy, boundary setting, and values.

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What is Abstinence?

Our definition of abstinence is choosing to avoid certain sexual activities, including all sexual activities that could result in pregnancy or contracting an STI.

This includes: penetrative intercourse, oral intercourse, and genital contact

But doesn’t necessarily include: masturbation, hugging, kissing, or touching other body parts

This is only our definition of abstinence, but individuals may interpret abstinence differently based on their values, culture, or other influences in their life.

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Why might folks choose abstinence?

Physical Reasons

Emotional Reasons

Social Reasons

Spiritual Reasons

It is important to consider your own values as well as the values of your family and culture when considering abstinence. Ultimately, the decision to have sex is up to YOU.

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Common Misconceptions

Abstinence is like being a virgin……………………………………….

Abstinence is a religious thing………………………………………...

Abstinence doesn’t include oral sex or foreplay…………….

Nobody my age is abstinent…………………………………………….

Abstinence is uncool………………………………………………………...

Not really.

Sometimes.

Well...

Not true.

Nope.

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Pros and Cons of Abstinence

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Decisions and Perspectives on Abstinence

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Consent and Boundaries

Consent is voluntary and confident permission for something to happen or agreement to do something.

Why is consent important?

Who can give consent?

How do consent and abstinence relate?

Boundaries are limits a person sets to define how they will act and how they expect others to act towards them.

How can a person set boundaries?

How can a person maintain boundaries?

How do boundaries relate to abstinence?

How can a person respect another person’s boundaries and deal with rejection?

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