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Personal Relationships

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MODULE 9

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Objectives

After going through this lesson, you are expected to:

1. discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions. EsPPD11/12PR-IIa-9.1

2. express your ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment; EsP-PD11/12PR-IIa-9.2

3. identify ways to become responsible in a relationship EsP-PD11/12PR-IIb-9.3

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My Personal Views on Relationship

Communication is important in every relationship
We must love our self first before loving someone.
Good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good health
It is important to forgive the ones that we love
Our loved ones have nothing to do with our stress
Positive mindset is the tool to have a good relationship
Saying thank you is very important in every relationship
We are happy in our relationships when our loved ones allow us even the things that can harm us.

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What do we mean

by

Personal Relationships?

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Relationship is a vast and complicated concept. Personal relationship refers to the tight bonds developed between people as a result of emotional bonding and interactions.

Personal Relationships

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Family

Friends

Partnerships

3 Kinds

of

Personal Relationships

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Family

In any discussion of relationships, the concept of "family" is fundamental. However, this varies a lot from one person to the next. The bureau of the Census defines family as “two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together as one household.”

Support, mutual trust, and a sense of belonging are all common features of a family. Interactions on a regular basis, similar views and values, safety, and a sense of belonging community.

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Friends

A friendship can be defined as a strong bond formed between two people. Mutual experiences, same interests, proximity, and other factors are frequently used to form relationships.

emotional tethering

In times of need, friends can rely on one other.
It's worth noting that internet friends don't count as close ties. Study. demonstrates that having a large online network isn't nearly as effective as having a few close buddies in real life

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Partnerships

Romantic relationships like marriage are tight relationships, created between two people based on affection, trust, and respect.

Intimacy and romantic love are two things that come to me when I think of intimacy.

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25 Most Common Relationship Problems

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25 Most Common Relationship Problems

1. Affairs/ Infidelity/ Cheating. This includes emotional infidelity, onenight stands, internet relationships, long- and short-term affairs and financial infidelity.

2. Sexual issues, particularly loss of libido and including questions around your gender, or your partner’s gender.

3. Significant differences in core values and beliefs.

4. Life Stages – you have outgrown each other or have changed significantly for whatever reason.

5. Traumatic and/or Life-Changing events.

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25 Most Common Relationship Problems

6. Prolonged period of Stress – work related stress, long term illness, mental health issues, financial problems, problems with children, infertility and many more.

7. Bored in or with your relationship.

8. Dealing with a Jealous partner.

9. Having blended family issues.

10. Domestic violence, which includes verbal as well as physical abuse: The MOST serious relationship problem.

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25 Most Common Relationship Problems

11. Knowing you should not have got married in the first place!

12. Lack of responsibility regarding finances, children, health and many other issues

13. Unrealistic Expectations – still thinking your partner/ spouse is the princess/ knight and not seeing the ‘real’ human being

14. Addictions – substance abuse

15. Excessive reliance on social media, at the cost of the relationship

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25 Most Common Relationship Problems

16. Lack of support during particularly difficult times from people that matter to you

17. Manipulation or over involvement in your relationships with family or friends.

18. Lack of communication about important matters

19. Poor division of and / or one-sided lack of responsibility for chores and tasks.

20. Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration/ attentiveness: feeling that relationship is one-sided

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25 Most Common Relationship Problems

21. Significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a change in relationship dynamics

22. Long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one partner or both

23. Significant differences in opinion on how to discipline/ dealing with children

24. Long term stress, particularly when not taking responsibility for doing something positive to address the cause, or about learning to handle it if it cannot be changed.

25. An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and/or significant problems after the birth of baby.

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Ten Rules for Finding Love and Creating Long-Lasting Relationships

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1. You must love yourself first

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2. Partnering is a choice must nurture the relationship for it to thrive

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3. Creating love is a process

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4. Relationships provide opportunities to grow

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5. Communication is essential

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6. Negotiation will be required

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7. Your relationship will be challenged by change

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8. You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive

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9. Renewal is the key to longevity

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10. You will forget all this the moment you fall in love

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Keeping Healthy Relationships

In a health relationship, both partners:

Are treated with kindness and respect
Are honest with each other
Like to spend time together
Take an interest in things that are important to each other
Respect one another’s emotional, physical and sexual limits
Can speak honestly about their feelings.

Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. The relationships that you make in your youth years will be a special part of your life and will teach you some of the most important lessons about who you are. All relationships should be based on respect and honesty, and this is especially important when you decide to date someone.

How To Communicate

Talking openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying; especially when you both talk about each other’s needs for physical, emotional, mental and sexual health.
You can’t expect a partner to know what you want and need unless you tell them. The simple fact is that none of us are a mind reader – so it’s important to be open about your needs and expectations.
In a romantic relationship, it is important to communicate openly on issues of sex and sexual health. The decision to enter into a sexual relationship is entirely up to you, and you always have the right to say “no” at any time to anything that you don’t feel comfortable with. Remember, there are many ways to express love without sex.

Making the Decision

The decision of whether or not to have sex is up to you, and you alone. Therefore don’t be afraid to say “NO” if that’s how you feel.
Having sex for the first time can be a huge emotional event. There are many questions and feelings that you may want to sort out before you actually get “in the heat of the moment.”

Ask yourself:

Am I really ready to have sex?
How am I going to feel after I have sex?
Am I doing this for the right reasons?
How do I plan to protect myself/my partner from sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy?
How am I going to feel about my partner afterwards?

The best way to prepare for the decision to have sex is to become comfortable with communicating about your needs. If you don’t feel right about something, say NO!
Anyone who challenges your choices about whether or not to have sex is not giving you the respect that you deserve. Pay attention to your feelings, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for making decisions that are right for you

How to avoid peer or date pressure If you’re worried about being pressured or you are currently experiencing it, know that you are not alone and there is something you can do about it

Hang out with friends who also believe that it’s OK to not be ready for sex yet
Go out with a group of friends rather than only your date
Introduce your friends to your parent
Invite your friends to your home
Stick up for your friends if they are being pressured to have sex
Think of what you would say in advance in case someone tries to pressure you.
Always carry money for a phone call or cab in case you feel uncomfortable
Be ready to call your parents or a friend to pick you up if you need to leave a date
Never feel obligated to “pay someone back” with sex in return for a date or gift
Say “NO” and mean “NO” if that’s how you feel.

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Feel free to ask questions!

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ASSIGNMENT

If the world will end tomorrow, what is that one thing that you will bring with you?�Bring it to the class tomorrow. (NO GADGETS)

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