22 Manner Cards to Help You Teach Etiquette
“Because Etiquette Matters”
Manners for Kids
How Can I help You?
Good Manners Table of Contents
Good Manners Cheatsheet
Please and Thank you |
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Greet people by name |
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When you forget someone’s name |
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Eye contact |
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Saying, “hello” |
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More than “thank you” |
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Waiting for answers |
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Offering to help |
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Elbows and napkins at table |
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Asking for something at the table |
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Getting up from the table |
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Accepting a gift |
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Accepting a gift you don’t like |
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Saying goodbye to company |
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Text messaging |
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People above technology |
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What to keep off the table |
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Seeing the people around them |
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Glass and Windows |
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Gentle Hands |
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Eat off own plate and the “no thank you” bite |
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House rules |
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A Little Manners Poem
Anonymous
Wait your turn—don’t interrupt.
If you use it, pick it up.
When you need some help, say “Please.”
Be kind and loving—never tease.
Say “Hi” when meeting someone new,
and be a friend whose words are true.
If you win a game, don’t gloat.
To thank someone, write a note.
Don’t be piggy when you eat.
And clean your space so it looks neat.
These manners are the perfect start
to showing friends you have a heart!
Rules of Civility
Memorized by George Washington
(Spelling errors intentional)
Rule # 11
Shift not yourself in the Sight of others nor Gnaw your nails.
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Rule # 2
When in Company, put not your Hands to any Part of the Body, not usually Discovered.
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Rule # 4
In the Presence of Others Sing not to yourself with a humming Noise, nor Drum with your Fingers or Feet.
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Rules of Civility
Memorized by George Washington
(Spelling errors intentional)
Rule # 89
Speak not Evil of the absent for it is unjust.
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Rule # 28
If any one come to Speak to you while you are are Sitting Stand up…
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Rule # 38
In visiting the Sick, do not Presently play the Physician if you be not Knowing therein.
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Don’t ever be afraid to ask again if you have forgotten: People understand that sometimes you forget names.
How to help your kids:
~Teach them to always greet others by their name.
~Practice forgetting at home and teaching them to say “I am so sorry, I can’t remember you name, could you please remind me.”
~Practice. Practice is key.
Greet someone by their name if you know it and ask them if you don’t.
Greeting someone by name is a sign of respect.
It also indicates that the person is valued.
Because of this, teach children to always greet an adult by the requested name or ask if they don’t know it.
How to help your kids.
~Practice this at home, especially before you are going anywhere to be around people.
Greet by Name
Everyone Forgets
Hello +
Eye Contact
Always look them in the eye.
Looking someone in the eye when you are talking with that person is a good rule for everyone, not just children.
Now, you don't have to have a staring contest, but that's fun too:)
How to help Your Kids ~practice
Add something positive to a "hello"
“It’s nice to see you.”
“I was hoping to see you today"
This allows your child to show the other person they are valued.
How to help your Kids
~ Take turns role playing.
~First you be the adult, then give them a chance to pretend
~Let them “catch you” forgetting while you practice.
“Thanks for having me:”
Whether at parties, playdates, Vacation Bible School, child care or Grandma’s house, you should teach your child to thank the person for inviting them, having them over, or taking care of them.
They will be going two steps beyond a simple thank-you as a result.
Teach kids to ask, “How are you?” ...and wait for the answer…
Being a good listener is one of the most important skills you can teach your child.
How to help your Kids
~When you practice, wait a few extra second longer than comfortable to answer.
...wait...
Beyond Thanks
Don’t touch glass
Stop and Look
Hands off the glass (Lips too)
This may seem silly, but it honors those who need to keep it clean. Teach your kids to "not touch the glass" at home, at the homes of friends, and in public.
Use handles.
Seems simple, but it needs to be taught.
Older kids should be required to clean the windows, especially if their physical lips line up to the marks on the window.
just sayin'
Be aware- Stop and Look
Kids are blissfully unaware of their surroundings. They will be perfectly still one minute, they suddenly shout "Tag you're it!" and run.
Teach kids to look at their surroundings. Are there any hazards?
Are there babies and elderly? If they were to suddenly yell or run, is there anyone that would be startled or potentially hurt?
When Our kids were little, we would have the pre-talk when we arrived anywhere.
What kinds of things would be ok, not ok here?
Eat Off Own Plate
Gentle Hands
Don’t grab
When your kids grab things, gently taking them back and start over… again and again.
Not only is it an important etiquette rule, but a safety issue.
If your child is a grabber, take back what he or she grabbed but do so gently, then nicely hand it to them again.
Do this until your child knows that it is never acceptable to grab from anyone.
Eating off of someone else’s plate – even Mom’s – isn’t a good idea
Teach your kids, even babies, to politely ask for more.
Did you know you can teach babies sign language?
Babies can communicate without whining long before they can say the words!
For baby sign/helps visit- http://www.babysignlanguage.com/dictionary/first-signs/
Don’t forget house rules
Especially when you’re away from home!
While it may be fine in your home to "ask to be excused" after they are done eating, what about when you visit a friend's home?
Teach your kids to ask, "what are your house rules?
The No-Thank-You Bite
Everyone has food that they don't care for.
"YUCK!" or "Disgusting!" is never ok to say.
Instead, teach your kids to take a no-thank-you-bite of something to be respectful.
Let them know that afterward, it is okay to politely say, “I am sorry, I don’t really care for….,” or “…is not my favorite.”
~Practice with food they like, tolerate, and HATE
No-Thank You Bite
House Rules
Can I Help?
Elbows and Napkin
“How can I help you?”
Not just for mealtime, this is a great all-around skill. It is especially polite, before or after being fed, to offer to help set or clear the table or dry the dishes.
A Better question is, "What can I do to help?"
Or my favorite comment, "Put me to work!"
~Mama, practice saying, “yes”
Napkin in your lap/elbows off the table… usually
Since children don’t always know what the house rules will be, teaching them to do these things will ensure they always err on the side of caution.
Don’t reach across the table
Reaching across people to retrieve something out of reach is not just about etiquette.
Every parent knows the frustration of a glass getting knocked over and spilling across the dinner table.
Politely asking for something to be passed can avoid hot coffee in someone’s lap, and that makes everyone happy.
Excused from the table
Teaches kids that they are not the center of the universe, but a part of one.
As soon as your child can speak, you should begin introducing him or her to the concept of excusing oneself from the table.
This is not just at the end of the meal either; it applies every time your child needs to leave the table.
Remember, the best way to teach manners is to role play!
Please Pass the __
Excuse Me...
Thank you is always appropriate
Make Eye contact
Say thank you
Add one nice comment
Magic.
Find one nice thing to say about a gift.
Never say:
“I already have this”
“I didn’t want this”
Nope! Just say thank you and add one nice comment about it.
Practice this at playtime. Give a gift, and have your child look at you and say 'thank you' and then add one nice thing, like "I can't wait to play this game!" or "I love the color."
Eye contact, thank you, plus one nice thing. Magic.
“Thank you…”
Don’t like it?
Thank you for coming
After having a friend, or family over, make sure your child walks them to the door and says "thank you for coming".
"It was wonderful to see you". or "I hope we get to do this again". work great too!
We have a family tradition that we stand and wave until the car is out of site. Kids love it:)
Mind your words: especial written ones
Make sure your children understand that words can hurt.
It seems harmless to say a cruel
thing across the internet, but it's not. It's easy to get caught up in a moment and to let your fingers fly in response.
If your kids use tech to communicate, teach them to pause.
Thanks for Coming!
Before typing
What to Keep off the Table
Anything not related to eating: toys, phones, purses, pets.
This includes snuggly blankets, favorite dinosaurs, and mom’s smartphone.
Make this a no exception rule and there won’t be an issue.
Play I spy when you're out to eat.
~How many people break this rule? How would you handle it if they were at your table?
People First
On the table?
Put your phone away in social situations
People always come first.
Teach kids to focus on one thing, rather than multi-task.
Take the advice one step further and put your own phone down so that you can be present with your children. (Tell them you are practicing)
Conversation Starters
You see someone with a physical disability
Don’t stare.
Smile! Talk to them the same way you’d talk to another person their age.
People who are physically “different from most people” are used to people being curious, but they LOVE when people look \past what’s different and treat them just like everyone else!
A Smile goes a LONG way in someone’s day
What do you do?
Playing outside and a stranger walks up?
Simple move quickly inside, lock the door behind you, and let the adult know someone is walking up to the house.
It’s ok to say nothing, even if they try to talk to you.
What do you do?
You see someone with a physical disability
Don’t stare.
Smile! Talk to them the same way you’d talk to another person their age.
People who are physically “different from most people” are used to people being curious, but they LOVE when people look \past what’s different and treat them just like everyone else!
A Smile goes a LONG way in someone’s day
What do you do?
You get lost in a store?
Stay calm. You will not be left behind.
People who can help you: store workers (look for uniforms, aprons, people behind a cash register; a mom with a few small children.
What do you do?
Conversation Starters
Is this bullying?
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