Kelso’s Choice

What is one quality you value in a friend?

Learning Intention

Show decision-making skills that improve your personal relationships by using S.T.A.R. and Kelso’s Choice.

Erik Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Stages

What do I value?

Values are a person’s beliefs or ideals that guide their actions, decisions, and behavior.

Community Circle

When you have a fight with a friend what is your favorite way to solve it? For example, talk it out, ignore it, wait and cool off, use the silent treatment, gossip, etc. What keeps kids from using Kelso’s Choice?

Kelso’s Choice

Kelso’s Choice - Gives 8 choices to help solve conflicts (fights, arguments)

I can….

1. Identify my values and how my values relate to how I treat other people.
2. Use Kelso’s Choices when I am having a small problem. 6th graders are great at solving 6th grade problems.
3. Go to an adult when someone is hurt or something is dangerous.

Is this a BIG problem or a SMALL Problem?

I am smart enough and strong enough to solve this on my own!

Is it dangerous? Could someone get hurt?

Dangerous problems - When you need a grown up for help

Real Gun

BB Gun

Toy Gun

Small Problems-Great Practice for Developing Skills

I am smart enough and strong enough to solve this on my own! I will use 2 of Kelso’s choices before getting an adult.

Scenarios

A new student named kayla has joined your class. She seems very nice, but one of your friends passes you a note saying she thinks the new girl is weird. Another friend whispers that she dresses funny. At lunch time, you notice Kayla carrying a cafeteria tray, looking for a place to eat. She comes up to your table and asks if she can sit down. One of your friends says, “We don’t have any room,” even though there is plenty of space. What do you do?

1. Look at your values and Kelso’s Wheel and talk about what you would do and why.

You’re playing baseball with a group of kids during gym class. One of your classmates, a boy named Theo, isn’t as athletic as the other kids playing. When he comes up to bat some of the kids start teasing him, shouting “Easy out! Easy out!”, “He can’t hit!”, and “he swings like a girl.” What do you do?

• Look at your values and Kelso’s Wheel and talk about what you would do and why.

Your best friend keeps cheating during the basketball game. You and your teammates tell him to stop, but he lies and says he didn’t cheat. You are frustrated.

Several girls keep starting rumors about you. They say you have said rude things about a classmate, but you didn’t. You are upset.

The person behind you keeps pushing you in line. You are angry.

Your best friend comes to school with a vape and offers you one.

The person next to you in class keeps bumping your desk and making noises while you are trying to listen to the teacher. You know that if you don’t pay attention you won’t do well on the test. You are annoyed.

You asked your parent if you could spend the night at a friend’s house. Your Mom said not unless you clean your bedroom first. You feel angry and overwhelmed because your room’s a real mess.

Your parents won’t let you play your video games until you get your homework completed.

You missed a few days of school because you were sick and when you came back you forgot to ask the teacher for your spelling list. The test is today and you didn’t study. You’re feeling very worried because you really want to do well in spelling.

Out of all of the choices on Kelso’s wheel which ones are the most important to you?

I can….

• Identify my values and how my values relate to how I treat other people.
• Use Kelso’s Choices when I am having a small problem. 6th graders are great at solving 6th grade problems.
• Go to an adult when someone is hurt or something is dangerous.

Assignment

Think of a time you used Kelso’s Choice and/or is there something happening in your life right now where Kelso’s Choice could be helpful?