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Administrator’s Guide

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Boston vs Bullies is a sports-themed bullying prevention program that provides kids ages 9-12. The program uses discussion, videos, and activities to teach effective strategies to help stop bullying.

As students transition into adolescence, it is important to keep the conversation about bullying going.

For that reason, Boston vs. Bullies created a Teen Program to include situations relevant and interesting to students ages 13-16.

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STRUCTURE

The curriculum includes 4 lessons (30-60 minutes):

  1. What is bullying?
  2. Why do teens bully?
  3. What to do if you are being bullied
  4. How to be a helpful bystander/Cyberbullying

The lessons include links to suggested videos to help students understand the effects of bullying and analyze the best ways to act when confronted by bullying. Reflection activities conclude each lesson to help the teens internalize what they have learned.

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OTHER THINGS TO NOTE

  • Review the materials and videos prior to delivering the program.
  • Delete or replace the videos if they are not appropriate for your class.
  • If you have noticed bullying or pre-bullying behavior create an additional case study to mirror the situation.
  • Include information on mental health resources your school has available.

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Lesson Focus and Goals:

  1. The effects of bullying
  2. The four types of bullying
  3. Case Studies
  4. Review
  5. Reflection Task

Lesson 1: What is bullying?

Assessment:

Write a one-page reflection on the negative effects of bullying.

You may use examples from this presentation and/or your real life.

* Please do not include any names in your reflection.

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Lesson Focus and Goals:

  • Consequences of bullying
  • Using and abusing power
  • Case Studies
  • Review
  • Reflection Task

Lesson 2: Why do teens bully?

Assessment:

Write a one-page reflection on…

  • why teens bully
  • how teens can use their power to help others

You may use examples from this presentation and/or your real life.

* Please do not include any names in your reflection.

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Lesson Focus and Goals:

  • The difference between being submissive, assertive, and aggressive
  • Ways to respond to bullying
  • Getting help
  • Review
  • Reflection Task

Lesson 3: What to do if you are being bullied

Assessment:

Write a one-page reflection on a time that you stood up for yourself. Were you assertive or aggressive? What are you proud of? What could you have done differently?

You may use examples from this presentation and/or your real life.

* Please do not include any names in your reflection.

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Lesson Focus and Goals:

  • Develop strategies to stop bullying
  • Understand the importance of a bystander in bullying prevention
  • Cyberbullying
  • Review
  • Reflection Task

Lesson 4: How to be a helpful bystander

Assessment:

Imagine that you are a witness to the ice cream bullying incident we watched earlier.

Write a script that addresses how you would support Alina and/or stand up to the people that are bullying her.

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In this short video, adults reflect on being bullied as teens.

WHAT IS IT LIKE TO BE BULLIED?

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WHAT IS BULLYING?

Purposeful

Repeated

An Abuse of Power

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4 TYPES OF BULLYING

1. Physical

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2. Verbal

4 TYPES OF BULLYING

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4 TYPES OF BULLYING

3. Relational

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4 TYPES OF BULLYING

4. Cyberbullying

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We will go over three case studies and discuss if the example is bullying, not bullying, unclear.

CASE STUDIES

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CASE STUDY #1

Lately, Jayla's friend Amy only talks about herself and her problems. Jayla is annoyed with Amy. She decides she is no longer going to be friends with Amy. The next day at school, Jalya goes out of her way to avoid Amy.

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CASE STUDY #2

Lately, Jayla's friend Amy only talks about herself and her problems. Jayla is annoyed with Amy. She decides she is no longer going to be friends with Amy. The next day at school, Jayla gives Amy the silent treatment. When Amy asks if she has done something wrong Jayla walks away without responding.

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CASE STUDY #3

Lately, Jayla's friend Amy only talks about herself and her problems. Jayla is annoyed with Amy. She decides she is no longer going to be friends with Amy. The next day at school, Jalya asks her friends Daquan and Camden to ignore Amy for the entire week.

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TODAY WE LEARNED ...

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bullying is a problem that needs to stop

what bullying is and what it is not

the harmful effects of bullying

the four types of bullying

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Write a one-page reflection on the negative effects of bullying.

You may use examples from this presentation and/or your real life.

* Please do not include any names in your reflection.

REFLECTION TASK

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Lesson 2

Why do teens bully?

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POP QUIZ:

WHAT IS BULLYING?

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An A____________

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KEY POINTS

    • EXPLORE WHY TEENS BULLY
    • UNDERSTAND HOW TO USE OUR POWER TO HELP OTHERS INSTEAD OF HURT OTHERS

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DISCUSSION QUESTION:

WHY DO YOU THINK SOME TEENS BULLY OTHERS?

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A UNIQUE PERSPECTIVE

In this short video, a bully apologizes to her victim 15 years later.

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DISCUSSION QUESTION:

WHAT ARE SOME OF THE CONSEQUENCES OF BULLYING OTHERS?

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DISCUSSION QUESTION:

WHAT GIVES SOME TEENAGERS POWER?

*think about different forms of power: social, physical, emotional, etc.

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We will go over three case studies and discuss how the teens in the case studies could use their power to hurt or help.

CASE STUDIES

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CASE STUDY #1

Juan is a star athlete. He is intelligent, funny, and a great basketball player. Another student Jared tries out for basketball. Jared is having trouble at tryouts and Juan's teammates begin to laugh at him.

How can Juan use his power to hurt?

How can Juan use his power to help?

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CASE STUDY #2

CJ is a makeup artist, dancer, and a famous influencer. She records a dance video with her friends and posts it on TikTok. CJ's followers write mean comments about her friend Maya.

How can CJ use her power to hurt?

How can CJ use her power to help?

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CASE STUDY #3

Alex is the most popular student in the grade. They have great style and many friends. A new student is seen in the cafeteria sitting alone.

How can Alex use their power to hurt?

How can Alex use their power to help?

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IF YOU HAVE BULLIED SOMEONE ...

    • stop bullying
    • apologize to the people you have bullied
    • talk to a trusted adult such as a school counselor or parent

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TODAY WE LEARNED ...

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why teens bully

how to use your power to help rather than hurt

how to make things right if you have bullied someone

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Write a one-page reflection on ...

- why teens bully

- how teens can use their power to help others.

You may use examples from this presentation and/or your real life.

*Please do not include any names in your reflection.

REFLECTION TASK

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Lesson 3

What to do if you are being bullied

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KEY POINTS

    • HOW TO HANDLE BEING BULLIED
    • HOW TO RESPOND TO BULLYING

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DISCUSSION QUESTION:

WHAT ARE SOME WAYS YOU HAVE SEEN TEENS RESPOND TO BULLYING?

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    • What is the difference between being submissive, assertive and aggressive?

    • What are some ways you can assertively respond to bullying?

THINK ABOUT IT

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SOME SUGGESTIONS:

  • Look the person in the eye
  • Speak with a calm, confident voice
  • Reply briefly and directly
  • Walk away and find a safe place to go
  • Get help from a friend, trusted adult, school counselor or mental health professional.

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TODAY WE LEARNED ...

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2

how to respond to bullying

the difference between being assertive and being aggressive

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Write a one-page reflection on a time that you stood up for yourself. Were you assertive or aggressive? What are you proud of?

What could you have done differently?

You may use examples from this presentation and/or your real life.

*Please do not include any names in your reflection.

REFLECTION TASK

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IF YOU ARE FEELING HOPELESS, HELPLESS, OR LIKE YOU WANT TO HARM YOURSELF OR OTHERS,

GET HELP NOW.

CALL 1-800-273-8255 (TALK)

FOR SPANISH SPEAKERS:

CALL 1-888-628-9454

VISIT AYUDA EN ESPAÑOL: LIFELINE

FOR DEAF/HARD OF HEARING:

CALL 1-800-799-4889

FREE AND CONFIDENTIAL SUPPORT RESOURCES ARE AVAILABLE TO YOU 24 HOURS A DAY, 7 DAYS A WEEK.

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Lesson 4

How to be a helpful bystander

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KEY POINTS

    • DEVELOP STRATEGIES TO HELP STOP BULLYING WHEN YOU SEE IT TAKE PLACE
    • UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF A BYSTANDER IN BULLYING PREVENTION

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DISCUSSION QUESTION:

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU SEE BULLYING HAPPEN?

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In this short video, we will observe how strangers react to bullying.

HOW DO STRANGERS REACT TO BULLYING?

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    • How did the strangers react?
    • Are you surprised by their reactions?

THINK ABOUT IT

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HOW TO BE A HELPFUL BYSTANDER

  1. Rally support from other people
  2. Show friendship and support
  3. Get help from a trusted adult
  4. Help the person being bullied walk away
  5. Change the subject
  6. Start a new activity
  7. Urge the person doing the bullying to walk away
  8. Tell the person doing the bullying to stop
  9. Play peacemaker
  10. Defend the person being bullied

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CYBERBULLYING

Presents New Challenges

Aggressors find it easier to hide their identity and may have greater accessibility to their target due to the 24/7 nature of digital/online communications.

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You should know...

  • Lying, spreading rumors, telling secrets, and posting hurtful words and images hurts as much online as offline

  • Hurtful messages can make both the target and the sender look bad

  • On the receiving end of your online messages or postings are real kids with real feelings

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CYBERBULLYING

HAS UNIQUE CONSEQUENCES

  • What you do online has consequences offline
  • Once you post something online, you can’t take it back
  • Never share your passwords

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IF YOU SEE CYBERBULLYING

DON’T:

    • Join in
    • Encourage by liking, forwarding, or reposting
    • Silently let it continue
    • Start fighting in the comments

DO:

    • Show support in person
    • Tell a trusted adult what happened
    • Let the aggressor know it’s not okay

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TODAY WE LEARNED ...

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3

how to be a helpful bystander

ways to respond to bullying

the unique effects of cyberbullying

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Imagine that you are a witness to the ice cream bullying incident we watched earlier.

Write a script that addresses how you would support Alina and/or stand up to the people that are bullying her.

REFLECTION TASK

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