Gives and Gets in Your Relationship 

In all positive relationships you need to strike a balancing of giving and getting. Reflecting on what I want to give and get out of my mentoring relationship can make the relationship stronger.  

KEY TAKEAWAY

DATE: _____________

1. Who is one of your strongest relationships with? 

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2. What kinds of things and support do you give to this person?

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3. What kinds of things and support do you get from this person?

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NAME: ___________________

DO NOW

Gives and Gets

Directions: Carefully read through each of the statements listed below. Draw a star next to any statement that is true. Draw an X next to any statement that is false. If you’re not sure, draw a question mark.

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Mentor Connection:

1. What are you going to “give” to your relationship with your mentor? (e.g. time, effort, positive or negative attitudes)

Sharing what you want to give to relationship will show that you are committed to making your relationship work and help create a strong foundation.

Write at least one “give” and include:

• Why you selected it
• What impact you think it can have on the relationship
• What it would look like between the two of you if this is going well

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2. Discuss what you want to “get” out of your mentoring relationship (e.g. support, friendship, advice, etc.). By sharing what you want to get out of your mentoring relationship, you are telling your mentor how they can best support you.

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3. Ask your mentor what they are willing “give” and “get” in order for you to have an impactful and mentoring relationship. Learning about your mentor and what motivates them, helps to strengthen your relationship.

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Mentor Giving and Getting