Skill: Showing Self-Control | Learning Goal: Self-Control
Grades: K-3 | Activity Type: Lesson | Purpose: 🟠 Intervention
Be Good People Curriculum © St. Croix River Education District
Showing Self-Control
Today, we'll learn about how to make ourselves stop when we're about to make a mistake.
What does
“self-control” mean?
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Being able to control yourself and resist doing something that you really want to do.
How well can you show self-control?
I’m good at this.
I can do this sometimes.
I can’t do this.
Have you seen someone do a great job showing self-control in real life or in movies/TV? What did they do?
Pretend you need to tell someone else how to show self-control. What would you tell them to do?
What would you tell them not to do?
Where or when would you need to show self-control?
What will happen if you show self-control when you need to?
What will happen if you don’t show self-control when you need to?
Why is it important to know how to show self-control?
People will feel more calm around you and will be more likely to want to spend time with you. |
People will be more likely offer help, if needed. |
You will make better choices when you are upset. |
You won't get in trouble. |
Did we think of
all of these?
Did we think of any others?
What connection(s) do you see between what we’re learning about and any of these values? Why?
Deep Dive
Quick Skim: Showing Self-Control
1 | Use a calm body. |
2 | If you notice your body isn't calm, stop and count to 10. |
3 | Use one of your calming tools. |
4 | Ask for help if your body won't calm down. |
Step 1: Use a calm body.
Keep your hands, your feet, and your body to yourself.
Unless you're in gym class or have another good reason, try not to wiggle, jump, spin, or wave your arms.
Step 2: If you notice your body isn't calm, stop and count to 10.
You have brakes just like a car does.
If your body isn't calm, use it to stop yourself.
Step 3: Use one of your calming tools.
For example:
Count to 20, 50, etc.
Pick a color and count all the things you see that are that color.
Keep Counting
Take Belly Breaths
Slowly breathe in through your nose, into your belly, and out through your mouth.
Ask for permission to move to a calming space or a calming room.
Ask for a Break
Step 4: Ask for help if your body won't calm down.
If your brakes and your calming tools aren't working, you need help from somebody else to calm down and stay in control.
I’m going to give this skill a try.
Watch and listen closely because soon it will be your turn!
Alice wanted to play with her mom's phone, and her mom said no. Alice felt like yelling at her because she never lets her do anything fun.
What steps did you see?
What steps did you not see?
What was done well?
What could have been done better?
Tia’s brother ate the last piece of her birthday cake. Tia felt like punching her brother.
What steps did you see?
What steps did you not see?
What was done well?
What could have been done better?
Time for you to test your skills!
Remember to follow our classroom expectations while you’re practicing.
During recess, Joe starts acting like a dinosaur, and a few students start laughing and encouraging him to keep going. Before Joe knows it, he’s running around chasing the other kids. A few of the kids are still laughing, but the other kids don't look happy about it.
What steps did you see?
What steps did you not see?
What was done well?
What could have been done better?
Noah’s dad tells Noah that he needs to stop at the grocery store on the way home. Noah doesn't like grocery shopping and he just wants to go home. Noah feels like kicking his dad's car seat and whining.
What steps did you see?
What steps did you not see?
What was done well?
What could have been done better?
Michelle gets really upset in her classroom and runs out into the hallway without permission. Another teacher sees Michelle run out into the hallway, and she asks, "Hey, where are you supposed to be?" Michelle’s teacher comes out into the hallway.
What steps did you see?
What steps did you not see?
What was done well?
What could have been done better?
How could this look different in different places?
How could this look different with different people?
How could this look different depending on what’s going on?
How well can you show self-control now?
I’m good at this.
I can do this sometimes.
I can’t do this.