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Side By Side:

Navigating Life with

Siblings with Disabilities

The Arc State Convention 2022

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Lisa Coates,

Director of Children & Youth @ SOAR365

Sibling, Advocate, Cat Lover

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Session Norms

Respect Neurodiversity

Respect Trauma

This is YOUR learning session

Practice Equity of Voice

Laughter Encouraged

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MY BROTHER’S KEEPER

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Siblingship

  • Siblings have longest relationship with each other
  • Siblings have a shared history.
  • Siblings have a huge influence on our outlook, personalities, and behavior.
  • A parents’ death also reinforces the bond among siblings.

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Navigating Through the Lifespan �

Birth

Early Intervention

Elementary School

Middle School

High School

Graduation

World of Work

Adulthood

Passage

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“A Life Like Yours”

Individuals with disabilities want the same things we all want-

  • HOME of their own.  

  • A meaningful JOB or way they spend their days.

  • RELATIONSHIPS they value and depend on. 

These are the things that make up a quality of life.

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Importance & Impact of Sibling Experience

To ensure professionals are prepared to include siblings in their work with people with disabilities and families.

To provide knowledge and resources that professionals can use in their work with families so siblings can receive more support throughout the lifespan.

To encourage professionals to view siblings as partners in the journey to ultimately improve outcomes for people with disabilities throughout their lives.

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The Health & Wellbeing of Siblings with disabilities :�Psychological Needs

  1. Holl, E., & Morano, C. L. 2014.
  2. Pit-Ten Cate, I. M., & Loots, G. M. 2000.

Feelings include sorrow, anger, jealousy, guilt and confusion.

Common challenges: communicating feelings with parents and others, concern for the future and health of brother or sister, and distress from reactions of strangers. (1)

Siblings often feel alone in their experiences.

Siblings becomes ling-term caregivers for their brother or sister with a disability. (2)

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TOOLBOX OF TIPS

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Emotions.

Acknowledge

In age-appropriate discussions about siblings.

Engage

Explaining.

Practice

Battles.

Choose

A moment before speaking.

Take

Siblings’ experiences.

Learn

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NAVIGATING LIFE ALONE

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Stay Connected

Lisa.Coates@Soar365.org

www.soar365.org

soar365insta

@educateforall

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