Boat Metaphor

Captain………………………………………Wise Adult

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Officers………………………………………Parent Modes

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Sailors………………………………………..Coping Modes

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Deck hands………………………………….Child Modes

Different Parts of our Inner World

Wise Adult

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Parent Modes

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Coping Modes (Adaptive Parts)

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Child Modes

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Compliant Modes

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Avoidant Modes

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Over-compensation Modes

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Compliant Modes

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People Pleaser

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Self-Sacrificer/Rescuer

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Self-pity/Victim

Avoidant Modes

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Detached Protector

Avoidant Protector

Detached Self-Soother

Angry Protector

Over-compensation Modes

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Perfectionistic Over-controller

Complaining Protector

Bully and Attack

Repetitive Negative Thinking Modes

Worrying over-controller

Catastrophising over-controller

Pessimistic Ruminator

People Pleaser

“I don’t want to cause trouble”

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“I’m sorry for being a burden”

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“I will do anything; I just want to keep the peace”

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“Whatever you want is fine with me”

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“Don’t worry about me”

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Avoidant Protector

“I just need some space right now”

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“I am not in the mood to talk”

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“Let’s not go there” “I am not a big fan of drama”

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“We don’t need to talk about this right now”

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“You’re overreacting; it’s not that serious; please drop it”