SEL Learning Goal 2:

Self Management

Subgoal 2B: Focus Group: ADULT

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A Review: SEL Description

CASEL’s (The Collaborative for Social Emotional Learning) New Definition describes SEL as: “Social and emotional learning (SEL) is an integral part of education and human development. SEL is the process through which all young people and adults acquire and apply the knowledge, skills, and attitudes to develop healthy identities, manage emotions and achieve personal and collective goals, feel and show empathy for others, establish and maintain supportive relationships, and make responsible and caring decisions.”

We’ve updated our definition and framework to pay close attention to how SEL affirms the identities, strengths and experiences of all children, including those who have been marginalized in our education systems.”

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CASEL: https://casel.org/what-is-sel/

Self- Management SEL Wheel

Focus of Module 2: Self- Management

Slide Pic from: CASEL

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Tenets of the SEL Self-Management Learning Goal

Demonstrate and Practice from CASEL:

• Resilience in the face of obstacles
• Regulating one’s emotions
• Compassion for self and others
• Perseverance
• Pause between stimulus and response
• Healthy Boundaries
• Setting and Monitoring Personal and Academic Goals

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Source: CASEL

SEL Learning Goal 2: Self-Management

MVSD Benchmark Skills: ADULT

Sub-goal 2B: Understand the ability to motivate, persevere, and see oneself as capable.

Definitions: Self-motivation, perseverance

• I can sustain motivation to achieve success in my life goals.
• I can persevere through challenges to reach my life goals.
• I can evaluate and adapt goals too sustain progress and achieve success in life.

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Academic and Personal Self- Management Strategies

Level: ADULT Subgoal 2B: Understand the ability to motivate, persevere, and see oneself as capable. Activities in BOLD RED come from the MVSD SEL Curriculum Guide- Practice COVID Protocols during this time.

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Personal/ Professional SMART Goals

Let’s watch this brief video that outlines what SMART Goals entail.

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How can you apply this to your own goal setting? Let’s break it down further. You can modify these steps to use when creating and setting your own personal/professional goals!

Let’s Dive Deeper- How to Set Personal/Professional SMART Goals

1. Specific- The more specific (detailed) you are about the goal, the better chance you will reach it. Breaking down the goal is the best way to get specific. Use the 5 W Strategy- WHO, WHAT, WHEN, WHERE, WHY
2. Measurable- for any goal you set, you need to keep track of the progress you make. As you see yourself getting closer to the goa, you stay motivated. One way is to use dates to monitor your progress. Set a regular time to stop and track your progress.
3. Achievable- Goals need to be realistic. Balance. Goals you set should challenge you, but also be realistic.
4. Relevant- The goal you set should be important to you. It should be about something you want to achieve in your life, not what you think someone else wants you to achieve. Ask yourself why you want to achieve this goal.
5. Time Bound-Set a time limit to reach the goal. This will help you stay motivated. Make this goal one of your priorities.

Source: https://goals.com/how-to-set-personal-professional-smart-goals-with-examples

Education, Skills, Training Needed to Achieve Personal Goals

• You need to be motivated to reach any goal you set. So, how self-motivated are you? Take this online assessment to find out! (this is from: The Skills You Need-Helping You Develop Life Skills)

“The more people achieve, the more confident they become. As self-confidence rises, so does the ability to achieve more.”

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“Conversely, when people fail to meet and achieve their goals, self-esteem and confidence can suffer, affecting their motivation to achieve more.”

(from The Skills You Need- Helping You Develop Life Skills)

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Life Goals

Remember… change happens!

• Coping with change- with support as needed, read this resource on Personal Change Management .
• Putting your life goals into categories can be helpful:
• Academic- knowledge and/or qualifications you want to achieve
• Career- where would you like your career to take you
• Money- what do you want to earn at given points in your life
• Ethical- community, volunteering, giving to causes
• Creative- progressing creatively and artistically
• Domestic- domestic life in the future
• Physical-developing skills in a physical activity, certain sport, etc.
• Set small goals- If one of your goals is to write a book, see a sample on the next slide.

Source: https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ps/personal-change-management.html

Life Goal: Writing a Book- Sample Goal Timeline (steps below)

Start setting the goal using a backward chain. Place the goal attainment first and work backwards. Structure the BIG Goal and work out the Sub goals along the way...

• 5 years from now, publish my book
• 4 years from now, finish the first draft of my book
• 3 years from now, complete a degree in creative writing
• A year from now- develop an outline for my book
• Next month, think about ideas and research potential story lines for my book
• This week- read two books and research university courses

Next, use the SMART acronym to write out this life goal!

Reflecting on Personal Goals

Resources: Can be used to reflect on your personal goals with family, friends, or people you work with.

From Developing Good Habits- free SMART Goal worksheets

FREE Resources/ Generic Worksheets from Teachers Pay Teachers:

Weekly Goal Sheets

Goals- Planning, Action Plans, and Reflection Sheets

Weekly Goals and 90 Day Goals Planning and Reflection Sheets

Goal Setting Set--Goal Setting, Tracking, and Reflection

From: Wise Goals: Free Personal Goal Setting Worksheets

From: Developing Good Habits: Mindful Listening

From: Psych Point: Self-Reflection Worksheet | PsychPoint

scroll down the page, read the Instructions, and download the Self-Reflection worksheet

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SMART Goal… Your Turn!!!

With the support of a knowledgeable adult and using the information and resources shared on previous slides on how to write a SMART Goal:

• choose a personal or a career/employment goal that you would like to accomplish
• create a SMART Goal- use one of the resources from slide 10 if desired
• After it is written, choose someone to share your goal with (family/friends/a colleague)
• Make a plan to reflect on your goal often.

My SMART Goal is PERSONAL Employment/Career-based

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Life Skills for Transitioning to Life After High School: Necessary skills to model and teach adult students that you may have in your classes or be working with.

FOCUS: Independent Living Skills

Look Who’s a Grown-up Now!

The following slides 16-32- come from 12 Life Skills for Adults

(adapt each of these steps based on the individual support needs of the adult)

Life Skill 1: Skills Needed to Read a Pay Stub Quick Guide

Identification:

• Top section has your personal info- name, address, employee ID #, and employer’s name/address

Earnings:

• Show how much money you made
• Show how many hours you worked given a certain pay period
• Show your hourly rate (if you are paid hourly); overtime earnings
• Sometimes shows your year-to-date earnings

Taxes:

• Show how much you paid in taxes (marked either: FedTax or Fed Withhold)
• Separate deductions for Social Security and Medicare- can be listed separately as FICA (Federal Insurance Contributions Act)
• You might see deductions for state and local taxes

Life Skill 1: Skills Needed to Read a Pay Stub Quick Guide continued

Tax Data:

• Shows whether you are married or not
• Shows any allowances you get like dependents (children)

Pre-tax Deductions:

• shows all the money that comes out of your paycheck before your taxes
• This section includes benefits like health, dental, vision, retirement plan

After-tax Deductions: money that comes out of your check after taxes

• Items such as union dues and reduced rate life insurance

Life Skill 1: Read a Pay Stub Example

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Life Skill 2: Manage a Bank Account

• Choose a bank and open an account
• Learn how to “balance your checkbook”- this means keeping track of what you spend, deposit, and take out of your account to make sure you have money to buy things, pay bills, etc.
• Keep an eye on your balance so you know how much money is in the account and you won’t cause an overdraft which is spending more than you have in your checking account.

3. Paying Bills

• Have a discussion with students and demonstrate how bills used to be paid a few years ago: get a bill in the mail, write a check to pay for the bill, put the payment stub and the check in the mail and mail it back. Making sure the bill is paid on time by the due date on the bill.
• Discuss that some people still pay bills this way, also known as the old fashion way!
• Discuss how many people today pay their bills (online).
• The bill comes through email and can be paid by logging into a safe website and the money comes out of your account (withdraw). You have set this payment plan up ahead of time.
• This way to pay is a lot faster.

Tips to making sure you pay your bills on time:

You can…

• You can flag a bill notice in your email. Everytime you look in

your inbox, you will see messages that you have flagged as

Important to remind you about paying your bill.

• Bill-paying night: Set aside a night to pay bills! Set aside a time each week to pay your bills.
• Use Reminders: Apps like MINT can send you reminders when a bill is due. The app can also warn you if you need to transfer more money into your account bc you don’t have enough money to pay the bill.
• Automatic bill payment: Many companies let you set up an automatic bill paying system. When the bill is due, the payment automatically comes out of your account to pay bills. Make sure you have enough money in the account to cover the bills!

Debit Cards

• a plastic payment card that can be used instead of cash when making purchases
• It looks like a credit card but it isn’t.
• When you use your debit card, the money is immediately taken out right away (transferred) from the cardholder's bank account to pay for the purchase or transaction
• A credit card statement comes monthly and the person has to make a payment- money doesn’t automatically come out of your credit card to pay for what you bought.

4. Use credit cards sensibly (wisely)!

• The best way to stay out of debt is to not have a credit card to begin with!
• It is too easy to suddenly be in lots of debt by charging items and services using a credit card. Advice: If you already have a hard time paying your bills, do not get a credit card.
• If you do get one, you should pay off the balance every month and don’t let the balance keep climbing.
• Credit card companies charge a monthly interest fee that can be as high as 20%. This is an extra charge that you pay if you do not pay off your balance every month.
• There are benefits to having a credit card. You build a credit history- a record of a borrower's responsible repayment of debts. A credit report is a record of the borrower's credit history from a number of sources, including banks, credit card companies, collection agencies, and governments (from Wikipedia)
• You need good credit scores to get bank loans to buy things like vehicles and homes.

5. File a Tax Return

Every year, you need to fill out and send in a tax return

to the Internal Revenue Service (IRS).

There is a special form (see the pic) that you need to

use to write in all of your tax information.

There many tax filing companies like H & R Block that

can help you file your taxes but you will have to pay

them a fee to do it.

Ask for support in filing your taxes if you can’t do it by yourself. It is illegal to NOT file a tax return every year.

6. Make a Budget

One of the best ways to save money is to make a budget of all your bills and think about an amount of money to set aside for monthly items like groceries.

• You can write down how much your rent is; how much your phone bill is; your electric bill, car payment, etc…
• When you plan using a budget you know how much money you have to spend on extra things for fun like eating out at a restaurant or going to the movies.
• Always be sure you have enough money to pay ALL your bills first BEFORE you spend money on fun activities and hobbies

How to make your first budget:

• Write down the amount you earn in a month.
• Write down all of your expenses that you pay each month.
• Be sure to plan for saving, too!
• Balance the budget. You have to have enough money to pay your bills with what you make each month.
• Make sure to plan for unexpected expenses like if your car needs repairs!

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7. Buy Insurance for protection and unexpected expenses!

Insurance is very important in case you have an unexpected event that happens.

What if you get into an accident?

What if there is a fire in your apartment or house?

What if your home or apartment is broken into and things are destroyed and/or stolen?

Most states require you to have car insurance.

If you own a home, you need homeowners insurance.

If you rent, it is a good idea to get renter’s insurance.

8. Rent an Apartment

Finding the Right Apartment- Steps to finding a place you can live with and afford!

1. Set Your Budget- take your monthly income and multiply it by 30%. For example: You make $3,000.00 a month.

$3,000.00 x .30 = $900.00 $900.00 is the amount you should be able to afford for housing each month (house payment or rent)based on the money you bring home each month.

• Choose a Neighborhood- a safe area; how far away from work will it be; does it match your price range; if you can’t afford to live alone, maybe you can find a roommate
• Look for an Apartment- look in the newspaper in the Want Ads section: Apartments for Rent or go online to search: rent.com. When you find a place, call to make an appt to look at it to see if you like it and it meets your needs. If it’s a big place with many apartments, talk with other people who live there- Ask about the landlord (the person owns the building and who you will be paying rent to.)

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8. Renting an Apartment- Steps continued

4. Fill out an application- You will need to fill out info about your income and include at least 2 references (people who are not your family- usually someone from the company you work for and a personal reference such as a friend who can tell the landlord whether you are responsible; say good things about how you are as a person- your character)

5. Read the lease- A lease is a legal agreement (contract) between you and the landlord that you sign when you are renting a house or apartment.

• In the lease are all the details like when the rent is due, how much is the security deposit- this is an amount you pay up front to the landlord that the landlord holds onto and either returns back to you when you leave or uses it to pay for repairs or damage that you caused when you lived there-
• It includes how long the lease will last - usually a lease is in place for 1 year.
• Read the lease very carefully!

6. Move in!

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9. Cleaning Your Apartment

Keeping your apartment clean is very important.

You can set up a weekly schedule to help remind you.

It is very important to keep your bathroom clean.

Disinfect to kill germs. Use cleaners such as Clorox and

Lysol.

Keep up with washing dishes every day.

Vacuum at least once/week and dust once a month.

Wash your clothes and other laundry at least 2 times a

week.(the next slide has more details).

Wash towels after use and wash your bed sheets weekly.

If you are not sure how to do a certain cleaning job like mopping your floors, here are some websites that can help: Apartment Therapy and The Spruce .

10. Do Your Laundry!

TIPS:

• Follow these 6 easy steps to do your laundry!
• Remember when separating clothes to check the labels to see how the piece of clothing should be washed. Example: machine washed warm with like colors

Pesil is a site that tells you what wash care symbols mean.

• You can save all your money by washing all your clothes in cold water. But if they are really dirty, you may want to wash them in warm or hot water.
• Pay Attention to clothes that have special instructions for example: gentle cycle or dry clean only and follow the directions!

11. Make a Meal

Here are some ideas on how to cook/prepare meals:

• Find Recipes: cooking on a tight budget without much money, check out the book on Amazon: Good and Cheap: Eat Well on $4 a Day by Leanne Brown.
• Start Simple: Find easy recipes to start out. This allows you to build up your skills.
• Use some prepared foods.You can combine fresh with store-bought, prepared ingredients. You don’t always have to start making a meal from scratch (homemade and not store bought).
• Cook what you like.
• Buy useful cooking tools. Check out these kitchen gadgets Buy and use kitchen tools that will make cooking easier such as a microwave. You can put all ingredients in a crock pot, turn it on, leave it, and let the crockpot do all the cooking! A blender and mixer are helpful tools to have as well.
• Save your leftovers. Store in fridge or freezer.

12. Shop for Groceries

• Before you go to the store... make a list before going to the store. This will help you stay on track and help you to stick to the items on your list. It will also help you to keep within your budget if you only have a certain amount to spend.
• Before you go to the store… check the grocery fliers to see what is on sale that week. Check the coupons and clip them out of the paper. This will help you save money.
• Before going to the store… decide on some recipes so you know which ingredients you need to buy.
• Before going to the store… check the pantry and fridge to see what staple items you may be running low on or out of. Staple items are things you use all the time like eggs, milk, cereal, bread.
• At the store… compare prices and look for sale items.

There are many more skills...

There are many more life skills to learn on the adult journey.

Learning is never done. We learn as we go along in life. We are always learning new skills, no matter what age we are. This is what life is all about!

Up Next… SEL Learning Goal 2: Self-Management:

Subgoal 2c for Grades 7-Adult:

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Plan, apply, and evaluate goals to achieve success in school and life

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Definitions: Goal Setting; Organizational Skills