SEETHALAKSHMI SIVAKUMAR
www.gtcco.org & www emocare.co.in
EXPERT IN PSYCHOLOGICAL FIRST AID AND �CERTIFIED YOUTH COACH
BY emocare
DO YOU REACT OR RESPOND?
RESPOND TO YOUR OWN thinking, feeling and behaviour AND ALSO TO OTHERS.
IF YOU ARE NOT REACTING, THEN, IT IS A SYMBOL OF EMOTIONAL MATURITY OR EQ.
So
RESPOND
HOW TO CREATE THE HABIT OF RESPONDING?
USE NLP PRESUPPOSITION
MAP IS NOT THE TERRITORY
respond
If you underestimate you,
Or
If you overestimate you
Means
YOU Have to apply MAP IS NOT THE TERRITORY
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MAP IS NOT THE TERRITORY
WHAT DO YOU SEE? A YOUNG WOMEN OR OLD LADY? PUT IN GROUP OR IN MY PERSONAL WINDOW.
One day I saw a friend walking on a road and called out his name.
As I took his name I saw him begin to walk faster away from me. What I did not see was that he was wearing an earphone (so wasn’t able to hear my voice) and was trying to catch a bus (so started walking faster).
Based on what I observed along with my generalization that people don’t like me, I interpreted this as him trying to ignore me.
For many days I kept wondering, why did he avoid me? Did I do something that made him angry or has he done something because of which he couldn’t face me?
Though I thought there was a problem, the problem is with me
Choose a Problem
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STEPS
WRITE FIVE THINGS WHICH YOU FEEL DIFFICULT TO LEARN OR DO
APPLY MAP CONCEPT
POSITIONAL CHANGE
Create imaginary circle
THINK OF THE RELATIONSHIP ISSUE FROM YOUR ANGLE
Create imaginary Circle
THINK OF THE ISSUE FROM THE OTHER PERSON ANGLE.LITERALLY BECOME THE OTHER PERSON