Two-Tracked Conversations�
Sam Berstler (MIT)
CUNY Colloquium Series
22 October 2025
slides available: www.samberstler.com
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Our talk exchanges do not normally consist of a succession of disconnected remarks, and would not be rational if they did.
(Grice 1989: 26)
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Q. What organizes conversation?
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Grammar
Q. What organizes conversation?
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Grammar
Participants’ goals & participants’ rationality
Q. What organizes conversation?
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Grammar
Participants’ goals & participants’ rationality
Constitutive norms of conversation & of speech acts
Q. What organizes conversation?
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Grammar
Participants’ goals & participants’ rationality
Constitutive norms of conversation & of speech acts
Social norms
Q. What organizes conversation?
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Grammar
Participants’ goals & participants’ rationality
Constitutive norms of conversation & of speech acts
Social norms
Philosophers tend to assume that social norms cannot and do not provide deep explanations of conversation’s structure.
Q. What organizes conversation?
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Grammar
Participants’ goals & participants’ rationality
Constitutive norms of conversation & of speech acts
Social norms
Philosophers tend to assume that social norms cannot and do not provide deep explanations of conversation’s structure.
Their content is arbitrary.
Their content is culturally variable.
Q. What organizes conversation?
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Grammar
Participants’ goals & participants’ rationality
Constitutive norms of conversation & of speech acts
Social norms
Philosophers tend to assume that social norms cannot and do not provide deep explanations of conversation’s structure.
Their content is arbitrary.
Their content is culturally variable.
Their scope is not distinctly conversational.
Q. What organizes conversation?
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Q. What organizes conversation?
Grammar
Participants’ goals & participants’ rationality
Constitutive norms of conversation & of speech acts
Social norms
Orthodoxy:
The philosophy of conversation should generate deep and universal explanations for conversational structure. So the philosophy of conversation should avoid appealing to social norms.
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Q. What organizes conversation?
Grammar
Participants’ goals & participants’ rationality
Constitutive norms of conversation & of speech acts
Social norms
This talk is a case study.
Appeals to social norms can provide deep and default-universal* explanations for conversational structure.
This is because not all social norms are arbitrary.
(*default universal: we should expect but are not guaranteed to find this form of explanation for all societies)
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Q. What organizes conversation?
Grammar
Participants’ goals & participants’ rationality
Constitutive norms of conversation & of speech acts
Social norms
This talk is a case study.
Appeals to social norms can provide deep and default-universal* explanations for conversational structure.
This is because not all social norms are arbitrary.
(*default universal: we should expect but are not guaranteed to find this form of explanation for all societies)
Case study question.
Speakers sometimes seem to conduct two conversations simultaneously. Why?
interlude
movie time
Two-tracking
When we two-track, we seem to conduct an official and unofficial conversations simultaneously. The unofficial conversation is “unofficial” in a strange sense: it’s what we’re really talking about.
Two-tracking
When we two-track, we seem to conduct an official and unofficial conversations simultaneously. The unofficial conversation is “unofficial” in a strange sense: it’s what we’re really talking about.
We might call it…
Double-talk
Passive-aggressiveness
Conversation and subtext
Conversation and shadow conversation
Two-tracking
When we two-track, we seem to conduct an official and unofficial conversations simultaneously. The unofficial conversation is “unofficial” in a strange sense: it’s what we’re really talking about.
We often do it when…
Flirting
Propositioning others for sex
Asking for awkward or illegal favors
Talking “corporate”
Threatening others
Negotiating bribes
Working around official rank
Some characteristics of two-tracking
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk
…pretense
…non-contamination of tracks
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk
At least one speakers makes an utterance U and, in doing so, makes two simultaneous (real/pretended) speech acts G and G*, which update different tracks.
…pretense
…non-contamination of tracks
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk
At least one speakers makes an utterance U and, in doing so, makes two simultaneous (real/pretended) speech acts G and G*, which update different tracks.
…pretense
…non-contamination of tracks
Our speech reporting practices seem to confirm that there is indeed a secondary (inexplicit) speech act:
.
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk
At least one speakers makes an utterance U and, in doing so, makes two simultaneous (real/pretended) speech acts G and G*, which update different tracks.
…pretense
…non-contamination of tracks
The secondary speech act is available for anaphoric reference and other context-sensitive variables.
Ethan: Yes, let’s hook up.
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk
…pretense
Speakers collaborate within an on-going (over more than one turn) and mutually intelligible pretense. This pretense partially constitutes the first track.
…non-contamination of tracks
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk
…pretense
Speakers collaborate within an on-going (over more than one turn) and mutually intelligible pretense. This pretense partially constitutes the first track.
…non-contamination of tracks
Ordinary implicatures needn’t involve two-tracking.
1. Dan: How’s MIT?
Sam: Well…I haven’t been fired yet!
Implicature: It’s going badly.
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk
…pretense
Speakers collaborate within an on-going (over more than one turn) and mutually intelligible pretense. This pretense partially constitutes the first track.
…non-contamination of tracks
Pretenses and ritual speech that do not involve double-talk do not constitute two-tracking:
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk
…pretense
Speakers collaborate within an on-going (over more than one turn) and mutually intelligible pretense. This pretense partially constitutes the first track.
…non-contamination of tracks
Sequential, deniable speech acts do not constitute-two tracking:
Sam: Hmmm…unrelatedly, I have been wanting to go to
Hawaii.
Implicature: I’ll give you an A if you pay me a bribe equivalent to a
Hawaii vacation.
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk
…pretense
…non-contamination of tracks
The first should entail that activity within the second track is not occurring. The speakers have two sets of presuppositions, about what’s happening in each track.
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk + pretense + non-contamination of tracks
Two-tracking constraint
If you utter u within a two-tracked conversations, then the first track entails that you uttered u.
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk + pretense + non-contamination of tracks
Two-tracking constraint
If you utter u within a two-tracked conversations, then the first track entails that you uttered u.
Two-tracking intelligibility constraint
If you utter u within a two-tracked conversation, then make sure the first track entails that in making u, you made some speech act G compatible with the first track presuppositions.
Double-talk is optional
With your turn at talk, you can but needn’t update the secondary track. But you must update the first!v
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk + pretense + non-contamination of tracks
Two-tracking constraint
If you utter u within a two-tracked conversations, then the first track entails that you uttered u.
Two-tracking intelligibility constraint
If you utter u within a two-tracked conversation, then make sure the first track entails that in making u, you made some speech act G compatible with the first track presuppositions.
Double-talk is optional
With your turn at talk, you can but needn’t update the secondary track. But you must update the first!v
We don’t always update the second track via implicature:
You need to be careful with what you’re doing.
First track: You need to be careful managing this crisis.
Second track: You need to be careful in how you threaten me.
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk + pretense + non-contamination of tracks
Two-tracking constraint
If you utter u within a two-tracked conversations, then the first track entails that you uttered u.
Two-tracking intelligibility constraint
If you utter u within a two-tracked conversation, then make sure the first track entails that in making u, you made some speech act G compatible with the first track presuppositions.
Double-talk is optional
With your turn at talk, you can but needn’t update the secondary track. But you must update the first!v
Sometimes the “explicit” or direct speech act is the speech act that updates the second track:
If you ever do that again, I’ll kill you! Hahaha!
First track: (hyperbole) If you ever do that again, I’ll do
something really bad (but not kill you).
Second track: (threat) If you ever do that again, I will
literally kill you.
Two-tracking involves…
…double-talk + pretense + non-contamination of tracks
Two-tracking constraint
If you utter u within a two-tracked conversations, then the first track entails that you uttered u.
Two-tracking intelligibility constraint
If you utter u within a two-tracked conversation, then make sure the first track entails that in making u, you made some speech act G compatible with the first track presuppositions.
Double-talk is optional
With your turn at talk, you can but needn’t update the secondary track. But you must update the first!v
We cannot individuate the tracks tonally (pace Yalcin 2007)
The first track will entail information that we jointly believe, and we frequently update the first track with actual speech acts
The first track is constructed via information that we jointly pretense and that we jointly believe.
Huffington: I just talked to Travis.
Case study question.
Speakers sometimes seem to conduct two conversations simultaneously. Why?
Case study question.
Speakers sometimes seem to conduct two conversations simultaneously. Why?
It seems to be cognitively costly.
It seems to (massively!) increase the risk of miscommunication.
A natural thought
Two-trackers want deniability!
A sanctioning orthodoxy
Two-trackers aim to avoid some kind of sanction for what they are doing in the second-track. Characteristically, in two-tracking, they aim to modulate what someone does / could / will know about what they’re doing.
Walton (1996); Pinker (2007); Pinker et al (2008); Lee and Pinker (2010); Fricker (2012);
Peet (2015); Camp (2018); Davies (2019); Mazzarella (2021); Dinges and Zakkou (2023); Berstler (forth)
Daphne/Ethan
A sanctioning orthodoxy
Two-trackers aim to avoid some kind of sanction for what they are doing in the second-track. Characteristically, in two-tracking, they aim to modulate what someone does / could / will know about what they’re doing.
Daphne/Ethan
Huffington/Gurley
A sanctioning orthodoxy
Two-trackers aim to avoid some kind of sanction for what they are doing in the second-track. Characteristically, in two-tracking, they aim to modulate what someone does / could / will know about what they’re doing.
Commitment?
Two-trackers aim to avoid undertaking commitments to what they put in the second track.
But the commitment they’re avoiding doesn’t seem to epistemic:
1. If you don’t fix this, I will.
It doesn’t seem to be practical either:
2. If you don’t pay me the money, I’ll kill you!
Hahaha!
Commitment?
Two-trackers aim to avoid undertaking commitments to what they put in the second track.
An invisible audience?
Two-trackers are playing to an invisible or imaginary audience.
(Goffman [1956] 1959;
Camp 2018)
By this communication technique [of double-talk] individuals may convey information to one another in a manner or on a matter that is inconsistent with their official relationship. Double-talk involves the kind of innuendo that can be conveyed by both sides and carried on for a sustained period of time. It is a kind of collusive communication different from other types of collusion in that the characters against whom the collusion is sustained are projected by the very persons who enter into the collusion… double-talk regularly occurs…as a safe means of making and refusing requests and commands that could not be openly made or refused without altering the relationship. (Goffman [1956] 1959: 194-195)
An invisible audience?
Two-trackers are playing to an invisible or imaginary audience. According to Goffman, they are doing this to avoid committing to a change in their relationship.
But how does and why would would this work?
Two-tracking is a ritualized form of a general signaling strategy that functions to minimize runaway escalatory pressures.
Signaling theory: Spence 1973; Zahavi 1975; Zahavi and Zahavi 1998; Grafen 1990; Gambetta 2011
Covertness is an essential tool for engaging in limited war. Tacitly cooperating to hide the most extreme forms of rivalry allows adversaries to operate within a kind of backstage and preserve the appearance of limited cooperation. Sequestering activity in the covert sphere reduces mobilization of external audiences, the reputational and domestic stakes involved in an incident, and hard-to-control escalation pressures…To develop this argument I draw on insights about secrecy from the sociology of Erving Goffman…Rivals may tacitly cooperate to steer dangerous encounters to the backstage as a way to safeguard to external impression of their encounter as a limited conflict. (Carson 2016: 103-104)
At an MIT faculty meeting, we are debating whether to institute a new logic requirement. During negotiations, Sam and Justin lobby passive-aggressive insults at each other. Sam and Justin intend for their other colleagues not to recognize what they’re doing. Why?
At an MIT faculty meeting, we are debating whether to institute a new logic requirement. During negotiations, Sam and Justin lobby passive-aggressive insults at each other. Sam and Justin intend for their other colleagues not to recognize what they’re doing. Why?
Containing reputational effects: If Justin knows that Brad realizes that Sam has insulted Justin, Justin has additional reason to retaliate/ retaliate more harshly against Sam. He doesn’t want Brad to think he’s a wuss!
At an MIT faculty meeting, we are debating whether to institute a new logic requirement. During negotiations, Sam and Justin lobby passive-aggressive insults at each other. Sam and Justin intend for their other colleagues not to recognize what they’re doing. Why?
Containing allies: Suppose that Alex and Sam belong to faction A and Justin belongs to faction B. If Alex knows that Sam and Justin are sniping, Alex has reason to join in on the snipefest against Justin. Rinse, repeat for all members of faction A and B.
At an MIT faculty meeting, we are debating whether to institute a new logic requirement. During negotiations, Sam and Justin lobby passive-aggressive insults at each other. Sam and Justin intend for their other colleagues not to recognize what they’re doing. Why?
Containing pro-escalation forces: Suppose that Mattias likes drama. Anytime he witnesses a conflict, he always wants to make it worse. If he knows that Sam and Justin are sniping at each other, he’ll try to find a way to “stir the pot.”
At an MIT faculty meeting, we are debating whether to institute a new logic requirement. During negotiations, Sam and Justin lobby passive-aggressive insults at each other. Sam and Justin intend for their other colleagues not to recognize what they’re doing. Why?
In continuing to confine their antagonism to the second-track, Sam and Justin thereby practically display their willingness and ability to confine their antagonism to the second track. This, in turn, enables them credibly signal their commitment to and ability to conduct limited warfare.
At an MIT faculty meeting, we are debating whether to institute a new logic requirement. During negotiations, Sam and Justin lobby passive-aggressive insults at each other. Sam and Justin intend for their other colleagues not to recognize what they’re doing. Why?
In continuing to confine their antagonism to the second-track, Sam and Justin thereby practically display their willingness and ability to confine their antagonism to the second track. This, in turn, enables them credibly signal their commitment to and ability to conduct limited warfare.
While Sam and Justin want to deceive third parties, their primary aim is not to escape social sanctioning.
The basic idea generalizes. When we act in ways that risks changing official nature of our relationship, an audience to what we are doing increases the risk that our relationship will fundamentally and dramatically change.
The basic idea generalizes. When we act in ways that risks changing official nature of our relationship, an audience to what we are doing increases the risk that our relationship will fundamentally and dramatically change.
When we two-track in front of an audience, we thereby:
…minimize the risk of relationship change
The basic idea generalizes. When we act in ways that risks changing official nature of our relationship, an audience to what we are doing increases the risk that our relationship will fundamentally and dramatically change.
When we two-track in front of an audience, we thereby:
…minimize the risk of relationship change
…and thereby actually commit to minimizing the risk of
relationship change
The basic idea generalizes. When we act in ways that risks changing official nature of our relationship, an audience to what we are doing increases the risk that our relationship will fundamentally and dramatically change.
When we two-track in front of an audience, we thereby:
…minimize the risk of relationship change
…and thereby actually commit to minimizing the risk of
relationship change
…and thereby credibly signal that we want and intend to minimize this risk
The basic idea generalizes. When we act in ways that risks changing official nature of our relationship, an audience to what we are doing increases the risk that our relationship will fundamentally and dramatically change.
When we two-track in front of an audience, we thereby:
…minimize the risk of relationship change
…and thereby actually commit to minimizing the risk of
relationship change
…and thereby credibly signal that we want and intend to minimize this risk
…and thereby credibly signal that we do not want to change our relationship just in virtue of our communication
The basic idea generalizes. When we act in ways that risks changing official nature of our relationship, an audience to what we are doing increases the risk that our relationship will fundamentally and dramatically change.
When we two-track in front of an audience, we thereby:
…minimize the risk of relationship change
…and thereby actually commit to minimizing the risk of
relationship change
…and thereby credibly signal that we want and intend to minimize this risk
…and thereby credibly signal that we do not want to change our relationship just in virtue of our communication
….and thereby make it rational for us each to pursue this strategy
The basic idea generalizes. When we act in ways that risks changing official nature of our relationship, an audience to what we are doing increases the risk that our relationship will fundamentally and dramatically change.
When we two-track in front of an audience, we thereby:
…minimize the risk of relationship change
…and thereby actually commit to minimizing the risk of
relationship change
…and thereby credibly signal that we want and intend to minimize this risk
…and thereby credibly signal that we do not want to change our relationship just in virtue of our communication
….and thereby make it rational for us each to pursue this strategy
….and thereby make it the case that our relationship doesn’t change
Two-tracking
Two-tracking is a ritualization of the signaling two-tracking strategy. What enables two-tracking are a set of mutually understood social norms, which arise in virtue of the signaling strategy and which we understand in virtue of (tacitly) understanding the signaling structure.
Two-tracking
Two-tracking is a ritualization of the signaling two-tracking strategy. What enables two-tracking are a set of mutually understood social norms, which arise in virtue of the signaling strategy and which we understand in virtue of (tacitly) understanding the signaling structure.
Signaling
Two-tracking continues to work expressively, but the expressive engine is transformed.
Two-tracking
Two-tracking is a ritualization of the signaling two-tracking strategy. What enables two-tracking are a set of mutually understood social norms, which arise in virtue of the signaling strategy and which we understand in virtue of (tacitly) understanding the signaling structure.
Signaling
Two-tracking continues to work expressively, but the expressive engine is transformed.
The content, “I do not want to change our relationship” is now conventionally expressed in virtue of our selection of genre.
We still credibly express and credibly commit to this content. But what generates the credibility and commitment is our use of a genre that itself imposes high risks and costs on our communication.
An act that is subject to a rule of conduct is, then, a communication, for it represents a way in which selves are confirmed—both the self for which the rule is an obligation and the self for which it is an expectation. An act that is subject to rules of conduct but does not conform to them is also a communication—often even more so—for infractions make news and often in such a way as to disconfirm the selves of the participants. Thus rules of conduct transform both action and inaction into expression, and whether the individual abides by the rules or breaks them, something significant is likely to be communicated.
(Goffman 1967: 51)
Dramatic communication
Two-tracking is an example of what I have, elsewhere, called dramatic communication:
a form of communication that occurs in virtue of “what scene we dramatically enact and how we enact it”
Dramatic communication
Two-tracking is an example of what I have, elsewhere, called dramatic communication:
a form of communication that occurs in virtue of “what scene we dramatically enact and how we enact it”
Example: if we choose to small talk with a friend, we dramatically communicate a cool-down in our intimacy.
Two-tracking
Two-tracking is a ritualization of the signaling two-tracking strategy. What enables two-tracking are a set of mutually understood social norms, which arise in virtue of the signaling strategy and which we understand in virtue of (tacitly) understanding the signaling structure.
Two-tracking is expected to be universal
According to a vast philosophical and sociological tradition, there is no socially neutral way to exchange information. (Rachels 1975; Brown and Levinsin 1978/87)
What information we exchange and how we exchange it always carries information about how we view our shared relationship.
Two-tracking
Two-tracking is a ritualization of the signaling two-tracking strategy. What enables two-tracking are a set of mutually understood social norms, which arise in virtue of the signaling strategy and which we understand in virtue of (tacitly) understanding the signaling structure.
Two-tracking is expected to be universal
According to a vast philosophical and sociological tradition, there is no socially neutral way to exchange information. (Rachels 1975; Brown and Levinsin 1978/87)
What information we exchange and how we exchange it always carries information about how we view our shared relationship.
So we should expect all language communities to create strategies to enable communication while mitigating relationship-change risk.
Two-tracking
Two-tracking is a ritualization of the signaling two-tracking strategy. What enables two-tracking are a set of mutually understood social norms, which arise in virtue of the signaling strategy and which we understand in virtue of (tacitly) understanding the signaling structure.
Two-tracking is expected to be universal
This genre should naturally arise everywhere because it ritualizes a natural (non-conventional) rational strategy.
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Q. What organizes conversation?
Grammar
Participants’ goals & participants’ rationality
Constitutive norms of conversation & of speech acts
Social norms
Social norms are not always arbitrary ways to solve coordination problems.
Social norms sometimes have proper functions: functions that explain why they persist. These functions promote the good of the group in which the norm is embedded. Sometimes, there are only a few (or one) good solution to a problem.
To understand a conversation as such is in part to understand its organizing structure.
Q. What organizes conversation?
Grammar
Participants’ goals & participants’ rationality
Constitutive norms of conversation & of speech acts
Social norms
Some social norms constitute genres that solve extremely deep tensions between our social needs and our communication needs.
Two-tracking is one such genre. It deeply and cross-culturally organizes conversation.
Thank you
Sam Berstler (MIT)
CUNY Colloquium Series
22 October 2025
slides available: www.samberstler.com