Repairing Wrongdoing
Foundations for Christian Living Session 8
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Look at wrongdoing and see how to repair it.
This is important because:
* They avoid the person wronged.
*They pretend it didn’t happen, or hope others would not notice.
*They try to be extra nice to compensate.
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What is wrongdoing?
Wrongdoing refers to specific human actions and attitudes which disrupt a Christian’s relationships with God and with others.
*a Christian who entertains a hostile thought against another commits a wrongdoing against God.
*a Christian’s neglect of personal prayer is wrongdoing because it disrupts his relationship with God,
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What is wrongdoing?
Misconceptions
*Temptations. These become sin only if we follow through. Even Jesus was tempted but did not sin.
*Emotions. Difference between reaction and response.
*Actions which may displease others but which do not violate Christian standards of conduct.
*Unresolved wrongdoing results in guilt, mistrust, suspicion, fear and lack of confidence.
*Time alone will not repair the damage wrongdoing causes in relationships.
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The solution: Repentance and Reconciliation.
The solution to the problem is for people to stop committing wrongful acts.
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Since wrongdoing consists of actions performed by people who are responsible for their behavior, the simplest solution to the problem is for people to stop committing wrongful acts.
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We repair wrongdoing through repentance and reconciliation.
Repentance is a conscious decision to change a pattern of thought or action which has caused wrongdoing. Testament prophecies, people were waiting for the Messiah, which saw its fulfillment in Jesus.
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Four basic attitudes.
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Eagerness to repent.
Sin is sin.
*There are objective standards for right and wrong.
*Our actions are not to be judged according to our intention or sincerity. We might have meant no harm, but if we did wrong, then we sinned.
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Personal responsibility.
* Man is inventive in attributing wrongdoing to something other than oneself..
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God’s love.
*Many people have difficulty with repentance because they see God as someone who punishes. They often hesitate to acknowledge wrongdoing because they fear God’s rejection.
*Sometimes people are harassed by severe guilt feelings and self-condemnation.
b) We must realize that we do not have to be perfect to be worthy in God’s eyes.
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A procedure for repairing wrongdoing.
There are four steps in the process of repentance and reconciliation. The first two (repentance) are taken by the person who committed the wrongdoing. The next two (reconciliation) are taken by both parties.
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1. Honesty. Admit the wrongdoing.
* “My intentions were good.” “I didn't really mean it.”
* “I’m not responsible.”
* “He’s more to blame than I am.”
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2. Renunciation.
* Not self-condemnation, but Godly sorrow. 2 Cor 7:8-11.
* Self-condemnation is focused on self and leads to despair, self-hatred, self-pity.
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3. Asking forgiveness
* This formal “ritual” of reconciliation allows the injured party to participate fully in the act of restoring the relationship.
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*The ordinary method of expressing regret for wrongdoing—an “I'm sorry” followed by “That’s OK” is inadequate to bring about reconciliation.
*Thus the formula must involve mutual acknowledgment of wrongdoing, the resolution to change, and the gift of forgiveness.
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4. Making up for wrongdoing. Restitution, penance.
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Conclusion
1. When repentance and reconciliation are practiced correctly, they yield both personal and communal peace.
2. Repentance and reconciliation heal memories; uproot guilt, mistrust and anxiety; and restore confidence.
3. Repentance and reconciliation will not only repair relationships but will also make us all closer than ever to one another.
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