Social & Emotional Foundations

Presenters: Mrs. Bublitz & Ms. Montero

What is Social Emotional Learning?

• Social and emotional learning (SEL) involves the process through which children and adults acquire and apply the knowledge, attitudes and skills necessary to understand and manage emotions, set and achieve positive goals, feel and show empathy for others, establish and maintain positive relationships, and make responsible decisions. The purpose of the SEL competencies is to provide schools with guidelines for integrating SEL across grades and subject areas.

Why SEL?

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SEL Competency Standards as per NJ DOE

Five Areas of SEL

Five Areas of SEL Continued..

How to support your child(s) social emotional development

Here are some specific steps you can take to nurture an emotionally intelligent child:

• Be a good listener
• Be interested and attentive
• Listen patiently
• Hear the child out
• Listen to nonverbal messages
• Model the behavior you seek
• Treating others with respect and kindness
• Apologizing when you are in the wrong
• Share how you are feeling
• Show gratitude

How to support your child(s) social emotional development

• Nurture your child’s self-esteem
• A child with a good sense of self is happier, more well-adjusted, and does better in school. Some strategies are: giving your child responsibilities, allowing them to make age-appropriate choices, and showing your appreciation for a job well done. Children should be supported through trial and error opportunities.
• Respect differences
• Resist the urge to compare your child to friends or siblings.
• Honor your child's accomplishments and provide support and encouragement for the inevitable challenges they faces.
• Take advantage of support services
• Seek the advice and support of school counselors or other social services during times of family crisis, such as a divorce or the death of a close friend or family member.

What is Self-Esteem?

• Self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself
• How you feel about your abilities and limitations
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Self-Esteem vs. Low Self-Esteem

• Kids with self-esteem
• Feel liked and accepted
• Feeling confident
• Feeling proud of what they can do
• Believing in themselves
• Kids with low- self esteem
• Are self-critical and hard on themselves
• Feel they are not as good as other kids
• Think of the times they have failed rather than when they succeed
• Lack confidence
• Doubt they can do things well

How Self-Esteem Develops

Every child’s self-esteem grows with each experience of successful interactions through positive words. It is important to build a child’s belief that they can handle their life and handle it well. According to Madelyn Swift, our emotional health depends on our self-esteem. Liking ourselves and feeling capable are the foundations on which emotional health rests.

5 Important Steps To Help Children Build Self-Esteem:

• Listen to and acknowledge your child’s thoughts and feelings.
• Create situations that help your child experience success, not failure. Set clear and appropriate expectations, offer reasonable amounts of help, provide adequate incentives and remove obstacles.
• Give your child a feeling of reasonable control over their life.
• Reinforce that your child is lovable and capable.
• Show your child that you have a positive view of yourself.

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Positive Self-Talk & Self-Esteem

The Reflection in Me HD

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Emotion Identification

What Is Emotion Identification?

Emotion identification is an individual's ability to be aware of affective responses that occur during varied daily interactions.

• Naming feelings is the first step in helping kids learn to identify them. It allows your child to develop an emotional vocabulary so they can talk about their feelings and identify feelings in others.

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Ways To Help Identify And Control Emotions

1. Model Reactions:
1. Children are also exemplary at mimicking the behavior and mannerisms they’re surrounded with, no matter if the behavior is good, bad, appropriate or inappropriate.
2. Talk About Emotions:
• Crying = Sad
• Throwing a Toy = Anger
• Laughing = Joy
• Fear, Guilt, Happiness, Excited….
3. Identify Feelings of Others:
• When you feel frustrated, tell them.
• When you are happy, express it.
• When you feel angry, explain why you feel this way.
4. Praise Behavior You Want To See Repeated:
• Praising behavior tells kids the should repeat it because of the positive reinforcement you give them.
5. Noticed When Environmental Factors Play With Emotions:
• Sleep
• Food
• Overstimulation
• Connection
6. Coping Strategies To Control Emotions:
• Create a calming / quiet retreat in your home when your child can retreat to be alone
• Listen to music (and dance if it helps)
• Take a bath
• Create! Draw, color, paint
• Drink a mug of something comforting like warm cocoa or apple cider
• Blow bubbles
• Squeeze a stress fall or play with fidget toys
7. Restore Relationship After Big Emotions:

Supporting Kids Big Emotions

☑️ Emotions A – Z: From Chaos to Calm Teaching Emotions eCourse

☑️ Emotions Picture Card Set to Help Kids Identify Their Feelings

☑️ Calm Down Picture Cards Set to Help Kids Begin to Self-Regulate

☑️ “How I’m Feeling” Personal Reflection Journal Pages for Kids

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Resources

Books

• The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siege
• Smart Parents: Parenting for Powerful Learning by Bonnie Lathram, Carri Schneider, and Tom Vander Ark
• Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain: An Inside-Out Guide to the Emerging Adolescent Mind, Ages 12-24 by Daniel J. Siegel
• The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child by Daniel J. Siegal and Tina Payne Bryso

Websites

• https://casel.org/in-the-home/
• https://www.edutopia.org/social-emotional-learning-parent-resources
• https://www.parenttoolkit.com/topics/social-and-emotional