Essential Question:�How can you solve different types problems in a healthy manner without using violence?

9 ICR1.3 Illustrate strategies for resolving interpersonal conflict without harming self or others.

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Feelings

Brainstorm what causes you to feel each of these emotions:

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• Are all of these feelings normal?
• Are there different ways to respond to these feelings?
• Why do some people react differently than others?

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joy

disgust

fear

anger

sadness

Many Ways!

The following slides will use the acronym BREATH to review some of the methods you might use for healthy problem solving.

“An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.”�― Mahatma Gandhi

Acronym: (Take a) BREATH

• Breathe
• Reflect
• Empathy
• Act
• Talk
• Help

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Breathe

Take a deep breath.

• Pausing to take intentional breaths (slow and deep) allows you to by reflective rather than reactive.

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• slows heart rate
• slows breathing
• allows time for critical thinking reducing impulsive behavior

What method do you use to create some internal calm?

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Reflect

Reflect vs. React

• What is the difference?

Think of a time when you were reactive rather than reflective. Did you get the outcome you wanted?

What is empathy?

Empathy

Skills to show empathy:

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Who is someone you consider to be empathetic? Why?

Act

Constructively rather than destructively.

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• What actions could be helpful?
• What actions could be harmful?

What is your ultimate goal in resolving the conflict? Your actions and/or behaviors should be aligned with that goal.

Talk

How could you be a more engaged listener?

• Identify the problem
• Be assertive (not aggressive)
• Be willing to negotiate
• And Listen

(Find) Help

• Some conflict requires the assistance of a third party.

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• Find someone who is neutral or utilize a mediator.

Who would be a good school resource for you? Who would be a good resource for you to use at home?

Use the (take a) BREATH model to resolve your conflict:

Let’s Practice:

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Use the model to guide your responses.

Remember the ultimate goal is to resolve these problems without violence.

B_____

H_____

R_____

E_____

A____

T_____

Roberto and Caleb have been best friends since third grade. They’ve been to each other’s birthday parties since they were eight, gone on each other’s family vacations, and played baseball together since little league.

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The boys are now in eighth grade and in the same middle school. They share a lot of the same friends and have some of their classes together. For fun, the boys usually hang out with a group of friends at the skatepark, the basketball court, or at someone’s house.

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One day at baseball practice Caleb tells Roberto that he likes a girl they both know, Angela. He says he wants to invite her to go with them that Saturday to the skate park to ride their skateboards. Roberto is very upset because he likes Angela too, but he isn’t ready for anyone to know. Instead of telling Caleb that he likes her, he laughs and says no girl would like him, he’s too short and his voice sometimes cracks. Caleb asks his friend why he’s being such a jerk. Instead of answering, Roberto pushes Caleb, calls him a wimp, then walks away. Caleb watches him go feeling very confused and hurt.

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