Indulgence Survey
Results
February 2024
In This Deck
February 2024
In January, 2024, the Indulgence party hosts distributed a survey to party guests to get a better sense of what they think about Indulgence, what they like, and what they would want to see improved.
This deck contains the results of that survey, and was created to communicate them to the broader Indulgence community.
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Executive Summary
February 2024
Partygoers are extremely happy with Indulgence
People’s overall satisfaction with Indulgence is higher than their (also high) satisfaction with the sex at Indulgence and with the quality of the other attendees
People are very happy overall with the other aspects of Indulgence (facilities, communications, appetizers, contributions). They generally like the new appetizer sign-up sheet and are willing to pay a bit more annually than we have asked for to date: up to $100 per year
Circle time is the biggest point of disagreement. About half are very or extremely satisfied with it, but a very vocal minority wants it streamlined or done away with. But the people who like it most are women and singles (i.e., the most potentially vulnerable) while those who disapprove are partnered and male (i.e., those who could benefit most from having the women and singles feel comfortable)
People are mostly happy keeping the themes as they are, with a sizeable minority in favor of more themes. But there is no universal agreement on desired new themes
At least a few of the people on the guest list have a sense of being left out and are frustrated at the lack of communication and seeming randomness of when they are invited
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All Attendees Are Very/Extremely Satisfied with Indulgence Overall
February 2024
Overall Satisfaction with Indulgence
Q. Overall, how would you rate your satisfaction with Indulgence?
N = 25 (non-hosts)
All respondents said they were “very” or “extremely” satisfied with Indulgence (top-2 box).
All hosts were also very/extremely satisfied.
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Respondents Best Like the People, Level 5 Play, and Openness/Safety/Consent
February 2024
Like Best (Categorized)
Q. What do you like best about Indulgence? (open end)
N = 25 (non-hosts)
“The atmosphere, the people”
“Smart sexy horny down to earth people.”
“Interesting sexy people generally at the same level of play.”
“All in format; new members”
“Friendly and supportive people and safe environment”
“The sex party part of it :)”
“The fact everyone is down to fuck.”
“I enjoy getting to know the group and love having one big open play area!”
“All in format; new members”
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Most-Desired Improvements Are Circle Time, More Structure, Ending Later, Less Crowded, More Parties/Locations, and Better Guests
February 2024
Like Least/Most Want Improved (Categorized)
Q. What do you like least/most want to see improved about Indulgence? (open end)
N = 25 (non-hosts)
Plus one mention each of: more socialization, more men, better communication, freakier sex, louder music, more singles, more regulars, non-sex activities, more themes, and invite me more regularly
“The ‘quality’ of people we invite could improve…”
“Indulgence is the best party all around so far in my experience. Maybe more men.”
“Circle time…takes too long with bigger groups”
“Less crowded - EITHER with fewer guests per party... OR with a larger space”
“Parties ending early.”
“A bit more socialization and a bit more structure”
“Can’t think of much. More of them!!!”
“More/new locations.”
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At Least Some on the Guest List Feel Left Out
February 2024
“Some information is shared with the whole group, some with individuals, and it is not clear who is in the group or not and why”
- Partnered male, 5+ parties
“I don’t get invited to every party and that makes me sad”
- Single female, 2-4 parties
One nugget from the open-ends is that at least some on the guest list (but possibly most) are aware that they are not invited to all parties or part of all communications and this is a point of frustration for them.
Q. What do you like least/most want to see improved about Indulgence? (open end)
N = 25 (non-hosts)
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People Are Most Satisfied with the Play Time, Least Satisfied with the Consent Circle
February 2024
Q. We break Indulgence into three parts. How would you rate your satisfaction with…
N = 25 (non-hosts); top-2 box percent
Very/Extremely Satisfied
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Highest Consent Circle Satisfaction Levels Are from Singles and Females; Lowest from Partnered and Males
February 2024
Satisfaction with Consent Circle
Q. We break Indulgence into three parts. How would you rate your satisfaction with: the consent circle?
N = 25 (non-hosts)
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Most Are Very/Extremely Satisfied with the Other Guests and Attendees
February 2024
Opinion About Quality of Other Guests/Attendees
Q. How do you feel about the quality of the other guests/attendees?
N = 25 (non-hosts)
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People Have a Higher Level of Satisfaction for Indulgence Overall Than for the Play Time or the Quality of the Attendees (!)
February 2024
Q. Overall, how would you rate your satisfaction with Indulgence? How do you feel about the quality of the other guests/attendees? We break Indulgence into three parts. How would you rate your satisfaction with…
N = 25 (non-hosts); top-2 box percent
Satisfaction Level
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Singles and Females Are More Satisfied Overall than Couples or Men
February 2024
Overall Satisfaction with Indulgence
Q. Overall, how would you rate your satisfaction with Indulgence?
N = 25 (non-hosts)
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Singles and Long-Timers Have the Highest Play Time Satisfaction Levels
February 2024
Satisfaction with Play Time
Q. We break Indulgence into three parts. How would you rate your satisfaction with: the play time?
N = 25 (non-hosts)
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Females Have the Highest Satisfaction with Other Attendees; Males Have the Least
February 2024
Satisfaction with Other Attendees
Q. How do you feel about the quality of the other guests/attendees?
N = 25 (non-hosts)
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Most Attendees Are Happy with Party Frequency
February 2024
Opinion About Party Frequency
Q. How do you feel about the frequency of Indulgence parties?
N = 25 (non-hosts)
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People Like the Physical Layout of Both Locations
February 2024
Opinion About Physical Layout
Q. How do you feel about the quality of the other guests/attendees?
N = 25 (non-hosts)
Palo Alto
Daly City
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People Are Satisfied with the Frequency of Pre-Party Communication
February 2024
Attitude Toward Pre-Party Communication
Q. How do you feel about the communication you receive before the parties?
N = 25 (non-hosts)
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People Like the New Appetizer Sign-Up Sheet
February 2024
Opinion About Bringing Appetizers
Q. Which best describes your feelings toward bringing appetizers to the party?
N = 25 (non-hosts)
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People Are Very Comfortable Contributing to Cover Out-of-Pocket Costs
February 2024
Comfort Level Covering Out-of-Pocket Costs
Q Overall, how do you feel about making an annual contribution to help us cover major out-of-pocket costs (sheets, mattresses, condoms, lube, hand towels, etc.)?
N = 25 (non-hosts)
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Expected Annual Per-Person Contributions Average Almost $100, with Most Responses in the $50-100 Range
February 2024
Expected Annual Per-Person Contribution
Q. How much do you feel is an appropriate annual contribution to help cover major out-of-pocket costs per person (not per couple)? Please answer in $US.
N = 25 (non-hosts)
Overall average: $98.85
Men: $78.12
Women: $119.58
Singles: $140.42
Couples: $85.00
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A Significant Subset Would Like to See More Theme Parties Per Year
February 2024
Attitude Toward Number of Theme Parties Per Year
Q. We currently have two theme parties: our Halloween and holiday parties. What's your opinion on the number of theme parties we should throw per year??
N = 25 (non-hosts)
No appreciable difference by gender, relationship status, or length of attendance
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But None of the Tested Themes Are Highly Interesting to a Majority of Indulgents
February 2024
Very/Extremely Interested in Theme
Q. Please rate your interest in the following potential Indulgence party themes:
N = 25 (non-hosts); top-2 box percent
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There Was a Wide Variety of (and No Consensus on) Other Themes
February 2024
“Enable more pre-party interaction.”
“Disco”
“Fire & ice”
“Unicorn”
“Lingerie”
“Non-clothing clothing”
“Animals”
“Stripper/Chippendale’s”
“Cross dress/drag”
“Hawaiian”
“Name your fantasy”
“Nautical”
“Priests and nuns”
“Tantra/massage lessons”
“Body jewelry”
“Sports”
“Bring a new friend”
“Steam punk”
“Day of the Dead”
“80s”
“4th of July”
“Summer bikini”
“Oktoberfest”
“Kink”
“BDSM”
“Black tie & ballgown/ James Bond”
“Gangbang”
“Pornstars”
“Superheroes”
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Final Thoughts, Comments, and Opinions
February 2024
Q. Do you have any other thoughts, comments, or opinions for the hosts?? (open end)
N = 25 (non-hosts)
Other Thoughts/Comments/Opinions (Categorized)
Plus one mention each of: love the homes, don’t split play space at Gene’s, continue condom enforcement, how can I help, survey is good, profiles on website, suggestion box, more M parties
“I like enforcing condom use as that has made me uncomfortable in past when it is open for negotiation Thank you from some of us women!”
“I 💕 love all of you and am so appreciative of your efforts. I feel so blessed to be a part of this amazing group!”
“Love the hosts and the vibe they bring -- super fun, incredibly sexy, remarkably inclusive”
“Circle time is unnecessary. A reminder of consent in the beginning should be enough.”
“[AT Gene’s] sometimes the side room splits the fun. Would love to see everyone on the mats in one room.”
“You are all fucking awesome.”
“Indulgence is the best group by far”
“The surveys are a great idea and should be done regularly.”
“We are very grateful to be included in this hit club”
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Respondent Demographics
February 2024
Gender
Relationship Status
Survey date: January, 2024; Sample Size = 25 (non-hosts); 30 total (including hosts)
Indulgence Attendance
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