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I decide

what to do

with MY

body

It’s Okay to ask for help

I have choices

Tell

someone

It’s NEVER

my fault

8^th

Grade

Lesson 2

childhelp.org/SpeakUpBeSafe 1 (800) 4-A-CHILD

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Lesson 1 Review

Importance of healthy relationships
Right to personal safety
Sexual Harassment
Nature of abuse
Who might be an abuser
Where abuse might happen

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Unhealthy Relationships

Yelling
Hitting
Isolating
Abusive Language
Negative Comments
Lying

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Healthy Relationships

Trust
Feeling of Safety
Consistency of Behavior
Support for Purposeful Life

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friends
relatives
parents
teammates

guardians
coaches
teachers
strangers

Potential Abusers

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I decide

what to do

with MY

body

It’s okay to

ask for help to

keep yourself & others safe

I have choices

Tell

someone in authority

Abuse is

NEVER my

fault

Safety Principles

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2

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What Is Human Trafficking? Video

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Human trafficking

can happen anywhere

Contra Costa County is one of the hot spots

in California for human trafficking

Alameda County is the third largest hub for human trafficking in the United States

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I have choices

R - Run (immediately get away from

the situation; find a safe place or

person)

E – Escape (if you can’t leave immediately,

remove yourself from the danger as soon

as possible)

S – Scream (get someone’s attention; say

“No”; ask for help or make an excuse)

I - Ignore (avoid the issue now, take

action later)

S - Stay Away (if you know a problem

exists, don’t go back to it)

T – Tell (find someone you trust and tell

them what happened)

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Jenna has been talking to someone she met online named Derek. His profile says he is 15 and Jenna thinks he is super cute. He is funny, smart, and she feels a connection with Derek. After messaging for months, he sends Jenna a picture of his private body parts and asks Jenna to send one back. After Jenna sends the picture, Derek threatens to share it unless Jenna sends him money. Jenna sends Derek the money, but the next day he asks for more. Jenna feels like there is no way out of this situation.

Scenario 1

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What Should You Do?

talk to a trusted adult immediately about what is happening; this can’t wait, then contact law enforcement

don’t respond, but write down any identifying digital information about this person, like their tag name, email address etc.

block the person, don’t use the phone, the app, the website, but do take screenshots of any information that you can, don’t delete anything

Run

Escape

Scream

Ignore

Stay Away

Tell

you might respond by saying “No” or make an excuse, “Can’t talk right now, my mom is with me.” but it’s best to use “Ignore”

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• What you share online gives a predator access to information they need to

make a connection with you.

• People can pretend to be anything or anyone online. Videos and photos

are not proof of who a person is.

• If a person asks you to start talking on a different platform, app,

website or if they ask you to create multiple accounts to communicate

with them.

• Anything you send or share is out of your control. It may not be used to

blackmail or threaten you, but sexually explicit material can easily

become CSAM (child sexual abuse material) sold and shared on the

internet.

• Sometimes predators are phishing. ___% of youth feel it is normal to

sext or share videos of explicit material of themselves. If you have shared

explicit material, it doesn’t mean they have it, so DON’T RESPOND. But do

tell a safe adult immediately.

Be Aware

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What is Sextortion?

Sextortion is a crime and a form of child sexual exploitation in which children are threatened or blackmailed.

Sextortion happens when a child shares an image with someone they thought they knew or trusted.

In many cases, children are targeted by a person they met online who obtained a sexual image or sexual content from the child through deceit, coercion, or some other method in order to get money or additional sexual content.

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Sextortion can happen to a victim who is groomed over time. However, sextortion can also happen in a matter of minutes with no grooming involved.

If you or someone you know believes that they are a victim of sextortion, immediately report the activity to law enforcement. You can report it to the FBI by calling 1-800-CALL-FBI or by visiting tips.fbi.gov

From the end of 2021 to March of 2023, the FBI received 13,000 reports of financial sextortion of minors impacting 12,600 victims, leading to at least 20 suicides in the U.S. In 2024 (Approximate): Nearly 55,000 people reported sextortion to the FBI, with total losses exceeding $33 million. The FBI predicts that 165,267 reports will be made by 2025.

Were victims primarily boys or girls?

Boys

On which apps are minors most likely to experience sextortion?

Roblox, Snapchat, Instagram and Discord

The target age group for sextortion is 14-17 years of age.

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Sylvia is a new student at school. Your friends have been calling her mean names. You feel bad but don't say anything. Your friends have told you about their plan to embarrass Sylvia and film it.

Later that day, you see your friends have posted a video of what they did. As Sylvia walked past their lunch table, one of your friends tripped her and her tray hit the floor with a huge crash. Everyone howled with laughter. Sylvia broke down and fled the cafeteria in tears.

Scenario 2

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What Should You Do?

Run

Escape

Scream

Ignore

Stay Away

Tell

tell your friends to remove and delete the video, offer help or support to Sylvia

you should consider staying away from the kids who were bullying and made the video

tell someone in authority, use the report button where the video was posted

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You're sleeping over at your friend's house. You're both changing before bed, and you see bruises on your friend's arms and legs that you've never noticed before.

When you think about this, you realize your friend is always wearing long pants and long sleeve shirts, even when it's hot outside. You ask them about the bruises, but your friend's explanation doesn't make sense to you.

Scenario 3

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What Should You Do?

Run

Escape

Scream

Ignore

Stay Away

Tell

you need to tell a safe adult who will help, sometimes telling is the only option if nothing else works

you can go back home

ask your friend to come to your house, make an excuse for them to leave with you

you should stay away from the friend’s house until you know it’s safe

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Kyle and Angela have been dating for several months. Whenever Kyle goes out with friends, Angela becomes angry. She has yelled at Kyle in public and called him awful names. The next day, Angela is always nice, sweet and promises she'll never act this way again, so Kyle forgives her. Kyle is starting to think he can't do anything right. One night while watching a movie at Angela's house, Kyle gets a text. Angela grabs Kyle's phone and demands to know who is texting him. Kyle stands up and reaches for his phone. Angela shoves Kyle so hard that he falls to the floor.

Scenario 4

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What Should You Do?

Run

Escape

Scream

Ignore

Stay Away

Tell

leave her house if he has a safe place to go; go to another room where there are people or to a room where he can lock the door

he can call someone to pick him up as soon as possible

he could let her know that her behavior is not okay or make an excuse to leave

he needs to break up with her, not hang out with her, not call her or accept her calls, cut off social media connections, block her #

tell a trusted adult

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Ignoring the signs…

Do you think Kyle ignored signs that their relationship was unhealthy?

Do you feel there was trust?

Do you think Kyle felt safe and supported?

What about consistency in behavior?

Trust
Feeling of Safety
Consistency of Behavior
Support for Purposeful Life

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Wilma's stepfather started sexually abusing her when she was 4. He made a game out of touching her and having her touch him, but because she was so young, she did not know there was anything wrong with what he was doing. Now that she is older, Wilma knows what he is doing is wrong. Today, Wilma's mother is working late, and Wilma knows she will be alone with her stepfather. She wants to tell someone what is happening, but because everyone in town knows and loves her stepfather, Wilma thinks no one will believe her.

Scenario 5

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What Should You Do?

she must tell a Safe Adult

Run

Escape

Scream

Ignore

Stay Away

Tell

leave home before he gets there, or if he’s home, get away from him and get to a safe place or safe person

if she can’t leave immediately, she needs to get away as soon as she can

she could tell him “No” or “Stop,” she could call the police, or she could threaten to tell; create an excuse

try not to be alone with him or refuse to go back to wherever he is

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are afraid no one will believe you

are worried friends and family will judge you

don't want to get anyone in trouble

are scared you will get in trouble

are afraid someone will hurt you or someone you care about

think there is no solution to the problem

feel alone, think no one cares, believe no one will help or understand

are worried you will embarrass your family once you tell

It’s hard to tell

because you

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I have choices

Principles

It’s okay to

ask for help to keep yourself

& others safe

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3

Abuse is NEVER my fault

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Tell someone in authority

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1

I decide what to do with my body

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What would you do…

if you were the abuser in a situation?

if someone told you your behavior was abusive?

to change your behavior?

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Abuse Prevention Poster Contest

(edited for each school)

•11x17 paper for design available from teacher

•Work individually or in a group

•Great for your academic resume

•Designed by hand or computer

•Gift card from Target and your design turned into a poster

•Due Monday, March 2, 2026

•Name, teacher and date written on back of poster

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