2023 EDITION
LIFE SCHOOL
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
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YOUR INSTRUCTOR
Ryan Allis
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INSTRUCTOR CREDENTIALS
My background includes:
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THE CHALLENGING EXPERIENCES
Like everyone, I’ve been through lots of ups and downs. I learned as much from the hard times as the successes.
It hasn’t all been pretty. I have also failed a lot and gone through many challenging experiences that taught me a lot about life and business.
INTRODUCTION
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HELLO THERE
Hi there,��I’m Ryan. I’m a 34 year old entrepreneur from California. I created these slides to help you discover your purpose and live a life of joy and service based on what I’ve learned so far. I hope you find them useful in your own life. �
�With purpose, �Ryan Allis
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MY BACKGROUND FOR CONTEXT
BORN 1984 IN PITTSBURGH, PA
SON OF MINISTER FROM USA & SOCIAL WORKER FROM UK
STARTED LEARNING WEB DEVELOPMENT AT AGE 12 IN 1996
MAJORED IN ECONOMICS AT UNC-CHAPEL HILL
CO-FOUNDED & LED ICONTACT AS CEO FROM AGE 18-27
GREW ICONTACT TO 300 EMPLOYEES & $50M YEAR IN SALES
COMPLETED MBA AT HARVARD BUSINESS SCHOOL IN 2016
NOW LEADING HIVE, A COMMUNITY OF LEADERS
LIVING IN CALIFORNIA
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THE HISTORY OF THESE SLIDES
I STARTED WORKING ON THESE SLIDES IN 2012
THIS IS VERSION 3.0
2012 - 826 SLIDES
2014 - 1284 SLIDES
2018 - 2000+ SLIDES
I PLAN TO UPDATE THESE SLIDES CONTINUALLY AS I LEARN MORE
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THE HISTORY OF THESE SLIDES
I WAS AMAZED BY THE RECEPTION OF THE 2014 EDITION
- 6.6 MILLION VIEWS TO DATE -
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SINCE 2014
SINCE THE 2014 SLIDES I HAVE:
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WHO WAS THIS DECK DESIGNED FOR?
THE PRESENTATION IS DESIGNED
FOR MILLENNIALS AGES 15-35
WHO WANT TO LIVE LIVES OF PURPOSE AND BE PART OF CREATING A BETTER WORLD
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MY ORIGINAL MOTIVATION
MY ORIGINAL MOTIVATION
TO COMPLETE THIS PROJECT
WAS MY MOTHER PAULINE
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MY MOTIVATION
SHE PASSED AWAY
IN 2012 FROM A
BRAIN TUMOR
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MY MOTIVATION
SHE INSPIRED SO MANY
TO LIVE WITH JOY,
DREAM BIG, AND
FOLLOW THEIR DREAMS
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THIS UPDATED VERSION IS DEDICATED TO MY DAD
ANDREW ALLIS
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SLIDES DEDICATION
HE WAS AN EPISCOPALIAN
MINISTER FOR 50 YEARS
BEFORE PASSING AWAY
FROM LEUKEMIA IN 2014
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SLIDES DEDICATION
HE INSPIRED ME TO BECOME PASSIONATE ABOUT CREATING A MORE
CONSCIOUS WORLD
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MY GOAL WITH THESE SLIDES
MY GOAL WITH CREATING THESE SLIDES IS TO CONTRIBUTE TOWARD CREATING A MORE
CONSCIOUS WORLD
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MY DREAM IS A WORLD OF JOY AND
OPPORTUNITY FOR ALL
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MY LIFE PURPOSE
CREATE A WORLD OF JOY AND OPPORTUNITY FOR ALL PEOPLE
All people can live peaceful, healthy, and joyous lives
All people can live on a sustainable planet running on clean energy
All people have access to the six basic human needs of food, water, shelter, education, medicine, and electricity
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I’M WORKING ON THIS PURPOSE BY BUILDING HIVE IN SAN FRANCISCO
Hive is a global community of mission-driven leaders and entrepreneurs working on creating a better world.
Join us at www.hive.org.
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LET’S GET STARTED
ALL RIGHT NOW
LET’S GET STARTED
1000 SLIDES TO GO…
PURPOSE
SECTION ONE:
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WHAT IS A JEDI?
Jedi (n.)
“A highly competent, super-connected, and deeply compassionate soul & systems thinker, working at the highest levels of societal structuring, whose passion has been fully unleashed toward achieving an identified deeply meaningful mission that awakens them with extraordinary focus and immense energy daily.”
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JOE JAWORSKI ON CONSIDERING YOUR HIGHEST PURPOSE
PEOPLE ARE NOT REALLY AFRAID OF DYING; THEY’RE AFRAID OF NOT EVER HAVING LIVED, NOT EVER HAVING DEEPLY CONSIDERED THEIR LIFE’S HIGHEST PURPOSE, AND NOT EVER HAVING STEPPED INTO THAT PURPOSE AND AT LEAST TRIED TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THIS WORLD.
Joe Jaworski, Synchronicity: The Inner Path of Leadership
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ROBIN SHARMA ON THE SECRET OF HAPPINESS
THE SECRET OF HAPPINESS IS SIMPLE: FIND OUT WHAT YOU TRULY LOVE TO DO AND THEN DIRECT ALL OF YOUR ENERGY TOWARDS DOING IT. IF YOU STUDY THE HAPPIEST, HEALTHIEST, MOST SATISFIED PEOPLE OF OUR WORLD, YOU WILL SEE THAT EACH AND EVERY ONE OF THEM HAS FOUND THEIR PASSION IN LIFE AND THEN SPENT THEIR DAYS PURSUING IT.
Robin Sharma
author
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LIVING A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE
THE COMMON DENOMINATOR AMONG
EVERY HIGHLY DRIVEN AND SUCCESSFUL PERSON
I HAVE EVER MET, REGARDLESS OF FIELD,
IS THAT THEY HAVE COMMITTED THEIR GOALS TO
WRITING AND CREATED FOR THEMSELVES A
PURPOSE-DRIVEN LIFE
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THE PURPOSE OF THIS SECTION
PURPOSE-DRIVEN LIFE
THIS FIRST SECTION IS FOCUSED ON HELPING
YOU CREATE FOR YOURSELF A
IN WHICH YOU LIVE WITH JOY AND ABUNDANT ENERGY
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DANIEL PINK ON LIVING A PURPOSE-DRIVEN LIFE
daniel pink
author
AUTONOMOUS PEOPLE WORKING TOWARD MASTERY PERFORM AT VERY HIGH LEVELS. BUT THOSE WHO DO SO IN THE SERVICE OF SOME GREATER OBJECTIVE CAN ACHIEVE EVEN MORE. THE MOST DEEPLY MOTIVATED PEOPLE - NOT TO MENTION THOSE WHO ARE MOST PRODUCTIVE AND SATISFIED - HITCH THEIR DESIRES TO A CAUSE LARGER THAN THEMSELVES.
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A MODEL FOR FINDING YOUR PURPOSE
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AVOIDING THE VORTEX OF MEDIOCRITY
MOST PEOPLE NEVER CREATE THEIR
PURPOSE INSTEAD THEY GET
SUCKED INTO THE DREADED VORTEX
OF PASSIONLESS MEDIOCRITY
(DON’T LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOU)
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THE SPIRITUAL ROOTS OF PURPOSE
YOUR PURPOSE IS YOUR DHARMA
dharma (n.)
“Your unique gift to the world. Your calling. Your purpose.”
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CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE
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THE TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE
THOSE WHO LIVE WITH A
CLEAR PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DON’T
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DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
THOSE WHO TAKE THE TIME TO DISCOVER THEIR
PURPOSE OFTEN ARE ABLE TO LIVE WITH
EXTRAORDINARY ENERGY AND MOTIVATION &
OVERCOME CHALLENGES MOST COULD NOT
DREAM OF
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HOWARD THURMAN ON COMING ALIVE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Howard Thurman
Baptist Minister
1900-1981
DON’T ASK WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS. ASK WHAT MAKES YOU COME ALIVE AND GO DO THAT. BECAUSE WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS IS PEOPLE WHO HAVE COME ALIVE.
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YOU MUST CREATE THE MEANING IN YOUR LIFE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
LIFE HAS NO MEANING UNLESS YOU
CREATE THE MEANING
FOR YOURSELF
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JASON MRAZ ON CREATING MEANING IN LIFE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Jason Mraz
Singer & Guitarist
LIFE IS EMPTY AND MEANINGLESS. IT’S YOU WHO GIVES MEANING TO SOMETHING. THE WORLD YOU SEE BEFORE YOU IS ENTIRELY DEFINED BY YOUR INTERPRETATION OF IT. OTHERWISE, LIFE JUST IS.
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DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
IF YOU CAN GO THROUGH A
PROCESS TO CREATE YOUR
PURPOSE THEN YOU CAN ADD
GREAT MEANING AND MOTIVATION
TO YOUR LIFE
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DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
PURPOSE COMES FROM HAVING A
DEEPLY HELD COMMITMENT TOWARD
DOING SOMETHING THAT IS BIGGER
THAN YOURSELF
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WERNER ERHARD ON BECOMING A LEADER
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Werner Erhard
Being a Leader
EACH OF US MUST MAKE THE PERSONAL
CHOICE TO BE A HERO OR NOT, TO BE COMMITTED TO SOMETHING BIGGER THAN OURSELVES OR NOT, TO GO BEYOND THE WAY WE “WOUND UP BEING” AND HAVE THE PURPOSE OF OUR LIVES AND OUR CAREERS BE ABOUT SOMETHING THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE OR NOT, IN OTHER WORDS, TO BE A LEADER OR NOT.
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PURPOSE AND ENERGY
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
PURPOSE IS THE SOURCE OF
ALL ENERGY
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PURPOSE AND ENERGY
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
PURPOSE GIVES YOU A STRONGER
REASON TO WORK
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PURPOSE AND DRIVE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
PURPOSE CREATES
DRIVE
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PURPOSE AND ENERGY
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
PURPOSE CREATES THE
ABILITY TO GET THROUGH
THE TOUGH TIMES
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PURPOSE AND ENERGY
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
PURPOSE IS THE KEY TO GETTING INTO
FLOW
(THE TYPE WHERE TIME JUST DISAPPEARS)
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KOBE BRYANT ON FLOW
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
KOBE BRYANT
FORMER NBA PLAYER�LOS ANGELES LAKERS
WHEN YOU GET IN THAT ZONE, IT’S JUST A SUPREME CONFIDENCE THAT YOU KNOW IT’S GOING IN. THINGS JUST SLOW DOWN, EVERYTHING JUST SLOWS DOWN AND YOU JUST HAVE SUPREME CONFIDENCE … EVERYTHING BECOMES ONE NOISE, YOU DON’T HEAR THIS OR THAT. EVERYTHING IS JUST ONE THING.
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PURPOSE AND FLOW
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
WHEN YOU DO WHAT YOU
LOVE
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PURPOSE AND FLOW
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
DO WHAT YOU ARE
GOOD AT
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PURPOSE AND FLOW
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
AND DO IT FOR A REASON GREATER
THAN YOURSELF
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PURPOSE AND FLOW
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
YOU CAN ENTER
FLOW
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FLOW: A DEFINITION
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Flow (n.)
“the mental state in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity”
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MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHALYI ON FLOW
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
IN FLOW, THE EMOTIONS ARE NOT JUST CONTAINED AND CHANNELED, BUT POSITIVE, ENERGIZED, AND ALIGNED WITH THE TASK AT HAND. THE HALLMARK OF FLOW IS A FEELING OF SPONTANEOUS JOY, EVEN RAPTURE, WHILE PERFORMING A TASK.
MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHALYI
UNIVERSITY OF CHICAGO
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PURPOSE AND FLOW
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
FLOW OCCURS WHEN YOU ARE WORKING AT YOUR HIGHEST CAPACITY TOWARDS SOMETHING
GREATER THAN YOURSELF
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HBS PROFESSOR AMABILE ON PURPOSE AND FLOW
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
teresa m. amabile
professor harvard business school
THE DESIRE TO DO SOMETHING BECAUSE YOU FIND IT DEEPLY SATISFYING AND PERSONALLY CHALLENGING INSPIRES THE HIGHEST LEVEL OF CREATIVITY, WHETHER IT IS IN THE ARTS, SCIENCES, OR BUSINESS.
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PURPOSE AS YOUR INTUITIVE GUIDE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
LET YOUR PURPOSE BE YOUR
GUIDE
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PAYING ATTENTION TO WHAT BRINGS YOU ALIVE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
AND PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT TRULY MAKES YOU COME
ALIVE
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MARC BENIOFF ON PURPOSE ALIGNMENT
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
THE REAL JOY IN LIFE COMES FROM FINDING YOUR TRUE PURPOSE AND ALIGNING IT WITH WHAT YOU DO EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Marc Benioff, CEO
Salesforce.com
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PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
IT’S OKAY IF YOU’RE
UNCLEAR ABOUT YOUR
PURPOSE
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THE TWO PHASES OF LIFE THAT CONTINUALLY REPEAT
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
EXPLORATION TO IDENTIFY & CLARIFY YOUR PURPOSE
EXECUTION OF YOUR PURPOSE
ALTERNATE BETWEEN THESE TWO PHASES EVERY FEW YEARS
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TO BE CLEAR
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
THE EXPLORATION PHASE
THE EXECUTION PHASE
Going to school
Gaining skills
Finding mentors
Traveling/adventuring
Learning what you love
Learning about yourself
Learning what the world needs
Learning how you can contribute in a way that brings you alive
Finding a mission or problem you are deeply passionate about solving or contributing to�
Joining (or creating) an organization that allows you to work on a mission you are passionate about, make money, and do work that you love
Becoming committed to something bigger than yourself that you enjoy
Usually a defined time period like 5-10 years before it’s time for another exploration adventure
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MARK TWAIN ON THE MOST IMPORTANT DAYS IN YOUR LIFE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
THE TWO MOST IMPORTANT DAYS IN YOUR LIFE ARE THE DAY YOU ARE BORN AND THE DAY YOU FIND OUT WHY.
Mark Twain
Author
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SADLY MANY PEOPLE’S LIVES FOLLOW THIS PATTERN
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
THE EXPLORATION PHASE
THE ‘RESIGNED & CYNICAL’ PHASE
Going to school
Gaining skills
Finding mentors
Traveling/adventuring
Learning what you love
Learning about yourself
Learning what the world needs
Not taking the time to explore and learn what you really love to do and what lights you up inside
Taking the safe and meaningless route because it “pays the bills”
Not listening to your inner voice telling you to “get out”
Not giving yourself the permission to pursue your dreams and live boldly
Never finding the inner confidence to go after what you love and make a big difference
“Someday in the future” I’ll work on something more meaningful that I really love to do
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0 5 10 15 20 25 30 35 40 45 50 55 60 65 70 75 80
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THE THREE PHASES OF MANY PEOPLE’S LIVES…
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
AGE
5 10 15 20 25 30 35 40 45 50 55 60 65 70 75 80
THE EXPLORATION PHASE
THE CYNICAL ‘I HATE MY LIFE’ PHASE
Growing up
Going to school
Gaining skills
Finding mentors
Traveling/adventuring
Learning what you love
Learning what the world needs
Learning how you can contribute to society
Not taking the time to explore and learn what you really love to do
Taking the safe meaningless route because it “pays the bills”
Not listening to your inner voice and signals from your body and nervous system telling you to “get out”
Not giving yourself the permission to pursue your dreams and live boldly
Never finding the inner confidence to go after what you love and make a big difference
“Someday in the future” I’ll work on something more meaningful that I really love to do
THE DEATH PHASE
Your body breaking down and you dying earlier than you hoped because you lived a stressful unhealthy life
The regret at the end of your life of not actually pursuing your dreams
The regret at the end of your life of not actually living a life of meaning, flow, and contribution to others
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MANY PEOPLE ARE WAY TOO REASONABLE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
TOO MANY PEOPLE TAKE THE FIRST JOB THEY
GET OFFERED, GET STUCK IN A TRAP, THEN
40 YEARS LATER RETIRE TO DO WHAT THEY
WISH THEY HAD DONE
ALL THEIR LIFE
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GO EXPLORE WIDELY WHILE YOU’RE YOUNGER
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
MANY PEOPLE NEVER REACH THE PURPOSE PHASE BECAUSE THEY DON’T DO ENOUGH
EXPLORING
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GO EXPLORE WIDELY WHILE YOU’RE YOUNGER
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
BE SURE YOU DO AS MUCH EXPLORING AS YOU CAN ESPECIALLY BETWEEN AGES
18-35
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IF YOU HAVEN’T FOUND IT
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
UNTIL YOU FIND A CLEAR PURPOSE THAT
MOTIVATES YOU DEEPLY YOUR GOAL
SHOULD BE TO EXPLORE, LEARN, & TRY
MANY THINGS SO THAT YOU CAN SEE
WHAT THEY WORLD NEEDS AND WHAT
MAKES YOU COME ALIVE
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FIND YOUR PURPOSE BEFORE YOUR LIFE GETS TAKEN OVER BY KIDS
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
IF POSSIBLE, EXPLORE WIDELY BEFORE YOU HAVE KIDS SO THAT YOU CAN KNOW YOURSELF WELL BEFORE YOUR LIFE BECOMES ABOUT BRINGING ANOTHER BEING INTO THIS WORLD AND HELPING THEM FIND SOMETHING THAT
LIGHTS THEM UP
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ONE MAJOR TRAP OF LIFE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
GETTING A JOB AND THEN MASSIVELY INCREASING YOUR MONTHLY EXPENSES BEFORE YOU HAVE A CHANCE TO EXPLORE AND FIND WHAT YOU TRULY LOVE
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ANOTHER MAJOR TRAP OF LIFE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
HAVING KIDS BEFORE YOU’VE TAKEN TIME
TO EXPLORE WHAT BRINGS YOU ALIVE,
WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS, AND THE MAJOR CONTRIBUTION YOU WANT TO MAKE
IN YOUR LIFE TOWARD OTHERS
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IN REVIEW: THE TWO BIG TRAPS OF LIFE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
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BECOMING A ROLE MODEL FOR YOUR KIDS
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
IF YOU ALREADY HAVE KIDS
YOU CAN BE A ROLE MODEL
FOR THEM BY LIVING A LIFE
OF MEANING, PURPOSE,
AND JOY
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IF YOU ALREADY HAVE KIDS
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
DON’T TEACH YOUR
KIDS THAT LIFE IS
ABOUT STRESS, FEAR,
AND ANXIETY
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IF YOU ALREADY HAVE KIDS
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
TEACH YOUR KIDS THAT LIFE
IS ABOUT BEING HAPPY AND CONTRIBUTING TO OTHERS
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CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
ONCE YOU HAVE A CLEAR PURPOSE
AND GOALS FOR YOUR LIFE YOU CAN
DIRECT YOUR LIFE RATHER THAN LETTING
OUTSIDE FACTORS DETERMINE
YOUR DIRECTION
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STANDING STRONG WITH A CLEAR PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
YOU WILL BE ABLE TO MUCH MORE
EASILY WITHSTAND CRITICISM AND CHALLENGES WHEN YOU ARE INTERNALLY CLEAR ON YOUR SPECIFIC PURPOSE
ON THIS PLANET
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YOUR LIFE IS YOUR MESSAGE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
YOUR LIFE IS YOUR MESSAGE
TO THE WORLD MAKE SURE IT
IS INSPIRING
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STEVE JOBS ON HACKING THE MATRIX
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Steve Jobs
Founder of Apple
WHEN YOU GROW UP YOU TEND TO GET TOLD THE WORLD IS THE WAY IT IS AND YOUR LIFE IS JUST TO LIVE YOUR LIFE INSIDE THE WORLD. TRY NOT TO BASH INTO THE WALLS TOO MUCH. TRY TO HAVE A NICE FAMILY, HAVE FUN, SAVE A LITTLE MONEY… THAT'S A VERY LIMITED LIFE. LIFE CAN BE MUCH BROADER ONCE YOU DISCOVER ONE SIMPLE FACT… EVERYTHING AROUND YOU THAT YOU CALL LIFE WAS MADE UP BY PEOPLE THAT WERE NO SMARTER THAN YOU AND YOU CAN CHANGE IT, YOU CAN INFLUENCE IT. ONCE YOU LEARN THAT, YOU'LL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN.
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YOUR PURPOSE = YOUR DREAM
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
THERE ARE SOME SYNONYMS
FOR THE WORD PURPOSE
LIKE “DREAM” OR “MISSION”
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SYNONYMS FOR PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
PURPOSE = DREAM = MISSION
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LIVING A PURPOSE-DRIVEN LIFE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
LIVING A PURPOSE-DRIVEN
LIFE IS KEY TO LIVING A LIFE
FULL OF INSPIRATION AND
ENERGY
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BILL GEORGE ON CLARITY OF PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Bill George
Discovering Your True North
AS AN AUTHENTIC LEADER, YOU MUST CHOOSE YOUR PURPOSE CAREFULLY, BECAUSE YOUR PASSION FOR THAT PURPOSE IS WHAT DRAWS PEOPLE TO YOU AS A LEADER. IF YOU AREN’T CLEAR ABOUT YOUR PURPOSE, WHY WOULD OTHERS WANT TO FOLLOW YOU?
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LIVING A PURPOSE-DRIVEN LIFE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
LIVING A PURPOSE-DRIVEN
LIFE IS IMPORTANT TO ME
HERE’S WHAT I’VE CREATED
AS MY PURPOSE
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MY DREAM IS A WORLD OF JOY AND
OPPORTUNITY FOR ALL PEOPLE
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CREATING A PURPOSE-DRIVEN LIFE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
EVERYTHING I DO
IS DRIVEN BY THIS
DREAM
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WHAT’S NEEDED FOR THIS DREAM TO BECOME REAL?
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
IN ORDER FOR EVERYONE TO BE
ABLE TO PURSUE THEIR DREAMS
EVERYONE MUST HAVE ACCESS TO
BASIC HUMAN NEEDS
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MY DREAM
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
SOMEDAY
ALL PEOPLE WILL
HAVE ACCESS TO THE
SIX BASIC HUMAN NEEDS
OF FOOD, WATER, SHELTER, MEDICINE
EDUCATION AND ELECTRICITY
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MY DREAM
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
SOMEDAY WE WILL
LIVE IN A SUSTAINABLE WORLD POWERED BY RENEWABLE CLEAN ENERGY
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MY DREAM
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
SOMEDAY ALL PEOPLE
WILL BE ABLE TO LIVE
PEACEFUL, MINDFUL
AND JOYOUS LIVES
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WERNER ERHARD ON PROACTIVELY CREATING YOUR FUTURE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Werner Erhard
YOUR FUTURE MUST BE CREATED BY YOURSELF CLEARLY, CRYSTAL CLEARLY, OTHERWISE YOU’LL BE AT THE WHIM OF SOCIETY, THE WHIM OF OTHERS, THE WHIM OF THE WINDS. WHEN YOU HAVE A CLEAR AND SPECIFIC FUTURE CREATED FOR YOURSELF THEN YOU CAN ACTUALLY MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.
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PURPOSE WITHIN A TEAM
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
HAVING A “SHARED PURPOSE”
BRINGS OUT THE BEST
IN YOUR TEAM
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SHARED PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
A “SHARED PURPOSE” IS A
COMMON GOAL
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SHARED PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
IT IS ROOTED IN STRONG
BELIEFS ABOUT THE NATURE
OF THE WORLD
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SHARED PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
A DEEPLY HELD VALUE
THAT CAN BE A SOURCE OF
BOTH MEANING AND IDENTITY
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PURPOSE AS SHARED VISION
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
A SHARED VISION DRIVES
EFFORT, SELECTION, AND
ALIGNMENT
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PURPOSE AS SHARED VISION
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
MEANING DRIVES ENGAGEMENT
AND INTRINSIC MOTIVATION
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SHARED PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
CREATE A “SHARED PURPOSE”
WITHIN YOUR ORGANIZATION
AND WATCH MAGIC HAPPEN
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CREATING YOUR PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
THE EXERCISE ON THE
FOLLOWING SLIDES CAN
HELP YOU CREATE & REFINE
YOUR PURPOSE
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THE THREE ELEMENTS OF A GOOD PURPOSE STATEMENT
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
INSPIRING
MEMORABLE
UNDERSTANDABLE
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WHAT MAKES A GOOD PURPOSE STATEMENT
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
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YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
YOU CAN DO THE FOLLOWING
90 MINUTE ‘FINDING YOUR
PURPOSE’ EXERCISE RIGHT
NOW OR PUT A TIME ON YOUR
CALENDAR TO DO IT
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THESE ARE THE KEY QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
THE BELOW OVALS HAVE THE
KEY BRAINSTORMING QUESTIONS
NEEDED TO DISCOVER YOUR
AUTHENTIC PURPOSE
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THESE ARE THE KEY QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
CONSIDER SPENDING SOME TIME
WITH THESE QUESTIONS NOW
OR IN THE NEAR FUTURE OR
ATTENDING AN IN-PERSON
HIVE PURPOSE WORKSHOP
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FINDING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
YOU CAN DOWNLOAD THE LATEST HIVE ‘DESIGNING YOUR LIFE WORKBOOK’ AT
hive.org/resources
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BILL GEORGE ON LIVING LIKE IT’S THE LAST DAY OF YOUR LIFE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Bill George
Discovering Your True North
STEVE JOBS HAD A PRACTICE OF LOOKING IN THE MIRROR EACH MORNING AND ASKING HIMSELF, “IF TODAY WERE THE LAST DAY OF MY LIFE, WOULD I WANT TO DO WHAT I AM ABOUT TO DO TODAY?” WHENEVER THE ANSWER WAS NO FOR TOO MANY DAYS IN A ROW, HE KNEW NEEDED TO CHANGE. HE SAID, “YOUR TIME IS LIMITED, SO DON’T WASTE IT LIVING SOMEONE ELSE’S LIFE... HAVE THE COURAGE TO FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND INTUITION.
PURPOSE
EXERCISE
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A MODEL FOR FINDING YOUR PURPOSE
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
FIND THE INTERSECTION�OF THESE FOUR QUESTIONS
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EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR PURPOSE STATEMENT
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
PURPOSE EXERCISE INSTRUCTIONS:
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WHAT DO YOU REALLY LOVE DOING?
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
When am I most in flow/in the zone? What excites me? What makes me come alive and be joyous?
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WHAT DOES THE WORLD NEED?
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
What does humanity and the world need to thrive? List as many things as you can think of.
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HOW CAN I CREATE WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS WHILE DOING WHAT I LOVE?
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
What are all the things I could do in life that would serve humanity in a big way and allow me to do what I love? Brainstorm below.
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WHAT WOULD I DO IF I WERE UNREASONABLE?
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
What would I do with my life if I were actually doing exactly what I wanted to do, were completely unreasonable about it, and stopped coming up with reasons and excuses for why I can’t truly live into my full potential now?
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WHAT ARE MY PERSONAL FINANCIAL GOALS?
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
What do you want your annual income to be in 10 years? In 20?
What do you want to have saved up in investments and savings by age 65?
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HOW CAN I GET PAID TO DO WHAT I LOVE?
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
What could you do in life that would serve humanity in a big way, allow you to do what you love, and create value for others that allows you to reach and surpass your personal financial goals?
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DESCRIBE HOW THE WORLD WILL BE DIFFERENT IN 2050 BECAUSE OF YOU
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Imagine you made 10x the impact you thought you would. Close your eyes for 2 minutes and imagine all the little details of how our world will be different in 2050 because of you. Then write what you see.
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WHAT MIGHT BE MY PURPOSE?
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
What is so compelling to you that you might be willing to dedicate your life to making it happen?
In other words, what might be your “purpose” or your “dream”. Use the space to brainstorm possibilities.
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WHAT IS MY PURPOSE?
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
See if you answer the above question as simply as possible so that a 10 year old would understand it.
Try to do it in fewer than 15 words (no pressure, this is just a draft). This could be considered your purpose or dream.
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POSSIBLE METRICS OF SUCCESS
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
What are some metrics to track whether your purpose is being realized in the world over the next 35 years? Make these metrics specific and quantitative so it will be clear when you’ve achieved the impact you want to make in your life.
Examples: Global infant mortality < 1%; Global energy from renewables >95%; Carbon dioxide under 350 PPM; Homelessness in Oakland, CA down by 80%
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HOW MIGHT I MAKE THIS HAPPEN?
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
What can you create/build/do during your life to help make this world that you dream of real? It’s okay if you aren’t completely sure yet. Will you build a company or work for one? Brainstorm ideas.
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WHAT HABITS DO I WANT TO START AND STOP?
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
What are the habits I want to start, stop, and continue in the next 90 days? Consider habits related to health, mentors, friends, work, finance, reflection, experiences, travel, and mindfulness.
Habits to Stop
Habits to Start
Habits to Continue
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LIFETIME GOALS
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Brainstorm some goals for the rest of your life that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like health, travel, experiences, adventures, work, finances, relationships, and impact.
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10 YEAR GOALS
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Brainstorm some goals for the next ten years that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like health, travel, experiences, adventures, work, finances, relationships, and impact.
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1 YEAR GOALS
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Brainstorm some goals for the next year that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like health, travel, experiences, adventures, work, finances, relationships, and impact.
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90 DAY ACTION PLAN
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
What are the very first action steps you can take over the next 90 days to start realizing your vision? Who should you reach out to? What should you look into? What habits do want to start and stop?
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YOUR DESIRED WAY OF BEING
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
As you go about your journey in life, how do you want to feel inside and come across to others?
What words do you want to define you?
Examples: Joyous, mindful, alive, focused, driven, ambitious, kind, compassionate, loving
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HOW OTHERS WILL REMEMBER YOU
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
People will help you reach your goals if they can remember what you’re all about. Make it simple for others you meet to remember what you’re up to by finishing the below sentence and making sure those you meet know what you’re up to in the world.
I will be known in my community as the
______________ _____________
person.
Examples: “I will be known in the world as the sustainable energy person”
“I will be known in the world as the women’s rights advocate”
“I will be known in the world as the global leaders convener”
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NOW BRING IT ALL TOGETHER
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Worksheet Instructions
On the next page is a blank life plan form.
Give yourself some time to review and reflect on all your answers from the brainstorming session. Then print out and fill in the life plan form with a pen or pencil. Feel free to adjust your answers as you go, but don’t worry too much about getting it perfect.
Consider this form as just a draft. You can print out another one anytime.
There are no right answers and you can re-do your life plan as often as you want. I find just having something written down helps people a lot. I actually recommend re-doing this exercise at the end of each year.
I suggest framing the page after you’re done and putting it up in your office or bedroom.
THOSE WHO DO NOT YET KNOW THEIR PURPOSE
Signed on _______________, _______ 20___ X______________________________________
I will be known in my community as the _______________ _______ _________ _______ _______________ _______
Purpose
Way of being
How I’ll make It happen
90 Day Action Plan
10 year goals
Lifetime goals
1 Year Goals
Metrics of �Success by 2050
Habits to Stop
Identity
Habits to Start
Habits to Continue
Life Plan of ______________ ______________
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AS AN EXAMPLE HERE IS MY CURRENT
“LIFE PLAN” IN THE 1 PAGE FORMAT
I UPDATE IT ABOUT 1X PER YEAR
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSEAS AN EXAMPLE HERE IS MY CURRENT
HiveX
Masters in Leadership
Hive
Publishing
Hive Entrepreneurs Institute
Event Space
My purpose
Example: Life Plan of Ryan Allis from 2015
Signed on _______________, _______ 20___ X______________________________________
Desired way of being
How I’ll make It happen
I will be known in my community as the human potential unleasher.
Creating a world of joy and opportunity for all people
Joyous, happy, fully alive
Metrics by 2050
Hive Women’s Institute
Hive Wellness Institute
Hive Coaching
Institute
Hive Leadership Institute
Hive
Ventures
Hive Business Consulting
Hive Community Centers
Co-working Space
Co-living
Space
Hive Retreat Centers
Hive Hotels
Hive
University
Retreats
GLP
1. Build Hive into the world’s most impactful community of leaders and entrepreneurs working on creating a better world 2. Bring high-quality global leadership + eship education to 1000 cities around the world 3. Change the way people live, work, learn, travel, eat, exercise, meditate and gather based around purpose and community
90 Day Action Plan
10 year goals
Lifetime goals
1 Year Goals
1. 100% access to BHNs
2. 0 Global Conflicts
3. 1000 financially sustainable Hives
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WHEN YOU MEET PEOPLE YOU SHOULD BE
ABLE TO CLEARLY EXPRESS YOUR PURPOSE
IN 15 WORDS OR LESS WITH AUTHENTIC
EXCITEMENT IN A WAY THAT MOVES PEOPLE
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR PURPOSE
WHEN YOU TELL THEM
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E.E. CUMMINGS ON DANCING TO YOUR OWN DRUM
E. E. Cummings�American Poet
TO BE NOBODY BUT YOURSELF IN A WORLD WHICH IS DOING ITS BEST, NIGHT AND DAY, TO MAKE YOU EVERYBODY ELSE MEANS TO FIGHT THE HARDEST BATTLE WHICH ANY HUMAN BEING CAN FIGHT; AND NEVER STOP FIGHTING.
GOALS
PART ONE, SECTION TWO:
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ARISTOTLE ON GOALS
Aristotle�Philosopher
FIRST, HAVE A DEFINITE, CLEAR PRACTICAL IDEAL; A GOAL, AN OBJECTIVE. SECOND, HAVE THE NECESSARY MEANS TO ACHIEVE YOUR ENDS; WISDOM, MONEY, MATERIALS, AND METHODS. THIRD, ADJUST ALL YOUR MEANS TO THAT END.
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THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
VERY FEW PEOPLE ACTUALLY
WRITE DOWN THEIR GOALS
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THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
FEWER STILL PRINT THEM
OUT & FRAME THEM
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THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
IN MY EXPERIENCE THOSE WHO
WRITE DOWN & FRAME THEIR GOALS
ARE THE MOST EFFECTIVE HUMAN BEINGS
AT ACHIEVING
WHAT THEY SEEK
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THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
WHEN YOU WRITE A GOAL DOWN YOUR
SUBCONSCIOUS BRAIN BEGINS TO
MORE ACTIVELY THINK ABOUT BRINGING
INTO YOUR LIFE THE PEOPLE, RESOURCES
& KNOWLEDGE YOU NEED TO ACHIEVE
YOUR GOALS
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THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
WHEN YOU KNOW WHAT YOU’RE UP TO
IN THE WORLD YOUR MIND CAN
NATURALLY FILTER OPPORTUNITIES TO
FIND THOSE THAT MATCH YOUR
GOALS
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ELIZABETH GILBERT ON CREATING YOUR LIFE
YOU GOTTA CREATE YOUR LIFE AND WRITE YOUR STORY WITH YOUR OWN HANDS.
Elizabeth Gilbert
Eat, Pray, Love
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I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS AT 16
I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS
AT AGE 16 IN THE YEAR 2000 AFTER
MY MOM GAVE ME THE BOOK THINK
AND GROW RICH
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I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS AT 16
THE FIRST EVER GOAL I WROTE
DOWN AT AGE 16 WAS “BUILD
A COMPANY TO $1M IN SALES
BY 21”
THE FIRST GOAL I EVER WROTE DOWN
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I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS AT 16
BUILDING A COMPANY TO
$1M IN SALES BY 21 WAS
AN AMBITIOUS GOAL FOR A
16 YEAR OLD KID
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A LONG WAY TO GO
AT AGE 16 I WAS JUST A
FREELANCE WEBSITE DESIGNER
AND HIGH SCHOOL STUDENT
EARNING $2000/YEAR
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SO WHAT HAPPENED?
I MISSED THIS GOAL BY 18 DAYS
I TURNED 21 ON AUGUST 14, 2005
ICONTACT REACHED $1M IN SALES
ON SEPTEMBER 1, 2005
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I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS AT 16
I WOULDN’T HAVE EVEN
COME CLOSE TO ACHIEVING
THIS GOAL HAD I NOT
WRITTEN IT DOWN
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I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS AT 16
WRITTEN GOALS ARE
INDEED POWERFUL FOR
FOCUSING THE MIND
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THE WORKSHOP OF THE MIND
ANYTHING THAT GETS
CREATED IN REALITY MUST
FIRST BE BLUEPRINTED IN
THE WORKSHOP OF OUR
MINDS
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WHEN YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
ONCE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU
WANT IT BECOMES ONE
THOUSAND TIMES EASIER
TO GET IT
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OPRAH WINFREY ON DESTROYING LIMITING BELIEFS
Oprah Winfrey
Own Network
IF YOU CULTIVATE YOUR SPIRIT AND HAVE NO LIMITING BELIEFS YOUR LIFE WILL GROW BIG.
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LET IT COME THROUGH YOU
BE CLEAR ON WHAT YOU WANT, BE CLEAR
ON THE POSITIVE IMPACT YOU WISH TO
MAKE THEN BE RELENTLESS BE UNLEASHED,
BE UNSTOPPABLE, AND LET THE PURPOSE
JUST COME THROUGH YOU
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BECOMING THE AUTHENTIC VERSION OF YOURSELF
THE MAGIC COMES WHEN YOU BECOME EVEN
MORE ECCENTRIC, NOT LESS. THOSE WHO MADE
HISTORY NEVER BLENDED IN. STOP TRYING TO
CONFORM TO THE MIDDLE OF THE BELL CURVE
SO AS NOT TO MAKE TOO MUCH OF A WAVE.
JUST DO YOU AND BE YOU IN EVERY MOMENT.
BECOME THE FULLY EXPRESSED
AUTHENTIC VERSION OF YOURSELF.
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WHEN YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
YET SO MANY PEOPLE LACK THE
SELF-CONFIDENCE TO BELIEVE
THEY ARE WORTHY OF THEIR
DREAMS
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IF NOTHING ELSE, KNOW THIS
YOU ARE WORTHY OF
YOUR DREAMS
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YOU ARE WORTHY OF YOUR DREAMS
THE WORLD WANTS
YOU TO LIVE WITH JOY,
PASSION, AND PURPOSE
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WHERE DOES JOY COME FROM?
JOY COMES FROM BEING PRESENT IN EVERY MOMENT ACHIEVING MEANINGFUL GOALS SPENDING TIME WITH CLOSE FRIENDS
APPRECIATING THE BEAUTY & IMPERMANENCE
OF LIFE & BEING COMMITTED TO SOMETHING
BIGGER THAN YOURSELF
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LIVE A LIFE OF MEANING
THE WORLD WANTS YOU
TO MAKE AN IMPACT AND
LIVE A LIFE OF MEANING
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BOLDNESS
BUT YOU MUST BE BOLD,
ACTUALLY FOLLOW YOUR
DREAMS, AND GO AFTER
CREATING A BETTER WORLD
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TONY ROBBINS ON ACTING DIFFERENTLY THAN MOST PEOPLE
Tony Robbins
motivational speaker
PEOPLE WHO SUCCEED
AT THE HIGHEST LEVEL
ARE NOT LUCKY; THEY’RE DOING SOMETHING DIFFERENTLY THAN EVERYONE ELSE DOES.
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LIVING WITH GRATITUDE
ONCE YOU START APPRECIATING
WHAT YOU HAVE IT BECOMES SO
MUCH EASIER TO LIVE WITH JOY AS
YOU WORK TOWARD YOUR DREAMS
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REFLECTING ON GOALS
I’VE BEEN AMAZED AT WHAT I’VE BEEN
ABLE TO SEE, AND EXPERIENCE AND
HOW LIFE HAS BEEN ENRICHED SINCE
I BEGAN WRITING DOWN GOALS
AND THEN PURSUING THE HECK
OUT OF THEM
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REFLECTING ON GOALS
HERE ARE JUST A FEW OF THE THINGS
IN LIFE I’VE BEEN ABLE TO ACHIEVE
IN MY FIRST 31 YEARS OF LIFE
DUE TO WRITING DOWN MY GOALS
AND THEN PURSUING THEM
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WHAT HAPPENED HAS HAPPENED DUE TO WRITING MY GOALS DOWN
AGE | MAJOR LIFE GOAL ACHIEVED THROUGH INTENTIONAL FOCUSED EFFORTS |
21 | GREW ICONTACT TO $1M IN SALES |
23 | PUBLISHED BOOK ZERO TO ONE MILLION THROUGH MCGRAW-HILL |
25 | RAISED $40M IN VENTURE CAPITAL SERIES B FOR ICONTACT |
26 | ICONTACT REACHED 300 EMPLOYEES AND $50M IN ANNUAL SALES JOINED UNITED NATIONS FOUNDATION GLOBAL ENTREPRENEUR COUNCIL MET WORLD LEADERS LIKE BAN KI MOON, KOFI ANNAN, BILL CLINTON, BARACK OBAMA |
27 | SOLD ICONTACT FOR $1M TO A PUBLIC COMPANY VISITED KENYA, UGANDA, RWANDA, EGYPT, GHANA; GOT INTO HARVARD BUSINESS SCHOOL MBA PROGRAM WITHOUT A COLLEGE DEGREE |
28 | INVESTED IN SPACEX, CHANGE.ORG, LENDINGCLUB THROUGH HIVE VENTURES IMPACT FUND COMPLETED YEAR ONE OF HBS MBA IN BOSTON |
29 | FINISHED LOSING 60 POUNDS (210 → 150) TOOK TWO YEARS OFF SCHOOL AND STARTED HIVE GLOBAL LEADERS PROGRAM |
30 | STARTED DAILY YOGA & MEDITATION |
| EARNED MBA FROM HARVARD BUSINESS SCHOOL |
BUILDING ICONTACT
LEADING AN AMAZING EXECUTIVE TEAM
JOINING THE UN FOUNDATION GLOBAL ENTREPRENEUR COUNCIL
CO-CHAIRING TECH FOR OBAMA IN 2012
ATTENDING HARVARD BUSINESS SCHOOL
STARTING HIVE, A GLOBAL COMMUNITY OF LEADERS
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ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE
NEARLY ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE
THAT YOU SET YOUR MIND TO
AND WORK HARD AT FOR 10
YEARS
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MY CURRENT GOALS
AS AN EXAMPLE
HERE ARE MY CURRENT GOALS
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MY CURRENT GOALS
I MAKE MY GOALS INTENTIONALLY
AMBITIOUS AND TRY TO HIT NO
MORE THAN 60-70%
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1 YEAR GOALS - BY 8/14/2017
GROW HIVE TO 2000 GLOBAL
MEMBERS
MEDITATE 90% OF DAYS THIS YEAR
VISIT ARGENTINA, CUBA, AND
THAILAND
LESSONS SLIDE DECK TO REACH 20M
VIEWS
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10 YEAR GOALS – BY 2025
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LIFETIME GOALS
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NEVER LIMIT YOUR DREAMS
MY FRIENDS... DO NOT LIMIT YOUR DREAMS
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VISIONS BECOME REAL
VISIONS DO MANIFEST IN REALITY
NOT THROUGH MAGIC BUT RATHER BY
FOCUSING YOUR MIND ON LEARNING
WHAT YOU MUST LEARN AND MEETING
WHO YOU MUST MEET TO MAKE YOUR
DREAMS REAL
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GOETHE ON DREAMING BIG
Goethe
German Writer
DREAM NO SMALL DREAMS. FOR THEY HAVE NO POWER TO MOVE THE HEARTS
OF MEN.
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WRITE DOWN YOUR GOALS
HERE IS A 12 STEP PROCESS
YOU CAN USE FOR WRITING
DOWN YOUR GOALS
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WRITE DOWN YOUR GOALS
YOU CAN DO THIS 30 MINUTE EXERCISE
RIGHT NOW OR PUT A TIME ON YOUR
CALENDAR TO COME BACK TO IT
GOALS
EXERCISE
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GOAL SETTING PROCESS
OPEN UP A GOOGLE DOC
CREATE HEADINGS FOR 1 YRS, 10 YRS,
AND LIFETIME
THEN WRITE DOWN 5 TO 7 GOALS IN
EACH CATEGORY
MAKE EVERYTHING FIT ON ONE PAGE
MAKE SURE ALL GOALS ARE MEASURABLE SO YOU’LL KNOW IF YOU GOT THERE OR NOT
1
2
3
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GOAL SETTING PROCESS
PRINT OUT TWO COPIES
SIGN THEM
FRAME THEM
4
6
5
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GOAL SETTING PROCESS
PUT ONE FRAME IN YOUR BEDROOM
PUT ONE FRAME AT WORK
SHARE YOUR ONE-PAGER WITH A
CLOSE FRIEND
7
8
9
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GOAL SETTING PROCESS
10
11
12
DEC 26-31 CALCULATE RESULTS
GREEN = MADE IT
YELLOW = 50%+ there
RED = <50% there
UPDATE GOAL SHEET FOR THE NEXT
YEAR & REPRINT/RESIGN/PUT IN FRAME
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MAKING YOUR GOALS AMBITIOUS ENOUGH
REMEMBER, YOU SHOULD BE HITTING AROUND 66% OF YOUR GOALS IF HIGHER THEN YOUR GOALS ARE NOT AMBITIOUS
ENOUGH
GOALS
REFLECTION
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GOALS REFLECTION
WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME
YOU WROTE DOWN YOUR
GOALS? CAN YOU FIND THEM?
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GOALS REFLECTION
DO YOU THINK THE GOALS YOU
SET ARE USUALLY TOO AMBITIOUS?
OR NOT AMBITIOUS ENOUGH?
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GOALS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST AMBITIOUS GOAL
YOU’VE EVER SET? DID YOU ACHIEVE IT?
WHY OR WHY NOT?
VISION
PART ONE, SECTION THREE:
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DEEPAK CHOPRA ON VISION
Deepak Chopra
Spirituality Author
VISIONS DO MANIFEST IN REALITY.
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VISION
GREAT LEADERS HAVE A CLEAR PURPOSE
AND A CLEAR VISION OF THE WORLD THEY
ARE WORKING TO CREATE
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VISION BOARDS
LET’S START BY TALKING ABOUT
VISION BOARDS
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VISION BOARDS
WHEN GOALS & DREAMS BECOME VISUALIZED
THEY BECOME ONE BIG LEAP CLOSER TO
BECOMING REAL
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A.E. BALLAKISTEN ON OUR ONE FINITE LIFE
SHORT THIS LIFE IS, JUST ONE I’VE GOT, FINITE IN TENURE, WHETHER I LIKE IT OR NOT. DEAD IS EMBRACING FEAR, REPLACING DREAMS WITH ‘I CANNOT.’ ALIVE IS TAKING A NEW STEP, HAVING A SHOT. I WILL DO THE IMPOSSIBLE, I WILL CHANGE THE WORLD, I WILL GIVE HOPE TO A DESPAIRING NATION, I’LL GIVE BREAD TO A STARVING GIRL. I’LL BREAK ALL THE RECORDS, I’LL DO WHAT’S NEVER BEEN DONE, I’LL GIVE AND KNOW LOVE, I’LL BE A BILLIONAIRE OF FUN.
WHAT WILL YOU DO WITH TODAY, THIS HOUR, THIS MINUTE? WILL YOU FILL WITH DULL AND FEAR OR WILL YOU LIVE IT? I WILL NOT TOLERATE ANY FOE NO MATTER WEAPON OR MUNITION, ESPECIALLY IF THAT FOE IS WITHIN ME IN THE FORM OF FEAR OR LACK OF AMBITION. SHORT THIS LIFE IS, JUST ONE I’VE GOT. FINITE IN TENURE WHETHER I LIKE IT OR NOT. AS SURE AS THE EAGLE I WILL FLY, ’COS I CHOOSE, I CHOOSE TO LIVE UNTIL I DIE.
A.E. BALLAKISTEN
Poet
VISION BOARD
EXERCISE
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VISION BOARDS
VISION BOARDS ARE WHITE POSTER
BOARDS COVERED WITH CUT OUT
IMAGES OF WHAT YOU WANT TO SEE
IN YOUR FUTURE AND THE WORLD’S
FUTURE
MY 2009 VISION BOARD
A FRIEND’S VISION BOARD
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AN INSPIRATION BOARD OF PEOPLE YOU ADMIRE
YOU CAN ALSO CREATE A VISION
BOARD OF FRIENDS & PEOPLE YOU
ADMIRE I CALL THIS
A PEOPLE BOARD
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HERE’S AN EXAMPLE OF MY 2016 PEOPLE BOARD
Hive publishes annual deck The World Report similar to Internet Trends
THE GATHERERS
THE LIVING
EXPERTS
CLOSEST
FRIENDS
MY MENTEES
MY HEROES
MY MENTORS
HIVE TEAM
MY ADVISORS
PORTFOLIO �CEOs
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VISION BOARD CREATION PROCESS
SEARCH FOR & PRINT OUT AT LEAST 5 IMAGES IN EACH OF THE BELOW CATEGORIES
FAMILY
HEALTH
EDUCATION
TRAVEL
ADVENTURE
CAREER
FINANCIAL
QUOTES
VALUES
ART
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VISION BOARD CREATION PROCESS
ONCE PRINTED & TORN OUT
CUT TO SIZE
THEN PASTE OR TAPE
ONTO YOUR VISION BOARD
THEN SHARE IT WITH A FRIEND
AND HANG IT IN YOUR BEDROOM
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VISION BOARD REFLECTION
HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN
SINCE YOU’VE CREATED A
VISION BOARD? DO YOU
STILL HAVE IT?
209
VISION BOARD REFLECTION
WHAT ARE THE INSTANCES
IN YOUR LIFE IN WHICH YOU’VE
SEEN INTENTION TURN INTO
REALITY?
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BUCKET LISTS
CREATE YOUR FUTURE
BUCKET LISTS ALLOW YOU
TO CAPTURE YOUR DREAMS
THEY ARE ANOTHER WAY TO
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BUCKET LISTS
YOU CAN CREATE THEM AS A LIST
OR EVEN BETTER PUT THEM UP ON
YOUR WALL WITH POST-IT NOTES
212
BUCKET LISTS
YOU SHOULD UPDATE YOUR
BUCKET LIST ONCE PER YEAR
NEAR YOUR BIRTHDAY OR THE
LAST 5 DAYS OF THE YEAR
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BUCKET LISTS
HERE’S MY LIFETIME
BUCKET LIST
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MY BUCKET LIST
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MY BUCKET LIST
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MY BUCKET LIST
IN SALES
217
MY BUCKET LIST
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MY BUCKET LIST
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MY BUCKET LIST
220
MY BUCKET LIST
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RELATIONSHIP BUCKET LISTS
IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP
TRY CREATING A BUCKET LIST
OF THINGS YOU WANT TO
DO TOGETHER
BUCKET LIST
EXERCISE
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RELATIONSHIP BUCKET LISTS
NOW, GO AHEAD GRAB SOME
POST-IT NOTES OR OPEN A
GOOGLE DOC AND START MAKING
YOUR BUCKET LIST
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CREATING YOUR BUCKET LIST
WRITE DOWN ALL THE AMAZING
EXPERIENCES YOU WANT TO HAVE
OVER THE REST OF YOUR LIFE
AND DREAM BIG
225
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST EXCITING
THING YOU’VE DONE IN THE
LAST YEAR?
226
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST EXCITING
THING YOU’VE DONE IN THE
LAST 10 YEARS?
227
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST MEANINGFUL
THING YOU’VE DONE IN THE
LAST YEAR?
228
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST MEANINGFUL
THING YOU’VE DONE IN THE
LAST 10 YEARS?
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BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT DREAM, IF YOU ACCOMPLISHED
IT, WOULD BE EXTREMELY MEANINGFUL?
HAPPINESS
PART ONE, SECTION FOUR:
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MATTHIEU RICARD ON HAPPINESS
Matthieu Ricard
INSERT TITLE
BY HAPPINESS I MEAN A DEEP SENSE OF FLOURISHING THAT ARISES FROM AN EXCEPTIONALLY HEALTHY MIND. THIS IS NOT A MERE PLEASURABLE FEELING, A FLEETING EMOTION, OR A MOOD, BUT AN OPTIMAL STATE OF BEING. HAPPINESS IS ALSO A WAY OF INTERPRETING THE WORLD, SINCE WHILE IT MAY BE DIFFICULT TO CHANGE THE WORLD, IT IS ALWAYS POSSIBLE TO CHANGE THE WAY WE LOOK AT IT.
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WE GROW UP JOYOUS THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS
AS A KID, WE ARE ALL JOYOUS
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WE GROW UP JOYOUS THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS
AS A KID, WE ARE
ALL FULLY SELF-EXPRESSED
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THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS
THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS
THAT TEACHES US TO BE SAFE
236
WE GROW UP JOYOUS THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS
AND TO NO LONGER FULLY
EXPRESS OURSELVES
237
WE GROW UP JOYOUS THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS
AND TO NO LONGER BE FULLY ALIVE
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WE GROW UP JOYOUS THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS
AND TO NO LONGER TAKE CHANCES
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EVENTS THAT MIGHT HAVE TAUGHT US TO BE SAFE & NOT TAKE CHANCES
THAT TIME YOU MADE A SPEECH AND WERE LAUGHED AT ON STAGE
THAT TIME YOU RIPPED YOUR PANTS AT RECESS AND YOUR UNDERWEAR SHOWED
THAT TIME WHEN YOU GOT YELLED AT FOR PLAYING AT THE WRONG TIME
THAT TIME YOUR PARENTS YELLED AT YOU FOR MAKING A MISTAKE
THAT TIME YOU BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND BROKE UP WITH YOU
THAT TIME YOU GAVE THE WRONG ANSWER IN CLASS
THAT TIME YOU WERE SEXUALLY ABUSED
THAT TIME YOU BLAMED YOUR PARENTS’ DIVORCE ON YOURSELF
THAT TIME WHEN YOU BROKE YOUR LEG WHILE DOING SOMETHING YOU LOVE
THAT TIME YOU LOST MONEY ON AN INVESTMENT AND WERE YELLED AT
THAT TIME YOU WERE DISCOURAGED FROM STARTING YOUR OWN COMPANY
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SOMETHING HAPPENED
WHATEVER HAPPENED TO YOU,
YOUR STORY ABOUT IT IS
KEEPING YOU SMALL
241
SOMETHING HAPPENED
WHATEVER HAPPENED TO
YOU YOUR STORY ABOUT
IT IS HOLDING YOU BACK
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SOMETHING HAPPENED
WHAT IF YOU COULD PUT WHAT
HAPPENED IN THE PAST?
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SOMETHING HAPPENED
AND LIVE AGAIN WITH FULL
EXCITEMENT IN THE PRESENT?
244
THE SOURCES OF JOY
TRUE JOY COMES FROM BEING
COMPLETELY PRESENT AND IN
FLOW IN A MOMENT
245
THE PAST & THE FUTURE
PAST
PRESENT
FUTURE
People spend most their mental energy worrying about either the past…
Or worrying about the future.
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THE PAST & THE FUTURE
PAST
PRESENT
FUTURE
True joy comes when you focus on enjoying the present moment and don’t worry about what happened in the past and whatever may come in the future.
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BEING PRESENT
THERE IS NEVER ANYTHING
ELSE OTHER THAN THIS
MOMENT
248
FITTING IN
WE THINK WE HAVE TO FIT INTO
THE LIFE THAT OUR PARENTS AND
SOCIETY EXPECTS US TO LIVE
249
BUSYNESS
WE THINK WE HAVE TO LIVE
A BUSY & STRESSED OUT
LIFE LIKE EVERYONE ELSE
250
OWNING YOUR LIFE
AND INSTEAD OF BEING THE WIND
WE LET LIFE BLOW US AROUND
251
THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS
AND INSTEAD OF LIVING THE
LIFE OF OUR DREAMS WE GET
SUCKED INTO GREAT VORTEX
OF PASSIONLESS
MEDIOCRITY
252
WE LOSE OUR LIGHT
OUR EYES START TO GO DEAD
AND OVER THE YEARS WE LOSE
TOUCH WITH WHAT LIGHTS US
UP INSIDE
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WE GO FROM THIS…
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TO THIS…
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OVERWHELM
MANY OF US BECOME
OVERWHELMED BY LIFE AND
BEGIN TO GIVE UP ON OUR
DREAMS
260
THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS
SOON WE NO LONGER BELIEVE
OUR DREAMS ARE “REASONABLE”
AND SO WE GIVE UP ON THEM
261
THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS
SOME OF US BECOME CYNICAL
AND RESIGNED AND THINK
“IS THIS ALL THAT LIFE CAN OFFER?”
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WE BECOME AFRAID
WE STOP PLAYING LIKE A KID
AND WE STOP ENJOYING LIFE
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WE BECOME AFRAID
WE BECOME AFRAID OF
WHAT OTHERS WILL THINK
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WE BECOME AFRAID
WE THINK WE HAVE TO FIT
OUR LIVES INTO A PRECONSTRUCTED
BOX OF OTHER'S EXPECTATIONS
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WE BECOME AFRAID
AND WE BECOME MORE
AFRAID OF BEING CRITICIZED
THAN OF WASTING OUR LIVES
BEING MEDIOCRE
266
YOU THINK A FOUR YEAR OLD
CARES WHAT OTHERS THINK?
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WE GROW UP JOYOUS THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS
WE LOSE OUR JOY AND PART
OF US DIES INSIDE
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TO REGAIN OUR JOY
TO REGAIN OUR JOY AND
CHILDLIKE WONDER WE MUST
RECONNECT WITH WHAT
MAKES US COME ALIVE
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TO REGAIN OUR JOY
TO REGAIN OUR JOY AND
CHILDLIKE WONDER WE
MUST LIVE A LIFE THAT
LIGHTS US UP INSIDE
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TO REGAIN OUR JOY
TO REGAIN OUR JOY AND
CHILDLIKE WONDER WE
MUST LIVE A LIFE THAT
INSPIRES US AND OTHERS
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TO REGAIN OUR JOY
TO REGAIN OUR JOY AND CHILD
LIKE WONDER WE MUST BE BRAVE
AND ACTUALLY PURSUE OUR
DREAMS
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WHAT IS THE SOURCE OF JOY?
MANY PEOPLE ASK
WHAT IS THE SOURCE
OF JOY?
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THE SOURCE OF JOY
JOY COMES FROM LIVING
WITH FLOW, PURPOSE AND
CONNECTION
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WHAT IS FLOW?
FLOW IS THE STATE OF CONSCIOUSNESS
PEOPLE ACHIEVE WHEN THEY ARE SO
ENGAGED IN AN ACTIVITY THAT NOTHING
ELSE SEEMS TO MATTER
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THE SOURCES OF JOY
TRUE JOY OCCURS WHEN
YOUR INHIBITIONS OF
REVEALING YOUR TRUE SELF
ARE EXTINCT
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THE SOURCES OF JOY
TRUE JOY OCCURS WHEN YOU
CAN FULLY EXPRESS YOURSELF
& BRING YOUR FULL PASSION
INTO YOUR DAILY WORK
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THE SOURCES OF JOY
TRUE JOY OCCURS WHEN YOUR
DAILY WORK IS ACTUALLY THE
GREATEST CONTRIBUTION YOU
CAN MAKE TO HUMANITY WITH
THE GIFTS YOU HAVE
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THE SOURCES OF JOY
TRUE JOY OCCURS WHEN YOU ARE
MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN THE
LIVES OF OTHERS
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THE SOURCES OF JOY
TRUE JOY OCCURS WHEN
YOU ARE BEING MINDFUL
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THE SOURCES OF JOY
TRUE JOY COMES FROM
LIVING WITH GRATITUDE
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SHAWN ACHOR ON THREE WAYS TO INCREASE HAPPINESS
Shawn Achor
The Happiness Advantage
WE'VE FOUND THAT THERE ARE WAYS THAT YOU CAN TRAIN YOUR BRAIN TO BE ABLE TO BECOME MORE POSITIVE. IN JUST A TWO-MINUTE SPAN OF TIME DONE FOR 21 DAYS IN A ROW, WE CAN ACTUALLY REWIRE YOUR BRAIN, ALLOWING YOUR BRAIN TO ACTUALLY WORK MORE OPTIMISTICALLY AND MORE SUCCESSFULLY. WE'VE DONE THESE THINGS IN RESEARCH NOW IN EVERY SINGLE COMPANY THAT I'VE WORKED WITH, GETTING THEM TO WRITE DOWN THREE NEW THINGS THAT THEY'RE GRATEFUL FOR FOR 21 DAYS IN A ROW, THREE NEW THINGS EACH DAY. AND AT THE END OF THAT, THEIR BRAIN STARTS TO RETAIN A PATTERN OF SCANNING THE WORLD, NOT FOR THE NEGATIVE, BUT FOR THE POSITIVE FIRST.
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SEEK LASTING HAPPINESS, NOT FLEETING PLEASURE
FLEETING PLEASURE IS FINE
BUT WHAT REALLY MAKES
LIFE WORTHWHILE IS
LASTING HAPPINESS
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FLEETING PLEASURE VS. LASTING HAPPINESS
| Short-Term Pleasure | Long-Term Happiness |
Causes | Earthly experiences, material objects, tasty food | Spiritual experiences, caring for others, gratitude, thankfulness |
Emotion | Expression of elation | Inward peace and contentment |
Timeframe | Temporary, based on outward circumstances and external events | Lasting, based on inward circumstances |
Comes from | Materialistic, worldly pleasure, from the mind | Derived from soul satisfying, emotional well being, connection to others, and the heart |
Example | That piece of cake gave me great pleasure. | Serving others, sometimes through sacrifice. Witnessing justice for the less fortunate. |
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THE SCIENCE OF HAPPINESS
LET’S LOOK AT THE SCIENCE
BEHIND REGULATING YOUR
HAPPINESS
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THE HAPPINESS CHEMICALS
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KEY HAPPINESS CHEMICAL #1: SEROTONIN
SEROTONIN IS THE “SOOTHING
CHEMICAL” THAT HELPS MAINTAIN
MOOD BALANCE, REGULATES SLEEP
& APPETITE, AND REDUCES
LIKELIHOOD OF DEPRESSION
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EFFECTS OF LOW SEROTONIN
1. CHRONIC FATIGUE
2. SLEEP DISTURBANCE
3. A LOSS OF APPETITE
4. CRAVING FOR SWEETS AND CARBOHYDRATES
5. LOSS OF SEXUAL INTEREST
6. SOCIAL WITHDRAWAL
7. EMOTIONAL SADNESS
8. SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-CONFIDENCE ARE LOW.
9. BODY SENSATIONS (HOT FLUSHES, TEMP CHANGES, HEADACHES, AND STOMACH ACHES)
Source: Dr. Joe Carver, Ph.D - http://bit.ly/serotoninimbalance
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HOW TO INCREASE SEROTONIN NATURALLY
Sources: WebMD, Natasha Turner, N.D., Balancing Brain Chemistry Life Extension Magazine, International Journal of Neuroscience
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KEY HAPPINESS CHEMICAL #2: DOPAMINE
DOPAMINE IS THE “REWARD CHEMICAL”
THAT CONTROLS THE BRAIN’S REWARD
CENTERS, REGULATES EMOTIONAL
RESPONSES, STIMULATES HAPPINESS,
AND INHIBITS THE STRESS CHEMICAL
NOREPINEPHRINE
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SHAWN ACHOR
Shawn Achor
The Happiness Advantage
DOPAMINE, WHICH FLOODS INTO YOUR SYSTEM WHEN YOU'RE POSITIVE, HAS TWO FUNCTIONS. NOT ONLY DOES IT MAKE YOU HAPPIER, IT TURNS ON ALL OF THE LEARNING CENTERS IN YOUR BRAIN ALLOWING YOU TO ADAPT TO THE WORLD IN A DIFFERENT WAY.
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EFFECTS OF LOW DOPAMINE
Sources: Psychology Today, Wikipedia, Dr Francine Juhasz
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HOW TO INCREASE DOPAMINE NATURALLY
1. EAT FOODS RICH IN TYROSINE LIKE ALMONDS, AVOCADOS, BANANAS,
LIMA BEANS, SESAME SEEDS, PUMPKIN SEEDS, AND TOFU.
2. EAT FOODS RICH IN ANTIOXIDANTS LIKE SPINACH, ASPARAGUS,
BROCCOLI, BEETS, PEPPERS, CAULIFLOWER, BRUSSELS SPROUTS, NUTS,
CARROTS, ORANGES, APPLES, BLUEBERRIES, STRAWBERRIES, ETC.
3. EXERCISE TO INCREASE BLOOD CALCIUM, WHICH INCREASES DOPAMINE
4. SOME PHYSICIANS RECOMMEND TAKING B6, VITAMIN C, AND VITAMIN E
Source: Wikihow
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THE ROLE OF SUFFERING IN HAPPINESS
SUFFERING CAN ALSO PLAY A ROLE IN HAPPINESS
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THE IMPORTANCE OF CRUCIBLE MOMENTS
IN ORDER TO TRULY FEEL THE
HEIGHTS OF JOY ONE MUST
HAVE FELT THE DEPTHS
OF SUFFERING
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MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHALYI
A PERSON CAN MAKE
HIMSELF HAPPY OR MISERABLE
REGARDLESS OF WHAT IS
HAPPENING OUTSIDE
JUST BY CHANGING THE CONTENTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS.
MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHALYI
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FORGING YOUR CHARACTER
LEARN TO CONTROL WHAT
IS IN YOUR THOUGHTS &
CONSCIOUSNESS
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VIKTOR FRANKL
Viktor Frankl
INSERT TITLE
THE LAST OF HUMAN FREEDOMS IS THE ABILITY TO CHOOSE ONE'S ATTITUDE IN A GIVEN SET OF CIRCUMSTANCES.
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FORGING YOUR CHARACTER
HAPPINESS IN MANY
CASES IS A CHOICE
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FORGING YOUR CHARACTER
THE MORE DIFFICULTIES &
CRUCIBLE MOMENTS YOU
HAVE FACED THE STRONGER
YOUR RESOLVE WILL BE
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FORGING YOUR CHARACTER
THE HOTTER THE FIRE THE IRON
IS FORGED IN THE STRONGER
THE STEEL
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MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHALYI
MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHALYI
INSERT TITLE
THE ABILITY TO PERSEVERE
DESPITE OBSTACLES &
SETBACKS IS THE MOST
IMPORTANT TRAIT FOR
SUCCEEDING IN LIFE.
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THE ELEMENT OF STRUGGLE IN LIFE
SO DON’T BE AFRAID OF STRUGGLE
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DON’T BE AFRAID OF STRUGGLE
OFTEN THE GREATEST INDIVIDUALS
ARE THOSE WHO HAVE BEEN
THROUGH THE MOST
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SOME STRUGGLES I’VE BEEN THROUGH
HELPING MY DAD THROUGH PROSTATE CANCER IN 2008
MY MOM’S DEATH FROM BRAIN CANCER IN 2012
CHRONIC NECK PAIN FROM A 2001 CAR CRASH
DEALING WITH A 65 PERSON LAYOFF FOLLOWING
THE SALE OF ICONTACT
MY DAD’S DEATH FROM LEUKEMIA IN 2014
WE ALL GO THROUGH REALLY HARD TIMES.
IT IS OUR RESPONSE TO THE CRUCIBLE MOMENTS
THAT CAN MAKE US GREAT.
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YOUR CHARACTER COMES FROM YOUR STRUGGLES
WHILE I WISH SO MUCH THAT MY PARENTS
COULD SOMEDAY MEET THEIR GRANDKIDS
THIS PRESENTATION WOULD NEVER HAVE
BEEN CREATED HAD I NOT FOUND THE DEEP
RESERVOIR OF RESOLVE IN THE SEA OF
STRUGGLE AFTER MY MOM’S PASSING.
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YOUR CHARACTER COMES FROM YOUR STRUGGLES
IT IS OFTEN IN OUR STRUGGLES
THAT WE LEARN THE MOST
ABOUT OURSELVES
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YOUR CHARACTER COMES FROM YOUR STRUGGLES
IT IS OFTEN IN OUR
STRUGGLES THAT WE
DEVELOP THE RESERVES
OF STRENGTH FOR
GREATNESS
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FORGING YOUR CHARACTER
LEARN NOT TO REACT BUT TO PAUSE
AND MOMENTARILY REFLECT AND
THEN RESPOND
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VIKTOR FRANKL
Viktor Frankl
INSERT TITLE
BETWEEN STIMULUS AND RESPONSE THERE IS A SPACE. IN THAT SPACE IS OUR POWER TO CHOOSE OUR RESPONSE. IN OUR RESPONSE LIES OUR GROWTH AND OUR FREEDOM.
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RESPONDING VS. REACTING
Stimulus
(perceived threat)
Respond
React
Prefrontal Cortex (Thinking)
Limbic System
(Emotional)
Source: Wisdom Labs
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YOUR MINDSET AFFECTS YOUR HAPPINESS
YOUR MINDSET IS YOUR HOW
YOU INTERPRET WHAT HAPPENS
IN YOUR LIFE
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YOUR MINDSET AFFECTS YOUR HAPPINESS
YOU CAN DECIDE WHETHER YOU
WANT TO LIVE IN AN ORDINARY
WORLD FULL OF STRESS & SUFFERING
OR AN EXTRAORDINARY WORLD
FULL OF JOY, WONDER, AND POSSIBILITY
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THE ORDINARY “DEFAULT” WORLD
The Ordinary World
fear
scarcity
danger
anger
mistrust
reason
disappointment
resignation
manipulation
victimization
desperation
upset
defensive
limitation
cynicism
insecurity
inaction
greed
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THE EXTRAORDINARY WORLD IS CREATED BY A MINDSET SHIFT
happiness
fun
caring
inventive
adventurous
acceptance
laughter
self-expressed
generous
possibility
full joy
compassionate
empathy
authenticity
openness
unstoppable
creativity
fearless
kindness
caring
The Extraordinary World
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LIVING WITH JOY
LIVING WITH JOYFULNESS
AND EASE IS A CHOICE
THAT YOU CAN MAKE
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RATING YOURSELF ON THE HAPPINESS SPECTRUM
FULLY ALIVE
DEAD INSIDE
Sad and pessimistic
Hating life and work
Given up on your dreams
Not doing what you love
Not contributing to others
Cynical & resigned
A world of despair
Mental chaos & confusion
Feeling anxious & depressed
Feeling angry
Feeling blocked
Feeling unexpressed
A lack of love
A lack of confidence
Eating dead foods
Unhealthy body
Low energy
Driven by fear and anger
Driven by material possessions
Happy and optimistic
Loving life and work
Pursuing your dreams
Doing what you love
Contributing to others
Positive and engaged
A world of joy
Mental calmness and clarity
Feeling relaxed and excited
Feeling welcoming
Feeling creative
Feeling expressed
Receiving and giving love
Confident
Eating live foods
Healthy body
High energy
Driven by love & compassion
Driven by contribution
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ON A 0-10 SCALE, WHERE WOULD YOU RATE YOUR OVERALL HAPPINESS?
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THE FORMULA FOR HAPPINESS & SUCCESS
MANY PEOPLE THINK
“SUCCESS LEADS TO HAPPINESS”
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THE FORMULA FOR HAPPINESS & SUCCESS
THE RESEARCH ACTUALLY SHOWS
IT’S THE OTHER WAY AROUND
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THE FORMULA FOR HAPPINESS & SUCCESS
IN REALITY IT IS HAPPINESS
THAT LEADS TO SUCCESS
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SHAWN ACHOR ON HAPPINESS – PART 1
WHAT I FOUND IS THAT MOST PEOPLE FOLLOW A FORMULA FOR SUCCESS, “IF I WORK HARDER, I'LL BE MORE SUCCESSFUL. AND IF I'M MORE SUCCESSFUL, THEN I'LL BE HAPPIER.” THIS UNDERGIRDS MOST OF OUR PARENTING STYLES, OUR MANAGING STYLES, THE WAY THAT WE MOTIVATE OUR BEHAVIOR.
THIS IS SCIENTIFICALLY BROKEN AND BACKWARDS FOR TWO REASONS. FIRST, EVERY TIME YOUR BRAIN HAS A SUCCESS, YOU JUST CHANGE THE GOALPOST OF WHAT SUCCESS LOOKS LIKE.
YOU GOT GOOD GRADES, NOW YOU HAVE TO GET BETTER GRADES. YOU GOT A GOOD JOB, NOW YOU HAVE TO GET A BETTER JOB. YOU HIT YOUR SALES TARGET, NOW WE'RE GOING TO CHANGE YOUR SALES TARGET. IF HAPPINESS IS ON THE OPPOSITE SIDE OF SUCCESS, YOUR BRAIN NEVER GETS THERE.
Shawn Achor
The Happiness Advantage
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SHAWN ACHOR ON HAPPINESS – PART 2
YOUR BRAIN AT POSITIVE PERFORMS SIGNIFICANTLY BETTER THAN IT DOES AT NEGATIVE, NEUTRAL OR STRESSED. YOUR INTELLIGENCE RISES, YOUR CREATIVITY RISES, YOUR ENERGY LEVELS RISE. IN FACT, WHAT WE'VE FOUND IS THAT EVERY SINGLE BUSINESS OUTCOME IMPROVES.
YOUR BRAIN AT POSITIVE IS 31 PERCENT MORE PRODUCTIVE THAN YOUR BRAIN AT NEGATIVE, NEUTRAL OR STRESSED. YOU'RE 37 PERCENT BETTER AT SALES. DOCTORS ARE 19 PERCENT FASTER, MORE ACCURATE AT COMING UP WITH THE CORRECT DIAGNOSIS WHEN POSITIVE INSTEAD OF NEGATIVE, NEUTRAL OR STRESSED.
IF WE CAN FIND A WAY OF BECOMING POSITIVE IN THE PRESENT, THEN OUR BRAINS WORK EVEN MORE SUCCESSFULLY AS WE'RE ABLE TO WORK HARDER, FASTER AND MORE INTELLIGENTLY.
Shawn Achor
The Happiness Advantage
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MINDSET EXERCISE
YOU CAN DO THE FOLLOWING 10
MINUTE MINDSET EXERCISE NOW
OR PUT A TIME ON YOUR CALENDAR
TO RETURN TO IT
MINDSET
EXERCISE
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EXERCISE: MINDSET SHIFT
ON A SHEET OF PAPER WRITE DOWN
FOR 5 MINUTES HOW YOUR LIFE
WOULD BE DIFFERENT IF YOU NEVER
WORRIED AND WERE NEVER ANXIOUS
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EXERCISE: MINDSET SHIFT
ON A SHEET OF PAPER WRITE DOWN
FOR 5 MINUTES ALL THE THINGS
THAT ARE HOLDING YOU BACK THAT
YOU CAN JUST GIVE UP AND CHOOSE
TO PUT IN THE PAST
HABITS
PART ONE, SECTION FIVE:
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ARISTOTLE ON HABITS
Aristotle�Philosopher
WE ARE WHAT WE REPEATEDLY DO. EXCELLENCE, THEN, IS NOT AN ACT, BUT A HABIT.
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MAHATMA GANDHI ON HABITS
Mahatma
Gandhi
YOUR BELIEFS BECOME YOUR THOUGHTS,
YOUR THOUGHTS BECOME YOUR WORDS,
YOUR WORDS BECOME YOUR ACTIONS,
YOUR ACTIONS BECOME YOUR HABITS,
YOUR HABITS BECOME YOUR VALUES,
YOUR VALUES BECOME YOUR DESTINY.
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STEPHEN COVEY ON HABITS
Stephen Covey
OUR CHARACTER IS BASICALLY
A COMPOSITE OF OUR HABITS. BECAUSE THEY ARE CONSISTENT, OFTEN UNCONSCIOUS PATTERNS, THEY CONSTANTLY, DAILY,
EXPRESS OUR CHARACTER.
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OUR HABITS CREATE OUR LIVES
ABOUT THEM
SHOW ME A PERSON’S HABITS
AND I’LL BE ABLE TO TELL A LOT
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HABITS
YOUR RESULTS
WHAT YOU DO REPEATEDLY
CREATES YOUR LIFE AND
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HABITS
THERE IS GREAT POWER IN
HACKING YOUR HABITS
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HABITS
ADJUST YOUR HABITS
IF YOU’RE NOT GETTING THE
RESULTS YOU WANT IN LIFE
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EXERCISE: WHAT HABITS DO YOU WANT TO START, STOP, AND CONTINUE?
What are the habits you want to start, stop, and continue in the next 90 days? Consider habits related to health, work, mentors, friends, work, finance, reflection, experiences, travel, and mindfulness. Brainstorm in a notebook.
Habits to Stop
Habits to Start
Habits to Continue
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SPECIFIC HABITS I’VE REMOVED FROM MY LIFE LAST 18 MONTHS
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ENDING BAD HABITS CAN SOMETIMES BE PAINFUL
ENDING ADDICTIVE HABITS LIKE
SMOKING OR COFFEE CAN BE PAINFUL
DURING WITHDRAWALS BUT THE
LONG-TERM BENEFITS ARE WORTH IT
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ONE BAD HABIT I KICKED RECENTLY
FROM AGE 24 TO AGE 30 I WAS
COMPLETELY ADDICTED TO CAFFEINE
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ONE BAD HABIT I KICKED RECENTLY
FROM 2008-2012 I EVEN HAD
A KEURIG MACHINE IN MY OFFICE
(I would “only” drink 2 cups of coffee per day but I still felt way more anxious and stressed than before age 24 when I never drank coffee)
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ONE BAD HABIT I KICKED RECENTLY
I ONLY DRANK 2 CUPS OF COFFEE
PER DAY YET I FELT WAY MORE
ANXIOUS THAN BEFORE AGE 24
WHEN I NEVER DRANK ANY
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WHEN I TRIED TO STOP CAFFEINE
EVERYTIME I TRIED TO STOP
MY CAFFEINE HABIT I WOULD
GET TERRIBLE HEADACHES
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REASONS TO QUIT CAFFEINE
I RESEARCHED MORE AND REALIZED
CAFFEINE INCREASES ANXIETY &
STRESS
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REASONS TO QUIT CAFFEINE
AS AN ENTREPRENEUR THE LAST
THING I NEEDED WAS MORE
ANXIETY & STRESS!
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WHEN I TRIED TO STOP CAFFEINE
CAFFEINE INCREASES ANXIETY
AND STRESS BY RELEASING
CORTISOL AND ADRENALINE
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TRAVIS BRADBERRY ON HOW CAFFEINE REDUCES YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Travis Bradberry, Ph.D Author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0
Drinking caffeine triggers the release of adrenaline. Adrenaline is the source of the “fight or flight” response, a survival mechanism that forces you to stand up and fight or run for the hills when faced with a threat. The fight-or-flight mechanism sidesteps rational thinking in favor of a faster response. This is great when a bear is chasing you, but not so great when you’re responding to a curt email. When caffeine puts your brain and body into this hyper-aroused state, your emotions overrun your behavior.
Irritability and anxiety are the most commonly seen emotional effects of caffeine, but caffeine enables all of your emotions to take charge. The negative effects of a caffeine-generated adrenaline surge are not just behavioral. Researchers at Carnegie Mellon University found that large doses of caffeine raise blood pressure, stimulate the heart, and produce rapid shallow breathing which… deprives the brain of the oxygen needed to keep your thinking calm and rational.
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HOW I KICKED THE CAFFEINE HABIT
I STOPPED ALL CAFFEINE INTAKE OVER
THE COURSE OF SIX DAYS
Note: There is about 200mg of caffeine in a cup of coffee and 50mg in cup of tea
Date | Caffeine |
July 3 | 300 mg |
July 4 | 200 mg |
July 5 | 125 mg |
July 6 | 50 mg |
July 8 | 25 mg |
July 9 | 15 mg |
July 10 | 0 mg |
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HOW I KICKED THE CAFFEINE HABIT
DURING THE FIRST 3 DAYS
I WOULD SLEEP 16 HOURS PER
DAY TO REDUCE THE PAIN
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WHAT HAPPENED WHEN I STOPPED CAFFEINE?
THE FIRST THREE DAYS REDUCING MY
CAFFEINE INTAKE I HAD TERRIBLE
HEADACHES THAT MADE ME UNABLE
UNABLE TO THINK OR WORK BUT THE
LONG TERM BENEFITS OF RESTORED
CALM WAS WORTH THREE DAYS OF PAIN
NOTE: NOW I TAKE NO CAFFEINE AND FEEL A RENEWED SENSE OF CALM AND FOCUS AND CAN MUCH MORE EASILY WAKE UP IN THE MORNING
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HOW TO ADD A NEW HABIT
NOW LET’S TALK ABOUT
HOW TO ADD A NEW HABIT
TO YOUR LIFE
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SPECIFIC HABITS I’VE ADDED TO MY LIFE IN THE LAST 18 MONTHS
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HABITS IN MY LIFE I AM CULTIVATING
ALWAYS DO WHAT I SAY I’LL DO
UNDERCOMMIT / OVERDELIVER
BE TRANSPARENT
KEEP TRACK OF TASKS
REVIEWING MY GOALS ANNUALLY
PLAN FOR THE FUTURE
SEEK OUT AMAZING PEOPLE
IDENTIFY MENTORS
GIVE HUGS NOT HANDSHAKES
SHARE WHAT I LEARN WITH OTHERS
STAY IN TOUCH WITH MY NETWORK
CONTINUALLY LEARN
READ
WATCH EDUCATIONAL VIDEOS
EXERCISE
EAT HEALTHY FOODS
SPEND TIME IN NATURE
DAILY MEDITATION
COMMUNICATE OFTEN
WATCH <30MIN/WK OF TELEVISION
SEEK TO UNDERSTAND FIRST
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HERE’S A METHOD FOR ADDING IN A HABIT YOU WANT TO START
A GOOD WAY TO ADD IN A
NEW HABIT TO YOUR
ROUTINE IS BY CREATING A
TRIGGER ACTION PLAN
(also known as a TAP)
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HERE’S A METHOD FOR ADDING IN A HABIT YOU WANT TO START
TRIGGER ACTION PLANNING IS
A TECHNIQUE CREATED BY
PSYCHOLOGIST PETER GOLLWITZER
TO CREATE NEW HABITS
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THE ACADEMIC RESEARCH SUPPORTS TRIGGERS
AN ANALYSIS OF 94 STUDIES INVOLVING 8461 PARTICIPANTS FOUND THAT THOSE WHO USED TRIGGER ACTION PLANS PERFORMED 0.65 STANDARD DEVIATIONS BETTER CREATING THE DESIRED HABIT
Source: Gollwitzer, P. M., & Sheeran P. (2006). Implementation intentions and goal achievement: A meta-analysis of effects and processes. Advances in Experimental Social Pscyhology, 38, 69-119.
THAN THE CONTROL GROUP
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WHAT IS A TRIGGER?
A TRIGGER CAN BE SOMETHING YOU
ALREADY DO THAT CAN REMIND YOU
TO DO THE NEW HABIT
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WHAT MAKES A GOOD TRIGGER?
A GOOD TRIGGER OCCURS
AT A SPECIFIC MOMENT
AND IS A MEMORABLE
SENSORY EXPERIENCE
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EXAMPLES OF SPECIFIC TRIGGERS
Source: Examples Adapted from Center for Applied Rationality Course Workbook
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GOOD HABIT TRIGGERS ARE BASED ON THINGS YOU ALREADY DO
REAL EXAMPLE FROM MY LIFE:
RIGHT AFTER I DRINK MY MORNING GLASS OF WATER WILL RUN FOR 4 MINUTES EACH MORNING BEFORE GETTING IN THE SHOWER
Tied to a specific sensory experience I already consistently do �→ Drink a glass of water every morning.
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VISUALIZING THE GAIN = “THE GAIN MOVIE”
TO REALLY “INSTALL” THE NEW HABIT
TAKE 3 MINUTES NOW TO VISUALIZE
IN DETAIL THE BENEFITS OF TAKING ON
THIS NEW HABIT
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VISUALIZING THE PAIN = “THE PAIN MOVIE”
AND TO MAKE IT MORE REAL
THE NEW HABIT TAKE 3 MINUTES
NOW TO VISUALIZE IN DETAIL
THE DOWNSIDES OF NOT
TAKING ON THIS NEW HABIT
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TEMPLATE FOR HOW TO INSTALL A NEW HABIT
Big Picture Goal: �Improve my cardio health
Specific Habit to Install In My Life: �Do 20 pushups every single day 7 days per week
Trigger From Pre-Existing Habit: �After I drink my morning glass of water, immediately do 20 pushups before getting in the shower (never shower without doing 20 pushups first).
Gain Movie Visualization:
I close my eyes and imagine being 80 years old and being able to mentor my little grandchild and hold him on my lap because I am alive due to my commitment to doing 20 pushups per day
Pain Movie:
I imagine not being alive to mentor and spend time with my future grandchildren
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DRAW A 1 MINUTE DIAGRAM OF THE NEW HABIT
Took me 1 minute to draw this basic habit diagram but now when I drink that water glass there’s a much higher chance I will remember to actually do 20 pushups before I get in the shower. The key is to visualize vividly before or after an existing habit that is already extremely consistent for you.
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HABITS
WHAT ARE SOME NEW HABITS
IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU
WANT TO ADD?
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PRODUCTIVITY HABIT = WORKING IN POMODORO SEGMENTS
ONE PRODUCTIVITY HABIT
IS TO WORK IN 25 MINUTE
HIGH-INTENSITY
FOCUSED BLOCKS
(Called the Pomodoro Method)
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THE MORE INTENSE YOUR FOCUS WHEN YOU WORK THE BETTER
FOR MOST WORK TYPES IT IS MORE
PRODUCTIVE TO WORK IN VERY
FOCUSED HIGH-INTENSITY SEGMENTS
THAN HALF-FOCUSED LONG BLOCKS
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HABITS EXERCISE
YOU CAN DO THE FOLLOWING
15 MINUTE HABITS EXERCISE
NOW OR PUT A TIME ON YOUR
CALENDAR TO RETURN TO IT
HABITS
EXERCISE
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EXERCISE: HABITS
FIRST, GET A SHEET OF PAPER
AND WRITE DOWN ALL YOUR
HABITS YOU WANT TO START
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EXERCISE: HABITS
NOW WRITE DOWN ALL
THE HABITS YOU WANT
TO STOP
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EXERCISE: HABITS
NOW WRITE DOWN ALL
THE HABITS YOU WANT
TO CONTINUE
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EXERCISE: HABITS
NEXT, WRITE DOWN BULLETS
OF HOW YOU’D BE BETTER
OFF IF YOU IMPLEMENTED
YOUR NEW HABIT SYSTEM
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EXERCISE: HABITS
NOW MAKE A WEEKLY PLAN TO
ACTUALLY IMPLEMENT THE
HABITS IN YOUR LIFE THAT
CREATE THE RESULTS YOU WANT
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EXERCISE: HABITS
CREATE A TRIGGER FOR EACH
HABIT YOU WANT TO TAKE ON
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EXERCISE: HABITS
VISUALIZE THE GAIN
FROM TAKING ON
EACH NEW HABIT
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EXERCISE: HABITS
VISUALIZE THE PAIN FROM NOT
TAKING ON EACH NEW HABIT
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EXERCISE: HABITS
FINALLY DRAW A 1 MINUTE DIAGRAM
ILLUSTRATING THE ORDER IN WHICH
YOU WILL DO THE NEW ACTION
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EXERCISE: HABITS
FINALLY, OPEN UP YOUR
CALENDAR AND PUT YOUR
NEW HABITS ACTUALLY ON
YOUR CALENDAR ON REPEAT
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EXERCISE: HABITS
FOR DAILY HABITS IF YOU
CAN DO IT 21 DAYS IN A ROW
THEN YOU WILL LIKELY BE
SUCCESSFUL IN LOCKING IN
LONG TERM BEHAVIOR
NETWORKS
PART ONE, SECTION SIX:
“If you were facing a major crisis in your life--such as losing your job, a life-threatening illness, difficulties in a marriage, or death of a loved one--to whom would you turn? In Challenging times, you need a solid network of trusted relationships with people who are available to counsel and care for you.”
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PEOPLE
WHO YOU SURROUND YOURSELF
WITH IS WHO YOU BECOME
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PEOPLE
SURROUND YOURSELF ONLY
WITH SMART, COMPETENT
& POSITIVE PEOPLE
(Life is too short not to)
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SELECTING YOUR FRIENDS CONCIOUSLY
YOUR FRIENDS DETERMINE
WHO YOU BECOME
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SELECTING YOUR FRIENDS CONCIOUSLY
YOU SHOULD ONLY SPEND
TIME WITH FRIENDS WHO
INSPIRE YOU
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SELECTING YOUR FRIENDS CONSCIOUSLY
IF YOUR FRIENDS DON’T
INSPIRE YOU THEN FIND
FRIENDS WHO DO!
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BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
DON’T LET CHANCE
DETERMINE WHOSE
IN YOUR LIFE
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ELIZABETH GORE ON BEING UNREASONABLE
Elizabeth Gore
Entrepreneur-in-residence,
Dell
IF YOU ARE NOT GETTING WHAT YOU NEED -- ACCESS TO CAPITAL, NETWORKS, MENTORSHIP -- DO WHAT YOU ALREADY DO FOR YOUR KIDS, FAMILIES, AND COMMUNITIES. BUILD IT YOURSELF, TAKE IT, RAISE YOUR HANDS, AND MAKE IT HAPPEN.
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WHAT CARNEGIE KNEW
ANDREW CARNEGIE’S EPITAPH SAYS “HERE
LIES ONE WHO KNEW HOW TO GET AROUND
HIM MEN WHO WERE CLEVERER THAN HIMSELF”
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BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
IT MIGHT TAKE 5 YEARS TO
COMPLETELY CHANGE UP
THE PEOPLE SURROUNDING
YOU BUT IT IS ABSOLUTELY
WORTH IT
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WHAT I LOOK FOR IN MY FRIENDS
JOY
COMPASSION
INTELLIGENCE
PASSION
PURPOSE
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vs.
INTENTIONALLY SEEK OUT AMAZING FRIENDS
Random Friends
Chosen Friends
An extraordinary life
An ordinary life
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TO AVOID MEDIOCRITY
IF YOU DON’T LIVE IN AN
INTELLECTUAL CENTER
CONSIDER A MOVE
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BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
TO AVOID BEING MEDIOCRE
YOU MUST SEEK OUT PEOPLE
WHO ARE NOT MEDIOCRE
AND SPEND TIME WITH THEM
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YOUR EDUCATIONAL NETWORK
YOUR UNDERGRAD & GRADUATE SCHOOLS
ARE CRITICALLY IMPORTANT NETWORKS SO
PREPARE WELL AND GO TO THE BEST SCHOOLS
YOU CAN GET INTO WHILE AVOIDING GETTING
INTO MOUNTAINS OF DEBT
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YOUR EDUCATIONAL NETWORK
THESE SCHOOLS HAVE SOME
OF THE BEST NETWORKS
SO IF YOU CAN, ATTEND FOR UNDERGRAD,
GRAD SCHOOL, OR TAKE AN EXEC PROGRAM AT
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YOUR EDUCATIONAL NETWORK
KNOWLEDGE IS CRITICAL SO IF
YOU CANNOT GET INTO OR AFFORD
THE BEST SCHOOLS THEN STILL TAKE
THE BEST COURSES FREE
ON EDX OR COURSERA
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YOUR EDUCATIONAL NETWORK
YOUR COMPANY IS YOUR
MOST IMPORTANT NETWORK
SO CHOOSE YOUR COMPANY
VERY CAREFULLY OR BUILD
YOUR OWN
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YOUR EDUCATIONAL NETWORK
WHY DO PEOPLE SPEND 832 WEEKS
IN SCHOOL THEN SPEND <4 WEEKS
ATTEMPTING TO GET A JOB BY BLIND
RESUME BLASTING?
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WHAT CHANGE WILL YOU WORK TOWARD?
IF YOU DON’T LIKE YOUR JOB
FIND AN ORGANIZATION WHOSE
MISSION YOU’RE PASSIONATE
ABOUT AND DO WHATEVER IT
TAKES TO GET IN THERE
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YOUR WORK NETWORK
ONLY GO TO WORK FOR A COMPANY IF
YOU DEEPLY BELIEVE IN THE CHANGE THEY
ARE TRYING TO MAKE IN THE WORLD
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YOUR WORK NETWORK
DON’T TAKE A JOB UNLESS
YOU’LL BE WORKING FOR
SOMEONE OF HIGH INTEGRITY
WHO YOU WILL LEARN
LOTS FROM
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THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
HERE ARE SOME NETWORKS
PASSIONATE YOUNG PEOPLE
SHOULD GET INVOLVED WITH
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THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
ASPEN INSTITUTE FELLOWS EMPACT
100 ENTREPRENEURS’ ORGANIZATION
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THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
FORTUNE BRAINSTORM
HIVE
KAIROS
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THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
NEXUS YOUTH SUMMIT
RENAISSANCE WEEKEND
SANDBOX
SINGULARITY UNIVERSITY
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THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
SKOLL WORLD FORUM
SOCIAL CAPITAL MARKETS
SOCIAL VENTURE NETWORK
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THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
STARTINGBLOC
SUMMIT SERIES
TECH STARS
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THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
TED
UNREASONABLE INSTITUTE
WEF YOUNG GLOBAL LEADERS
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THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
WHITE HOUSE FELLOWS
Y COMBINATOR
YOUNG ENTREPRENEUR COUNCIL
YOUNG PRESIDENTS’ ORGANIZATION
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YOUR WEEKLY ROUNDTABLE
TO BUILD A STRONG SUPPORT NETWORK
CREATE A WEEKLY DINNER ROUNDTABLE
OF YOUR CLOSEST 8 FRIENDS
TRY EVERY WEDNESDAY AT 7PM
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PROGRAMS I HIGHLY RECOMMEND FOR BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS
Summit holds an annual large event for top entrepreneurs, social entrepreneurs, and artists. Holds frequent gatherings at Powder Mountain in Eden, Utah.
StartingBloc holds five-day Institutes in New York, Los Angeles, D.C., Boston, and Boulder for individuals who want to make a difference in the world
I highly recommend both the Summer Graduate Studies Program (GSP) or the week-long Executive Program (EP). Focuses on using science and technology to solve major human challenges.
The Hive Global Leaders Program is a weekend program in San Francisco that brings together a community of extraordinary leaders and entrepreneurs focused on creating a better world.
Nexus holds an annual Global Youth Summit in New York City that brings together some of the top entrepreneurs, social entrepreneurs, and philanthropists
Social Innovation Summit is a two-day conference held annually in New York and California that brings together the leading minds of the social, government, and business sectors
SOCAP (short for Social Capital Markets) is one of the best conferences for bringing together people Passionate about creating positive change in the world
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EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
YOU CAN DO THE FOLLOWING
20 MINUTE EXERCISE NOW OR
PUT A TIME ON YOUR CALENDAR
TO RETURN TO IT
INNER CIRCLE
EXERCISE
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EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
ON A SHEET OF PAPER LIST
YOUR TOP 20 FRIENDS
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EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
NEXT, CIRCLE THE NAMES OF THE 10
PEOPLE WHO INSPIRE YOU MOST
BASED ON WHAT THEY ARE DOING
WITH THEIR LIVES
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EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
NOW, CREATE A NEW LIST
OF 10 PEOPLE YOU AREN’T
VERY CLOSE WITH WHO
INSPIRE YOU
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EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
FINALLY, COMBINE THE
LISTS OF 10 TO CREATE YOUR
NEW INNER CIRCLE
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EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
SPEND YOUR TIME WITH
INSPIRING PEOPLE WHO ARE
UP TO SOMETHING BIG IN THE
WORLD THAT WILL HELP OTHERS
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EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
IF YOU DON’T KNOW ENOUGH
INSPIRING PEOPLE WHO ARE UP TO
SOMETHING BIG IN THE WORLD JOIN THE
NETWORKS LISTED IN THE NETWORKS
SECTION OF THIS PRESENTATION
“Your support team has faith in you and understands your true north. Supporters don’t care about your external success or failure, but they do care about you as a person. having people around you who support you gives you the confidence to listen to your inner voice, even when the outsiders are attacking or criticizing you. Your closest confidants give you the resilience to get through hard times and enable you to recognize what is truly important in life.”
MENTORS
PART ONE, SECTION SEVEN:
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An extraordinary life
TWO OPTIONS: Choose Carefully
Random Friends
No Mentors
Jedi Mentors
Chosen Friends
vs.
You
You
An ordinary life
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FINDING AMAZING MENTORS
VERY VERY FEW PEOPLE
ACTUALLY HAVE MENTORS
425
FINDING AMAZING MENTORS
AND YET MENTORSHIP IS
CRUCIAL TO LIVING THE
LIFE YOU WANT
426
FINDING MENTORS
WHO MENTORS YOU
DETERMINES WHO
YOU BECOME
427
FINDING MENTORS
WHO MENTORS YOU
DETERMINES WHICH
NETWORKS YOU ACCESS
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FINDING MENTORS
WHO MENTORS YOU
DETERMINES WHERE IN
LIFE YOU WILL GO
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FINDING MENTORS
WHY DO PEOPLE SPEND 832 WEEKS
IN SCHOOL AND 0 WEEKS SEEKING
AMAZING MENTORS?
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FINDING MENTORS
NO REALLY, WHY DO PEOPLE SPEND
16 YEARS IN SCHOOL AND NO TIME
LOOKING FOR MENTORS?
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FINDING MENTORS
SO, HOW DO YOU FIND AMAZING
HIGH-INTEGRITY MENTORS?
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FINDING MENTORS WITHIN NETWORKS
ONE OF THE BEST WAYS TO MEET
AMAZING MENTORS IS BY JOINING
THE ORGANIZATIONS LISTED IN
THE NETWORKS SECTION OF THIS
PRESENTATION
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KEEP EMAILS TO POTENTIAL MENTORS SHORT
THE SHORTER YOUR EMAILS TO VERY
BUSY PEOPLE ARE THE HIGHER THE
CHANCE OF A REPLY
TRY EMAILS WITH JUST 1-2 SENTENCES AND YOU’LL BE AMAZED AT THE REPLY RATES
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EXAMPLE EMAIL TO A POTENTIAL MENTOR
What a busy professional thinks who gets this: “I don’t have enough time to reply to this. Archive.”
What a busy professional thinks who gets this: “I’m glad they respect my time. Will only take 30 seconds to reply so might as well do it now.”
WHAT MOST PEOPLE SEND:
WHAT YOU SHOULD ACTUALLY SEND:
Sally--I’m also really passionate about [ex: solar panel efficiency]. What do you [insert short relevant question]?
Best,
Your Name
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RESEARCH AMAZING PEOPLE
ANOTHER WAY IS TO USE THE INTERNET
TO FIND PEOPLE WHO
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RESEARCH AMAZING PEOPLE
FIND 20 POTENTIAL
MENTORS WHO ARE
“YOU” IN 15 YEARS
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CONVINCING SOMEONE TO MENTOR YOU
AND CONVINCE 2 OF THEM
THAT YOU’RE WORTH
INVESTING TIME INTO
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CONVINCING SOMEONE TO MENTOR YOU
IDEALLY GET INTRODUCED
TO THEM BY ONE OF THEIR
TRUSTED CONNECTIONS
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GETTING IN TOUCH WITH MENTORS
GET IN TOUCH VIA TWITTER
EMAIL, LINKEDIN, OR FEDEX
OR BY SHOWING UP AT THEIR
OFFICE IF NEEDED AND ASKING
TO SPEAK WITH THEM
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GETTING IN TOUCH WITH MENTORS
SEND THEM A BULKY FEDEX
PACKAGE IF YOU MUST
441
GETTING IN TOUCH WITH MENTORS
IMPORTANT PEOPLE
LIKE OPENING
FEDEX PACKAGES
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MESSAGES BUSY PEOPLE RECEIVE MONTHLY
EMAILS: 5,000
TEXTS: 1,000
LETTERS: 500
LINKEDIN: 50
TWITTER: 30
FEDEX: 10
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USE TWITTER TO GET IN TOUCH WITH WELL KNOWN PEOPLE
IMPORTANT PEOPLE
ALSO LIKE @MESSAGES
ON TWITTER
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BE KINDLY PERSISTENT
MOST PEOPLE GIVE UP
AFTER SENDING 1 EMAIL
DON’T GIVE UP
This is your life we’re talking about here
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BE KINDLY PERSISTENT
PURSUE THEM REPEATEDLY IN A KIND WAY
THEY WILL ALMOST ALWAYS RESPECT YOUR PERSISTENCE
446
BE KINDLY PERSISTENT
STAY AT IT FOR 6 MONTHS
IF THAT’S WHAT IT TAKES
447
BE KINDLY PERSISTENT
THESE ARE PEOPLE WHO
CAN CHANGE YOUR
WHOLE LIFE DO
WHAT IT TAKES
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START SLOW IF NEEDED WITH POTENTIAL MENTORS
MOST PEOPLE WILL EVENTUALLY
AGREE TO A COFFEE OR LUNCH
BUT IF NOT, ASK TO START WITH
1-2 QUICK QUESTIONS VIA EMAIL
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AT YOUR FIRST MEETING WITH A MENTOR…
BE AUTHENTIC BE SUPER INFORMED
ABOUT THEM BUILD TRUST THEN STAY
IN TOUCH EVERY 8 WEEKS WITH QUICK
EMAILS
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BUILDING THE RELATIONSHIP WITH A MENTOR
SEND VERY BRIEF QUESTIONS ON
EMAIL EVERY COUPLE MONTHS GO
TO THE SAME EVENTS DEVELOP
THE RELATIONSHIP
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THREE KEYS TO ACHIEVING YOUR DREAMS
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THREE KEYS TO ACHIEVING YOUR DREAMS
DO THESE THINGS AND YOU’LL
BE ON TRACK TO ACHIEVE YOUR
MOST AMBITIOUS GOALS
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LEARNING TO BE A JEDI
JOIN NETWORKS OF OTHER INSPIRING PEOPLE
LIVE A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH AMAZINGLY SMART &
CARING PEOPLE AND YOU WILL BE ON THE
PATH TO BECOMING A JEDI
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BE A PADAWAN LIKE IN STAR WARS
Padawan (n.)
“An individual on a CONSCIOUS journey to become a jedi”
PADAWAN IS SANSKRIT
FOR “learner”
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WHAT IS A JEDI?
Jedi (n.)
“A highly competent, super-connected, and deeply compassionate SOUL & SYSTEMS THINKER, working at the highest levels of societal structuring, whose passion has been fully unleashed toward achieving an identified deeply meaningful mission that awakens them with extraordinary focus and immense energy daily.”
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THE JEDI CHECKLIST
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FINDING A JEDI MENTOR
NOW YOU KNOW THE
TRUE MEANING OF
FINDING YOURSELF A
JEDI MASTER MENTOR
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FINDING A JEDI MENTOR
WHO’S YOUR JEDI MENTOR
YOUNG PADAWAN? WAIT, YOU
DON’T HAVE ONE? DON’T LET
THIS BE THE CASE 6 MONTHS
FROM NOW
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STAND ON THE SHOULDERS OF GIANTS
ONE CAN SEE MUCH FURTHER BY
STANDING ON THE SHOULDERS OF
GIANTS SO FIND MENTORS WHO
ARE GIANTS IN THEIR FIELD AND
STAND ON THEIR SHOULDERS
HEALTH
PART ONE, SECTION EIGHT:
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TOP 5 REGRETS OF THE DYING
463
THICH NHAT HANH
THERE IS NO WAY
TO WELL-BEING. WELL-BEING
IS THE WAY.
THICH NHAT HANH
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A PERSONAL STORY OF REGAINING HEALTH & JOY
HERE IS A PERSONAL STORY ABOUT
HOW I REGAINED MY HEALTH
AFTER A VERY STRESSFUL 20s
465
I ONCE WAS STRESSED & ANXIOUS
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A WORKAHOLIC ENTREPRENEUR
AFTER 27 YEARS GROWING UP ON THE EAST COAST
AND BECOMING A HARD-NOSED WORKAHOLIC ENTREPRENEUR I NEVER THOUGHT I’D BE ONE OF THOSE
HIPPIES FROM SAN FRANCISCO TALKING ABOUT
WELLNESS AND MINDFULNESS
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A WORKAHOLIC ENTREPRENEUR
I DIDN'T THINK WELLNESS HAD
ANYTHING TO DO WITH BEING AN
IMPACTFUL ENTREPRENEUR
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I ONCE WAS STRESSED AND ANXIOUS
AT AGE 23, I WAS 212 POUNDS, I WAS OFTEN ANXIOUS AND STRESSED OUT,
AND I HAD A ‘RACING MIND’ THAT
WOULD KEEP ME UP PAST 2AM
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A WORKAHOLIC ENTREPRENEUR
I DIDN'T THINK WELLNESS HAD
ANYTHING TO DO WITH BEING AN
IMPACTFUL ENTREPRENEUR
470
I ONCE WAS STRESSED AND ANXIOUS
I ALSO HAD CHRONIC NECK PAIN
FROM A CAR CRASH IN FLORIDA
WHEN I WAS 16 THAT DOCTORS SAID
WOULD REQUIRE SURGERY
471
I ONCE WAS STRESSED AND ANXIOUS
I ATE A TERRIBLE DIET OF PROCESSED FOODS (LOTS OF NACHOS, FROZEN DINNERS, BAGEL BITES, HOT POCKETS) AND HAD HEARTBURN
3-4X PER WEEK
472
I ONCE WAS STRESSED AND ANXIOUS
I DRANK LOTS OF COFFEE AND WAS ADDICTED TO CAFFEINE
473
I ONCE WAS STRESSED AND ANXIOUS
AT MY MOST OVERWHELMED POINTS IN 2008 AND 2010
I EVEN HAD TWO PANIC ATTACKS CAUSED
BY STRESS
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PANIC ATTACKS
DURING THESE PANIC ATTACKS
MY MIND BECAME DEEPLY PARANOID AND HYPERACTIVE FOR ~5 HOURS
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PANIC ATTACKS
I KNOW NOW THESE PANIC ATTACKS WERE CAUSED BY TOO MUCH CAFFEINE AND TOO MUCH STRESS, LEADING TO TOO MUCH
CORTISOL AND NOREPINEPHRINE
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STRESSED OUT
MY SYMPATHETIC NERVOUS
SYSTEM THAT MANAGES
STRESS WAS COMPLETELY
OVERLOADED
477
PANIC ATTACKS
AT THE TIME, THE PANIC
ATTACKS MADE NO SENSE
TO ME AND I WAS
SCARED
478
I ONCE WAS STRESSED AND ANXIOUS
I HADN'T YET LEARNED
HOW TO LIVE WITH CALM
AND EASE WHILE TAKING
ON BIG THINGS IN LIFE
479
I ONCE WAS STRESSED AND ANXIOUS
I HADN'T YET LEARNED HOW TO
TAKE LONG, SLOW DEEP BREATHS
AND MEDITATE
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I ONCE WAS STRESSED AND ANXIOUS
I WORKED ALL THE TIME BUT I
WASN’T EXACTLY OPTIMIZING MY PRODUCTIVITY AND EFFECTIVENESS
AND I WAS FAR FROM
A SHINING EXAMPLE OF VITALITY
481
I ONCE WAS STRESSED AND ANXIOUS
I THOUGHT BEING AN
ENTREPRENEUR REQUIRED ME
TO SUFFER AND WORK HARD
482
I ONCE WAS STRESSED AND ANXIOUS
I DIDN’T GET THAT FOR ME TO
MAKE A BIG IMPACT EXTERNALLY
I HAD TO BE HEALTHY
AND HAPPY INTERNALLY
483
WHAT INSPIRED ME TO SHARE
THE PASSING OF MY MOM
PAULINE FROM BRAIN CANCER
IN 2012 CAUSED ME TO
REEVALUATE A LOT
484
WHAT INSPIRED ME TO SHARE
AND THE UNEXPECTED
PASSING OF MY DAD IN 2014
FROM LEUKEMIA INSPIRED ME
TO BEGIN TO SHARE WHAT I’VE
LEARNED SO FAR
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WHAT I’VE LEARNED
WHEN I MOVED TO SAN FRANCISCO
IN 2012 I WAS EXPOSED TO ALL KINDS
OF NEW WAYS OF LIVING HOLISTICALLY
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WHAT I’VE LEARNED
THREE PROGRAMS ESPECIALLY CHANGED ME--THE LANDMARK FORUM, THE ART OF LIVING HAPPINESS PROGRAM &
CAMP GROUNDED
487
WHAT I’VE LEARNED
I RECOMMEND TAKING ALL
THREE OF THESE PROGRAMS
ESPECIALLY TO THOSE WHO
WORK IN STRESSFUL JOBS
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LANDMARK FORUM
IN 2013 I TOOK A 3-DAY COURSE CALLED THE LANDMARK FORUM
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LANDMARK FORUM
WHAT I GOT FROM LANDMARK WAS A BETTER RELATIONSHIP
WITH MY DAD IN THE YEAR
BEFORE HE PASSED AWAY
490
LANDMARK FORUM
I ALSO LEARNED HOW TO BE FULLY PRESENT IN DEEP CONVERSATIONS WITH FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES, HOW TO BECOME A REALLY GOOD LISTENER IN ANY SITUATION, HOW TO ENSURE I ALWAYS HONOR MY WORD, AND HOW TO MAKE
COMMITMENTS THOUGHTFULLY
491
ART OF LIVING
IN THE SPRING OF 2014
I TOOK THE ART OF LIVING
HAPPINESS PROGRAM
492
ART OF LIVING
AFTER LEARNING SOME BASIC 20 MINUTE BREATHING EXERCISES FROM ART OF LIVING
(THEY CALL IT THE “SUDARSHAN KRIYA”)
MY MIND WENT FROM ANXIOUS AND RACING TO FEELING CALM, PRESENT, RELAXED, AND JOYOUS--WHICH HAS MADE ME WAY HAPPIER AND PRODUCTIVE THE LAST YEAR
493
ART OF LIVING
ART OF LIVING NOW RUNS PROGRAMS IN 150 COUNTRIES AND HAS TAUGHT 30 MILLION PEOPLE TO MEDITATE AND
REDUCE STRESS
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CAMP GROUNDED
IN THE SUMMER OF 2014 I ATTENDED
CAMP GROUNDED, A SUMMER CAMP
FOR ADULTS IN NORTHERN CALIFORNIA THAT FOCUSES ON TEACHING YOU
HOW TO PLAY AGAIN
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CAMP GROUNDED
THERE WAS A TALENT SHOW, CAPTURE THE FLAG, FACE PAINTING, CAMPFIRES, AND
LOTS OF SINGING
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WHAT I’VE LEARNED
TODAY, I WEIGH 152 POUNDS AND
HAVE CALMED MY RACING MIND
THROUGH THE ART OF LIVING KRIYA
BREATHING EXERCISES
497
WHAT I’VE LEARNED
I HAVE GOTTEN RID OF THE
CHRONIC NECK PAIN BY LEARNING TWO SIMPLE YOGA MOVES THAT I LEARNED AT ART OF LIVING (SUN SALUTATIONS + CAT/COWS)
498
WHAT I’VE LEARNED
I HAVE LEARNED TO DEEPEN THE QUALITY OF MY RELATIONSHIPS, AND HAVE LEARNED TO
LOVE TO PLAY AGAIN
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A CHANGED DIET
WITH THE SUPPORT OF CLOSE FRIENDS, I HAVE CHANGED MY
DIET FROM CHIPS, HOT POCKETS,
AND BAGEL BITES TO HEALTHIER
FOODS THAT I NOW LOVE
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A CHANGED DIET
NOW I EAT…
TOFU, TEMPEH, QUINOA, SPINACH, KALE, CARROTS, CELERY, SWEET POTATOES, CELERY, AVOCADOS, BROCCOLI, BEETS, BRUSSELS SPROUTS, ASPARAGUS, GREEN PEPPERS, LIMA BEANS, ALMONDS, WALNUTS, CRANBERRIES, FIGS, BANANAS, APPLES, ORANGES, KIWIS, LENTILS, CHIA SEEDS, FISH, EGGS, ALMOND MILK, COCONUT MILK, CARROT JUICE, AND TEA
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CHANGING MY DIET MADE A HUGE IMPACT
WHAT I’D OFTEN EAT IN 2008
WHAT I OFTEN EAT TODAY
BREAD
HOT POCKETS
SUBS
PASTA
PRETZELS
FRIES
CHIPS
DESSERTS
WHITE RICE
MAYONNAISE
BEER/WINE/SODA
COFFEE
(I was eating way too many carbs)
(I cut out 80% of the carbs)
QUINOA / LENTILS / BEANS / TOFU / TEMPEH
RAW ALMONDS / WALNUTS
KALE / LETTUCE / SPINACH / ARTICHOKES
BRUSSELS SPROUTS / BROCCOLI / AVOCADO CORN / CUCUMBER / EGGPLANT / GREEN BEANS SQUASH / BEETS / LIMA BEANS / ASPARAGUS GREEN PEPPERS / SWEET POTATOES / CARROTS CELERY / CHIA SEEDS / SPROUTS / WHEATGRASS
BANANAS / BERRIES / KIWIS / ORANGES / APPLES
DATES / GRAPES / PEACH / GRAPEFRUITS
CANTALOUPE / WATERMELON / PROTEIN SHAKES
FISH / EGGS / OMEGA 3 & 6 FISH OIL / WATER & LEMON / CARROT JUICE / DECAF TEA / ALMOND MILK
You must cut most of this stuff out!
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DINNER TIME
I ALSO CHANGED THE TIME
I USUALLY ATE DINNER FROM
9PM TO 7PM TO ALLOW FOR
FULL DIGESTION OVERNIGHT
503
DINNER TIME RULE OF THUMB
THE RULE OF THUMB IS TO
FINISH DINNER AT LEAST 12
HOURS BEFORE YOU EAT
BREAKFAST
504
12 HOURS BEFORE BREAKFAST
SO IF YOU USUALLY EAT
BREAKFAST AT 7:30AM
THEN MAKE SURE YOU
ARE DONE WITH DINNER
BY 7:30PM
505
KICKED THE HEARTBURN
NOT ONLY DO I FEEL A LOT BETTER AND
KICKED THE HEARTBURN— THE MEALS I EAT TODAY ACTUALLY TASTE BETTER TOO
506
WHAT I’VE LEARNED
I’VE BEEN THROUGH QUITE A TRANSFORMATION OVER THE
PAST FEW YEARS AND WHAT
I’VE LEARNED HAS MADE ME
WAY MORE EFFECTIVE
507
IN SUMMARY
BETWEEN AGE 23 AND 30
I…
HERE’S EXACTLY WHAT I DID…
508
THE THREE BIG CHANGES I MADE
509
DIET MAKES THE DIFFERENCE
A COMBINATION OF HIGH CALORIE &
HIGH-SALT DIET WITH LITTLE PHYSICAL
ACTIVITY AND INCREASED OBESITY
GREATLY DECREASES THE ABILITY OF
THE BODY TO CURE ITSELF FROM
CANCEROUS CELLS
510
REDUCING YOUR RISK OF CANCER
78% OF CANCER IS CAUSED BY TOBACCO, DIET, SUNLIGHT,
AND ALCOHOL
511
DON’T SMOKE
TOBACCO CAUSES 30% OF CANCER
CASES AND CONTAIN 4000 HARMFUL
CHEMICALS AND TOXIC CARCINOGENS
512
MENTAL HEALTH
IN A FAST-MOVING ORGANIZATION
MENTAL HEALTH IS JUST AS IMPORTANT
AS PHYSICAL HEALTH
513
MENTAL HEALTH
BE SURE YOU’RE TAKING TIME TO
EAT WELL, SLEEP WELL AND GET INTO
NATURE AWAY FROM YOUR LAPTOP
AND PHONE
514
MENTAL HEALTH
AT LEAST EVERY 3 MONTHS
DO A COMPLETE DIGITAL DETOX
WITH NO PHONES/LAPTOPS
FOR AT LEAST 72 HOURS
515
THE SCIENCE OF STRESS
LET’S LOOK AT THE SCIENCE BEHIND
REGULATING YOUR STRESS
516
SOME STRESS IS OKAY
SOME STRESS CAN BE HELPFUL
BUT TOO MUCH STRESS FOR TOO
LONG AND YOU ARE SIMPLY
SHORTENING YOUR LIFE
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STRESS CAN LEAD TO ADRENAL FAILURE
IF YOU STRESS YOURSELF
OUT FOR TOO LOW YOU
ARE PUTTING YOURSELF AT
RISK OF ADRENAL FAILURE
518
THE STRESS CHEMICALS
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KEY STRESS CHEMICAL #1: CORTISOL
CORTISOL IS THE “STRESS CHEMICAL”
AND PROLONGED ELEVATED LEVELS
LEAD TO FAT STORAGE
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THE HEALTH EFFECTS OF TOO MUCH STRESS
“The problems arrive when our allostatic system becomes charged too frequently, and we have no chance to vent our energy physically.
When your email is piling up while your boss hovers over your shoulder, your body is chemically demanding that you flee screaming (a pretty rational response, when you think about it).
But since you’re at work, you have to sit quietly. When stress hormones build up, they cease to be a positive force, and begin to do damage: Overloads of cortisol will damage your memory, hurt your immune system, and increase the size of your gut.”
- New York Magazine
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EFFECTS OF TOO MUCH CORTISOL
Source: dr. Ellen weber, http://bit.Ly/effectsofcortisol
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HOW TO REDUCE CORTISOL LEVELS NATURALLY
Source: caroline macdougall, “six tips to reduce the stress hormone, cortisol”; life extension magazine “the chemistry of calm”
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KEY STRESS CHEMICAL #2: NOREPINEPHRINE
NOREPINEPHRINE IS THE CHEMICAL
RELEASED IN RESPONSE TO STRESS
THAT IGNITES THE FIGHT OR FLIGHT
RESPONSE
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EFFECTS OF TOO MUCH OF THE STRESS CHEMICAL NOREPINEPHRINE
SOURCE: EHOW, TINA ST. JOHN, M.D
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HOW TO REDUCE NOREPINEPHRINE LEVELS NATURALLY
Source: Life Extension Magazine, Ehow, Livestrong
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THE AMYGDALA
LET’S LOOK AT THE ROLE OF THE
AMYGDALA IN REGULATING OUR
STRESS
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THE AMYGDALA
THE AMYGDALA IS A SMALL ALMOND-SHAPED ORGAN DEEP IN THE BRAIN THAT MANAGES OUR PRIMITIVE “FIGHT OR FLIGHT” RESPONSE
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STRESS CHEMICALS ARE REGULATED BY THE AMYGDALA
Source: Wisdom Labs
The Amygdala
(The Cortisol & Norepinephrine Regulator)
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THE AMYGDALA
IF WE SEE SOMETHING THAT THREATENS US, LIKE A SNAKE WE RUN AWAY OFTEN BEFORE WE REALIZE IT AND OUR AMYGDALA QUEUES OUR ADRENAL GLANDS TO RELEASE THE STRESS HORMONE NOREPINEPHRINE WHICH
INCREASES OUR ALERTNESS
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THE AMYGDALA
SIGHTS AND SOUNDS ENTER THE BRAIN
AND GO DOWN TWO PATHS—
ONE PATH LEADS TO THE AMYGDALA
THE OTHER PATH TO THE FURTHER AWAY
CEREBRAL CORTEX WHERE WE DO OUR
THINKING & CONSCIOUS REASONING
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THE AMYGDALA RESPONDS TO FEAR QUICKLY
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THE AMYGDALA
THE AMYGDALA PROCESSES THE
DANGER SIGNAL FIRST AS AN
EVOLUTIONARY ADVANTAGE TO
INCREASING THE LIKELIHOOD OF
SURVIVAL IN A
DANGEROUS SITUATION
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THE AMYGDALA
IF THE AMYGDALA DETECTS DANGER
IT TRIGGERS THE ADRENALS WHICH
RELEASE STRESS CHEMICALS NOREPINEPHRINE AND CORTISOL QUICKENING BODY REACTIONS AND
HEART RATE MAKING US BETTER AT
FIGHTING OR RUNNING
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HOW YOUR AMYGDALA CAN BE THREATENED AT WORK
THE AMYGDALA CAN BE TRIGGERED
NOT JUST BY PERCEIVED PHYSICAL
THREATS, BUT ALSO BY PSYCHOLOGICAL
THREATS LIKE WHEN SOMEONE
DISAGREES WITH YOU
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WERNER ERHARD AND MICHAEL JENSEN
WERNER ERHARD AND MICHAEL JENSEN
BEING A LEADER
INSERT TITLE
THE AMYGDALA REGULARLY HIJACKS THE CONSCIOUS BRAIN IN THE FACE OF THE MERE THREAT OF PSYCHOLOGICAL, NOT PHYSICAL PAIN. AND THE RESULT CAN BE HIGHLY COUNTER-PRODUCTIVE. WE HAVE ALL SEEN PEOPLE “LOSE IT” IN REACTION TO SOME PERCEIVED INSULT OR LACK OF RESPECT. IN THE PRESENCE OF AN AMYGDALA HIJACK THERE IS ALMOST NO CHANCE TO HAVE A PRODUCTIVE SET OF INTERACTIONS. IT TAKES FROM 20 TO 30 MINUTES OF ABSENCE FROM THE STIMULUS FOR THE NEUROCHEMICALS IN THE FLOODED BRAIN TO DISSIPATE AND THEREBY ENABLE THE POSSIBILITY OF A REASONED, RATIONAL INTERACTION TO OCCUR.
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HOW YOUR AMYGDALA CAN BE THREATENED AT WORK
WHEN YOUR AMYGDALA IS HIJACKED
DUE TO A SOMETHING THAT FRUSTRATES YOU THE BODY IS FLOODED WITH STRESS CHEMICALS FOR 20-30 MINUTES AND LITTLE PROGRESS CAN BE MADE
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WERNER ERHARD AND MICHAEL JENSEN ON CONTROLING YOUR AMYGDALA
WERNER ERHARD AND MICHAEL JENSEN
BEING A LEADER
INSERT TITLE
INDIVIDUALS CAN LEARN TO CONTROL THE AMYGDALA’S RESPONSE. TO STRENGTHEN THIS NEUROLOGICAL “MUSCLE” ONE HAS TO LEARN TO MOVE TOWARD THE SOURCE OF THE PSYCHOLOGICAL OR EMOTIONAL PAIN. YOU DO THIS BY OVERCOMING YOUR RESISTANCE TO NEGATIVE FEEDBACK BY WILLING YOURSELF TO OVERCOME THE HIGHLY INGRAINED SENSE TO “RUN” FROM OR AVOID SITUATIONS IN WHICH YOU CAN DISCOVER YOUR ERRORS. JUST LIKE ANY RIGOROUS PHYSICAL CONDITIONING CAMPAIGN THIS IS NOT EASY BUT IT CAN BE DONE. IT STARTS WITH RECOGNIZING THE COSTS YOU IMPOSE ON YOURSELF FROM ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BE CONTROLLED BY YOUR OWN AMYGDALA HIJACKS.
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I DIDN’T UNDERSTAND HOW MY NERVOUS SYSTEM WORKED
THE CENTER FOR APPLIED RATIONALITY
INSERT TITLE
THE PART OF OUR NERVOUS SYSTEM GOVERNING STRESS AND RECOVERY IS THE AUTONOMIC NERVOUS SYSTEM (ANS).
THE ANS HAS TWO OPPOSING SIDES, WHICH YOU CAN THINK OF AS THE ACCELERATOR AND THE BRAKES. THE ACCELERATOR IS IS THE SYMPATHETIC NERVOUS SYSTEM (SNS) AND THE BAKES ARE THE PARASYMPATHETIC NERVOUS SYSTEM (PSNS). THESE ARE LITERALLY TWO PARALLEL PHYSICAL NETWORKS OF NERVES RUNNING THROUGHOUT YOUR BODY AND AFFECT MANY METABOLIC SYSTEMS (HEART RATE, BLOOD PRESSURE, PERSPIRATION, DIGESTION, ETC.).
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THE TWO PARTS OF YOUR BODY’S NERVOUS SYSTEM
Source: Adapted from The Center for Applied Rationality
| Sympathetic Nervous System (SNS) Activated | Parasympathetic Nervous System (PSNS) Activated |
Function | Governs stress and fight-or-flight response | Governs recovery |
Heart Rate | Higher | Lower |
Digestion | Shuts down | Available to function |
Posture | Arms crossed | Open |
Muscle Tension | Increased | Decreased |
Speech | Faster and choppier | Slower and smoother |
Breathing | Shallow and fast | Deep and low |
Movement | Erratic and jittery | Measured and slow |
Common Effects | Anger, irritation, impatience, amygdala attacks, fear, nervousness, unease | Peace, serenity, satisfaction, contentment |
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FOUR PROGRAMS I RECOMMEND TO REGAIN YOUR JOY
Here are the web sites for these programs where you can learn more. You can sign up for all four in 10 minutes.
Art of Living Happiness Program - www.artofliving.org
The Landmark Forum - www.landmarkworldwide.com
Camp Grounded - www.campgrounded.org
Tony Robbins UPW - www.tonyrobbins.com
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WHAT I’VE LEARNED
For those who like books, the best book I’ve ever read that summarizes so much of what I’ve learned the last three years is The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma. Grab a copy on Amazon and you’ll devour it in a day or two!
MEDITATION
PART ONE, SECTION NINE:
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I DIDN’T UNDERSTAND HOW MY NERVOUS SYSTEM WORKED
Jeff Foster
"YOU WILL LOSE EVERYTHING. YOUR MONEY, YOUR POWER, YOUR FAME, YOUR SUCCESS, PERHAPS EVEN YOUR MEMORIES. YOUR LOOKS WILL GO. LOVED ONES WILL DIE. YOUR BODY WILL FALL APART. EVERYTHING THAT SEEMS PERMANENT IS IMPERMANENT AND WILL BE SMASHED. EXPERIENCE WILL GRADUALLY, OR NOT SO GRADUALLY, STRIP AWAY EVERYTHING THAT IT CAN STRIP AWAY. WAKING UP MEANS FACING THIS REALITY WITH OPEN EYES AND NO LONGER TURNING AWAY. BUT RIGHT NOW, WE STAND ON SACRED AND HOLY GROUND, FOR THAT WHICH WILL BE LOST HAS NOT YET BEEN LOST, AND REALISING THIS IS THE KEY TO UNSPEAKABLE JOY. WHOEVER OR WHATEVER IS IN YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW HAS NOT YET BEEN TAKEN AWAY FROM YOU. THIS MAY SOUND TRIVIAL, OBVIOUS, LIKE NOTHING, BUT REALLY IT IS THE KEY TO EVERYTHING, THE WHY AND HOW AND WHEREFORE OF EXISTENCE. IMPERMANENCE HAS ALREADY RENDERED EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE AROUND YOU SO DEEPLY HOLY AND SIGNIFICANT AND WORTHY OF YOUR HEARTBREAKING GRATITUDE. LOSS HAS ALREADY TRANSFIGURED YOUR LIFE INTO AN ALTAR.”
British Spiritual
Teacher
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MEDITATION
I USED TO THINK
MEDITATION WAS
COMPLETE BS
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MEDITATION
I HAD NO IDEA HOW TO
DO IT RIGHT
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MEDITATION
I THOUGHT MEDITATION
MEANT JUST SITTING THERE
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MEDITATION
WHEN I LEARNED HOW TO BREATHE
PROPERLY DURING MEDITATION
EVERYTHING CHANGED
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MEDITATION
MY MIND BECAME CLEAR AND I
WAS WAY MORE CALM &
EFFECTIVE AT WORK
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MEDITATION SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN TO REDUCE STRESS
Source: Wisdom Labs
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MEDITATION SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN TO INCREASE EMPATHY
Source: Wisdom Labs
Lutz et. al. 2008
Increases empathy, compassion & authentic connection via the insula.
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MEDITATION SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN TO SLOW BRAIN AGING
Source: UCLA Laboratory of Neuro Imaging
In a 2011 UCLA study…
“Researchers looked at the link between meditation and the preservation of gray matter, the tissue where cognition occurs and memories are stored. They examined the brains of 100 participants, 50 people who had been meditating for an average of 20 years and 50 non-meditators. Both groups were made up of 28 men and 22 women between the ages of 24 and 77.
The participants' brains were scanned using fMRI technology. While both groups showed a decline in gray matter with older age, longtime meditators experienced smaller reductions in gray matter volume than those who did not meditate. It seemed that gray matter, in those who meditated, was better preserved.”
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EVIDENCE-BASED BENEFITS OF A MINDFULNESS PRACTICE
ENHANCED SELF-AWARENESS
COGNITIVE FLEXIBILITY
EMOTION REGULATION
DECREASED STRESS AND ANXIETY
ENHANCED FOCUS
GREATER INSIGHT AND INNOVATION
INCREASED WORKING MEMORY AND ATTENTION
CLEARER PERCEPTION AND COGNITION
BETTER DECISION MAKING
EMPATHY AND COMPASSION
BETTER OVERALL HEALTH AND WELL BEING
Source: Wisdom Labs, “Mindfulness & Presence for Global Leaders” by Rich Fernandez, Ph.D
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MEDITATION
I TOOK TWO 4 DAY PROGRAMS
ON MEDITATION BOTH I’D HIGHLY
HIGHLY RECOMMEND
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MEDITATION
I TOOK THE 4 DAY ISHA FOUNDATION
INNER ENGINEERING COURSE IN
COIMBATORE, INDIA IN JANUARY 2014
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MEDITATION
I ALSO TOOK THE 4 DAY ART OF LIVING
HAPPINESS PROGRAM IN PALO ALTO IN
MARCH 2014
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YOGA
THE BASIC YOGA TECHNIQUE “SUN SALUTATION” GREATLY REDUCED MY NECK PAIN
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MEDITATION
I NOW DO THREE “SUN SALUTATIONS”
EVERY MORNING AND MY NECK PAIN IS
85% BETTER
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MY CURRENT MORNING 30 MINUTE ROUTINE…
3 SUN SALUTATIONS 5 MINS
ALTERNATE NOSTRIL BREATHING 2 MINS
SUDARSHAN KRIYA BREATHING 15 MINS
KEEPING EYES CLOSED 5 MINS
YOU CAN LEARN THESE ROUTINES THROUGH THE ART OF LIVING HAPPINESS PROGRAM WHICH IS $395 AND AVAILABLE IN MANY COUNTRIES AND CITIES
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MEDITATION
WHEN I MEDITATE WITH MY EYES CLOSED
I AM ABLE TO SEE A DEEPLY CALMING
PURPLE LIGHT
(STRANGE I KNOW, BUT TRUE)
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MEDITATION
THERE ARE MANY GOOD TECHNIQUES
AND I AM ONLY AT THE BEGINNING OF
THE LEARNING PROCESS
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SILENT RETREATS
IN JUNE 2014 I DID A 3 DAY ART OF LIVING
SILENCE COURSE I FOUND THAT SPENDING
3 DAYS IN SILENCE WAS EXTREMELY
BENEFICIAL TO CALMING THE MIND AND
MADE ME WAY MORE
PRODUCTIVE AT WORK
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SILENT RETREATS
AFTER THE 3 DAYS IN SILENCE I FOUND
MYSELF BECOMING NATURALLY MORE
COLLABORATIVE AT WORK
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RETREAT CENTERS YOU CAN VISIT FOR REFLECTION
HERE ARE SOME OF THE BEST RETREAT CENTERS TO VISIT
Esalen - http://www.esalen.org/
Art of Living Boone Retreat – http://artoflivingretreatcenter.org
Harbin Hot Springs - http://www.harbin.org/
10-Day Vipassana (150 centers around the world) - http://www.dhamma.org/
Vendata Society - http://sfvedanta.org/retreat/
Tassajara Zen Mountain Center - http://www.sfzc.org/tassajara/
Earthrise - http://noetic.org/earthrise
Hidden Valley Ashram - http://www.hvashram.org
Green Gulch – http://www.sfzc.org/ggf/
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MEDITATION
THESE FOUR BREATHING TECHNIQUES HAVE BEEN VERY HELPFUL TO ME
HERE’S WHERE YOU CAN LEARN A BIT MORE…
Bhastrika - http://bit.ly/bhastrikademo
Three stage pranayama - http://bit.ly/3stagebreathing
Alternate nostril breathing - http://bit.ly/alternatenostrils
Rapid nostril breathing - http://bit.ly/rapidnostril
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MEDITATION PROGRAMS I RECOMMEND
Includes the Happiness Program and the Art of Silence Program. Now operating in 152 countries.
Take the Inner Engineering program, available in both India and the USA. Also online at www.innerengineering.com though in-person is best.
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VIPASSANA
I DID MY FIRST 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA
IN AUGUST 2015 IN MONTREAL, QUEBEC
HERE’S A SUMMARY OF THE EXPERIENCE
AND LEARNINGS
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
VIPASSANA IS A MEDITATION TECHNIQUE
DISCOVERED 2500 YEARS AGO BY
BUDDHA THAT FOCUSES ON OBSERVING
THE SENSATIONS
IN YOUR BODY
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
VIPASSANA WAS POPULARIZED
RECENTLY BY A BURMESE MAN
NAMED S.N. GOENKA (1929-2013)
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
DURING VIPASSANA YOU
ARE COMPLETELY SILENT
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
IN ORDER TO QUIET THE
MIND THERE IS NO TALKING,
READING, OR WRITING
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
THE DAILY SCHEDULE RUNS
FROM 4:30AM TO 9:30PM
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
MEN AND WOMEN ARE FULLY
SEPARATED FOR THE 10 DAYS
TO AVOID MENTAL
DISTRACTION
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
YOU SLEEP IN A BASIC BED AND
MEDITATE IN A MEDITATION HALL
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
DURING THE FIRST 3 DAYS
YOU SIMPLY OBSERVE YOUR
BREATH FROM YOUR NOSTRILS
AS YOUR MIND SETTLES DOWN
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
AFTER A FEW DAYS THE MENTAL
CHATTER INSIDE BEGINS TO STOP
AND YOUR MIND BECOMES QUIET
AND CALM
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
DURING DAYS 4-10 YOU LEARN
THE VIPASSANA TECHNIQUE OF
CALMLY OBSERVING YOUR OWN
BODILY SENSATIONS
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
AFTER A FEW DAYS YOU CAN OBSERVE
THESE SENSATIONS WITHOUT REACTING
AND CAN BREAK THE CONSTANT CYCLE
OF CRAVING
AND AVERSION
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
YOU LEARN THE LESSON THAT
EVERYTHING IN LIFE AND THE
WORLD IS IMPERMANENT
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
YOU LEARN THAT IF YOU OBSERVE YOUR
BREATHING IN LIFE YOUR CAN DETECT
ANGER ARISING INSIDE OF YOU BEFORE
IT BOILS OVER
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
WHEN YOU END UP JUST OBSERVING YOUR
SENSATIONS FOR 8-10 HOURS PER DAY YOU
EXPERIENCE PAIN, ITCHING, FATIGUE, CRAMPING,
AND YOU END UP SENSING THE REALITY THAT ALL
SENSATIONS AND EVERYTHING IN FACT
WILL SOON PASS
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
SOME ATTENDEES ARE ABLE TO ATTAIN
THE ABILITY TO ACTUALLY FEEL THE
VIBRATIONS INSIDE EVERY PART OF
THEIR BODY
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
IN MY FIRST VIPASSANA BY DAY SEVEN I
WAS ABLE TO FEEL THESE VIBRATIONS
IN MY ARMS AND HEAD BUT NOT ALL OVER
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
YOU LEARN THAT NOTHING IS FOREVER
AND THAT REGARDLESS OF WHETHER
WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH IS
PLEASURABLE OR NOT IT TOO WILL PASS
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
YOU COME TO LEARN TO KEEP A
BALANCED MIND WITHOUT
EXTREMELY QUICK REACTIONS
TO IRRITATIONS OR PLEASURE
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
SLOWLY YOU BEGIN TO NO LONGER REACT
TO THE SENSATIONS AND YOU LEARN TO
STAY CENTERED DURING TIMES WHETHER
YOU OTHERWISE WOULD HAVE BEEN
EMOTIONAL AND TRIGGERED
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
YOU LEARN THAT IT IS ULTIMATELY
YOUR CHOICE TO HAVE INNER PEACE
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LEARNINGS FROM A 10 DAY SILENT VIPASSANA MEDITATION
YOU LEARN THAT YOU CAN
CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY
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SHOULD YOU DO A VIPASSANA?
YOU SHOULD DO A VIPASSANA
IT WILL COMPLETELY CHANGE
YOUR PERSPECTIVE ON LIFE
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SHOULD YOU DO A VIPASSANA?
THE COURSES ARE BY
DONATION ONLY SO YOU
CAN GIVE WHATEVER YOU
CAN AFFORD
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HOW TO SIGN UP FOR A VIPASSANA
YOU CAN APPLY FOR A
VIPASSANA COURSE AT…
WWW.DHAMMA.ORG
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MEDITATION EXERCISE
YOU CAN DO THE FOLLOWING
10 MINUTE MEDITATION EXERCISE
NOW OR PUT A TIME ON YOUR
CALENDAR TO RETURN TO IT
MEDITATION
EXERCISE
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EXERCISE: ALTERNATE NOSTRIL BREATHING
FIRST WATCH THE VIDEO ON
ALTERNATE NOSTRIL BREATHING
NOW, SIT ON THE GROUND CROSS LEGGED
FOLLOW THE VIDEO INSTRUCTIONS FOR 5 MINUTES
AFTERWARD, MAKE NOTE OF HOW YOUR BRAIN FEELS
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EXERCISE: SUN SALUTATION
GET ON THE FLOOR AND ACTUALLY TRY TO DO 2 SUN SALUTATIONS
Video at http://bit.ly/sunsalutationvideo
INTEGRITY
PART ONE, SECTION TEN:
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THOSE WHO INSPIRED THIS SECTION
THIS SECTION ON INTEGRITY WAS
INFLUENCED BY THE PIONEERING WORK OF
WERNER ERHARD, MICHAEL JENSEN, GORDON
STARR, AND HAROON MOKHTARZADA
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HOW IS INTEGRITY DEFINED?
DEFINITION (FROM WEBSTER’S NEW WORLD DICTIONARY):
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WHAT I MEAN BY INTEGRITY
IN THESE SLIDES, WHEN I SAY
SOMETHING “HAS INTEGRITY”
I JUST MEAN “IT WORKS WELL”
I’M NOT REFERRING TO ANYTHING
ABOUT MORALITY HERE
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INTEGRITY AS AN EMPIRICAL THING
INTEGRITY IS OFTEN IGNORED IN BUSINESS, ECONOMICS, ETC. BECAUSE IT IS OCCURS TO PEOPLE AS A NORMATIVE TOPIC. THAT IS, SOMETHING TO WHICH IS GOOD OR BAD, OR THAT YOU CAST A VALUE JUDGMENT ON.
WE ARE NOW DEFINING INTEGRITY AS A EMPIRICAL THING, NOT A VIRTUE. THERE IS NOTHING GOOD OR BAD ABOUT IT, IT IS WHAT IT IS THAT SAID, WE WILL SHOW HOW MORALITY & ETHICS ARE RELATED TO INTEGRITY
Source: Being a Leader Course
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INTEGRITY IS REQUIRED FOR PERFORMANCE
WHEN AN OBJECT IS OUT OF INTEGRITY IT BECOMES LESS WORKABLE.
WORKABILITY IS THE BRIDGE TO PERFORMANCE - AS AN ENTITY BECOMES LESS WORKABLE, ITS OPPORTUNITY SET (THE AVAILABLE OPPORTUNITY FOR PERFORMANCE) DECLINES
THUS, INTEGRITY BECOMES A NECESSARY (BUT NOT SUFFICIENT) CONDITION FOR MAXIMUM PERFORMANCE
THIS UNDERSTANDING OF INTEGRITY LACKS ANY NORMATIVE (JUDGMENTAL) VALUE.
Source: Being a Leader Course
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INTEGRITY IS REQUIRED FOR PERFORMANCE
AS AN EXAMPLE, IF THIS WAGON’S WHEEL IS BROKEN, IT LACKS INTEGRITY
Source: Being a Leader Course
602
THE LAW OF INTEGRITY
AS INTEGRITY (BEING WHOLE AND COMPLETE) DECLINES, WORKABILITY DECLINES, AND AS WORKABILITY DECLINES, VALUE (THE OPPORTUNITY FOR PERFORMANCE) DECLINES
THUS THE MAXIMIZATION OF WHATEVER PERFORMANCE MEASURE YOU CHOOSE REQUIRES INTEGRITY
VIOLATING THE LAW OF INTEGRITY GENERATES PAINFUL CONSEQUENCES JUST AS SURELY AS VIOLATING THE LAW OF GRAVITY
Source: Being a Leader Course
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THE LAW OF INTEGRITY
INTEGRITY
WORKABILITY
PERFORMANCE
Source: Being a Leader Course
604
THE LAW OF INTEGRITY
WITHOUT INTEGRITY NOTHING WORKS
Source: Being a Leader Course
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ORGANIZATIONS WITHOUT INTEGRITY
IN AN ORGANIZATION WITHOUT INTEGRITY
MEETINGS START & FINISH LATE
PROJECTS FINISH LATE
BUDGETS ARE OVERRUN
PEOPLE OVERCOMMIT
ACCOUNTABILITY IS UNCLEAR
TEAMS DON’T FULFILL ON THEIR WORD
LEADERS DON’T FULFILL ON THEIR WORD
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INTEGRITY OF A PERSON
NOW LET’S LOOK AT THE INTEGRITY OF A PERSON
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INTEGRITY OF A PERSON
•INTEGRITY FOR A PERSON IS A MATTER OF A PERSON’S WORD, NOTHING MORE, NOTHING LESS.
•YOU ARE A PERSON OF INTEGRITY, AND ENJOY THE BENEFITS THEREOF, WHEN YOUR WORD IS WHOLE AND COMPLETE.
•WE WILL EXPLICITLY DEFINE WHAT CONSTITUTES YOUR WORD SOON
Source: Being a Leader Course
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INTEGRITY IS HONORING YOUR WORD
•WHILE KEEPING YOUR WORD IS FUNDAMENTALLY IMPORTANT TO LIFE, YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO ALWAYS KEEP YOUR WORD (UNLESS YOU ARE PLAYING A SMALL GAME IN LIFE)
•HOWEVER, YOU CAN ALWAYS HONOR YOUR WORD.
Source: Being a Leader Course
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INTEGRITY IS HONORING YOUR WORD
Source: Being a Leader Course
OR
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WERNER ERHARD ON THE POWER OF HONORING YOUR WORD
WERNER ERHARD
BEING A LEADER
UNLESS YOU GIVE YOUR WORD TO VIRTUALLY NOTHING, YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO ALWAYS KEEP IT. IN FACT, LEADERSHIP (ANY ANYTHING WORTHWHILE IN LIFE) IS ALL ABOUT GIVING YOU WORD TO SOMETHING THAT NO ONE KNOWS HOW TO ACCOMPLISH.
WHEN IT IS IMPOSSIBLE OR INAPPROPRIATE TO KEEP YOUR WORD, HONORING YOUR WORD ALLOWS YOU TO MAINTAIN YOUR WORD AS WHOLE AND COMPLETE
SURPRISINGLY, YOU WILL ENGENDER A GREATER DEGREE OF TRUST (AND ADMIRATION) WHEN YOU DO NOT KEEP YOUR WORD BUT YOU DO HONOR YOUR WORD.
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IT’S BETTER TO KEEP YOUR WORD THAN NOT
WHILE YOU CAN MAINTAIN INTEGRITY BY HONORING A BROKEN WORD, (THROUGH TIMELY ACKNOWLEDGMENT AND MESS CLEANUP) THERE IS ALWAYS A COST TO BREAKING YOUR WORD.
Source: Being a Leader Course
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WHAT DOES YOUR “WORD” CONSIST OF
THERE ARE 6 PARTS TO YOUR WORD
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WORD 1: WHAT YOU SAID
WHATEVER YOU SAID YOU WILL
DO OR NOT DO (AND IN THE CASE
OF DO, DOING IT ON TIME)
Source: Being a Leader Course
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WORD 2: WHAT YOU KNOW TO DO
Source: Being a Leader Course
WHATEVER YOU KNOW TO DO, OR KNOW NOT TO DO AND IF IT IS DO,
DOING IT AS YOU KNOW IT IS MEANT TO BE DONE AND DOING IT ON TIME
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WORD 3: WHAT IS EXPECTED
Source: Being a Leader Course
WHATEVER YOU ARE EXPECTED TO DO OR NOT DO (AND IN THE CASE OF DO, DOING IT ON TIME) UNLESS YOU HAVE EXPLICITLY SAID TO THE CONTRARY.
(But this is not bi-directional. What you expect of others is not for you their word unless you make that expectation explicit.)
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WORD 4: WHAT YOU SAY IS SO
WHEN YOU SPEAK TO THE EXISTENCE OF SOMETHING OR STATE OF THE WORLD,
YOUR WORD INCLUDES BEING WILLING TO BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE
THAT THE OTHERS WOULD FIND YOUR EVIDENCE MAKES WHAT YOU HAVE ASSERTED VALID FOR THEMSELVES.
Source: Being a Leader Course
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WORD 5: WHAT YOU STAND FOR
Source: Being a Leader Course
WHAT YOU SAY THAT YOUR LIFE IS ABOUT AND FOR WHAT YOU CAN UNQUESTIONABLY
BE COUNTED ON –
WHETHER EXPRESSED IN THE FORM OF A DECLARATION MADE TO ONE OR MORE PEOPLE, OR EVEN TO YOURSELF,
AS WELL AS WHAT YOU ALLOW PEOPLE TO BELIEVE THAT YOU STAND FOR, IS A PART OF YOUR WORD.
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WORD 6: SOCIAL NORMS AND LAWS
Source: Being a Leader Course
THE MORAL, ETHICAL, AND LEGAL STANDARDS WHICH YOU HAVE NOT EXPLICITLY DECLINED
ARE A PART OF YOUR WORD
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THE SIX TYPES OF YOUR “WORD” IN REVIEW
Source: Being a Leader Course
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WHEN TO HONOR YOUR WORD?
SOME PEOPLE THINK IT IS OKAY TO DO A COST/BENEFIT ANALYSIS OF HONORING THEIR WORD—AND ONLY IF THE BENEFITS OUTWEIGH THE COSTS DO THEY FULFILL ON THEIR WORD.
WHILE THIS MAY WORK IN THE SHORT TERM, IN THE MID-TERM NO ONE WILL TRUST YOU OR LIKE YOU OR BE WILLING TO WORK WITH YOU.
SO ALWAYS HONOR YOUR WORD. WHEN YOU DO THIS, YOUR WORD BECOMES POWERFUL. AND YOU START BELIEVING IN YOURSELF.
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COST/BENEFIT ANALYSIS
THE TIME TO DO A COST/BENEFIT
ANALYSIS IS WHEN YOU ARE
CONSIDERING GIVING YOUR WORD.
WHEN YOU GIVE YOUR WORD,
YOU ARE IN EFFECT SAYING
“I WILL MAKE THAT HAPPEN”
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THE INTEGRITY-PERFORMANCE PARADOX
IF INTEGRITY IMPROVES PERFORMANCE
AS A LAW, THEN WHY DO SO MANY PEOPLE
AND ORGANIZATIONS SYSTEMATICALLY
SACRIFICE THEIR INTEGRITY AND SUFFER
THE CONSEQUENCES? WHY ARE THEY BLIND
TO THE NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF OUT OF
INTEGRITY BEHAVIOR?
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THE FIVE VEILS OF INVISIBILITY THAT PREVENT INTEGRITY
THERE ARE FIVE “VEILS OF INVISIBILITY”
THAT PREVENT INTEGRITY IN A
PERSON OR IN AN ORGANIZATION.
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VEILS OF INVISIBILITY
AS A VIRTUE, INTEGRITY IS
EASILY SACRIFICED WHEN
IT APPEARS A PERSON OR
ORGANIZATION MUST DO
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V1: INTEGRITY IS A VIRTUE
SO TO SUCCEED.
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V2: SELF DECEPTION
BECAUSE PEOPLE CANNOT SEE THEIR OUT-OF-INTEGRITY BEHAVIOR, IT IS
IMPOSSIBLE FOR THEM TO SEE THE
CAUSE OF THE UNWORKABILITY IN
THEIR LIVES AND ORGANIZATIONS —
THE DIRECT RESULT OF THEIR OWN
VIOLATIONS OF THE LAW OF INTEGRITY.
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V3: INTEGRITY AS KEEPING ONE’S WORD
BELIEVING THAT INTEGRITY REQUIRES ONE
TO KEEP ONE’S WORD (AN IMPOSSIBLE GOAL) RESULTS IN THE PERCEIVED IMPORTANCE OF
THAT GOAL BEING DIMINISHED.
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V4: FEAR
MAINTAINING INTEGRITY (ACKNOWLEDGING THAT YOU
ARE NOT GOING TO KEEP YOUR WORD AND CLEANING
UP THE MESS THAT RESULTS) OCCURS FOR MANY AS
A THREAT TO BE AVOIDED, SIMPLY PUT THEY DON’T
WANT TO LOOK BAD THIS FEAR BLINDS US TO THE
BENEFITS THAT ACCRUE FROM ACKNOWLEDGING THAT
ONE WILL NOT KEEP THEIR WORD
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V5: INTEGRITY IS NOT SEEN AS A FACTOR OF PRODUCTION
INTEGRITY IS DEEMPHASIZED WHEN
PEOPLE DON’T UNDERSTAND IT AS
PREREQUISITE OF WORKABILITY
AND PERFORMANCE
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INTEGRITY VS. THE GOLDEN RULE
A WORLD IN WHICH EVERYONE FOLLOWED THE GOLDEN RULE “DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU” WOULD BE WONDERFUL, BUT REQUIRES EVERYONE TO FOLLOW IT TO WORK
IN CONTRAST, INTEGRITY IS SOMETHING ONE DOES FOR ONESELF, AND IS ACTIONABLE WITHOUT REQUIRING THE COOPERATION OF OTHERS.
IT PAYS ONE TO BEHAVE WITH INTEGRITY EVEN IF THOSE AROUND YOU ARE NOT, BECAUSE THOSE PEOPLE AROUND YOU WILL TRUST AND COUNT ON YOU, AND THAT IS VALUABLE TO YOU
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IT COSTS TO DEAL WITH OBJECTS, PEOPLE, OR ORGS THAT ARE OUT OF INTEGRITY
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IT COSTS TO DEAL WITH OBJECTS, PEOPLE, OR ORGS THAT ARE OUT OF INTEGRITY
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THE KEY QUESTION
WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF YOU LIVED YOUR LIFE WITH INTEGRITY?
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WHAT IS IT LIKE TO BE WHOLE AND COMPLETE AS A PERSON?
635
WHAT IF…
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WHAT IF…
WHAT IF EVERYONE AROUND YOU OPERATED IN THE SAME WAY?
PHILOSOPHY
PART ONE, SECTION ELEVEN:
638
A REVIEW OF PHILOSOPHY
THIS SECTION REVIEWS SOME OF
THE MAJOR PHILOSOPHIES
FOR LIVING
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WHAT IS PHILOSOPHY?
Philosophy (n.)
the study of the fundamental nature of knowledge, reality, and existence
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MAJOR LIFE PHILOSOPHIES
Life Philosophy | Main Thinkers | Short Description |
Stoicism | Zeno of Citium, Seneca, Marcus Aurelius | Maximize tranquility and joy by reducing negative emotions like anger, fear, grief, and envy. Be extremely grateful for what you do have. Make the best of every situation no matter how difficult. Realize that everything is impermanent including life itself. |
Hedonism | | Maximize short-term pleasure |
Cynic | | Living an ascetic lifestyle with no worldly pleasures |
Buddhism | Siddhartha Gautama | Minimize personal suffering by reducing desires and aversions and appreciating the present moment. Follow the middle path and live with neither luxury nor asceticism. |
Existentialism | Kierkegaard, Nietzsche, Sartre, Camus, Heidegger | |
Nihilism | | |
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MY GUIDE TO PHILOSOPHY
Life Philosophy | Main Thinkers | Short Description |
Stoicism | Zeno of Citium, Seneca, Marcus Aurelius | Maximize tranquility and joy by reducing negative emotions like anger, fear, grief, and envy. Be extremely grateful for what you do have. Make the best of every situation no matter how difficult. Realize that everything is impermanent including life itself. |
Hedonism | | Maximize short-term pleasure |
Cynic | | Living an ascetic lifestyle with no worldly pleasures |
Buddhism | Siddhartha Gautama | Minimize personal suffering by reducing desires and aversions and appreciating the present moment. Follow the middle path and live with neither luxury nor asceticism. |
Existentialism | Kierkegaard, Nietzsche, Sartre, Camus, Heidegger | |
Epicureanism | Epicurus | |
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Buddha
Siddhartha Gautama
(563 BCE to 483 BCE)
Buddha (The “Awakened One”) believed:
“The mind is everything. What you think you become.” - Buddha
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS – Lao Tzu
Lao Tzu
(5th and 6th Century BCE)
Lao Tzu was the founder of Daoism. He believed:
“When I let go of who I am, I become what I might be” – Lao Tzu
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Confucius
Confucius
(551-479 BCE)
Confucius was Chinese philosopher who believed:
“What one does not wish for oneself, one ought not to do to anyone else; what one recognizes as desirable for oneself, one ought to be willing to grant to others.” -- Confucius
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Socrates
Socrates
(470 BCE to 399 BCE)
Teacher to Plato. Created the Socratic Method which he asked his students questions to guide their learning.
Believed the best way to live was to focus on cultivating virtues rather than pursuing material possessions.
“The unexamined life is not worth living” – Socrates
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Plato
Plato
(428 BCE to 348 BCE)
Devoted his life to helping people find happiness and fulfillment ( known as Eudaimonia).
Founded The Academy in Athens.
Taught people to:
There will be no end to the troubles of states, or of humanity itself, till philosophers become kings in this world… and political power and philosophy thus come into the same hands. - Plato
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Aristotle
Student of Plato Tutored Alexander the Great Founded The Lyceum in Athens�Came up with 11 key virtues (shown to the right)�Wrote The Poetics a manual from writing great plays Invented the art of Rhetoric and persuasive oration His ethics were based on the concept of doing good and that a person must demonstrate goodness by helping others. Argued that the soul was separate from the physical body. |
“To be conscious that we are perceiving or thinking is to be conscious of our own existence.” - Aristotle
Aristotle
(384 BC to 322 BC)
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Epicurus
Epicurus focused on what actually makes people happy. He observed what makes most people happy is:
He argued that money and luxury did not align much with happiness. Epicurus formed communal living centers with his friends so he could see them more regularly. His philosophy was centered on peace and freedom from fear (“Ataraxia” in Greek) and the absence of pain (“Aponia” in Greek). |
Epicurus�(341 BCE to 270 BCE)
It is impossible to live a pleasant life without living wisely and well and justly. - Epicurus
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Seneca
Stoic Philosopher who advocated for being grateful for what you have. Suggested regularly imagining worst case scenarios (negative visualization) in order to become more thankful. Recommended reducing the negative emotions of anger, fear, grief, and envy so that nothing could disturb their tranquility of mind. |
Seneca
(4 CE – 65 AD)
“Many things have fallen only to rise higher.” - Seneca
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - John Locke
John Locke
(1632-1704)
John Locke was an English philosopher and political theorist.
He proposed the theory, tabula rasa (a clean slate)
“Let us suppose the mind to be, as we say, white paper, void of all characters” – John Locke
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Adam Smith
Adam Smith was a Scottish economist and philosopher. Discussed to make the capitalist system more humane and meaningful. His underlying ambition was to help make people happy. Wrote The Wealth of Nations and The Theory of Moral Sentiments |
Adam Smith
(1723-1790)
“No society can surely be flourishing and happy, of which the far greater part of the members are poor and miserable. “ – Adam Smith
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Wollstonecraft
Mary Wollstonecraft
(1759-1797)
Mary Wollstonecraft was an English writer, philosopher, and advocate of women’s rights
Through her novels she expressed her arguments.
She is regarded as a founding feminist philosopher for her advocacy in women’s rights.
“Surely something resides in this heart that is not perishable - and life is more than a dream” – Mary Wollstonecraft
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Mill
John Stuart Mill
(1806-1873)
John Stuart Mill was a British philosopher, political economist and civil servant.
He is regarded as the the most influential English-speaking philosopher of the 19th century
Mill’s believed the source of true freedom was through self improvement.
“I have learned to seek happiness by limiting my desires, rather than in attempting to satisfy them” – John Stuart Mill
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Thoreau
Henry David Thoreau
(1817-1862)
Henry David Thoreau, an American poet, philosopher and naturalist best known for his book Walden.
“I learned this, at least, by my experiment: that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.
He will put some things behind and will pass an invisible boundary; new, universal, and more liberal laws will begin to establish themselves around and within him; or the old laws be expanded, and interpreted in his favor in a more liberal sense, and he will live with the license of a higher order of beings. In proportion as he simplifies his life, the laws of the universe will appear less complex, and solitude will not be solitude, nor poverty, nor weakness.
If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.
” – Thoreau
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Heidegger
Lived in Germany. Heidegger thought we had:
Felt that when we realize that we will be dead someday (and be in the “The Nothing”) we will give up trying to impress people and instead lead the lives we want. Believe we should spend time in graveyards to gain perspective on our life. Felt we should be appreciative of the time we have alive on this planet. Felt we should become more conscious of The Nothing every day and that we should escape the clutches of The Chatter in order to become more authentic. |
Martin Heidegger
(1889 – 1976)
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Sartre
A Frenchman who popularized Existentialism. Wrote “Being and Nothingness”
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Jean-Paul Sartre
(1889 – 1976)
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JOE JAWORSKI
Joe Jaworski, Synchronicity: The Inner Path of Leadership
WE DON’T HAVE TO BE BOUND BY OUR CURRENT CIRCUMSTANCES… WE CAN LITERALLY CHOOSE THE KIND OF COMMUNITY, THE KIND OF WORLD, THAT WE WANT TO LIVE IN.
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Camus
A 20th Century French-Algerian existentialist. He believed that:
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Albert Camus
(1913 – 1960)
“A clerk in the post-office is the equal of a conqueror if consciousness is common to them.” – Albert Camus
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MAJOR PHILOSOPHERS - Rawls
A 20th Century Harvard Professor and American Philosopher. He was passionate about using ideas to change the unjust world that he saw. Wrote his masterpiece “A Theory of Justice” in 1971. He invented a great thought experiment The Veil of Ignorance. In this thought experiment, the reader imagines themselves as a soul before birth and is asked the question: “If you didn’t know where or to whom you are about to be born, what should the basic principles and guidelines of the world be?” From this “Original Position” before birth, most participants in the thought exercises agree that all people should have access to basic human needs like food, water, shelter, education, medicine, and electricity and that we should strive to craft our policies and laws to enable equality of opportunity for all human beings. |
John Rawls
(1921-2002)
“The principles of justice are chosen behind a veil of ignorance.” ― John Rawls
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STOICISM
LET’S LOOK MORE CLOSELY AT STOICISM
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COMPARING PHILOSOPHIES
Cynics
Focused on Reducing Desires
Focused on Maximizing Pleasure
Stoics
Epicureans
Hedonists
Antisthenes
Zeno of Citium, Marcus Aurelius, Seneca
Epicurus
Aristippus
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STOICISM
STOICISM IS ONE OF THE MOST
USEFUL PHILOSOPHIES FOR
THOSE WANTING TO LIVE
A HAPPY LIFE
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THE MAJOR STOICS
Zeno of Citium
Seneca
Marcus Aurelius
Epictetus
334 – 262 BCE
4 BCE – 65 CE
55 CE – 135 CE
121 CE – 180 CE
THE KEY STOIC BELIEFS
NEGATIVE VISUALIZATION – IMAGINE
WHAT COULD BE WORSE SO THAT
YOU END UP GRATEFUL FOR WHAT
YOU HAVE LEARN TO WANT THE
THINGS YOU ALREADY HAVE
WHAT THE STOICS BELIEVE
WE ARE UNLIKELY TO HAVE A
GOOD AND MEANINGFUL LIFE
UNLESS WE CAN OVERCOME
OUR INSATIABILITY
FAILURE
PART ONE, SECTION TWELVE:
WINSTON CHURCHILL ON SUCCESS
WInston Churchill
Prime Minister of UK
SUCCESS IS WALKING FROM FAILURE TO
FAILURE WITH NO LOSS
OF ENTHUSIASM.
TWO TYPES OF RISKS
There are identity risks and there are physical risks. Most people live their lives deathly afraid of identity risks to their ego as if there is grave danger like a lion ahead and spend their lives constrained and worrying about what others will think. When you can transcend this limitation so much more becomes possible.
BILL GEORGE ON SUCCESS
Bill George
Discovering Your True North
ACHIEVING SUCCESS AS THE OUTSIDE WORLD DEFINES IT MOTIVATES MANY LEADERS. THEY ENJOY THE FEELINGS OF RECOGNITION AND STATUS THAT COME WITH PROMOTIONS AND FINANCIAL REWARDS. THIS CYCLE STARTS AT AN EARLY AGE. HOWEVER EACH SUCCESS LEADS TO A DESIRE FOR MORE MONEY, FAME, OR POWER. THAT’S WHY MANY PEOPLE WITH GREAT WEALTH AND POWER ARE ALWAYS COMPARING THEMSELVES WITH THOSE WHO HAVE MORE. BEING DRIVEN ENTIRELY BY EXTRINSIC MOTIVATIONS IS A DANGEROUS TRAP THAT CAN LEAD YOU ASTRAY FROM YOUR TRUE NORTH.
BILL GEORGE ON SUCCESS
Bill George
Discovering Your True North
BECAUSE MODERN SOCIETY HAS PLACED UNPRECEDENTED ATTENTION ON VISIBLE ACHIEVEMENTS, EXTRINSIC MEASURES OF SUCCESS CAUSE MANY LEADERS TO SEEK THE WORLD’S ACCLAIM RATHER THAN PURSUE THEIR INNER MOTIVATIONS.
COMMUNICATION
PART ONE, SECTION THIRTEEN:
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
WHEN YOU TALK TO PEOPLE
LOOK THEM IN THE EYE
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
WHEN YOU GREET PEOPLE
GO UP TO THEM WITH
ENERGY & EXCITEMENT
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
WHEN YOU TALK
TO PEOPLE SMILE
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
WHEN YOU TALK TO PEOPLE BE
JOYOUS NOT STRESSED
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
ALWAYS LET YOUR PASSION SHINE THROUGH
BEING A LISTENING
MOST PEOPLE ARE ABSOLUTELY
TERRIBLE LISTENERS
BEING A LISTENING
MANY HUMAN BEINGS ARE SO
DISTRACTED BY THE THOUGHTS
IN THEIR HEADS THAT THEY CAN’T
POSSIBLY BE PRESENT TO LISTEN
LISTENING
THE PURPOSE OF
CONVERSATION
IS NOT TO BE HEARD
STEVEN COVEY ON ON LISTENING
STEVEN COVEY
INSERT TITLE
SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND,
THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD.
SEEK TO UNDERSTAND
THE PURPOSE OF CONVERSATION
IS NOT TO BE UNDERSTOOD
THE PURPOSE OF CONVERSATION
IS TO UNDERSTAND
STEVEN COVEY ON LISTENING
STEVEN COVEY�Author
IF YOU'RE LIKE MOST PEOPLE, YOU PROBABLY SEEK FIRST TO BE UNDERSTOOD; YOU WANT TO GET YOUR POINT ACROSS. AND IN DOING SO, YOU MAY IGNORE THE OTHER PERSON COMPLETELY, PRETEND THAT YOU'RE LISTENING, SELECTIVELY HEAR ONLY CERTAIN PARTS OF THE CONVERSATION OR ATTENTIVELY FOCUS ON ONLY THE WORDS BEING SAID, BUT MISS THE MEANING ENTIRELY. SO WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN? BECAUSE MOST PEOPLE LISTEN WITH THE INTENT TO REPLY, NOT TO UNDERSTAND.
RECREATING THE OTHER PERSON’S POINT FIRST
IN IMPORTANT CONVERSATIONS
RESTATE THE OTHER PERSON’S
POINT AND THEN WAIT FOR THEM TO
CONFIRM YOU GOT IT BEFORE SAYING
ANYTHING NEW
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
USE THIS FORMULA
1) RESTATE THEIR POINT
2) MAKE SURE YOU GOT IT RIGHT
3) ADD YOUR OWN POINT
WHEN IN IMPORTANT CONVERSATIONS..
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
NEVER NEVER NEVER
START A SENTENCE WITH
BUT
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
INSTEAD OF THE WORD
BUT USE THE WORD
AND
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
AVOID SAYING
THE WORDS
UM AND UH
(Instead just pause)
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
AVOID THE INFORMAL
USAGE OF THE WORD
LIKE
(Ex: “She was like oh my gosh I can’t believe she did that” or “I walked like 30 miles”)
DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS
ANYTIME YOU HAVE
SOMETHING DIFFICULT
TO COMMUNICATE
DO IT IN PERSON
(Or at worst, on Google Hangout or Skype)
KEEP EMAILS SHORT
AVOID SENDING EMAILS WITH
MORE THAN 5 SENTENCES
KEEP EMAILS SHORT
AVOID SENDING EMAILS WITH
EMOTIONAL CONTENT
GIVING PRESENTATIONS
FOR PRESENTATIONS YOU WILL GIVE
TO OTHERS NEVER HAVE MORE THAN
15 WORDS ON A SLIDE
GIVING PRESENTATIONS
IDEALLY USE 1 POWERFUL PICTURE
AND NO MORE THAN 10 WORDS
GIVING PRESENTATIONS
OR SOMETIMES
NO WORDS AT ALL
ARISTOTLE’S TIPS FOR PERSUADING AN AUDIENCE
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MONEY
PART ONE, SECTION THIRTEEN:
ROBERT KIYOSAKI ON THE MIDDLE CLASS VERSUS THE RICH
ROBERT KIYOSAKI
Author
INDIVIDUALS IN THE MIDDLE CLASS ACCUMULATE MORE DEBT AS THEY BECOME MORE SUCCESSFUL. A PAY RAISE QUALIFIES THEM TO BORROW MORE MONEY FROM THE BANK SO THEY CAN BUY PERSONAL ITEMS LIKE BIGGER CARS, VACATION HOMES, BOATS, AND MOTOR HOMES. THEIR WAGE INCOME COMES IN AND IS SPENT ON CURRENT EXPENSES AND ONLY THEN ON PAYING OFF THEIR PERSONAL DEBT. SO AS THEIR INCOME INCREASES, SO DOES THEIR PERSONAL DEBT. THIS IS WHAT WE CALL THE RAT RACE.
ROBERT KIYOSAKI ON THE RICH HAVE THEIR MONEY WORK FOR THEM
ROBERT KIYOSAKI
Author
THE RICH HAVE THEIR ASSETS WORK FOR THEM. THEY HAVE GAINED CONTROL OVER THEIR EXPENSES (BY SAVING AND INVESTING MONEY EACH MONTH) AND FOCUS ON ACQUIRING OR BUILDING ASSETS. THEIR BUSINESSES PAY MORE OF THEIR EXPENSES, AND THEY HAVE FEW, IF ANY, PERSONAL LIABILITIES.
WHICH FINANCIAL PATH WILL YOU TAKE?
THERE ARE TWO SEGMENTS OF PEOPLE IN THE WORLD
WHICH SEGMENT DO YOU WANT TO BE IN?
1
2
PEOPLE WHO PAY INTEREST ON LOANS AND WORK FOR COMPANIES
PEOPLE WHO RECEIVE INTEREST ON LOANS AND OWN PARTS OF COMPANIES
THE TOPIC OF MONEY
MONEY IS A REALLY IMPORTANT
TOPIC TO UNDERSTAND
THE TOPIC OF MONEY
MONEY IS SIMPLY A STORE OF
VALUE WHICH ENABLES TWO
PARTIES TO EXCHANGE EVEN
IF THEY CANNOT BARTER
YOUR NET WORTH
INCLUDING ALL YOUR SAVINGS,
INVESTMENTS AND DEBT WHAT
IS YOUR NET WORTH RIGHT NOW?
AVERAGE & MEDIAN NET WORTH IN THE USA
THE AVERAGE NET WORTH OF AN AMERICAN IS $301,140
SOURCE: CREDIT SUISSE GLOBAL WEALTH REPORT, 2013
AVERAGE & MEDIAN NET WORTH IN THE USA
BUT THE MEDIAN NET WORTH OF AN AMERICAN IS $44,911
Source: Credit Suisse Global Wealth Report, 2013
ARE YOU AHEAD OR BEHIND?
LET’S SAY YOUR GOAL IS TO HAVE A NET WORTH OF $1M BY AGE 60
IF YOU START AT AGE 20 AND PROGRESS LINEARLY YOU’D NEED TO BE AT $250K BY 30
MONEY COMPOUNDS
FORTUNATELY, MONEY COMPOUNDS, SO YOU
ACTUALLY ONLY NEED TO
BE AT $70,000 IN NET WORTH BY AGE 30 TO BE ON TRACK FOR $1M IN NET WORTH BY 60
ASSUMES YOU SAVE $5,000 PER YEAR STARTING AT AGE 20, AND YOU INVEST AT A 7% AFTER INFLATION RETURN
3 KEY LESSONS ABOUT MONEY
HERE ARE THREE KEY LESSONS
ABOUT MONEY
3 LESSONS ABOUT MONEY
SPEND LESS MONEY THAN
YOU EARN EVERY MONTH
1
3 LESSONS ABOUT MONEY
2
NEVER GO INTO DEBT FOR
SOMETHING THAT YOU
DO NOT NEED
3 LESSONS ABOUT MONEY
3
SAVE EARLY IN LIFE AS THE
LAW OF COMPOUND INTEREST
HELPS A LOT OVER TIME
EASY IN THEORY
THESE 3 LESSONS MAY SOUND EXTREMELY
BASIC YET STILL SO MANY PEOPLE GO
INTO DEBT FOR THINGS THEY DON’T NEED
AND FREQUENTLY SPEND MORE THAN
THEY EARN
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
HERE ARE SIX STEPS
TO BUILDING WEALTH
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
THESE 6 STEPS ARE EASY TO
UNDERSTAND BUT MOST PEOPLE
DON’T DO THEM
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
CALCULATE HOW MUCH
YOU EARN AFTER TAXES
EACH MONTH
1
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
2
ENSURE YOUR ARE SPENDING
LESS THAN YOU EARN AFTER
TAXES EACH MONTH
Monthly income after taxes
$4000
$3000
Monthly spending
✔
Monthly income after taxes
$3000
$3200
Monthly spending
X
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
3
PAY OFF ALL YOUR DEBT
STARTING WITH THE HIGHEST
INTEREST RATES FIRST
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
START SAVING $1,000
EACH MONTH
(This step, in practice, is often the hardest, yet the most important)
4
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
5
AFTER BUILDING UP 3 MONTHS
OF SALARY IN YOUR SAVINGS
ACCOUNT, START INVESTING
Start investing $1000 per month as early as you can in life
Do this consistently for 30 years and you’ll have $1 million
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
6
THEN USE THE CASH FLOW FROM YOUR
INVESTMENTS TO MAKE MORE INVESTMENTS
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
BECOMING FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT
THERE ARE TWO MAIN WAYS
TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE
1) BUILD A BUSINESS
2) OR SAVE & INVEST WISELY FOR 30 YEARS
BECOMING FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT
IF ENTREPRENEURSHIP ISN’T FOR YOU…
HERE’S HOW TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE AUTOMATICALLY
WHAT YOU’LL HAVE IF YOU SAVE & INVEST
Monthly Savings | 20 Yrs | 25 Yrs | 30 Yrs | 35 Yrs | 40 Yrs | 45 Yrs | 50 Yrs |
$1,000 | $0.52M | $0.81M | $1.22M | $1.81M | $2.64M | $3.82M | $5.50M |
$2,000 | $1.05M | $1.63M | $2.45M | $3.63M | $5.29M | $7.65M | $10.99M |
$3,000 | $1.57M | $2.44M | $3.68M | $5.44M | $7.94M | $11.47M | $16.49M |
$4,000 | $2.09M | $3.26M | $4.91M | $7.25M | $10.58M | $15.29M | $21.97M |
ASSUMES 7% ANNUAL RETURN FROM INVESTING �ADD ADDITIONAL TIME TO PAY OFF ANY CURRENT DEBT
MY JOURNEY TO FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE
I WAS BORN IN 1984. I GREW UP IN A MIDDLE CLASS AMERICAN FAMILY. MY DAD WAS AN EPISCOPALIAN MINISTER FROM PENNSYLVANIA. MY MOM WAS A PART-TIME SOCIAL WORKER FROM ENGLAND. OUR FAMILY EARNED ABOUT $40,000 PER YEAR.
MY JOURNEY TO FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE
I WAS VERY FORTUNATE TO
HAVE TWO PARENTS WHO
SUPPORTED ME AND ENCOURAGED
ME TO FOLLOW MY DREAMS
MY JOURNEY TO FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE
I STARTED MY FIRST BUSINESS
AT 11 HELPING SENIOR CITIZENS
IN FLORIDA USE THE INTERNET FOR $5/HOUR
MY JOURNEY TO FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE
I STARTED GETTING INTO WEB DEVELOPMENT IN 1996 WHEN
I WAS 12
MY JOURNEY TO FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE
AT 16 (BACK IN 2000) I WAS A NORMAL
TEENAGER GROWING UP IN BRADENTON
FLORIDA EARNING AROUND $3000/YR
AS A PART TIME WEB DEVELOPER
MY JOURNEY TO FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE
THEN I READ TWO BOOKS THAT
CHANGED MY LIFE AND OPENED
MY EYES TO A WHOLE NEW WORLD
1. RICH DAD POOR DAD
2. THINK AND GROW RICH
MY JOURNEY TO FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE
AFTER READING THESE TWO BOOKS AT 16
I SET AN AMBITIOUS GOAL TO BUILD A COMPANY TO $1 MILLION IN SALES BY
AGE 21
MY JOURNEY TO FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE
AT 18 WHILE IN COLLEGE AT UNC I STARTED ICONTACT AND BY 2005
WE REACHED $1 MILLION IN SALES
WHEN I WAS 21
MY JOURNEY TO FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE
WE THEN RAISED VENTURE CAPITAL
AND HIRED A STRONG EXECUTIVE TEAM
AND GREW TO $50M IN ANNUAL SALES
MY JOURNEY TO FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE
IN 2012 WE SOLD ICONTACT FOR $170
MILLION TO A SOFTWARE COMPANY CALLED VOCUS. I WAS 27. I DECIDED TO
GO BACK TO SCHOOL AT HARVARD
BUSINESS SCHOOL FOR AN MBA WHILE WORKING ON A NEW START-UP CALLED CONNECT
ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE
I FOUND THAT ANYTHING WAS POSSIBLE IF I:
CREATING YOUR FINANCIAL PLAN
SO THAT WAS MY STORY
OVER THE LAST 18 YEARS
NOW LET’S TALK ABOUT
YOU
CREATING YOUR FINANCIAL PLAN
HERE’S HOW TO CREATE A BASIC
FINANCIAL PLAN
CREATING YOUR FINANCIAL PLAN
18 YEARS FROM NOW, YOUR FINANCIAL
SITUATION WILL BE A FUNCTION OF THE PLAN
YOU PUT IN PLACE AND THE ACTIONS YOU
TAKE TODAY
CREATING YOUR FINANCIAL PLAN
HERE’S HOW TO CREATE A BASIC
FINANCIAL PLAN
FINANCIAL PLAN EXERCISE
YOU CAN DO THE FOLLOWING
30 MINUTE FINANCIAL PLAN
EXERCISE NOW OR PUT A TIME ON
YOUR CALENDAR TO RETURN TO IT
FINANCIAL PLAN
EXERCISE
EXERCISE: CREATING A BASIC FINANCIAL PLAN
Assets
Debts
Income
Expenses
Financial Plan of __________________________
Signed X__________________________ this ____ day of ______________ 20_____
Net Worth
Cashflow
Income
Expenses
Cashflow
Present Monthly Cash Flow
36 Months From Now Monthly Goal
CREATING YOUR FINANCIAL PLAN
FILLING OUT YOUR ONE-PAGE
FINANCIAL PLAN WILL BE HELPFUL
AS WE MOVE INTO THE NEXT
SECTION ON INVESTING
INVESTING
PART ONE, SECTION FOURTEEN:
LEARNING HOW TO INVEST
SAVING MONEY IS THE FIRST STEP
LEARNING HOW TO INVEST IT IS THE SECOND
STOCKS AND BONDS
THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF
INVESTMENTS STOCKS & BONDS
BONDS
BONDS ARE LOANS TO OTHER
ORGANIZATIONS IN WHICH YOU
EARN A FIXED INTEREST RATE
RETURN
BONDS
BONDS USUALLY PAY ANNUAL
INTEREST BETWEEN 0.25% AND 15%
BONDS
THE RISKIER THE BOND THE
HIGHER THE INTEREST RATE PAID
STOCKS
STOCK IS PARTIAL OWNERSHIP
OF A COMPANY WHICH ENTITLES
THE OWNER TO PART OF THE
PROFITS OF A COMPANY
STOCKS
WITH STOCKS YOU MAKE
MONEY WHEN THE VALUE
OF THE COMPANY GOES UP
STOCKS
THE VALUE OF A COMPANY GOES UP WHEN
THE COMPANY’S PROFITS GO UP
(or are expected to go up)
STOCKS
THE VALUE OF A COMPANY GOES DOWN
WHEN THE COMPANY’S PROFITS GO DOWN
(or are expected to go down)
DIFFERENT TYPES OF STOCKS AND BONDS
MUTUAL FUNDS
INDEX FUNDS/ETFS
SMALL CAP STOCKS
MID CAP STOCKS
LARGE CAP STOCKS
VALUE STOCKS
GROWTH STOCKS
EMERGING MARKET
STOCKS OPTIONS
VENTURE CAPITAL FUNDS� PRIVATE COMPANIES
STOCKS
SAVINGS ACCOUNTS
TREASURY BONDS
MUNICIPAL BONDS
CORPORATE BONDS
P2P LENDING
BONDS
HOW TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE IN 30 YEARS
HERE IS A SIMPLIFIED EXAMPLE
OF HOW YOU CAN HAVE
$1M IN 30 YEARS
HOW TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE IN 30 YEARS
TO HAVE $1M IN 30 YEARS
SAVE $1K EVERY MONTH
AND INVEST IT
ASSUMES A 7% PER YEAR AFTER INFLATION ANNUAL RETURN
HOW TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE IN 30 YEARS
TO HAVE $1M IN 20 YEARS
SAVE $2K EVERY MONTH
AND INVEST IT
ASSUMES A 7% PER YEAR AFTER INFLATION ANNUAL RETURN
AVERAGE INVESTMENT RETURNS
HERE IS A TABLE OF AVERAGE
YEARLY RETURNS BY TYPE OF
INVESTMENT
AVERAGE INVESTMENT RETURNS
Investment Type | Approx. Avg. Annual Return | After Inflation (~3%) |
Savings Accounts | 0.10% | -2.90% |
Certificates of Deposit | 1.10% | -1.90% |
Treasury Bonds | 2.50% | -0.50% |
TIPS | 3% | 0% |
Municipal Bonds | 4.50% | 1.50% |
Corporate Bonds | 6% | 3% |
Rental Real Estate | 8.60% | 5.80% |
Dow Jones Index Fund | 11.10% | 8.30% |
S&P 500 Index Fund | 11.30% | 8.50% |
S&P 500 and DJIA is the CAGR for the last 80 years from 1933 until 2013
AVERAGE INVESTMENT RETURNS
PAST RETURNS AREN’T ENSURED
IN THE FUTURE BUT THEY ARE
STILL HELPFUL TO SEE
LENDINGCLUB
ONE INTERESTING INVESTMENT
OPTION IS LENDINGCLUB
LENDINGCLUB
SINCE 2007 LENDING CLUB NOTES
HAVE HAD AN ANNUAL AVERAGE
RETURN OF 5.5% AFTER INFLATION
AND DEFAULTS
LENDINGCLUB
AND SINCE 2007 LENDINGCLUB “E” AND “F”
NOTES HAVE HAD AN ANNUAL AVERAGE RETURN
OF 8.9% AFTER INFLATION AND DEFAULTS
Past performance is definitely no guarantee of future performance, yet 8.9% after weathering a big recession in 2008-2009 is pretty good.
MARKET INDEX FUNDS
THE DJIA AND S&P 500 INDEX
FUNDS HAVE HAD AN ANNUAL
AVERAGE RETURN AFTER INFLATION
OF 8.4% SINCE 1933
Look up these symbols:
Dow Jones Index Fund – DIA
S&P 500 Index Fund - SPY
INVESTING IN STOCKS
AS A RULE OF THUMB COMPANIES
ARE USUALLY WORTH BETWEEN
5X AND 20X THEIR ANNUAL
NET PROFITS
INVESTING IN STOCKS
NET PROFITS IS ANOTHER WORD FOR EARNINGS
INVESTING IN STOCKS
THE MULTIPLE OF EARNINGS A COMPANY
IS WORTH IS CALLED A PE RATIO
INVESTING IN STOCKS
P/E RATIO IS:
PRICE
EARNINGS
INVESTING IN STOCKS
HERE’S THE JULY 2014 P/E RATIO OF A FEW WELL KNOWN COMPANIES
COMPANY | PRICE TO EARNINGS RATIO |
IBM | 12.30 |
WELLS FARGO | 12.74 |
APPLE | 15.77 |
MICROSOFT | 16.91 |
BANK OF AMERICA | 25.25 |
29.86 | |
97.52 |
INVESTING IN STOCKS
THE BEST MEASURE OF WHETHER A
STOCK MARKET IS OVERVALUED IS
THE SHILLER PE RATIO
See multpl.com/shiller-pe/
INVESTING IN STOCKS
THE AVERAGE ALL TIME SHILLER P/E RATIO IS 16.55
INVESTING IN STOCKS
THIS MEANS THAT ON AVERAGE
SINCE 1890 THE AVERAGE COMPANY
HAS BEEN VALUED AT 16.55 TIMES
ITS ANNUAL NET PROFITS
INVESTING IN STOCKS
AS OF AUGUST 2014 THE US STOCK
MARKET IS GETTING OVERVALUED
THE CURRENT SHILLER
PE RATIO IS 25.54
THE STOCK MARKET IS GETTING OVERVALUED AGAIN
Time to Sell
Time to Buy
Time to Get Ready for an Historic Crash
Shiller PE Ratio for the S&P 500 1871-2014, as of August 9, 2014
INVESTING IN STOCKS
WHEN PE RATIOS ARE OVER
25 WATCH OUT FOR A CRASH
INVESTING IN STOCKS
WHEN PE RATIOS ARE UNDER
15 IT’S TIME TO LOOK AT INVESTING!
ANGEL INVESTING
ANGEL INVESTING IS PURCHASING
OWNERSHIP IN EARLY STAGE
PRIVATE COMPANIES
ANGEL INVESTING
CHECK OUT ANGELLIST & FUNDABLE
TO SEE EARLY STAGE COMPANIES
YOU CAN INVEST IN
ANGEL INVESTING
ANGEL INVESTING IS HIGHLY RISKY
BUT IF YOU INVEST IN THE RIGHT FIRMS
HIGHLY LUCRATIVE
MY PORTFOLIO
SINCE 2009 I HAVE INVESTED IN THESE PRIVATE COMPANIES
MY PORTFOLIO
I FOCUS ON INVESTING IN COMPANIES
WHICH ARE SOLVING MAJOR HUMAN
CHALLENGES THAT WHEN SOLVED WILL
MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE
WHAT “GOING PUBLIC” MEANS
“GOING PUBLIC” MEANS SELLING PART
OF A COMPANY TO INVESTORS VIA A
PUBLIC MARKET LIKE THE NEW YORK
STOCK EXCHANGE OR THE NASDAQ
WHAT “GOING PUBLIC” MEANS
COMPANIES GO PUBLIC IN ORDER TO
HOW TO PROPERLY VALUE A COMPANY
THE BEST WAY TO DETERMINE THE
TRUE VALUE OF A PUBLIC COMPANY
IS TO CREATE A DISCOUNTED
CASH FLOW (DCF) FORECAST
HOW BUFFETT INVESTS
BUFFETT’S INVESTING METHOD INVOLVES
UNDERSTANDING A FIRM WELL CALCULATING
WHAT HE BELIEVES THE FIRM IS ACTUALLY
WORTH USING DCF THEN PURCHASING
SHARES WHEN ENOUGH OF A MARGIN OF
SAFETY EXISTS
HOW BUFFETT INVESTS
WARREN BUFFETT IN ESSENCE CREATES DCF
MODELS ON EACH COMPANY HE INVESTS IN
AND ENSURES THERE’S A BIG MARGIN OF
SAFETY BETWEEN WHAT HE THINKS THE FIRM
IS WORTH AND WHAT THE MARKET THINKS
THE FIRM IS WORTH
BECOMING A VALUE-ORIENTED INVESTOR
RELATIONSHIPS
PART ONE, SECTION FIFTEEN:
WHAT LOVE MEANS TO ME
LAUGHTER
OPTIMISM
VIBRANT
ENERGY
SIX STEPS TO BUILDING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
TELL THE TRUTH
BUILD TRUST
BE VULNERABLE
GIVE TIME
FOLLOW THROUGH &
SHOW CARE WITH YOUR ACTIONS
SIX STEPS TO BUILDING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
A GREAT WOMAN CAN MAKE A
HUGE DIFFERENCE TO A GREAT MAN
SIX STEPS TO BUILDING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
A GREAT MAN CAN MAKE A HUGE
DIFFERENCE TO A GREAT WOMAN
SIX STEPS TO BUILDING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
A GREAT PARTNER CAN MAKE A HUGE
DIFFERENCE FOR ANYONE
THE PARTNER YOU CHOOSE MAKES A HUGE IMPACT ON YOUR LIFE
THE PARTNER YOU CHOOSE TO BUILD A
LIFE WITH MAKES A HUGE IMPACT ON
YOUR ABILITY TO REACH YOUR POTENTIAL
LIVE WITH JOY AND POSITIVITY AND TRULY
CHANGE THE WORLD
LOVING YOURSELF FIRST
BEFORE YOU CAN FIND SOMEONE
ELSE TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU
YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
BE AMAZING BEFORE YOU LOOK
BECAUSE TO FIND AN AMAZING PARTNER
YOU YOURSELF MUST FIRST BE AMAZING
FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS FIRST
TO FIND A PARTNER WHO IS
FOLLOWING THEIR DREAMS
YOU MUST FIRST BE FOLLOWING
YOUR DREAMS
LIVE WITH PASSION FIRST
TO FIND A PARTNER WHO IS LIVING
PASSIONATELY YOU YOURSELF MUST
FIRST BE LIVING PASSIONATELY
TO FIND A JEDI YOU MUST BECOME A JEDI
TO FIND A PARTNER WHO IS
ON THE PATH TO BEING A JEDI
YOU YOURSELF MUST FIRST BE
ON THE PATH
YEP, MARRY A JEDI
WHEN TWO JEDIS MARRY ALL
KINDS OF CRAZY GOOD SHIT
HAPPENS IN THE UNIVERSE
HOW TO WIN A HEART
HERE’S WHAT I’VE LEARNED SO
FAR ABOUT WINNING THE HEART
HOW TO WIN A HEART
DON’T LEAD YOUR PARTNER ON
(Be open and transparent about your intentions with the relationship)
HOW TO WIN A HEART
FOLLOW THE GOLDEN RULE
IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS
HOW TO WIN A HEART
BE PLAYFUL AND LET THE
LITTLE KID INSIDE OUT!
HOW TO WIN A HEART
PUSH YOUR PARTNER TO GET
BETTER AND BECOME THE BEST
VERSION OF THEMSELVES
HOW TO WIN RYAN’S HEART
GIVE LOTS OF NECK MASSAGES
HOW TO WIN A HEART
NEVER EVER TAKE THEM
FOR GRANTED
HOW TO WIN A HEART
NEVER STOP BUYING THEM FLOWERS
HOW TO WIN A HEART
A LONG PARTNERSHIP REQUIRES
MUTUAL RESPECT AND SHARED GOALS
DEEPAK CHOPRA ON HOW TO USE THE BEDROOM
Deepak Chopra
Spirituality Author
USE YOUR BEDROOM FOR ONLY SLEEP OR SEX. BUT FOR NOTHING ELSE. YOUR MIND SHOULD ASSOCIATE THE BEDROOM WITH THOSE TWO ACTIVITIES ONLY.
VALUES
PART ONE, SECTION SEVENTEEN:
BILL GEORGE ON INTRINSIC MOTIVATION
BILL GEORGE
HBS Professor
INTRINSIC MOTIVATIONS ARE DERIVED FROM YOUR DEEPEST INNER DESIRES, NOT THE WORLD’S ADULATION. THEY ARE THE BASIS FOR YOUR TRUE NORTH AND ARE CLOSELY LINKED TO YOUR LIFE STORY. EXAMPLES OF INTRINSIC MOTIVATIONS MAY INCLUDE PERSONAL GROWTH, HELPING OTHER PEOPLE, TAKING ON SOCIAL CAUSES, CREATING GREAT PRODUCTS OR SERVICES AND MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD THROUGH YOUR EFFORTS.
BECAUSE MODERN SOCIETY HAS PLACED UNPRECEDENTED ATTENTION ON VISIBLE ACHIEVEMENTS, EXTRINSIC MEASURES OF SUCCESS CAUSE MANY LEADERS TO SEEK THE WORLD’S ACCLAIM RATHER THAN PURSUE THEIR INNER MOTIVATION.
GLOBAL VALUES SYSTEMS
Origin | Concept Name | Description |
Judaism | Tikkun Olam | The concept of repairing the world |
Sanskrit | Ahimsa | A philosophy of do no harm |
Confucian | Li | A set of norms that teaches brotherliness and community |
Islamic | Ummah | A perspective on a supranational community |
Christian | Golden Rule | A practice of treating others as you want to be treated |
South Africa | Ubuntu | A spirit of cooperation between people of all colors and creeds |
ACROSS MANY RELIGION OR SPIRITUAL TRADITIONS
A KEY GUIDELINE IS TO BE ABLE TO CARE FOR OTHERS
LET’S LOOK AT A FEW GLOBAL VALUES SYSTEMS
IN SUMMARY ON VALUES
YOUR LIFE WILL BE ENRICHED AND YOU
WILL SLEEP SOUNDLY AT NIGHT KNOWING
YOU ARE LIVING WITH A CONSCIOUS SET
OF VALUES
BEN FRANKLIN’S 13 VALUES
BEN FRANKLIN’S 13 VALUES
BEN FRANKLIN’S 13 VALUES
CONFUCIUS’ FIVE VIRTUES
ST. THOMAS AQUINAS’ “CARDINAL VIRTUES”
MY CORE VALUE
HERE IS MY CORE VALUE… DO UNTO
OTHERS AS YOU’D HAVE DONE UNTO
YOURSELF
EXPAND YOUR EMPATHY CIRCLE AND CARE FOR ALL PEOPLE
You
Family
Community
Nation
Religion
Gender
Species
WHAT IS IT TO BE HUMAN?
Species
RAY KURZWEIL
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TO BE HUMAN IS TO HAVE THE ABILITY TO TRANSCEND OUR EGOCENTRIC PRECONDITIONING AND CARE SO DEEPLY FOR OUR CHILDREN, PARTNERS, FRIENDS OR EVEN STRANGERS THAT WE WOULD PUT THEIR INTEREST ABOVE OUR OWN NO MATTER WHAT IT MIGHT COST US PERSONALLY.
MY VALUES
HERE ARE THE 50 VALUES
I HOLD DEARLY AND DO
MY BEST TO ALWAYS
LIVE BY
ACCEPTANCE
I SHALL RECOGNIZE THE UNIQUENESS
AND HUMANITY OF THOSE WHO DIFFER
FROM MYSELF
ACTION
THOUGH DELIBERATE &
CAREFUL I SHALL HAVE
A BIAS TOWARD ACTION
ADAPTATION
I SHALL MAINTAIN IN A STATE
ABLE TO FLOW, LEARN & MODIFY
MYSELF TO FIT NEW SURROUNDINGS
OR OCCURRENCES
ANALYSIS
I SHALL ANALYZE WHAT I DO AND
DO NOT DO AND ATTEMPT TO
DERIVE INHERENT LAWS, AXIOMS,
TENANTS AND GUIDEPOSTS BASED
ON THE EFFECTS OF MY ACTIONS
& INACTIONS
BEST EFFORT
I SHALL PUT FORTH MY FULL
AND BEST EFFORT WITHIN THE
BOUNDARIES OF PROPER PHYSICAL
& MENTAL HEALTH
CHALLENGE
I SHALL OFTEN CHALLENGE MYSELF
& STEP OUTSIDE MY COMFORT ZONE
SO AS TO REACH WORTHY GOALS
COLLABORATION
I SHALL WORK COLLABORATIVELY
WITH OTHERS WHO ARE BETTER
THAN I AM AT WHAT THEY DO
COMMITMENT
I SHALL UPHOLD MY
COMMITMENTS AND
UNDER-PROMISE AND
OVER-DELIVER
COMMUNICATION
I SHALL MAKE IT A PRIORITY
TO LEARN TO COMMUNICATE
EXTREMELY WELL WITH OTHERS
CONFIDENCE
I SHALL ALWAYS BE CONFIDENT &
OPTIMISTIC AND SET MY GOALS HIGH
CONTENTMENT
I SHALL BE ONLY WHERE I
AM AND SAVOR EVERYTHING
ABOUT THAT MOMENT
DETAIL
I SHALL NOT DALLY NEEDLESSLY IN
DETAIL BUT EXAMINE TO THE FULL
EXTENT NEEDED
ENVIRONMENTAL CONSCIOUSNESS
THOUGH I SHALL PROMOTE THE MASTERY OF
NATURE FOR THE BETTERMENT OF LIVING CONDITIONS OF HUMANS
I SHALL NEVER FORGET THAT THE EARTH SHOULD
BE TREATED AS PRECIOUS AND THAT
SUSTAINABILITY MUST BE REQUIRED IF WE
ARE TO SURVIVE AS A SPECIES
FOCUS
I SHALL RECOGNIZE THAT
WHILE I CAN DO ANYTHING
I CAN’T DO EVERYTHING
FORGIVENESS
I SHALL FORGIVE THOSE
WHO HAVE MENDED WAYS
INCLUDING MYSELF
GENEROSITY
I SHALL GIVE TO OTHERS HOWEVER
I AM BEST AND MOST ABLE
HEALTH
I SHALL MAINTAIN MY HEALTH AND EAT
SLEEP & EXERCISE IN SUCH A MANNER AS
TO MAINTAIN A HIGH LEVEL OF ENERGY
I SHALL ELIMINATE NEGATIVE ENERGY AS
MY BODY IS A TEMPLE THAT HOUSES MY
SPIRIT
HONESTY
I SHALL BE HONEST AND FORTHRIGHT
IN ALL REPRESENTATIONS OF AND
DELIBERATIONS WITH MYSELF
HUMILITY
I SHALL NOT BE AFRAID TO
ASK FOR HELP AND NOT
ASSUME MYSELF ABOVE
ANOTHER
INDUSTRY
I SHALL LOSE NO TIME AND ALWAYS
BE EMPLOYED IN SOMETHING USEFUL
REFLECTION AND RELAXATION SHALL
BE INCLUDED IN THE DEFINITION OF
USEFUL
INTEGRITY
I SHALL ACT WITH INTEGRITY
AND IN ALIGNMENT WITH WHAT
I SAY I WILL DO
JUSTICE
I SHALL WRONG NO ONE
KINDNESS
I SHALL LIVE A LIFE OF
KINDNESS & COMPASSION.
THERE’S NO REASON NOT TO.
LEARNING
I SHALL BE CONTINUOUSLY
LEARNING AND I SHALL
CONTINUOUSLY READ
LISTENING
I SHALL STRIVE TO
LISTEN & UNDERSTAND
BEFORE I SPEAK
MENTORSHIP
I SHALL GIVE THE KNOWLEDGE I
HAVE AND WILL GAIN TO OTHERS
MISTAKES
I SHALL STRIVE TO LEARN
FROM THE MISTAKES I MAKE
AND TO NOT MAKE TWICE
NATURE
I SHALL CONSERVE AND
PROTECT NATURE AND
ENSURE IT REMAINS FOR
MY GRANDCHILDREN
OPTIMISM
I SHALL ALWAYS
SEE THE GLASS AS
HALF FULL
ORGANIZATION
I SHALL KEEP MY LIFE &
BELONGINGS IN ORDER
WHILE KEEPING SPACE FOR
EXUBERANCE & CREATIVITY
PASSION
I SHALL ALWAYS
STRIVE FOR THAT
WHICH I BELIEVE
PERSEVERANCE
I SHALL NOT GIVE UP NOR
GIVE IN TOO SOON AS LONG
AS I FEEL A GOAL IS WORTHY
OF THE EFFORT
PLANNING
I SHALL PLAN FOR MY
LIFE AND UPCOMING
EVENTS
POSITIVITY
I SHALL BE POSITIVE DURING ALL
TIMES AND BELIEVE IN THE POWER
OF A POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE
PREPARATION
I SHALL ATTEMPT TO ENTER
EACH SITUATION WITH AN
INTELLECTUAL FRAMEWORK
PRIMED & READY
PRESENCE
I SHALL FOCUS MY COMPLETE
ATTENTION ON THE SINGLE
INDIVIDUAL I AM SPEAKING WITH
PUNCTUALITY
I SHALL BE ON TIME
REFLECTION
I SHALL TAKE MOMENTS TO
REVIEW WHAT HAS BEEN DONE
AND EXAMINE SOCIETY AND MY
BEING, GOALS, AND HABITS
RESPECT
I SHALL RESPECT ALL OTHERS
SACRIFICE
I SHALL SAVE & INVEST FOR
TODAY SO AS TO GAIN FOR
TOMORROW
SINCERITY
I SHALL BE SINCERE AND
ONLY TALK ABOUT PEOPLE
IN AN EMPOWERING WAY
SPIRITUALITY
I SHALL REALIZE I AM A VERY
SMALL PART OF THE UNIVERSE
AND HAVE GREAT GRATITUDE
FOR LIFE
SOLITUDE
I SHALL HAVE A PERIOD OF PEACE
AND SOLITUDE AT THE BEGINNING
OF EACH DAY IN WHICH I SHALL
GIVE THANKS AND ENVISION THE
DAY AHEAD
SPONTANEITY
I SHALL PERFORM WEEKLY
EITHER AN ACT OF KINDNESS
OR AN ACTIVITY WHICH I HAVE
NEVER DONE BEFORE
SUPERFICIALITY
I SHALL NOT FOCUS
ON THE OUTER BUT
ON THE INNER
TEACHING
I SHALL TRANSFER BOTH
KNOWLEDGE & ENERGY
IN TEACHING
TRANQUILITY
I SHALL NOT BE DISTURBED
BY TRIFLES OR BY THAT
WHICH IS NOT TRULY
IMPORTANT
TRANSPARENCY
I SHALL LIVE A PUBLIC
LIFE AND SHARE THE
CONTENTS OF MY
DREAMS & PLANS
TRAVEL
I SHALL MAKE A PRIORITY
TO SEE AND EXPLORE
THE WORLD
WORK ETHIC
I SHALL WORK BOTH HARD AND
INTELLIGENTLY AND NOT LEAVE
FOR TOMORROW WHAT CAN BE
DONE TODAY
BILL GEORGE ON SETTING YOUR ETHICAL BOUNDARIES
IF YOU ESTABLISH CLEAR BOUNDARIES EARLY IN LIFE, YOUR MORAL COMPASS WILL KICK IN WHEN YOU REACH YOUR LIMITS AND TELL YOU IF IT IS TIME TO PULL BACK, EVEN IF THE PERSONAL SACRIFICES MAY BE SIGNIFICANT.
Bill George
Discovering Your True North
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FINANCIAL PLAN EXERCISE
YOU CAN DO THE FOLLOWING 10
MINUTE VALUES EXERCISE NOW
OR PUT A TIME ON YOUR CALENDAR
TO RETURN TO IT
VALUES
EXERCISE
EXERCISE: VALUES
WRITE DOWN YOUR
10 MOST IMPORTANT
VALUES
LIFE LESSONS
PART ONE, SECTION EIGHTEEN:
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2005
I’VE BEEN KEEPING TRACK
OF THE MAJOR LESSONS
I’VE LEARNED EACH YEAR
SINCE 2005
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2005
LISTEN TO THAT LITTLE VOICE
IN THE BACK OF YOUR HEAD
IT’S USUALLY ALERTING YOU TO
SOMETHING IMPORTANT
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2005
YOU CAN ACHIEVE
ANYTHING YOU SET
YOUR MIND TO
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2005
DON’T LET NON-COMMUNICATION
LEAD TO THE DEGENERATION OF A
RELATIONSHIP
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2005
DON’T AVOID DOING THINGS
JUST BECAUSE THEY MAY
CAUSE CONFLICT
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2005
AT THE END OF THE DAY
IMPACT & INTEGRITY IS
WHAT MATTERS
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2005
NEVER SAY “BUT”
INSTEAD SAY
“YES, AND.”
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2005
THERE ARE TWO WAYS TO DETERMINE
THE RULES OF LIFE:
TALKING TO SMART PEOPLE
AND TRIAL AND ERROR
(EITHER WAY, START LEARNING EARLY)
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2006
IF SOMEBODY SUES YOU
GO TALK TO THEM IN
PERSON IMMEDIATELY
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2006
NETWORKING ISN’T ABOUT BUSINESS
CARDS IT’S ABOUT BUILDING
MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2006
2.4 BILLION PEOPLE LIVE ON LESS THAN TWO DOLLARS PER DAY
Source: World Bank
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2006
Source: World Bank
EVERY DAY 18,000 CHILDREN UNDER 5 DIE
MOST FROM PREVENTABLE DISEASE AND
LOW NUTRITION. THIS DOESN’T HAVE
TO HAPPEN.
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2006
Source: World Bank
80% OF HUMAN BEINGS LIVE ON LESS
THAN $10 PER DAY SO IF YOU’RE LIVING
ON MORE THAN $10 PER DAY COUNT
YOUR BLESSINGS
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2007
LIFE IS PRECIOUS AND CAN END
ANYTIME SO EXPRESS GRATITUDE
DAILY AND TELL THOSE YOU LOVE
THAT YOU LOVE THEM
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2007
THE WORLD HAS MORE
OPPORTUNITIES THAN
YOU MIGHT THINK SO
DEFINE YOUR PURPOSE
THEN SEEK THEM OUT
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2007
POSITIVE DEVELOPMENTS
OCCUR WHEN YOU ASSOCIATE
WITH EXTRAORDINARY PEOPLE
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2007
GRATITUDE IS AN EXTREMELY
POWERFUL CHARACTER
ATTRIBUTE
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2007
HUMANS HAVE A DEEP DESIRE
IN THEIR LIVES FOR LOVE AND
AFFECTION
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2007
IF THERE’S ONE THING YOU “OVERDO”
IN LIFE MAKE IT COMMUNICATION
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2007
LET YOUR INNER CHILD
COME OUT DAILY AND
SILLY DANCE
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2007
AVOID GETTING MARRIED UNTIL
YOU’RE ABLE TO FULLY FINANCIALLY
SUPPORT YOURSELF
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2007
AVOID HAVING CHILDREN UNTIL
YOU CAN SAFELY FINANCIALLY
AFFORD CHILDREN
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2007
GOOD HEALTH
IS EVERYTHING
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2008
DON’T EVER LET YOUR
MIND LIMIT YOURSELF
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2008
ONE WAY TO AVOID CRITICISM
IS TO DO NOTHING & STAND FOR
NOTHING THE WORLD WILL THEN
LEAVE YOU ALONE
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2008
IF YOU’RE UP TO SOMETHING THAT
MATTERS IN THE WORLD CRITICISM
IS INEVITABLE IT COMES WITH
THE TERRITORY
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2008
ARROGANCE IS NOT OVERCONFIDENCE.
IT IS BEING DISMISSIVE OF OTHERS.
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2008
IT TAKES TEN YEARS TO BECOME
GREAT AT SOMETHING THUS YOU
CAN ONLY BECOME GREAT AT 6 OR
7 THINGS CHOOSE CAREFULLY
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2009
DO SOMETHING WONDERFUL
EACH DAY WITH INFECTIOUS
ENTHUSIASM
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2009
CANCER
IS HORRIBLE
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2009
WE ALL HAVE CHALLENGES
IT’S HOW YOU INTERPRET
& RESPOND TO THEM
THAT COUNTS
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2009
PEOPLE GENERALLY
ACT CONSISTENTLY
WITH WHAT IS EXPECTED
OF THEM
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2009
MANY PEOPLE IN THE
UNITED STATES ARE NOT
AUTHENTICALLY HAPPY
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2009
THERE IS BEAUTY IN
UNDERSTANDING
NUANCE
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2009
ASK FOR ADVICE MORE OFTEN
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2009
TO ACHIEVE BIG GOALS
YOU NEED TO FOCUS
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2009
THERE IS GREAT POWER
IN A HANDWRITTEN NOTE
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2009
FIND A WAY TO MAKE ALL
NEGOTIATIONS BENEFIT
BOTH SIDES
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2010
THE BEST MEDICINE
FOR STRESS IS BREATHING
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2010
THE 2ND BEST MEDICINE
FOR STRESS IS LAUGHTER
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2010
TRAVEL THE WORLD
FOR AT LEAST 3 WEEKS
PER YEAR
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2010
EVERY WEEK WATCH A
TED VIDEO
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2010
SPEND MORE HOURS
READING THAN YOU DO
WATCHING TV
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2010
LIMIT TELEVISION
TO 30 MINUTES
PER WEEK
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2011
INVESTING IN AFRICA NOW
IS LIKE INVESTING IN INDIA
IN 1985
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2011
NEARLY SUPER-HUMAN
FEATS ARE POSSIBLE
WHEN YOU ARE DEEPLY
PASSIONATE ABOUT
YOUR MISSION
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2014
GOSSIP IS POISONOUS WITHIN A
COMMUNITY OR WITHIN A FAMILY
SO PROACTIVELY CREATE A NO
GOSSIP CULTURE AND HOLD EVERYONE
WITHIN AN EMPOWERING CONTEXT
LIFE LESSONS FROM 2014
YOUR WORD IS EXTREMELY POWERFUL
SO MAKE COMMITMENTS VERY
THOUGHTFULLY ALWAYS DO WHAT YOU
SAY WILL DO AND IF YOU CAN’T TELL
THE OTHER PERSON YOU MADE THE
PROMISE TO IMMEDIATELY
LIFE LESSONS EXERCISE
YOU CAN DO THE FOLLOWING 5
MINUTE LIFE LESSONS EXERCISE
NOW OR PUT A TIME ON YOUR
CALENDAR TO RETURN TO IT
LIFE LESSONS
EXERCISE
EXERCISE: LIFE LESSONS
WRITE DOWN THE 3 MOST
IMPORTANT LIFE LESSONS
YOU HAVE EVER LEARNED
SAGE ADVICE
PART ONE, SECTION NINETEEN:
HELEN KELLER ON LIVING
LIFE IS EITHER
DARING ADVENTURE
OR NOTHING.
HELEN KELLER
FRANKLIN D. ROOSEVELT ON LIVING
ABOVE ALL TRY SOMETHING.
FRANKLIN D. ROOSEVELT
GIACOMO CASANOVA ON LIVING
ONE WHO MAKES NO MISTAKES MAKES NOTHING.
GIACOMO CASANOVA
ELEANOR ROOSEVELT ON LIVING
DO ONE THING EVERYDAY THAT SCARES YOU.
ELEANOR ROOSEVELT
MARGARET MEAD ON LIVING
NEVER DOUBT THAT A SMALL GROUP OF THOUGHTFUL, COMMITTED CITIZENS CAN CHANGE THE WORLD.
MARGARET MEAD
P DIDDY ON LIVING
DON’T CHASE THE PAPER (THE MONEY) CHASE THE DREAM.
P DIDDY
THEODORE ROOSEVELT ON LIVING
FAR BETTER IT IS TO DARE MIGHTY THINGS THAN TO RANK WITH TIMID SPIRITS WHO KNOW NEITHER VICTORY NOR DEFEAT.
THEODORE ROOSEVELT
STEVE JOBS ON LIVING
HERE’S TO THE CRAZY ONES. THE MISFITS, REBELS, & TROUBLEMAKERS THE ONES WHO SEE THINGS DIFFERENTLY BECAUSE THE PEOPLE WHO ARE CRAZY ENOUGH TO THINK THEY CAN CHANGE THE WORLD ARE THE ONES WHO DO.
STEVE JOBS
CO-FOUNDER OF APPLE
HENRY FORD ON LIVING
WHETHER YOU THINK YOU CAN OR YOU CANNOT YOU ARE RIGHT.
HENRY FORD
JOSEPH CAMPBELL ON LIVING
FOLLOW YOUR
BLISS.
JOSEPH CAMPBELL
W.H. MURRAY ON LIVING
UNTIL ONE IS COMMITTED, THERE IS HESITANCY THE CHANCE TO DRAW BACK. WHATEVER YOU CAN DO, BEGIN IN. BOLDNESS HAS GENIUS, POWER, & MAGIC IN IT. BEGIN IT NOW.
W.H. MURRAY
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GREEK SCHOLARS ON LIVING
BEAUTY IS THE ABSENCE
OF THE SUPERFLUOUS.
LEONARDO DE VINCI ON LIVING
SIMPLICITY IS THE ULTIMATE SOPHISTICATION.
LEONARDO DE VINCI
BOOKS I REALLY LOVE ON LIVING
THE UNTETHERED SOUL BY MICHAEL SINGER
THINK AND GROW RICH BY NAPOLEON HILL
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