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Self-Care Journal

A wellness journal produced by The Steve Fund’s Family Support Initiative. www.stevefund.org

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This journal is dedicated to YOU and to all the things that bring you JOY. In other words: Your Happy Place.

Who are the people and what are the things, the songs, the foods, the places, and the experiences that make you smile or maybe even do a little “happy dance”? The My Happy Place Journal is filled with reflection prompts and activities to help you answer that question.

Why is this important?

For the best user experience, �please use a computer.

Getting Started

Save a copy to your Google Drive �(File > Make a Copy) to type directly into your personal digital journal. Note: You must be signed into a Google account to make a copy, otherwise the option will be greyed out. ��Once the copy is in your personal Drive, you can customize the fonts for your responses, duplicate or delete pages, add your own content, and even password protect your digital journal. �For the best experience, we recommend using the Google Chrome browser on a computer. �To Zoom in or out: Windows users: Press Control, Alt, and +/- at the same time. Mac users: Press Command, Option, and +/- at the same time.

Journal

The Steve Fund’s

Life can be stressful. If not balanced out, emotions such as sadness and worry can take a toll on our mental health. Knowing what brings you joy and being able to access your happy place can help you manage feelings of anxiety, depression, and stress. This is especially important for young people of color. As you go through the My Happy Place Journal, we hope you will take time to also reflect on aspects of your identity, heritage and culture that bring you joy and help you feel connected to your community.

Our ultimate aim is to see you THRIVE and FLOURISH �by actively practicing joy.

What is your Happy Place? Let’s find out!

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What does

mean to me?

“To me, My Happy Place means something that makes me forget about something I was nervous about or stressing over. It’s anything that makes me feel comfortable/peaceful in my surroundings.” ��Ava D., 13 years old

Use this space to describe what �My Happy Place means to you. ��Then, use the photo placeholders to the right to search for or upload images that come to mind when you imagine your happy place!

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My Happy Place

Song Name Artist

Playlist

Have you ever noticed that certain songs just put you in a good mood? Music is powerful!

Few things can express emotions like joy, happiness, hope, contentment and excitement the way music can.

Creating a playlist of songs that make you happy and listening to it on a regular basis is not only fun, but can be an important strategy to help you manage feelings such as anxiety, loneliness, and stress.

You know what’s even better? Singing those songs out loud!

Activity:

What’s on your �Happy Place Playlist? ��Type out your go-to joyful songs, �and link to your favorite music app,

or Youtube for an instant mood

booster!

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Interested in learning more? Take a free quiz to determine your personal character strengths profile at www.viacharacter.org

From VIACharacter.org, VIA Classification of Character Strengths and Virtues �(Peterson & Seligman, 2004)

Character Strengths

Character Strengths are positive parts of your personality that impact how you think, feel and behave.

Scientists have identified 24 character strengths that everyone has the capacity to express in different degrees. Here are a few examples.

Research shows that using your character strengths can help you improve your relationships, enhance health and overall well-being and buffer against, manage and overcome problems.

Bravery

"I act on my convictions, and �I face threats, challenges, difficulties, and pains, despite my doubts and fears."

Creativity

"I am creative, conceptualizing something useful, coming up with ideas that result in something worthwhile."

Hope

“I am realistic and also full of optimism about the future, believing in my actions and feeling confident things will turn out well.”

Humor

"I approach life playfully, making others laugh, and finding humor in difficult and stressful times."

Kindness

"I am helpful and empathic and regularly do nice favors for others without expecting anything in return."

Leadership

"I take charge and guide groups to meaningful goals, and ensure good relations among group members."

Love

"I experience close, �loving relationships that are characterized by giving and receiving love, warmth, and caring."

Love of Learning

"I am motivated to acquire new levels of knowledge, or deepen my existing knowledge or skills in a significant way."

Perseverance

"I persist toward my goals despite obstacles, discouragements, or disappointments."

Spirituality

"I feel spiritual and believe in a sense of purpose or meaning in my life; and I see my place in the grand scheme of the universe and find meaning in everyday life."

Teamwork

"I am a helpful and contributing group and team member, and feel responsible for helping the team reach its goals."

Gratitude

“I am grateful for many things and �I express that thankfulness �to others.”

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Discovering

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Individual Strengths

Family Strengths

Self-Motivation

Determination

Persistence

Courage

Open-Mindedness

Empathy

Positivity

Imagination

Spirituality/Faith

Flexibility

Resilience

Love & Affection

Spirituality/Faith

Communication

Commitment

Belonging

Pride in Cultural Heritage

Appreciation

Mutual Respect

Loyalty

Quality Time Together

Connection to Community

Hopefulness

Athleticism / Physical Fitness

Write your own

Write your own

Write your own

Write your own

Discovering

Consider the strengths below, and then click and drag any that you see in yourself and in your family to the boxes on the right. You can even write some of your own unique strengths!

Strengths I see in myself:

Strengths I see in my family:

Activity:

Knowing your strengths can help you be intentional in improving your well-being. Personal strengths can be defined as unique gifts or “aptitudes” that, when developed through practice, allow a person to master and demonstrate a particular skill.* �Family strengths are relationship qualities that promote the well-being of the family as a whole.

*From HIGH5TEST.com

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  • Write your own
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  • Write your own

  • Write your own

Working on

Physical

Well-being encompasses four major aspects of our lives: Physical, Emotional, Social & Spiritual. �Here are some tips for keeping each of these areas in balance. Think about some practices

you incorporate into your life in each category and add them in below.

Emotional

Social

Spiritual

  • Exercise / move your body
  • Eat healthy foods
  • Drink water
  • Attend regular check-ups
  • Take prescribed medication
  • Remind yourself that it’s okay to not be okay!
  • Make and listen to positive self-talk recordings through an app like Voice Memos on your phone
  • Using a dry erase marker, write affirmations on your bathroom mirror
  • Create a vision board that inspires you
  • Share your feelings with a trusted adult or peer
  • Cultivate healthy relationships with family & friends
  • Set healthy emotional and physical boundaries
  • Practice cultural traditions that instill pride
  • Find comfort in community
  • Engage in fun activities with family and friends

  • Think about your sense of purpose
  • Find support in your faith community
  • Pray regularly, if important to you
  • Make time for meditation and mindfulness
  • Foster your connection to others by serving in your community

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Create a

Activity: Use the image placeholders to search for or upload pictures for your vision board. If you need inspiration, think about goals you have for the year or in general, pictures of your hobbies, or quotes that inspire you. Feel free to scale, move, or add more pictures as needed!

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Pinterest can be a great resource to search for and save images or quotes that inspire you. Sign in or create a free account and you can create inspiration boards, share them with friends, and even have them on your iPhone home screen for daily reminders.

Activity: �Try making a Pinterest board with quotes �or images that inspire you!

Daily Reminders

Set up a Pinterest widget on your home screen to cycle your inspiration board (or another’s public board that you love) throughout the day. Visit this page for instructions for iOS and Android devices.

Please note: boards have to be public in order to connect to the widget, so please ask an adult for permission first.

What

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What fills

When you find yourself feeling burned out or depleted, it’s often because you’ve poured more energy out than �you’ve put in.

Activity:

Think about the things that “fill your cup” and make you feel full and whole, and type those in the cup. Make sure to keep your cup full by doing those things on �a regular basis. Once complete, consider sharing this page with your parent or trusted adult. Then, they can use the activity on the next page to share with you. By knowing what fills each other’s cups, you can strengthen your bond and better support one another.

FOR YOUNG PEOPLE

Some examples:

  • Naming 5 things I’m grateful for.
  • Meditating or praying.
  • Doing something kind for someone.
  • Listening to my favorite album.
  • Spending time in nature.
  • Enjoying my favorite meal.
  • Making art or journaling.
  • Taking a break from electronics.
  • Talking to friends.
  • Exercising or being active.
  • Dancing or singing.
  • Playing a game.

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What fills

FOR PARENTS

As parents and caregivers we pour a lot of ourselves into our families and tend to put ourselves second. �But remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Activity:

Think about the things that “fill your cup” and make you feel full and whole. Make sure to keep your cup full by doing those things on a regular basis. Make sure to keep your cup full by doing those things on a regular basis. Consider sharing this page with your kid. �By knowing what fills each other’s cups, you can strengthen your bond and better support one another.

Some examples:

  • Keeping a healthy sleep schedule.
  • Staying hydrated.
  • Dancing or singing.
  • Revisiting happy memories.
  • Practicing positive self-talk.
  • Planning a getaway.
  • Exercising and staying active.
  • Spending time with friends.
  • Nourishing your body with healthy foods.
  • Deep breathing or being still.
  • Resting or taking a nap.
  • Journaling.
  • Setting healthy boundaries around your time.
  • Prayer and meditation.
  • Being active in your faith community.
  • Making time for self-care practices that bring you joy

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Interested in learning more? Learn more about the 5 Love Languages and related books at 5lovelanguages.com/learn

What is my

The concept of the 5 love languages was developed by Dr. Gary Chapman. The premise of The 5 Love Languages® book is quite simple: different people with different personalities give and receive love in different ways. Learning your love language can strengthen and enhance the relationships you have with your family. Take a look at the languages below and think about what yours might be. On the next page, your parent or trusted adult can do the same. �Consider sharing with each other once complete.

Physical Touch

Words of Affirmation

Quality�Time

Gifts

Acts of Service

Being close to someone through physical touch or by being physically close

Examples:

  • High-fives
  • Pats on the back
  • Kisses & hugs
  • Sitting together
  • Making up handshakes

Spoken words of love, praise, positive affirmations, and appreciation

Examples:

  • Encouraging words & phrases
  • Saying “I love you”
  • Making up affectionate nicknames

Being together, fully present and engaged

Examples:

  • Spending time together
  • Having fun and laughing together
  • Going for walks and having good conversations

Giving gifts with love and thoughts about how the other person will enjoy receiving them

Examples:

  • Achievement charts or reward charts
  • Putting together homemade presents
  • Making special treats to share

Doing tasks that help take things off others’ to do lists

Examples:

  • Helping out around the house
  • Caring for a pet or family member
  • Cooking a meal with your parent or trusted adult

My love language is:

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From 5lovelanguages.com

FOR YOUNG PEOPLE

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Interested in learning more? Learn more about the 5 Love Languages and related books at 5lovelanguages.com/learn

What is my

The concept of the 5 love languages was developed by Dr. Gary Chapman. The premise of The 5 Love Languages® book is quite simple: different people with different personalities give and receive love in different ways. Learning your love language can strengthen and enhance the relationships you have with your family. ��Take a look at the languages below and think about what yours might be. On the previous page, your child can do the same. Consider sharing with each other once complete.

Physical Touch

Words of Affirmation

Quality�Time

Gifts

Acts of Service

Being close to someone through physical touch or by being physically close

Examples:

  • High-fives
  • Hugs & kisses
  • Sitting together on the couch
  • Holding hands

Spoken words of love, praise, positive affirmations, and appreciation

Examples:

  • Expressions of appreciation
  • Encouraging words & phrases
  • Saying or hearing � “I love you”
  • Hearing that you are valued

Being together, fully present and engaged

Examples:

  • Spending time together
  • Having fun and laughing together
  • Going for walks and having good conversations
  • Taking part in an activity together that brings you joy

Giving gifts with love and thoughts about how the other person will enjoy receiving them

Examples:

  • Putting together thoughtful presents
  • Preparing favorite meals or treats for your family
  • Leaving or sending notes of love or encouragement for your child

Doing tasks that help take things off others’ to do lists

Examples:

  • Making sure your family stays nourished and healthy
  • Managing household tasks & inventory
  • Making sure everyone gets to school and extracurricular activities

My love language is:

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From 5lovelanguages.com

FOR PARENTS

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About

To me, family means:

My favorite family memory is:

One activity my family does that

always brings me joy is:

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My Stellar

Who are the people who make you feel good about yourself?�� Who’s in your “inner orbit” �or inner circle, and who are the people who support you from �a distance?

�Activity:

Upload photos of the people in your support system. You can move around, add or remove circles to customize your orbit.

As you make friends and have new experiences, your circle may change. Feel free to revisit any time you’d like to update.

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Recommended Reading

Coloring can be a relaxing �and stress-reducing activity. �On the next few pages are coloring sheets you can print out and enjoy.

Contact a Helpline

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  • 24/7 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988, 988lifeline.org

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