He Kōtuinga mahi iti, he hua pai-ā rau
Our actions do have an impact.
Even the smallest of actions, together,
can create a wave of change.
Showing kindness to ourselves and others can create a chain reaction. When kindness becomes expected and normal then bullying is less likely to happen. Even the smallest acts of kindness can change how someone is feeling. One of the best things is that when we spread kindness, we feel just as good as the person we are being kind too.
He aroha whakatō, he aroha puta mai.
If kindness is sown then kindness you shall receive.
There are no magic words to support someone who is being bullied. There are a range of ways you can help and support someone who is being bullied and they depend on the situation. Sometimes it feels too hard to say something at the time, but you can still make a real difference by reaching out afterwards.
PURPOSE
WHAT IS BULLYING?
PATTERN
POWER
We hear the word bullying a lot. What is really important is that we understand what it is (and what it is not). When we all have a shared understanding of bullying, we can recognise it, deal with it when it happens and most of all stop it from happening in the first place.
One easy way to remember what makes something bullying is to remember the 3 P’s
from author, Signe Whitson....
PURPOSE
POWER
It is done on PURPOSE; there is nothing “accidental”
or unplanned about bullying.
pattern
It is a PATTERN; it happens over and over again.
power
It is all about POWER; one person (or a group) has
more control and influence than their target.
Bullying is harmful. It hurts and some people carry it with them for their whole life. It is not normal and it is not part of growing up. Other things can hurt too (like teasing, having an argument or fighting) but they do not normally happen over and over again. They still need to be dealt with so that you feel happy and safe.
What can you do if you see bullying?
What matters is that we do say SOMETHING. When we do nothing, the message we send is that what is happening is ok (and it isn’t).
Every situation is different. How you can help will be different as well. It is a great idea to have a range of different options you can choose from. This way you can decide which one is best for you depending on the situation.
Poster
Create a poster to get people thinking! Spreading the word is about raising awareness and starting conversations.
These will be put up around the school in Week 3.
Banqer Prizes -$500 for:
Wall of kindness
Write and illustrate an idea or message about kindness.
This could be:
Rude, mean or bullying?
Click here to practise working out for yourself if something is rude, mean or bullying?
Helping hands
Trace around your hand and then on
each finger you write ideas to create a “Helping hand”.
Write a way you could help someone who is being bullied, left out or made fun of (or how you can stop bullying from happening in the first place).
Illustrate the empty space
Video of voice
In small groups, plan and create a video to share one of the key messages.
Be clear that original, creative or quirky ideas get people’s attention the most (instead of videos where someone is being bullied (there are a lot of these), could you look at the issue in a different way?
Watch this example to spark your own idea...
Responding assertively
Helpful or unhelpful bystander actions
Think and discuss
• Which ones work before bullying or after rather than during?
• Are there any strategies missing that you think need to be added?
Click here to make a copy of a drawing to practise working out different things you can do or say when you see bullying.The task is to sort these into two groups:
Unpacking cyberbullying
Cyberbullying is bullying that takes place online or using technology like phones or devices. This
includes text messages, instant messages, chat in games or apps or using social media. Where it can get a little tricky is that someone can be being cyberbullied if things are shared a number of times, or other people get involved. It does not always need to happen more than once by the same person.
Like bullying offline, the actions of the bystanders that see cyberbullying are SUPER IMPORTANT.
How do they feel?
What should they do?
Group Korero
In groups, go back to the “What Bystanders can do” google drawing you have
Then discuss and brainstorm answers to the questions below:
Wheel of Misfortune
Place the wheel in the centre where everyone can see it.
Share out the blue shapes with your group. Each person should have 2-4 different cards. Take turns to read your card out loud and then say where you think it should go and then ask the group what They think. When you agree, place it on the board.
E.g. The card that says it “Happens AGAIN and AGAIN” goes with Bullying, because that is one of the main
things that makes it different, there is a pattern, it happens more than once.
Keep going until all of the blue shapes are on the wheel.
HOW TO PLAY
Bully Free Week Activities
In groups of 4-5 come up with a fun lunchtime activity to run during bully free week. This is a chance to have students from every hub feel included and valued.
You need to have a brief plan that includes:
bULLY FREE WEEK ACTIVITIES
Morning Tea
Lunchtime
Bullying Free Zine
Create a zine about Bullying Free week, it could be a mini
story, a small collections of quotes, how to decipher between
what is rude, mean or bullying.
The choice is yours!