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POTENTIAL OUTCOMES

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• They all get caught - what next?
• They get away with it - what next?
• The old man catches them:
• He might be extremely frightened
• He might feel sorry for Marcus and persuade him to take a different path
• What next?

BASIC HUMAN NEEDS

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1. TO SURVIVE

These choices are driven by the basic physical needs of food, water and security.

These choices are driven by the need for success, acknowledgement from others and achievement.

These choices are driven by the need to connect with other people who are important to you.

These choices are driven by the need to have choices and control in your life.

These choices are driven by the need to have laughter and rewards from learning.

2. TO HAVE POWER / SIGNIFICANCE

3. TO LOVE, FEEL CONNECTED AND BELONG

4. TO BE FREE, TO CHOOSE

5. TO HAVE FUN

TOXIC

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TOXIC

Very harmful or damaging, where you feel �unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked �

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TOXIC

RELATIONSHIP

A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

When your wellbeing is threatened in some way — emotionally, psychologically, and even physically

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TOXIC INFLUENCE

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• You give more than you're getting, which makes you feel devalued and depleted.
• You feel consistently disrespected or that your needs aren't being met.
• You feel a toll on your self-esteem over time.
• You feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked.
• You feel depressed, angry, or tired after speaking or being with the other person.
• You bring out the worst in each other. For example, your competitive friend brings out a spiteful competitive streak that is not enjoyable.
• You are not your best self around this person. For example, they bring out your gossipy side or seem to draw out a mean streak you don't usually have.
• You feel like you have to walk on eggshells around this person to keep from becoming a target of their venom.
• You spend a lot of time and emotional strength trying to cheer them up.
• You are always to blame. They turn things around, so things you thought they had done wrong are suddenly your fault