Off the Escalator Questions: Book 1, Part 1
Discussion questions for Chapters 1-6, "Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life," by Amy Gahran (2017), available on Amazon.com. By answering these questions online, you agree that the Off the Escalator project may quote your responses in our books, blog posts, promotional materials and other content. You may answer anonymously if you like.
Did you read the book, "Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life"?
Yes, I read the entire ebook
Yes, I am reading it now but not yet finished.
No, I have not read this book yet.
Does the description, in Chapter 1, of the traditional approach to intimate relationships (the Relationship Escalator) seem fairly accurate to you?
Yes, it's a mostly accurate description of how most people think intimate relationships should work.
No, I think this description missed the mark in some important way.
If you believe Chapter 1 did NOT accurately outline how that most people typically expect intimate relationships to look and work: What did we miss or get wrong?
In your own life, are you currently riding the Relationship Escalator? Or do you wish to do so?
Yes. I have/want a fairly traditional intimate relationship (monogamous, life-entwined, etc.).
Sort of. I mostly ride the Relationship Escalator, but I do (or would do) some things a little differently.
No. My intimate relationship(s) are/would be decidedly beyond social norms in some major way.
Have you ever stepped off the Relationship Escalator, or considered doing so?
Yes, I have had at least one decidedly unconventional intimate relationship.
Yes, I've thought about having a rather unconventional intimate relationship, but have not yet done so.
No, I've never had or considered having an unconventional intimate relationship.
Say more about the kind unconventional intimate relationships you have had, or considered exploring. What did/would you do differently?
If you do not wish to step off the Relationship Escalator, why not? What is so appealing about traditional relationships, or unappealing about diverging from those norms?
What do you believe makes an intimate relationship successful or unsuccessful?
Which topics in Chapters 1-6 would you like to read more about?
"Always and forever" assumptions in relationships
Autonomy vs. merging relationships
Cheating and the Relationship Escalator
Difference between friends and lovers/partners
Is the Relationship Escalator simpler or safer?
Longevity in relationships
Role of sex and romance in relationships
Social advantages of Escalator relationships
What "success" means in relationships
What questions or thoughts do you have about any topics covered in Part 1 (Chapters 1-6)? Or, is there anything else you'd like to say or ask about unconventional relationships?
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