Thesis Survey on Romantic and Sexual Culture at Middlebury
Hello! My name is Leah Fessler and I am a senior at Middlebury writing my senior thesis for the English creative writing department on romantic culture at Middlebury. Basically, I'm really interested in what's going down between students sexually and romantically, and my understanding of these experiences depends on students' and alumni's responses. Please complete this survey with complete honesty, aware that your responses will be 100% anonymous should you refrain from submitting your name. This survey is primarily designed for present Middlebury students, though I encourage recent graduates to submit responses as well. I sincerely appreciate your time and attention. This form should take no more than 7 minutes! Thank you so much! Unless otherwise indicated, the following questions pertain to your experience while enrolled at Middlebury, whether with Middlebury students/alumni or people outside of Middlebury.
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What is your year at Middlebury *
What is your name?
This question is optional and only included for potential follow up purposes
What is your gender *
What is your sexual orientation *
What is your race *
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My romantic experience in high school is best described as: *
More than one answer can be selected!
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Coming to Middlebury, I predicted I would: *
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Coming to Middlebury, I hoped I would: *
This question referring to your perspective on an "ideal situation" whether you deem it realistic or not
Have you been romantically involved with anyone in any way at Middlebury? *
"Romantically involved" ranging anywhere from flirting around campus to being in a serious relationship
I consider my present romantic status to be _________ *
Have you been sexually involved with a Middlebury student in any way? *
"Sexually involved" meaning you have participated in any physical sexual engagement with another person
According to your personal standards, have you lost your virginity? *
About how many people have you kissed while at Middlebury? *
How many people have you sexually engaged with while enrolled at Middlebury? *
"Sexually engaging" can include any combination of kissing, fondling, oral sex, and/or sexual intercourse
How many people have you engaged in sexual intercourse with while enrolled at Middlebury? *
This can include sexual engagements off campus
How many people have you sexually engaged with in any way more than one time while enrolled at Middlebury? *
How many people have you engaged in sexual intercourse with more than one time while enrolled at Middlebury? *
My romantic experience at Middlebury has included: *
Feel free to select as many options as you deem relevant. In this question, hooking up is defined as anywhere from kissing to sexual intercourse
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In an ideal world, my romantic experience at Middlebury would be best described as: (please select only ONE answer) *
If you have hooked up with someone for an extended period of time (three weeks plus), though you and the other person never considered yourself in an "official relationship," how have/do you define your relation to the person with whom you are sexually involved?
How many people have you been in an official romantic relationship with while at Middlebury? *
An official romantic relationship definition: both people have agreed they are 100% committed to the other person and for all intents and purposes a label of boyfriend or girlfriend is appropriate
If you have not been in an official relationship at Middlebury, do you think it is realistic that you could begin one in your future at Middlebury? *
I think people go on dates at Middlebury __________: *
A "date" being any extended time spent one-on-one, in-person, the impetus of which being romantic attraction, whether on campus (ex. a Crossroads coffee) or off campus (ex. dinner at Lobby)
I have asked another Middlebury student on an on-campus date while at Middlebury *
An "on-campus date" being time spent in-person, one-on-one, say a coffee date in Crossroads or Proctor, or a dining hall meal
I go on on-campus dates at Middlebury _______: *
See definition of on-campus date above
Regarding dates on-campus, _____________ *
See definition of date above
I have asked another Middlebury student on an off-campus date while at Middlebury *
An "off-campus date" being time spent in-person, one-on-one, say getting a meal at a restaurant or going to a movie
I go on off-campus dates at Middlebury _______: *
See definition of off-campus date above
Regarding dates off-campus, _____________ *
See definition of date above
I would be comfortable asking another Middlebury student who I'm interested in but do not know well on an on-campus date *
I would be comfortable asking another Middlebury student who I'm interested in but do not know well on an off-campus date *
I would be comfortable asking another Middlebury student who I'm interested in and do know well on an on-campus date *
See definition of off-campus date above
I would be comfortable asking another Middlebury student who I'm interested in and do know well on an off-campus date *
See definition of off-campus date above
Regarding dating outside of the context of Middlebury, ____________ *
(Say, in a city or hometown over the summer, or over a break)
Generally, when I sexually engage with someone for the first time at Middlebury _________________ *
Generally, when I sexually engage with someone for the first time at Middlebury _______________ *
If I have/do sexually engage with someone for the first time at Middlebury and spend time getting to know them one-on-one beforehand, I would consider the situation generally _________ *
I am more comfortable asking someone on a date or going on a date with someone after I have engaged with them sexually (anything from kissing to intercourse), rather than before I have engaged with them sexually *
If you are sexually engaged with one person for any extended period of time and develop feelings for that person, do you usually express those feelings to your partner in-person? *
If you are sexually engaged with one person for any extended period of time and develop feelings for that person, do you usually express those feelings to your partner over some form of technology (texting, Snapchat, Facebook etc.)? *
If you are sexually engaged with one person for any extended period of time and develop feelings for that person, are you more comfortable expressing those feelings in-person or via some form of technology? *
If you are sexually engaged with one person and have feelings for that person but hesitate to express those feelings, what generally inhibits you? *
Feel free to select more than one option
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When I sexually engage with someone at Middlebury for the first time, I generally _______________ *
At Middlebury, have you downloaded the application Tinder at any point in your career? *
At Middlebury, have you used the application Tinder? *
(Feel free to select as more than one option)
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At Middlebury, if you have used the application Tinder and seen a Middlebury student you are interested in, do you feel comfortable swiping right to indicate interest? *
Feel free to select more than one option
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I prefer to sexually engage with people who *
At Middlebury, I usually feel the person I am sexually or romantically involved in is more interested in me than I am in them *
At Middlebury, I usually feel I am more interested in the person I am sexually or romantically interested in than they are in me *
At Middlebury, if I am sexually or romantically engaged with someone, I would like to speak with them via text messaging ________ *
I have been in a long-distance relationship while at Middlebury with a Middlebury student or alumni *
I have been in a long-distance relationship while at Middlebury with someone that is not affiliated with Middlebury *
When I am interested in someone romantically, I communicate with them primarily *
When I am consistently engaged with someone romantically or sexually, I communicate with them primarily *
When I am interested in someone romantically at Middlebury but do not know them at all, I would be comfortable: *
Feel free to select more than one option
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At Middlebury, when I am interested in someone romantically and know them, but not very well, I would be comfortable: *
Feel free to select more than one option
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At Middlebury, if I were romantically interested in someone, I would be MOST comfortable asking them to spend time one-on-one (please select ONE option, your top choice) *
At Middlebury, I prefer to digitally flirt with someone I am romantically interested in via *
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I would describe the difference between email and text message interactions with someone I am romantically interested in as _______ *
If you have engaged in noncommittal sexual engagements of any kind at Middlebury, how do you generally perceive them (please base this perception on how you feel at the moment in your Middlebury career)? *
(Please select the single most appropriate answer)
If you are an upperclassman and have engaged in noncommittal sexual engagements of any kind at Middlebury, how did you generally perceive them as an underclassman? *
(Please select the single most appropriate answer)
Generally, when I engage with someone sexually at Middlebury *
If you have engaged in a committed romantic relationship at Middlebury, how did you meet? *
(Please select no more than two answers)
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I am presently satisfied with my romantic situation at Middlebury *
Agree
Disagree
In the past, I have been satisfied with my romantic situation at Middlebury *
Agree
Disagree
At Middlebury I feel I have successfully communicated with my partner in noncommittal sexual or romantic experiences
Agree
Disagree
Clear selection
At Middlebury I feel I have successfully communicated with my partner in committed sexual or romantic experiences
Agree
Disagree
Clear selection
At Middlebury, I feel miscommunication with my partner in NONcommittal sexual or romantic experiences stems from *
At Middlebury, I feel miscommunication with my partner in COMMITTED sexual or romantic experiences stems from *
At Middlebury, If I am romantically interested in someone and engage with them via some form of technology I ask a friend for advice on my message/Snap/liking activity *
At Middlebury, If I am romantically/sexually engaged with someone in any way, I have read messages on their phone or computer without their permission *
Ideally, before engaging with someone romantically or sexually at Middlebury, I would prefer to get to know them first *
Genearlly, at Middlebury, I believe my academic workload _______ my ability to meet someone I am romantically interested in
Please select answer that best fills in the blank
Clear selection
Generally, at Middlebury, I believe my friend group _______ my ability to meet someone I am romantically interested in *
Please select answer that best fills in the blank
Generally, at Middlebury, I believe my pre-college educational background _______ my ability to meet someone I am romantically interested in *
Please select answer that best fills in the blank
Generally, at Middlebury, I believe the geographic location of my home _______ my ability to meet someone I am romantically interested in *
Please select answer that best fills in the blank
Generally, at Middlebury, I believe my socioeconomic status _______ my ability to meet someone I am romantically interested in *
Please select answer that best fills in the blank
Generally, at Middlebury, I believe my racial identity _______ my ability to meet someone I am romantically interested in *
Please select answer that best fills in the blank
Generally, at Middlebury, I believe my sexual identity _______ my ability to meet someone I am romantically interested in *
Please select answer that best fills in the blank
At Middleury, if I am romantically interested in someone, I use Emojis when texting them *
If you use Emojis while texting someone you are romantically interested in, please describe your perspective on what Emojis are useful for and/or are not useful for
At Middlebury, I consider myself to have been cheated on *
At Middlebury, I consider myself to have cheated on someone *
At Middlebury, if you have been in noncommittal sexual or romantic relationships, generally, how do they end? *
Please select no more than two options