NON PHYSICAL actions are what you have been learning throughout the bully busting program. You stand and speak up, you have asked them to stop, you have given them reasons to stop, you have told them with polite threats what can happen if it continues and you have confirmed actions. You have involved your parents, teachers and other adults that can help solve this problem. You have walked away from the situation.
PHYSICAL ACTION: NOTE: YOU SHOULD HAVE A LENGTHY DISCUSSION WITH YOUR PARENTS ABOUT THIS SESSION !!!!!!
As martial artists we have been trained to defend ourselves. Our skills come with responsibilities. If we witness a situation, our presence should mean several things. 1. People are safer because of our skills, 2. We cannot be innocent bystanders, 3. We need to be peace warriors by using our verbal skills learned in these modules to de-esculate the situation, and 4. We need to keep people safe.
As your martial arts instructor, I have a number of opinions on using physical contact. My opinions may differ from your parents. You should always follow your parent's direction using physical action.
PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT WHEN USING PHYSICAL ACTION THERE ARE ALWAYS CONSEQUENCES. IF YOU ARE BULLYING SOMEONE ELSE OR INITIATING THE FIGHT YOU MAY BE ASKED TO LEAVE ELITE MARTIAL ARTS OR LOSE RANK, DEPENDING ON THE CIRCUMSTANCE. THIS IS VERY SERIOUS STUFF, PLEASE TREAT IT AS SO.
1. You should ALWAYS try to walk away from a fight or confrontation.2. If a physical threat is present but can be avoided, walk away. If it continues, however, you need to have a discussion with the bully--on your turf and timetable--not at the time of the threat, and see if it can be resolved in a peaceful manner.3. NEVER initiate the first physical response.4. You have a responsibility to defend yourself if it does get physical. Bullies will not go away because they beat you up. You will be seen as an easy target if you are easy.5. UNDERSTAND there are consequences to physical contact. Most likely you and the bully will get hurt. If you are at school, you will most likely be suspended.6. AS A BYSTANDER you have a responsibility to help and protect your friends. You have to make a moral decision as to the degree of your involvement using a physical response to the bully. This becomes a tough call, that is why you and your parents should discuss this example.7. When using a physical response, your goal is to stop the fight--NOT GET EVEN. This does not mean beating the tar out of the bully if he pushes you against the locker.8. If a strong block, followed by a not so polite threat does not stop the fight, and you have to punch or kick, make your target areas safe but effective. Rather than punching the face, strike their stomach. As a general rule, children have not built up strong abs, and while the punch will hurt them, it should not damage them. Another good spot is the side of their legs. An effective round kick to that target will hurt but not damage them. It will be a tough decision on when to stop counter-attacking, but your goal is to stop the attack only (see point 7).9. If you are attacked by someone with a life threatening weapon, and you cannot get away safely, then you go for strategic areas like kicking them in the groin, or striking the neck and eyes. ALWAYS take control of the weapon as soon as you can. Report the incident immediatly to the authorities!