Share Your Story Of LDS Abuse
Thank you for being willing to share your story.

My goal is to collect these stories and present them to the leadership of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to show them there is a major issue with how sexual and other abuse allegations are handled in the Church, so we can fix the problem and make the Church a much safer place for all its members.

Unfortunately, accusations of abuse are often not handled appropriately by Church leaders. Sometimes survivors of abuse are even told to stop bringing up the issue.

Those accused of abuse are often not held accountable by the Church.

This is a personal mission for me, as this happened to my wife. She was sexually abused and trafficked by her parents in the most severe ways into her early 20s. We wrote letters to our Church leaders, their Church leaders, two apostles, and their mission president.

These accusations were never taken seriously by Church leaders. Her parents continued to attend the temple and serve their mission. We were told by their mission president that he had to "trust the interview process."

In other words, their word mattered much more than my wife's. As far as we know, no action was ever taken by the Church against them, and we never were given the opportunity to accuse them in front of any Church court.

This is WRONG.

It is NOT what Jesus would want happening in His Church.

Unfortunately, I feel that we are not alone.

If you were treated in a similar way, I would love to share your story.

In other words, if you or a loved one were a victim of abuse, told Church leaders, but were not satisfied with the response (either it was not taken seriously and/or no disciplinary action was taken against your abuser), I'd love to hear from you.

I plan to publish these stories in a book, and you are welcome to share as much or as little as you would like, and to be as anonymous as you would like.

Any proceeds from the book will be donated to thehotline.org to help survivors of abuse.

I consider it a deep honor to be a part of sharing your story.

You are welcome to use your name or make this confidential.

No questions are required. Answer the ones you are willing to answer.

At the same time, be as brave as you can.

The better people can see what is happening to people who are abused in the Church, the more difference we can make.

IF THE ABUSE IS STILL OCCURRING GET HELP NOW.
Domestic abuse: www.thehotline.org
Abuse by church leaders: 911 or Local police
Abuse by family members: 911 or Local police

IF YOU ARE FEELING SUICIDAL
1-800-273-TALK (8255) or 911

Thank you for being willing to share your story. I know it's not easy.

Mike Frazier, MD
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About Your Abuser
What was your abuser's relationship to you?
What position(s) did they hold in the church at the time of your abuse? (church calling)
Were they temple recommend holders while they were abusing you?
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Name Of Your Abuser(s) (Not required)
Who was the victim of the abuse?
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About Your Abuse
These next few questions will likely be the hardest.

Make sure you have some healthy coping skills in place to use as you go into these memories.

Think body, mind, heart, spirit.

Body - Exercise, massage, good food or treats, facial, manicure, pedicure
Mental - Good music, movies, books, TV shows, therapy
Heart - Good friends, therapy
Spirit - Prayer, meditation, time in nature
Where did your abuse occur? (city, state, country)
What was the FIRST instance of abuse that you remember? (Please be as detailed as possible. Include the approximate date and your age. Include spiritual (abuse of power, inclusion of priesthood, temple, or other spiritual references), mental, emotional, physical and/or sexual abuse. What was said and/or done to you?)
What was the WORST instance of abuse that you remember? (Please be as detailed as possible. Include the approximate date and your age. Include spiritual (abuse of power, inclusion of priesthood, temple, or other spiritual references), mental, emotional, physical and/or sexual abuse. What was said and/or done to you?)
What was the LAST or MOST RECENT instance of abuse that you remember? (Please be as detailed as possible. Include the approximate date and your age. Include spiritual (abuse of power, inclusion of priesthood, temple, or other spiritual references), mental, emotional, physical and/or sexual abuse. What was said and/or done to you?) If the abuse is still occurring, get help now. Domestic abuse: http://thehotline.org. Other abuse: 911 or local police.
Over what time frame did the abuse occur? (approximate date to approximate date or total time in years)
What did the abuse cost you or your loved one in terms of therapy and other treatment (time and approximate monetary cost)?
What did the abuse cost you or your loved one in terms of spiritual (relationship with God, yourself, the Church, your self-esteem, your sense of purpose), mental (re-experiencing trauma, nightmares) emotional (romantic, friendship, and other relationships, ability to trust others, depression, anxiety, PTSD) and sexual (ability to enjoy sex, create a healthy sex life with another person) consequences.
Did The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints offer therapy resources or help pay for any of your or your loved one's therapy?
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Where are you or your loved one in the healing process?
Do you have any resources you would like to share with other victims of abuse that were especially helpful for you?
Great Work! Take a quick break for some self care. It's a lot easier from here on out.
About The Church's Response
Did you report your abuse to police or other legal authorities?
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Were there any legal consequences for your abuser from your reports to police or other legal authorities?
Did you report your abuse to Church leaders?
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If you did report the abuse to Church leaders, who did you report the abuse to in the Church? (what church position did they hold)
If you reported your abuse to Church leaders, what was their response?
Were you directed to any legal resources by the Church after you reported the abuse?
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Were you directed to any therapeutic resources by the Church after you reported the abuse (LDS family services or other)?
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Was your abuser informed of your accusation by the Church?
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Was there any Church hearing held to bring your accusations against your abuser?
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Were you given the opportunity to testify against your abuser in a Church hearing?
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If you attended a Church hearing, were any women present (besides you if you are a woman)?
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Were you given any information as to what was done to your abuser by the Church after you reported your abuse to Church leaders?
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Was any Church disciplinary action taken against the person you accused?
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Did you ever hear the phrase "protect the name of the Church" during this process?
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Do you feel your report of abuse of was taken seriously by the Church?
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Do you feel like justice was done or attempted by the Church in your case?
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Is there anything else you would like me to know?
What You Can Do
Please enter your email if you would like to be updated on the progress of the book and movement to Stop LDS Abuse
If you're willing, please enter your name
Are you willing to have your name used in the book?
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Would you be willing to sign a petition calling for the creation of a clear process for victims to 1. Get help for healing and 2. Get justice within the Church against their abusers. If so, visit http://stopldsabuse.com or http://change.org/stopldsabuse
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