Six Human Needs Assessment.xls
Understanding the 6 human needs and which needs we ourselves value most, as well as which needs other people we share personal and professional relationships with value most, is life’s most important strategy.  

When we get clear on what our top, most important, needs are... and how these needs are driving our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and behaviors, as well as get better at meeting our needs in a constructive way that lends to our own long-term well-being … then we experience deeper meaning, fulfillment and success inside of ourselves, and in all areas of our life.

IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS...

When it comes to collaboration, connection, love, or even conflict—nothing reveals the heartbeat of any human relationship more clearly than the 6 Human Needs. Human Needs Psychology has uncovered six needs universal to all humans. Meaning, no matter who you are, your ethnicity, cultural background, age, gender, etc... you're subconsciously doing everything you're doing in order to meet your needs. We can meet these needs in a constructive way, or a destructive way. And we can make it easy or hard to feel like our needs are getting met by the "rules" we tote around with us about what must happen for us to feel like our these needs are met.

For each person, two of these human needs prevail over all the others.  A person’s top 2 needs are experienced so intensely that the person will do almost anything to satisfy those needs.  When you understand which of the needs are most important to a person, and how that person satisfies their most important needs, it's like discovering the secret code. You can now better understand what brings them pleasure versus what brings them pain.  You can also better understand what's truly driving that person's focus... their thoughts, their feelings and emotions, their actions and behavioral patterns, and importantly, their choices and decisions in everything they do. You can also see where their highly functional, constructive behavior... as well as their dysfunctional and destructive behavior come from. These needs being met... or not met.

For this reason, we can apply our understanding of the 6 human needs to ALL of our relationships… whether it be a personal relationship, a family relationship, or a business and professional relationship.

In marriage or any committed intimate relationship, each person must be aware of the other person’s needs in order to know what’s going on.  Not knowing a partner’s needs inevitably leads to frustration and disappointment since even though a person may feel that he/she is giving everything, they are not giving what the other person really needs, in the way that the other person needs it.  The challenge is that people’s deepest needs are often extremely specific and can be tricky to discern – it’s like a “secret button.”  If spouses never find each other’s secret button, the relationship will feel difficult, and even impossible.  If couples find the secret button and figure out how to give each other what each truly needs at the highest level, they will be able to generate levels of trust, happiness and love more profound than they ever thought possible.

Here are the 6 Human Needs:

According to Human Needs Psychology, all humans universally share these needs. What makes each and every one of us so unique is that we each value two needs out of the six.  Whatever our top two needs are completely and directly determine our thoughts, our feelings, our choices, our ACTIONS… and ultimately our destiny. Your success in any human relationship, including the relationship you have with your SELF… hinges on your ability to discover which needs you and the other values most and what has to happen (your “rules”) to meet those needs.  When spouses learn this, they will find the secret button that brings on love and happiness.  A marriage never breaks up when the partners are meeting all of their partner’s needs at a high level.

CERTAINTY
Certainty that we can be comfortable – to have pleasure and avoid pain.  Comfort, security, safety, stability, feeling grounded, predictability and protection.

UNCERTAINTY/VARIETY
Variety and challenges that exercise our emotional and physical range.  Our bodies, our minds, our emotional well-being all require exertion through instability, exercise, suspense, entertainment, and surprise, as well as fear, conflict, and crisis.

SIGNIFICANCE
Every person needs to feel special, unique, important, needed and wanted, admired, that our lives have a special purpose and meaning. This can include pride, importance, achievement, performance, perfection, evaluation, discipline, standards and competition.

LOVE & CONNECTION
Everyone needs connection with other human beings and everyone strives for and hopes for love.  Togetherness, inclusion, passion, unity, warmth, tenderness and romance.

GROWTH
Everything is either growing or dying.  Nothing is stagnant.  We need to constantly develop and expand ourselves emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.

CONTRIBUTION
We all desire to go beyond our own needs, get out of our own heads, and give to others.  Everything in the universe contributes beyond itself or is eliminated.

The first 4 Needs, Certainty, Uncertainty/Variety, Connection/Love and Significance, are essential for human survival.  They are the fundamental needs of the personality – everyone must feel that they have met them on some level in order to survive.  The last two needs, Growth and Contribution, are essential to human fulfillment.  They are the needs of the spirit, and not everyone finds a way to satisfy them, although they are necessary for lasting fulfillment.

Because we humans share the same nervous system, everyone experiences the same 6 Human Needs.  However, everyone finds different ways of satisfying each of these needs.  Also, each of these needs can be met in ways that are positive – increasing the wellbeing of ourselves and others, or negative – decreasing the wellbeing of ourselves and others.  

Here are examples of both positive and negative ways a person could meet each of the 6 human needs:  The need for Certainty can be met by going to school and obtaining a degree, or by staying in our comfort zones...avoiding challenges or risks that lead to our growth. The need for Uncertainty / Variety can be met by reading about different subjects or meeting different kinds of people, or by engaging in high-risk sports or violent behavior.  Some ways of satisfying these needs are good for the person’s well-being, good for others and good for society, while other ways decrease or sacrifice well-being for everyone.  The need for Connection/Love can be satisfied through good deeds and kindness or by domination of others who are forced to show appreciation or be indebted to you.  The need for Significance can be met by being the best at something, or by having the biggest problem.  Similarly, one can Grow and become a better person… or a more successful criminal.  And one can Contribute to the well-being of many… or the downfall of another person.

Understanding our human needs brings empowering clarity to our lives by giving us awareness and choice in how we go about creating more joy & fulfillment in our lives and most valued relationships.
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INSTRUCTIONS FOR TAKING THE SIX HUMAN NEEDS ASSESSMENT:
Read each statement.  Select "Yes", "Partially", or "No", for each statement as you feel it best describes you.  Be honest. Don't overthink it.  Check which statement best describes you AS YOU ARE, not as you think you should be.  Honestly grade each statement as "Yes" for "Yes, this is really me." "Partially" for "This partially describes me." "No", for "This is not how I am." (If you don't know whether it applies,  you should probably choose "No").
1.)  People are impressed by me. *
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2.)  Feeling that I belong is important to me. *
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3.)  I need to feel grounded. *
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4.)  I don't mind taking risks. *
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5.)  I don't fear change. *
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6.)  A failure is not a failure if you keep trying. *
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7.)  I believe in giving back. *
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8.)  I'm good at taking care of people. *
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9.)  I often worry about what people are saying about me. *
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10.)  I like to have as much stability in my life as possible. *
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11.)  It's important to contribute to your community. *
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12.)  I like to develop new ideas and projects. *
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13.)  I'm security conscious. *
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14.)  I like to be an example  to others. *
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15.)  I'm competitive. *
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16.)  I hate the feeling of boredom. *
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17.)  I know how to make connections with people. *
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18.)  I constantly aspire to improve. *
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19.)  Danger is never exciting to me. *
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20.)  In most close relationships, I'm ususally the giver. *
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21.)  There is always something new to be learned. *
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22.)  I need to feel fulfilled. *
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23.)  I frequently evaluate myself. *
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24.)  I like for things to be predictable. *
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25.)  I am more loving than most people. *
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26.)  Recognition is very important to me. *
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27.)  I like the feeling of exertion. *
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28.)  I'm very careful of not overspending. *
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29.)  Education is important to me. *
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30.)  I'm a leader. *
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31.)  I'm always looking for new experiences. *
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32.)  I sometimes over extend myself in trying to help people. *
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33.)  My routines and habits are important to me. *
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34.)  I take pride in who I am. *
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35.)  I like how learning something new changes my perspective. *
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36.)  Sometimes the most important work is not what you're being paid for. *
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37.)  I'm not an adventurous person. *
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38.)  No one would say that I'm selfish. *
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39.)  I tend to spend beyond my limits. *
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40.)  I like to feel important. *
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41.)  Every failure is a learning experience. *
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42.)  I like to learn in order to teach what I learn. *
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43.)  I seek unity in my relationship. *
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44.)  I like to make a difference. *
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45.)  I refrain from acting when I am unsure about the consequences of my actions. *
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46.)  I suffer when I feel blocked. *
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47.)  I enjoy suspense. *
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48.)  Prestige is very important to me. *
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49.)  I'm a romantic. *
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50.)  I'm constantly learning. *
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51.)  Giving is more important to me than receiving. *
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52.)  I like to be Number 1. *
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53.)  I hate taking risks of any kind. *
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54.)  I like to constantly develop myself. *
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55.)  I like to give my time and energy to good causes. *
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56.)  I like to be admired by others. *
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57.)  I'm proud of my ability to learn new things. *
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58.)  We are here to make this world a better place. *
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59.)  I like to grow and develop in different areas. *
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60.)  Personal relationships are the most important thing in my life. *
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61.)  Sometimes I can be intimidating. *
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62.)  I often look for new forms of entertainment. *
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63.)  I'm concerned about anything that might be risky. *
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64.)  Being fulfilled in your work is more important than being admired. *
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65.)  I strive to improve my skills. *
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66.)  I get close to people by being generous with money, time, and energy. *
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67.)  I like to think carefully before I go into action. *
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68.)  Sometimes I like the thrill of experiencing fear. *
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69.)  I need to feel respected. *
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70.)  When we stop growing, we die. *
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71.)  The feeling of togetherness is important to me. *
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72.)  For life to make sense, you have to leave a mark in the world. *
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73.)  Feeling comfortable at all times is important to me. *
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74.)  I enjoy being involved in many different activities. *
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75.)  I'm always comparing myself to others in terms of success. *
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76.)  I need to have passion in my relationship. *
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77.)  If I'm not contributing to others, my life is meaningless. *
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78.)  When making a decision I often think about what will be more enjoyable. *
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79.)  I can't stand to feel stagnant. *
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80.)  I need to feel as safe as possible at all times. *
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81.)  If I commit to something, I worry that something better will come along. *
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82.)  I never want to be seen as a loser. *
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83.)  I don't care about having much stability in my life. *
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84.)  I have a mission. *
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