A. Love & Respect: And now, a few words about LOVE: To a woman love means that she feels cherished and adored by her husband, she is #1 above anyone and anything else, she is the apple of his eye…this is what I call the LOVE principle… because women have a real need to feel deeply loved and Cherished. (not a want, but a need). To a man love means that he feels respected and appreciated for who he is, and what he does, without feeling like she is trying to change him, or fix him… This is what I call the respect principle… because men have a real need (not a want, but a need), to feel respected, appreciated, and even a little “admired”. Women want to feel LOVED… Men want to feel respected… A wise man once said “The key to motivating your spouse is found in discovering what their deepest need is, then doing what you can to meet that need. For a woman, her need is to feel deeply loved and cherished, and when her husband meets her need for love, it naturally motivates her to meet his need, for respect. And when a wife does everything she can to meet a husband’s need for respect, it naturally motivates him to show her the love, that her heart desperately cries out for. So if you want to have a healthy loving marriage, try focusing on meeting your spouse’s deepest needs, instead of your own. Right now, turn to your significant other, poke them in their side and say “you better be listening, he’s talking to you!”.