Imago Pre-Marital & Officiation Application

Thanks for taking the time to connect with us, we care greatly about the long-term commitment and joy of your marriage!

This institution is truly a God-given gift between a husband and wife, intended to be a reflection of the relationship between Christ and the Church. So, as a community we ask that the day of the wedding be preceded by pre-marital counseling for the purpose of understanding the commitment, sacrifice, and forgiveness necessary in this life-long depiction.

Here are some of the guidelines we’ll discuss and the initial application, followed by some helpful things-to-note:

    Guidelines

    • 1) We’d ask that you are willing to build a marriage based on the patterns and practices of scripture. This means you are willing to re-prioritize your life as you follow Christ; and more particularly, we hope to see you inspired by what scripture calls you to, beyond what "feels" right or what Portland's culture might say. (Romans 12:1-2, Matthew 7:24) For instance, scripture describes sexual intimacy as godly, but only once a vow with a spouse has been made (a strange practice in our city.) Are you willing to discuss what it means to steward your relationship around Christ's patterns and practices? • 2) We’d ask that you and your fiancé would have a similar commitment to Christ, since the heart of marriage is deep, worshipful oneness. From a scriptural perspective, when your spouse identifies with the central worship of your heart, deep unity is truly possible. (2 Corinthians 6:14-15) Are both of you Christ-followers? If not, are you willing to sort through this with a pastor? If you have any questions or concerns as you read through these guidelines please feel free to email Jonathan Wallace, our marriage and family pastor (jon@idcpdx.com) to have additional conversation before beginning the premarital/officiation process.

    Application

    Please take a moment to briefly complete this form so we can match you with a pastor. The hope for these questions is to help the pastor understand where the Gospel can be explored with you and your fiancé. And, all of this information is kept confidential!
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    Again, thanks for inviting us to share in your marriage conversation! From the time we receive your application, please allow three weeks to be connected with the pastor who will provide your counseling and officiation.

    Things to Note

    • Cost: There is no expense for premarital counseling, we consider it a part of the role of a pastor at Imago, though some pastors may use assessment tools to supplement their counseling, which requires a small fee. The suggested honorarium for a pastor performing your ceremony is $250 paid directly to the minister. If there is a financial hardship involved, feel at ease to discuss this with your pastor. • Sessions: Pastors generally will provide 4-6 counseling sessions, and check-in with you sometime in your first year of marriage. At the first premarital session, you should expect the pastor to discuss the nature of your relationship, your community, and your relationship with Christ. • Wedding licenses: As a couple, you are responsible for ensuring and sending in the necessary paperwork. • Rehearsal and reception: The pastor will generally conduct the wedding rehearsal at the couple’s scheduled time and most are able to act as simple coordinators related to stage placement and order of service. Regretfully, pastors are not always able to attend rehearsal dinners or receptions, but it is our hope to connect with and know you through the premarital counseling process! • Out-of-town weddings: Some pastors will perform out-of-town ceremonies, but be sure to plan on paying for any necessary travel expenses and accommodations, along with a precise address to the wedding facility.