Our Families are Our Tribe. Each member of the family has an inborn desire to feel like he or she has a place and belongs. It takes everyone in the family to make it work. And yet, each person often jumps on board the new family train at different times, in their own way and in their own time. Every family blending two or more family units together goes through a series of stages and transitions to create a new family structure. Four of the most common stages are described below. Which stage are you in?
The Four Blended Family Stages
Dream Stage: Sure, our family has some problems, but we’re in love and it’s meant to be – our new family will sail through this, we can do this. Really? We got this!
It Can’t Be True: Gosh, this is harder than we thought! Maybe our love is not enough. All this upset is affecting our relationship and the kids. We don’t quite know what to do. Maybe we need to check out getting some help before everything falls apart.
Rally the Troops: Oh Yeah! We need help with this blended family thing. We keep doing things the old way... It’s not working. We are ready for something NEW! We want help to figure out what is best for our unique relationship and our unique family needs.
We’re On Our Way: We have gotten some new battle rhythms and ways to relate, discipline and support the kids and each other. We want some back-up and a sanity check to keep it all going.
Now, find out just where you are....Blending families is not a linear process. You may experience any of the Four Stages at different times in the life-cycle of becoming a new family unit. Take Heart! You can do this! You just need the right kind of supports in place.
Take the Blended Family Checklist to find out. Rate yourself: 1 - Never or almost never true for me 2 - Occasionally true for me 3 - Frequently true for me 4 - Nearly always true for me 5 - Always or nearly always true for me.
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