Rarely does a bully confront you one on one. They usually have a buddy or two. They need their "friends" to perform in front of. I can remember my next door neighbor was "a great friend" to me until his older friends would come around. Then he would demonstrate how he could make me cry and would hit me as hard as he could. I would cry and run home. He achieved what he wanted to do, which was show off in front of his friends. He was the "tough guy" of the neighborhood (until I fought back and embarrassed him in front of them. I will discuss this more in a later module).
There is almost always a crowd of onlookers wanting to see what is going to happen. Too often these onlookers don't take action, even though they know that bullying is wrong. You must get them to come to your aid. This module gives you some tips how to use the crowd to your advantage. As with the other word blocks we have talked about, you HAVE TO KEEP YOUR ANGER UNDER CONTROL. Practice your what___________? (Mushin)
NOTE TO ONLOOKERS: you have three choices when you see someone get bullied. 1. Help the person being bullied by standing side by side with him/her. 2. Help the bully by doing nothing and "empowering" him/her to continue. 3. Go get help. Choices 1 and 3 are acceptable, number 2 is not. Remember, he/she may be bullying someone else now but you could easily be next! The only way to stop bullying is for everyone to get involved and let the bully know that their behavior is not acceptable.